A man must meet three girls before he can change from loser to winner.

A man must meet three girls before changing from loser to winner.

The first girl should be someone who loves you and appear when you cannot distinguish between love and hunger. At that time, you were still at the tail of adolescence, full of sexual impulses mixed with Korean drama love fantasies. Your self-esteem is fragile and cowardly and helpless. It is a life-saving panacea to seize any straw.

She may look average, but you have no better options. She may be mediocre, but you have no better options. It sounds cruel, but believe me, you didn't realize it at that time. You mistakenly regard hunger as love. You try to act with her, kiss, caress, watch movies, and eat snacks at the roadside stalls. All these are labeled with hormones. In fact, you don't want to do anything, except for the pleasure of teasing and caressing each other, you don't feel any happiness. You feel that you have always been separated by a piece of paper from her, and you are all aware of this, so you are more afraid of acting, thinking that one day will become a shocking love.

Then one day, you are separated because of some things. Or the university is separated by thousands of miles from other places, or another person is involved. The relationship you are trying to maintain is broken, but it is already hard to support before the break. When you are completely familiar with her body, you cannot find any freshness after the hunger and thirst relief, and you don't know what to say to her, there is no interest in bringing her some new things. Two people are helpless and speechless in a boring and suffocating environment. Breaking up is inevitable. Maybe you will be sad when the relationship is broken, but the pain does not make you feel much pain. It is a mixture of relief and loss. It's just that you think you should suffer.

 

Then you met your second girl. She is the girl you love. This is the first sight. when you first saw her, your heart began to jump. When she smiled, you felt that the world was shining with flowers. You started to blush and sweat, so you knew you had started a huge adventure.

Love is a huge adventure for everyone. This process is not as full of silly rose-colored fantasies as Korean dramas do. Its starting point is self-defeating self-deception. You fall in love with a person, so she becomes the embodiment of all perfect, her beauty, charm, kindness and talent are not limited by you, you can not see her flaws, even if you feel it, you may cheat yourself. This does not exist.

You are in a maze, and you are hitting around like a lost person,
You feel like a clown, your self-esteem is always tortured, because you are under trial, you are clumsy to use all your strength and enthusiasm, and finally get a trial qualification. All you did was to wait for a verdict: Does she like me? You expose your most vulnerable part to the perfect embodiment, give up all your dignity, and wait for the result that may be rejected. All of this requires great courage.

Maybe she promised, maybe not, so you think this may be a promise. You desperately hold on to all the evidence that proves that she loves you, and at the same time, you are suffering from other negative hints. However, this cannot block you. In this case, the coward has become a hero, and the great enthusiasm has overcome the shame and face the self-defeating form of a perfect embodiment. As a result, enthusiasm is transformed into helpless actions. calm, rational, and clever actions disappear, and the self is lost. All action guides become "Will she like me like this "?

To satisfy her preferences, you change yourself awkwardly and conceal your real self. Just like a fat man put on a thin dress, you are afraid to crack the dress and shame during the banquet, I had to sit in a chair and sweat constantly. If you are afraid of doing wrong things, you have to secretly speculate on the good and evil in a smile, and then decide which part of yourself to hide and release. Her actions, eyes, words, and texts are repeatedly tried and tried. At first glance, the clear meaning can be understood as two completely different meanings at the same time. If you continue to speculate, the meaning will become four or more ...... The complexity is even worse than the maze of PAN Shen.

You are in the maze of love, so that you have completely lost yourself and become a desperate loser.

You think you love her so much, and you are eager to give her the same feedback, but you dare not ask anything. Because she is your master, you can put your eyes on it and smile at it to let you fall from the cloud of happiness to despair. You don't dare to pray for what she does for you, even though you're expecting it. You become painful and unable to endure this unequal love. But you love her too much. This kind of hot feeling makes you prefer to burn yourself closer to the sun. You want to be closer to her, in order to let her put down all her self-esteem without leaving you, you begged you to step back, and you did not want her to look forward to the same love, you pray that when she is in a good mood, or give you some water when you are touched by the melting of iceberg. This flood of water will allow you to survive for a long time, continue to endure the pain and burning, no hope to stay with her.

 

One day she gets tired of your pity, and gets tired of your despair and awkwardness. She hates being troubled by the feeling of guilt. Even if you are waiting to bring her great vanity and satisfaction, she cannot restore this feeling of guilt. So you were deprived of your last hope, and you were deeply put into hell like a wild ghost.

 

You fell into the real desperate and gloomy hell. You hate her heartless, and you hate her humble. You are ashamed of your self-esteem. You think you're a hopeless idiot, and you're still looking for shame, and she's throwing a rope down to save you. Every time you think so, you will hate yourself more. At the bottom of the valley, you are suffering from self-torture, knowing that there is no hope, but you are still imagining it.

 

At last one day, you are exhausted. Climb up, pat the dirt and dust on your body, take a bath, and change to clean clothes. You have finally passed the bloody stage, from believing in love to doubting, and then turning into contempt. You don't believe in the previous rose-colored illusion. You choose to believe in yourself, believe that only the will can take off the pain, only the powerful self can master life, and you choose to take control of everything, never fall into a humble situation. You choose to treat yourself severely, use a rational knife to cut all your illusion, treat yourself with the most harsh and rational attitude, and treat the world as well.

You think the world has become clearer and people have become simple. You stand tall and can see through the humble, powerless, shameless, and self-deception of people at a glance. You are always right, because there are no new things under the sun, and things that have happened will always happen again. You control yourself and persuade others to control their own lives. You beat yourself and others with a whip. Will overcome all desires and ignorance, standing at the top of your world.

Then you met your third girl.

She meets all the criteria of her girlfriend in the secular sense. She is beautiful, gentle, and a little confused. She is cute and dependent on people. It's easy, simple, and happy to be with her. She won't have a fatal appeal to you. This is a good thing, because you can easily break away from this relationship. You think this is good, safe, and comfortable, so that you do not fear losing yourself.

At this time, you are powerful and comfortable. You don't care about what happened to this girl in the past, or whether she loves you so much. You don't even care about the reason why she liked you. It is sufficient for you to stay together because of mutual needs. She doesn't have to be your only one, and you don't expect yourself to be her only one. Fate is only an encounter in life, and it is the best attitude to settle in as you go.

This does not mean that you are not serious about this relationship. You are only controlling the pace and gradually deepen your feelings step by step. You love her, but it hasn't risen to the point of love, or you hate that uncontrollable love. You accept your powerlessness and have a clear view of the world. She may stay with you for a lifetime. Maybe she is just a passthrough in her life. It doesn't matter. You understand that the world is heartless, and people cannot depend on each other, but they are not cynical and unwilling to give their sincerity. You understand that there are many things that cannot be changed or controlled. Naturally, she is happy. If she leaves, she will not feel hurt. This is a fate, many accidents. It is enough for you to have a good time together. Why do we never forget to hurt people for the past and fear the unpredictable future?

You understand that the world is bigger than love. Everyone is a boat on the sea, and their fate is not completely controlled by themselves. Maybe they will go around tomorrow. It cannot be a good attitude towards life. If you are happy, you will not be miserable. Say goodbye with an easy-to-use wave, which always hurts each other. At least, we can still remember our happy time together.

Everyone's life should have these three girls with you, making you a better person.

This is life.

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