[Excerpt] Six attitudes of successful users

[Excerpted from] http://www.ebusinessreview.cn/articledetail-51673.aspx

If a company supervisor wants to succeed, it cannot be done without a good attitude. Psychologists tell us that the following six attitudes are the prerequisite for everyone's success and must be well grasped.

1. Understanding mentality

In general, most failures in interpersonal relationships are attributed to misunderstandings ". For a specific series of facts or circumstances, we often expect others to respond and draw conclusions like we do. In most cases, others' reactions or positions are not difficult for us, nor because they are too stubborn or eager to test, but because they have different understandings and explanations of the situation.

In fact, we do not want to admit our mistakes, mistakes, or shortcomings, or even admit that we are not doing well. We do not want to admit that we do not want to see the situation, which is actually deceiving ourselves. We cannot take appropriate actions because we do not see the truth. It has been said that it is a beneficial training to recognize a painful fact for yourself every day. Successful individuals do not deceive others, but are honest with themselves. What we call "sincerity" is based on self-understanding and sincerity. No one who deceives himself with a "reasonable lie" can be honest.

Believing in others is sincere, rather than intentional hostility. Even if this is not the case, it can also help ease the tension between people and give people a deeper understanding of each other.

 

2. A brave mind

It is not enough to understand the situation with a goal. You must have the courage to take actions, because only through action can you turn your goals, hopes, and beliefs into reality.

Nothing in the world is absolutely certain. The difference between a winner and a loser is often not about the ability or idea, but about whether you have the courage to trust your own ideas and dare to take risks and take actions to an appropriate extent.

You may make mistakes at any time during your actions, and your decisions will inevitably lead to mistakes, but you must never give up on your own goals. You must have the courage to bear the risk of making mistakes, the risk of failure, and the risk of humiliation. It is better to take the wrong step than to stay in the same place in your life. As people move forward, they will be given the opportunity to correct the forward direction.

3. Tolerance

Successful personality is always interested in and concerned with others. They are considerate of others' difficulties and requirements.

When a person is tolerant of others, he must be tolerant of himself. Learn not to condemn others in your mind, not to rate others, not to blame or hate them for their mistakes. When you think others are more valuable, you can get a better and more appropriate self-consciousness.

The reason for tolerance to others is the embodiment of a successful personality, because it means that this person faces the reality. People are important. People cannot always be treated as animals or machines, or as victims of personal purposes. Hitler did this, and other authoritarian tyrants did the same. This is not desirable in terms of career or relationship between people.

4. Respect for mentality

In the trap and abyss of life, the most terrible thing is that you do not respect yourself. This problem is the most difficult to overcome. Because it is an abyss designed and mined by ourselves. A person who always respects himself will not be hostile to others. He does not need to prove anything, because he can thoroughly understand the facts and does not need to prove his requirements.

The word "respect" means appreciation of value. Appreciation of your own value is not equal to self-centerism, because people need to respect themselves.

The biggest secret of self-respect is that you begin to appreciate others and respect everyone. When dealing with others, you must consider and train yourself to treat others as valuable people. In this way, you will be surprised to find that your self-esteem is also enhanced. Because true self-esteem does not come from the great business you have accomplished, the wealth you have, the honors you have, but the appreciation of yourself.

5. Confidence

Self-confidence is built on successful experiences. When we start a certain activity, we are likely to lack confidence because we do not know from experience that we will succeed. Learning to ride a bicycle, speaking publicly or performing surgery is the case. Success breeds success, which is completely correct. A small success can be the cornerstone of great success.

Another important skill is to develop the habit of remembering past successes and forgetting failures.

We do not need to remember failures, but to put them in the hearts of our hearts with emotional colors, so as to repeat the experiences of setbacks.

It doesn't matter how many times you failed in the past. It is important to remember, strengthen, and focus on successful attempts. Charles Kettering said that if a young man wants to become a scientist, he must be prepared to fail ninety-nine times before a success, and not to hurt himself because of these failures.

Recalling the brave moments in the past is the most effective way to restore self-confidence, while many people have buried beautiful memories due to one or two failures. If we systematically review the brave moments in our memories, we will be surprised to find that we are much more brave than we imagined. Dr. oufuhaolse said that vivid memories of our past successes and brave moments are extremely useful training when confidence is shaken.

6. self-recognition

Only when a person acknowledges himself to some extent can he be truly successful and happy. The most unfortunate and painful thing in the world is to try to convince yourself and others that they are not what they are. When a person finally abandons his hypocrisy and defacement and actively shows his true face, he cannot imagine the ease and satisfaction he gets.