5 minutes per day

A senior psychologist once received a couple who had been in the cold war for a long time and their feelings became increasingly indifferent. In front of a psychiatrist, they despise each other like enemies. During the consulting process, the psychologist taught them a way to save the marriage: 5 minutes each day.
At first, they didn't understand it themselves. Is it so amazing to look at each other? The psychologists told them that they must try to find the kind of mood when they are in love, open their hearts, and watch each other with affection. When they try to look at each other, they are a little shy, because in fact, they haven't looked at each other for a long time. When they gradually release their hearts of joy and affection, and greet each other's longing and joy in their eyes, they find that their bodies and minds have changed-the original habitual patterns of marriage, let them only see each other's shortcomings and gradually despise each other. The direct consequence is to send more bad hints and information to the other party, so that the marriage is covered with thorns. This kind of emotional Visual View helps them find their positive expectations and hints for each other. During these 5-minute visual exercises every day, they found that the other person could be so beautiful, so simple, they are still the ones they have chosen and gradually become tolerant.
When we fall in love, we look at each other silently, but in our marriage, the two sides will look at each other from the original perspective to the background, and then to the neglect or even contempt-Why is there such a change? Because we care too much about the original perfect image and do not allow a little flaw in the intrusion, we do not accept each other as a real and flawed individual.
In the above case, couples learned the psychological effects of watching in their consultations. They gradually learned to put down their various prejudices, regain the kind of gentleness and humility in love, and give each other more smiles, more tolerant. When they put away the gloomy, frowning look, really relaxed, silently looking at the other side, will see more good hints from the other side, as a result, we will try to work towards the desired direction of the other party, and the two will gradually return to the old good.