Go out of the impetuous trap: Why?

Most people have been in an impetuous status for almost ten years from the age of seventeen to the Age of twenty-seven. If this happens, you can only show one thing: you are normal -- or that sentence: Believe me, you are not alone.

The first reason is that learning and mastering a skill often takes 5 to 10 years.

This is because of impetuousness:

Is this useful? After I asked myself this question, what I finally chose was not really useful, but useful.

While doing this, I found that it was actually useful, and now I feel useless.

Give up.

Looking at the people around you, there are always better than yourself, so I am very worried.

The above cycle is repeated every day.

Knowing that you are upset, but powerless ......

Therefore, the first step to enter a "solid" state is to clarify one thing: the real pleasure of learning is not because it is useful, but because the learning process is interesting. "Is learning this useful ?" The correct answer is not "useful !", It's not "useless !". The correct answer should be"
I don't know what's useful ......"

To sum up, the reason for the formation of embarrassment is that too many people have problems with the World Outlook: they are constantly trying to stay in an uncertain world, find a solution that is always determined-obsessed with a State that does not exist at all.

The most terrible thing is that not only do you want to know the final result, but you also need to know it right away-this is even more ridiculous. By the way, I wrote Han and put a paragraph here to laugh at some people's ideas (the description is accurate ):

In special cases in China, many parents are not allowed to fall in love with their students, and even many parents in college are opposed to fall in love. However, when they graduate from college, all parents want to immediately fall down from the sky and fall in love with their children, who are excellent in all aspects and have a house, and want to get married. I think it's beautiful.

This paragraph seems to have nothing to do with the topic we just discussed. However, looking at the root cause, we will find that it is the absurd idea that people use the same thinking model.