Learn the "hypocrisy" of the Japanese"

Original article from Internet

When I first arrived in Japan five years ago, I was eager to get rid of my housewife's life. I always wanted to go out and find a job to send me a lonely day every day. Although I understand that my Japanese language is far away from learning to go out to work, I am still eager to go to a company for an interview.

 

Almost every interview is exactly the same: the manager or personnel in the personnel class looked at my resume and smiled kindly: "Are you Chinese? Your Japanese is really good! Where can I learn Japanese ?"

I felt sorry when I first heard it. At that time, my Japanese language was so bad. Why "? Is there something wrong with the interviewer's ears? However, when I heard such a compliment, I was very proud to say that I was confident and "very powerful" about the syntax and unknown Japanese ".

Similar to the same interview, the interview results are unexpectedly similar. The interviewer sent me out with a friendly smile and never contacted me again. Ask a friend for the reason. The answer is "Japanese is too bad. The language failure affects work efficiency and the normal communication and cooperation between colleagues ."

Suddenly, I was a little embarrassed and had a sense of shame: Didn't I speak Japanese well? Why can't I blame Japanese again? Isn't that teasing people? My friends have been persuading me for a long time, and I still cannot understand the "hypocrisy" of Japanese kindness ".

After living in Japan for five years, I have a certain understanding of Japan's "hypocrisy. If someone asks me, "What else do you need to learn from the Japanese ?" I may immediately answer: "I really want to learn the 'false' of Japanese people '."

Due to "hypocrisy", Japanese companies are rarely arrogant and everyone is working with each other. Japanese neighbors are rarely in conflict with each other, but more smiling faces and humility are involved; on the quiet streets, there is almost no one at a glance ...... "Hypocrisy" allows the Japanese to live in a peaceful and happy world. Walking down the street, it is clear that I have collided with each other, but the other party will politely apologize to me, a "sorry" seems ordinary, even inexplicable, but it basically went out of the kind of fire that will be ignited by the use of gas.

Japanese friends often come to serve as guests at home. Every time I cook Chinese food in my own kitchen, all Japanese friends will yell in surprise: "It's delicious! Delicious! Why is it so delicious ?" My friend's sighs float me. I thought I had a super chef craft and I was about to show my hand in the kitchen. My mother came to Japan from Shanghai to visit relatives and finally told the truth: "The food you made is so light. What do you want to eat ?" I woke up. However, the sound of greetings from Japanese friends still makes me feel good and warm. For so many years, their "hypocrisy" has maintained the harmony between us and brought us closer together.

I am afraid the most "hypocritical" belongs to my Japanese boss. Although my carelessness often causes various troubles for his work, I typed the important documents wrong and set the order number to zero, however, when talking about him, he said that I have a strong working ability and talents: "I have been able to accomplish the tasks I have assigned to xuanyuan. The Chinese staff are really very efficient!" In the office, he gave me a thumbs up and said, "You're amazing !" "Great !" I boast that my mind is hot, and my work enthusiasm is increasing in the praise. Although my work has never been in direct proportion to the praise of my boss, his enthusiasm for work has been inspired by his hypocrisy, in his "hypocrisy", the better I do, the more energetic I do. I often take the initiative to work overtime and carefully check my work errors. I was afraid that I would not be careful, so my boss would stop praising me.

I think so too. Since I graduated from school, I have never been praised by any leaders, especially Chinese leaders. They have always admired me for my criticism. Today I suddenly encounter such a "hypocritical" boss, which makes me so angry that every day I go to work, just as I go to Disneyland. One year later, I looked back and saw that I had worked overtime for more than 770 hours throughout the year ", my ability to work has also been recognized by the company, which independently undertakes the import and export business in China.

Now, the leaders are no longer "hypocritical" to me, because I have joined him in the company and become a competitor in the business. As a result, the boss used all his "hypocrisy" on new people joining the club. He kept telling them what he had said to me before. When they made mistakes in their work, still quietly "hypocritical" to the end. "Hypocrisy" gently beats on these new employees like a soft whip, so that new employees keep improving, sell their lives for the company, and make new employees grateful to him.

However, I am "sincere" to new employees. When they encounter errors in their work, they will be severely criticized. I will never say anything soft: "What do you do if you are the most basic thing!" "There will always be a girl like you. I won't check it again after typing it? Pretty face, pig head ."...... As a result, my department made continuous mistakes, and a group of employees followed by a flood of people entering the Community and then resigned. When they left, they all looked pale and defaced ...... I don't understand. Why are not so many young people as motivated, hardworking, smart, and studious as I did at the beginning?

Inadvertently, I met my boss in a bucket. After three rounds of wine, I began to reveal to him my grief. The boss looked at me and said mysteriously: "The Japanese often say this, and the power of praise is far greater than criticism. Sometimes criticism also needs to stand on the praise standpoint to say that although there are too many deficiencies in this person, you have to boast of him in violation of your mind. It seems that such behavior is hypocritical, in fact, it is constantly encouraging him. If you are free, do you also learn hypocrisy? You are very smart. You will definitely do it once you learn it ." My boss couldn't help but be hypocritical of me.

That night, I suddenly realized that, in a sense, "hypocritical" praise can make people progress, and "hypocritical" appreciation can bring a harmonious atmosphere, "hypocritical" Apologies can resolve conflicts ...... Proper "hypocrisy" is an indispensable lubricant for people to interact with each other.

Now, I have become accustomed to the "imaginary" of Japanese people, and can feel warmth and gain strength from their "hypocrisy". I want to start from now on, I also want to learn about the "hypocrisy" of Japanese people and become a person who understands interpersonal problems well.