Reasons for failure

1, unclear target. Don't know the life I want in the future. It's not your choice, it's emotional. Not that I choose a woman, but a woman chooses me. I do not know the distant future, I want to live in what way.

I don't know what I want. Because of the educational environment, I have been embarrassed to think about this problem. --Weak.

I am very frightened and self-abased. Always strive for the family, in order to "moral character" struggle. That's how I was taught.

2, I am weak. I have a psychology of dependence.

Appearance is strong, because the heart is weak, not independent, lonely. I can't bear to disappoint the "good to me" person. --others are essentially looking for what others want.

I don't get it, I don't know it. I can't refuse it.

This is my weakness and I need to study it well.

3, always care about small things.

Can't see clearly the goal, cannot firm boldly to say I want what. The result is--all the little things have become great things.

No firmness, no ruthless.

4. Fear

Because I care about small things. The result is my extreme. There is always too much to understand, do not understand, but there is no channel to tell. I learned from childhood "heartless", learned to forget.

This is good, in the face of pain, can quickly stop, quickly into the study.

But the consequences are extreme, headstrong, grumpy. Not respecting others, doubting others. This side effect, when I interact with the society and other people, the negative impact of more and more serious. Repeat again and again. A ruthless, once can end a waste of time. But also unceasingly accumulates the negative function, extremes meet. If I do things for others, I have to fully think for others and do something beneficial to others. I work for others, in fact, for their own work, I can be reused, can learn things. This is the road to reducing conflict.

5. Trivia and Events

Everyone has what they want, character, values, lifestyle, and want. There is no need to care about details, there is no need to care about small things, just focus on the goal. With the passage of time, as long as the persistence, not to put their own life to draw a stop (do not say I can only do so, life has a lot of possibilities), will become more and more aware of what they want to life, what will be happy.

And in this process, lost, explored, conflicted ... It's all small things, just to make yourself more aware of what you want, and to constantly explore possible ways. Give up, also is a kind of life, feasible is good. If not, it would be better.

There are many choices in life, not to care about the details, but to focus on where you finally arrive. This is not the same as doing things, but strive for excellence, attention to detail. But a person, but only need to focus on the goal. This is free and easy, effortless, no fixed

People deal with people is the same, understand the differences between people, but also do not care, as long as doing things to do the work done. This is the ability to withstand, this is the courage, this is wisdom. There is no need to care about the difference between each other's behavior, only need to care about the end of happy life. The difference between each other is trivial, the last happy life is a big thing. Little things forget, allow, understand others, allow themselves, do not waste time.

6. Life

It is not a last resort, terrible, arson, and this society is tolerated. Just hold on, as long as there is wisdom.

All kinds of life can choose, choose Life, is a big event.

Reasons for failure