The first lesson in love is learning to be hurt

The first lesson in love is learning to be hurt. This is not a negative slogan, but the first thing to build a love relationship.
The decision to "first" is the essence of love.

Many psychologists define the nature of love: Love is a short and illusory emotion that represents our highest expectation as an individual to another body. Our love begins with the illusion of another person-we will first build a vague "dream lover" and put all the wishes on TA. Then in the real world to find a "like it" people, betting their emotions. But often the "highest", are very dangerous. Like the highest-flying soap bubbles, the beauty of the incomparable, but also the most vulnerable to the pressure, "pa" broken off.

Ideal and reality fight, always hurt. For example, TA should be very handsome, very beautiful, ta should be gentle, ta should understand me, ta that specificity ... But the result TA is not so, what will you do? Disappointment, frustration or broken faith ... No matter what is lost, it is inevitable to "hurt", because the nature of the injury is "loss".

I love you you do not love me, you want to divide I do not want to put, third party, heart, cheating ... There are so many problems with love, the key is that the other person does not follow the life you want. Two people, not originally, to use "love" as a connection symbol, merged together-like water and face, both to change the shape. Do you want to keep doing the water, or do it all the time, just to make it change? No way. So, you can be hurt, water can face.

Learn to face the reality, have a pain, learn to fuse others, pain again. Injury is the inevitable process of love, you have to enjoy the beauty of love, at least a little resistance to beat ability.

No fall, you can experience a life of n-times different style of love.
Fall once can not stand, will feel a lifetime only once "true love", holding the first pain farewell love.
Can not fall, has been in love outside the door snooping around, occasionally guilty of acid grape psychology.

Three types of people, and no good or bad points, "love" and "hurt" to see how you choose.

If you want love, get hurt first, it's no big deal. The Chegulu of life can not be without friction, this injury is to help you advance the friction. Injured, you can hum two, but Hum finished also please congratulate yourself, you took the first step of love.

The first lesson in love is learning to be hurt