The path of the few--the journey of the mind's maturity--an excerpt from reading

A man can refuse anything, but he must not refuse to mature. Refusing to mature is actually avoiding the problem and escaping the pain. avoidance of problems and the tendency to escape from pain is the root of human psychological diseases, not timely treatment, you will pay a heavy price, to endure greater pain.

The first part of self-discipline

It is a great truth and one of the greatest truths in the world that life suffers. Its greatness is that once we have figured it out, we can achieve the transcendence of life. As long as we know that life is hard-as long as we really understand and accept it, then we will never have to dwell on the suffering of life.

The primary solution to life's problems is self-discipline, without which you cannot solve any problems or difficulties. Local self-discipline can only solve local problems, and complete self-discipline can solve all problems.

Life's problems and sufferings are of extraordinary value. The courage to take responsibility, dare to face difficulties, can make the mind become healthy. Self-discipline is the primary tool to solve the problem of life and an important means to eliminate the pain of life. Through self-discipline, we know how to get the benefits from learning and growing in the face of problems with perseverance and boldness.

To put it simply, the so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a positive and active attitude, including four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and maintaining balance.

Delay the sense of satisfaction

Delaying gratification means not seeking temporary comfort and re-setting the order of happiness and pain in life: first, face the problem and feel the pain, then solve the problem and enjoy greater happiness, which is the only viable way of life.

Ignoring the existence of the problem reflects the reluctance of people to postpone the satisfaction of the mentality. I said: Facing problems can make people feel pain. The problem is usually impossible to disappear on its own, and if not solved, it will exist forever and hinder the maturity of the mind. We all have this experience: The problem comes, it will bring a different degree of pain experience. Facing them as early as possible means delaying gratification, giving up temporary comfort and a lesser degree of pain, and experiencing a greater degree of pain, so that it will be rewarded. Suffering now can lead to a greater sense of satisfaction in the future, rather than seeking to solve the problem, the pain will be greater in the future and the longer it lasts.

Take responsibility

The difficulty of taking responsibility for personal behavior is that it brings pain, and we try to avoid it.

Respect the facts

Escape from the reality of the pain and misfortune, is human nature, only through self-discipline, can gradually overcome the pain of reality. We must respect the facts, although this will bring pain, but far more important than our personal interests and temporary comfort. We must downplay the sense of temporary discomfort, pursue truth rather than illusion, and be willing to endure all suffering. To let the heart grow, let the mind to mature, we must do our best, always respect the facts, and even dedicated to the truth.

Give up some things in life, will bring pain to the heart. Nine-year-old I covet the Lightning, refused to give up a moment of pleasure, in exchange for the balance of the turn, finally let me realize: lose balance, far more painful than give up. I think no matter who, after the sharp turn of the journey of life, must give up some happiness, give up part of their own. There is only one way to avoid giving up, that is to stay in place forever, do not let the two pedals on the road.

the only sense of security in life comes from the full experience of insecurity in life.

The path of the few--the journey of the mind's maturity--an excerpt from reading