Wang Jin: It's really easy to change a poor student.

When a student, repeated failure of the blow, he became a poor student, no students born is doomed to a poor. So it's really easy to make a bad student better.
I didn't dare say that when I was at work, but I dare say it now, because my years of experience have proved it. It's very simple to make a bad student better. is to do the opposite. Poor students are repeatedly hit by the failure to produce, so that a bad student to become better, is to let him repeatedly enjoy the joy of success, the pupil will slowly change.
Teenagers come to me with such methods and ideas, help a student out of the predicament, to success. I deeply appreciate that as a teacher, as a parent, learn to appreciate children. Especially for those "problem" children, but also need teachers, parents with a magnifying glass to find their advantages, because the more problems of children, in the eyes of teachers, parents, the more useless, these students are others to his criticism, blame.
But the advantage is not to look for, you have to find the merits of his own. "Good kids are a boast," I often spread my opinion around the country, many parents think I have a point, before they will only criticize the children, after listening to my advice, go back to start praising their children.
The compliment made the child feel worse, "boy, you're too smart", "Boy, You're great", "boy, you can do it" ... All this is empty, lack of strength of praise, make children all over the goose bumps.
Our teachers and parents should take a magnifying glass to find the advantages of the students, but the premise is that you find the students are indeed the advantages.
I remember the Spring Festival in 2006, a student in the middle school after the final exam, his father brought to my office. Because the child did poorly in the final exam, he wanted me to help him.
The boy was afraid to look at me as he reached my office. I asked him, "How was your final exam?" "
The child looked at me with a timid look, and trembling, without speaking, his father said: "It is a mess!" I said, beating my couch hard.
I looked at his father's angry look, suddenly remembered a word: "The problem of children from the problem of the family." "The parents in front of me are not able to suppress their emotions, I am not in the words, can imagine how cruel he is to the child, no wonder his child is so submissive, a little masculine qi is not, is completely his father this domineering attitude to be devastated."
If I look at the parents, I can't talk to the kids, I don't worry about anything else, I'm afraid my couch is being pounded by this parent. I had to get him out of the way and talk to the kids alone.
When he left, I asked the child how he had done in the final exam.
The boy said, "Miss Wang, I have raised two places in the class compared to the midterm exams." "
As I listened, my eyes brightened, and I said to the child, "You are too good, boy, you are not easy!" High school inside each student's strength is very strong, you in less than two months of time, unexpectedly in the class to improve two places, too not easy! You have 1.5 of the time (this student read sophomore), if you bite the bullet, every time to increase the rate, to the college entrance examination, it is not possible to enter the university's problems, and even have been admitted to PKU, Tsinghua's ' danger '! See if you dare to challenge yourself. "
I say this by amplifying the students ' merits. It was a good thing that he raised two places, but I zoomed in on his merits, narrowed down his shortcomings, and gave him a rosy picture.
I said: "This winter vacation, when other students are gently loose during the holiday, do you want to sneak a vacation, to the beginning of the school, then more than two places?" If you want, I'll tell you what to do. "
Of course he thought, I gave him a specific study plan, tell him the whole winter vacation should be how to work, how to grasp the rhythm, how to enhance the pertinence of learning. The student was so happy that I left my office with confidence.
I called his parents again and said, "Good kids are a compliment, your kids are in the bottom of the class, you know why?" It's because your children are more vulnerable to criticism and failure. "
Parents said: "Yes, I see the children's grades do not come, it is urgent and angry!" "
I said: "I tell you, from the first floor to the second floor, no steps who do not go up, but with a reasonable cushion, who can go." I am in the middle school, teaching the best class and the worst class at the same time. I in the best class dare to speak maths problem, get the worst class speak, the student can still understand, what reason? I am in the best class to talk about this problem, I may do three steps to pave the way, the students can understand, but I in the worst of that class, do five steps to pave the way, students can listen to understand. So learning is not a certain person's patent, but every student can do. Our teachers and parents should do the most things, not forcing students from the first floor to the second floor, but to guide students, give him a reasonable cushion, let him from the first floor more confident, more practical ground to the second floor. Your child is now in a reciprocal state, and you certainly want his grades to come up at once, but that is not possible. We often see a person who can get rich overnight, but when did you see a person who can become a learned person in a short time? Scholarship is a thick product and thin hair process, not through a momentary assault can do. Your parents do not consider the child's current foundation, blindly want to let your child improve, how many students your child in the end, in order to get a little praise you here? "
Parents were I said not temper, honestly admit: "Miss Wang, I really do not have the standard." "
You see, this parent is confused, right? He has no goal, no matter what the test, the children are always criticized and condemned, there is not a mess? Can such a parent develop a child who is healthy and sunny? Can a child have a sense of accomplishment under such a parent's education? His success was also a failure, and success was condemned. So the child later gradually became self-defeating, no pursuit.
I said to the parents: "In the future, you have to change your mind, pay close attention to your child's progress every bit, even if you raise a place, you should give encouragement, praise, so your child will gradually improve." "
As I was communicating with my parents, the parent seemed to have some sense of truth and apologized to my child for his presence. This child under my guidance, has been in accordance with my plan to learn, coupled with the family atmosphere of moderation, mentality is also healthy. Results after the first exam, he in the class to improve three places, he regarded it as a very big success, parents also give praise, I also give encouragement, self-confidence was stimulated, the intrinsic potential was excavated out. After this child is more learning more happy, block can not stop, in 2007 in the college Entrance examination, the child was admitted to Peking University.
Later his father was Yinyuan to me and said that the conversation not only changed the life of the children, but also brought a great turnaround for their families. The original family was always full of criticism of the children, and now it's completely changed. So children in this harmonious atmosphere, also got a kind of psychological comfort, learning efficiency is more and more high.
From the experience of the student's growth, we should be able to see how easy it is to change a poor students, so long as he is encouraged, praised and admired by him, he can be greatly improved.
A person's potential is enormous, but if a person can not be well adjusted to their own mentality, his potential can not be fully mined, at the critical moment of life, often missed opportunities. But as long as there is a proper guide, he has found a turning point in life, he can win a lifetime. This is the importance of choice mentality. Every student has the potential to be a man. It's not the student's incompetence, but the teacher's failure to find the key to unlocking the energy treasure. In this sense, as long as the method is right, every student can become a talent. There are no students who can't teach, only parents who can't teach, only teachers who can't teach.

Wang Jin: It's really easy to change a poor student.