Workplace: the "tortoise" Philosophy

As a subordinate, if you get scolded, or are warned or accused, you will not feel happy. Although you know that it is not a normal task for subordinates to be scolded by their superiors, conflicts and complaints often occur, which affects the relationship between you and your superiors.

All the keys are mentality issues. Whether it is strong or weak, your mood cannot be disturbed by the reprimand of others. Instead, you should be flexible and always calm. When you get scolded, you only need to bow your head and identify your mistakes. Since my boss has already scolded me, I 'd like to simply apologize! This is the cute attitude of subordinates. Only people who can reflect upon your shortcomings and mistakes can improve your personality and be a meaningful person.

Turtle Philosophy

In terms of attitude towards scolding, we may wish to understand the self-defense methods of turtles.

As we all know, when a turtle suffers an external interference or attack, it will indent its head in the shell and never fight back. After the external force disappears, it considers it safe to stick out its head.

In the face of an angry boss, he also treated himself as a tortoise and reduced his dissatisfaction and impulse. Ren Er accused and criticized him until the end of a bad review by his boss. This may seem a bit weak and ridiculous, but it is smart and correct from the perspective of attitude correction.

Differentiated and flexible

You must treat your superiors differently and get along with each other in order to remain undefeated.

In the office, have you ever had such an experience: When you report a painstaking work plan to your boss in detail, the boss seems bored and indifferent, so far away from these details; it is also possible that when you briefly and briefly report a work event, the boss will blame you for not being meticulous enough, but will ask some trivial questions.

In fact, you made a mistake: You did not tell whether your boss is a person who only wants to grasp the overall situation, or a person who does not relax. A manager who only wishes to grasp the overall situation thinks that you should do all the basic work well. What he wants is only the result. A boss who pays attention to details will care about your work details. If you know your boss's personal information earlier, your cooperation will be much more enjoyable.

Remember that the boss is also an ordinary person. He also has seven passions and six desires, as well as emotional, temper, preferences, and other characteristics that are no different from others. How can he grasp the characteristics and style of his superiors, using appropriate coping methods to get along with them is the key to being harmonious with your superiors. In such a workplace test, excellent employees can always give satisfactory answers. No matter what kind of boss they are facing, they can always handle it properly and cater to the style of their superiors.

The boss personality in the office is divided into seven types, each of which requires employees to treat differently:

(1) indecisive superiors

This kind of boss is not a lot in the workplace, but it makes you really feel "difficult", because this kind of boss is often changing, so that you are at a loss as a subordinate.

When a boss asks for your opinion or discusses a plan, he may wish to follow his personality and talk about several possible methods or opinions in multiple aspects. For example, when he asks you if a job draft is suitable, his personality leads to questions about it unconsciously. You can find more critical comments for his reference. You don't have to bother with it.

Such a boss often has a headache for a long time and is hesitant. In this case, you may wish to make a decision for him in a timely manner based on your own accurate judgment, help him solve his current anxiety and problems. However, remember that such problems must be irrelevant and have no significant relationship with your work. If you confirm that your boss will thank you for this, otherwise, this kind of self-determination has a fatal impact on your future.

Of course, the wise way to change his style is that it is best to follow his intent in any action, but since there is psychological preparation for "changing at any time", everything is not up to the deadline, you don't have to execute it. For example, it's wise to make a plan, just draft it, and add or subtract it at any time. It's hard for you to ensure that your boss will not suddenly become a new employee when the plan is completed quickly. You can deny your plan in full or make major adjustments.

(2) grumpy boss

In the office, there is a kind of boss who is naturally grumpy, and his mood is easy to lose control. Such superiors often get angry with their subordinates for some minor matters, and even publicly reprimand their subordinates. You may have met such bosses, which are often embarrassing for their inexplicable reprimand.

According to psychology, the boss who often scares his subordinates is just a matter of power. You may not ask him to go to a psychiatrist. What you can do is self-protection.

In the face of such a boss, it is best not to make him angry, speak as simple and sincere as possible, do not peat or shirk, especially when he is busy with work, try not to disturb him. We can't afford it. We can't afford to hide it.

When your boss is furious, do not shirk your responsibility or try to explain it. Calmly say, "I will pay attention to this situation." or "I will investigate immediately !" Then leave the office. Since the target object has disappeared, there will be no roaring object.

If you cannot walk away immediately, let him count and criticize him. As long as the words are not too bad, I believe that as a person in the workplace, this patience and optimism should be something that most subordinates should have.

When his anger fades out, he may feel sorry for not being able to control his emotions.

The intense performance of a violent boss is often just a kind of nature, not a deliberate blow to an employee. You need to understand this. Don't feel deeply hurt because of his hot temper. In fact, he may do this for every subordinate.

(3) A General Supervisor

In addition to being picky about the jobs of subordinates, the most annoying thing is that they will ask questions about your private affairs like a tyrant. For example, they are not allowed to contact colleagues in other departments, you are not allowed to take an English lesson after work, or spend your spare time with your colleagues ...... This kind of boss is often a person with a strong desire for power and a strong sense of control. He wants his subordinates to listen to his or her own superiors all the time. At the same time, this kind of boss is often a tough person.

In the face of this type of Boss, it is inevitable that you alone are weak, the best way is to unite with other colleagues, unite the strength of everyone, and jointly deal with the boss.

In terms of work, you need to be careful and meticulous. Do your best to be impeccable and not give your boss a pick-up handle. After a long time, he could not find a chance to pick up on you. Naturally, he was bored and won't bother you any more.

In terms of personal affairs, I met colleagues from other departments to invite me for lunch, promise them, and make an appointment with your partners. We will talk to each other on a private basis. If the boss knows, ask you: "We are only common social networking for lunch ." In other aspects, as long as you encounter such interference from your boss over your work hours, you can express your attitude in a euphemism: "This is my personal business, do not bother leaders. I will handle it independently ."

(4) lazy boss

When you encounter a lazy and competitive boss, you may not be satisfied with it. However, it would be a negative idea to leave his role and seek another role. In addition, from the very beginning, it would be a battle to fight for a new role. At the same time, it would be hard to fight for a new role, it's hard for you to climb the ladder of success.

Generally, when receiving a major task, this type of boss must be handed over to you without thinking about it. When the task is completed, he will take over it with one hand and give an explanation to the boss. He will put all the hard work of his subordinates to the fullest extent and strive for the trust and appreciation of the boss.

Of course, you can't split him in person. If you talk to him, it will only hurt you (because you are a subordinate. The ideal practice is to invite a witness during each step, of course, not openly looking for it, but intentionally or unintentionally, for example, in front of the Secretary, the goal is to let people know the ins and outs of the incident. Even if the ultimate credit is lost to their superiors, there must be people in the company who know the truth. The goal can be achieved through one-to-ten or ten-to-one transmission.

(5) workaholic superiors

It is a workaholic to meet your boss. You will frown all day, because in the eyes of a workaholic, you think that continuous work is a way of life. Everyone should be so.

A workaholic's boss is an idealist, and his work is his life. Therefore, if you work for him, you will not be able to enjoy it when you are idle. If you want to change the situation, you should first try to let your boss understand that it is not wise and appropriate to keep working hard and spend time on your own.

For example, he handed you a task, asked you to finish it in a week, and hinted that you would have to work overtime to do well. However, you can work in your own way, neither working overtime nor doing well in advance. Once, twice, and for a long time, you are waiting to demonstrate to him and tell him how to do it more efficiently and easily. If he is modest and insightful, he will probably accept it. Of course, he may also be very disgusted, but at least he will not be so confident if he asks you to work overtime in the future.

If you encounter a workaholic boss, but you cannot persuade him, you have to work hard under his "lead by example", you can also try to understand and accept their practices psychologically, do not reject or complain to avoid a vicious circle in the relationship between the two parties. Second, cooperate with him in his work, and do his subordinate duties to become a good assistant to his trust. If you really cannot accept his way of work, you should also express it boldly. Of course, you must pay attention to finding the right time and way. After all, from an optimistic perspective, you may have better performance. Although it is a matter of fact, it is not without gains.

(6) stubborn boss

No matter how hard you try to explain to him your way of doing things, he will ignore it and specify that you want to do things according to his method, as long as it is a little reverse he means, he will be thunderous, it makes you feel nervous, upset, tired of your work, and even want to resign as a silent protest to escape the "persecution" of your boss ". This kind of boss is a typical stubborn boss.

As a subordinate, how can we change or adapt to work under such superiors? Here are some suggestions. You need patience and try again:

Do not think that your way of doing things and suggestions are correct. You must have a gentle tone and objective attitude when talking to your boss. You may wish to make more concessions.

When the environment permits, try to avoid a heated debate with your boss in the office. Ask him to have a cup of coffee in a nearby restaurant after work. In a relaxed environment, put forward your opinion euphemistically.

You need to listen to your boss's opinions and avoid expressing your opinions first. He may also have some difficulties. You should learn how to put yourself in place and think about it.

In addition to prejudice, do not think that your boss must be a difficult person, and try to be a good friend with him.

(7) Manager-in-laW superiors

Some bosses like to show up in the form of "manager". They have to ask questions and intervene, which makes the staff responsible for implementing the work plan very worried.

This kind of boss has reached the level of excessive authority. On the surface, he seems very open-minded. He encourages the spirit of "talented people, just their places". In fact, he is the planner behind all work. For him, his subordinates are only tools for him to get a certain result. His opinion is commands.

If your boss is such a type of person, you will often feel nervous and hard to get a sense of accomplishment from your work. If you want to get along with such a boss, you should first think about it carefully. The other party needs to take care of everything and indirectly command you to follow his instructions, have you gained valuable experience and benefited a lot during your work? You might as well try to persuade him that even if you do it in your own way, the result will be as beautiful as he expected. If he does his own thing, you have only two options: the boss is the only one, or send a resignation letter to him for further development.

However, before you take the final action, you should strive for your own rights and interests, summon up the courage to say your words to your boss, and try to treat each other with friends to see if he has any worries, this leads to a lack of confidence in subordinates.

Everyone has his own character. his or her character is closely related to your career. To become a good employee, you must know yourself, know yourself, and know each other.