Traveling widely to the north, why still no hesitation?

Recently, some people asked the question: "Why young people are mostly willing to come north to the Guangzhou-Shenzhen work, even after the exceptionally difficult, far away from their loved ones, still hesitate, at home, do not live a pragmatic it?" Some of the following by the Internet Excerpt for everyone a nearly ten thousand agree with the answer, I hope everyone can find the answer here.

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Why do young people nowadays want to go north and march into the Guangzhou-Shenzhen region? Even if they are unusually tough and stay away from their loved ones, they still have no hesitation in doing things. Do you really live well at home? I've heard that young people in some cities have basically gone away. Is not this society The reasons for the system so that everyone's values ​​are distorted, will form a vicious circle?

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See this problem on the phone, so to the computer to anger, because the feeling is too deep. I guess I will write a long time. Mixed with a lot of personal feelings in the middle, the conclusion at the end.

Answer master male, 2008, a third-rate Xi'an private college graduates, carrying 2000 dollars, I bought a train ticket to Shanghai. There is no relatives or friends here or even my school diploma was temporarily detained because of my lectures. The only reason I went to Shanghai was to like the internet. Here, I am sharing a suite with a total of 9 people. Small single room monthly rent 650 dollars. Only put a bed and a laptop in the room.

The sun in July is really hot, job search by 12580. Every weekend go to the Shanghai Gymnasium's job fairs, met a sudden heavy rain, drenched is simply not a thing, every day running around and panic, I have no diploma who will want?

A month later I met the first supervisor of my job when I was lost in my job search, walked for a kilometer on foot, and sweaty when I was interviewed. The whole clothes soaked, the sweat on the hair washed with the same, heatstroke almost unstably, he handed me a glass of water, and then let me talk about the views of the SNS, it is estimated that he pitied my abjection, he gave CEOs call that temporarily not my diploma, take a look at my job performance.

I entered a very good domestic excellent Internet company, although the wage is only 1800. But I do not mind, for the first time to attend the regular meeting, surrounded by a bunch of colleagues from Thunder, Alibaba, Tencent, Baidu, know the product manager of this post, that two years younger than me, is the company dig from Shanda Come, he will use Axure, will use the mind map, meeting the rapid extraction of the essence, has a clear product analysis capabilities. Analysis of the Internet than I thoroughly too much, met the regular army, I understand for the first time, the sky, my point that the past show off knowledge is not even entry.

6:30 in the morning to get up, squeeze the subway, in order to save, basically noon for lunch. When people go to eat I was on the rooftop of a man on the top of the building, facing the tall buildings in Shanghai in a daze. Bathrooms for rent to live in the bathroom of the bathroom need 9 people sharing, cooking every night need to line up, the toilet toilet only a long time will be criticized by roommates, electric shower hot water, you have to run out of people have to wait a long time . Home every day to write analysis reports to two o'clock at night, sleepy set the alarm clock to six in the morning, and then go to sleep. Sleep for four hours is enough for me. Dangdang 300-150 when bought a lot of books on the Internet mad, weekend, to participate in various product manager party, afraid to speak, just sit in the last quiet listening. Listen to their analysis, a bunch of words I did not understand, and then recorded in the book, go home with Baidu check.

During the National Day holiday, all my colleagues near my home came home. I worked overtime for my colleagues in the department. The three times my salary allowed me to buy my first smart phone in a week's time - Meizu m8.

Fortunately, I met two good buddies of my life, a PHP programmer in the company and an advertising sales, and the three of us were just as inseparable as the three of the "Chinese partners," both of whom were Shanghai natives . Sales are half as rich as mine in my eyes, but with a special effort, I have to work harder than many outsiders I met in Shanghai. People who deal with people are more realistic in all aspects and locals have confidence. He helped me get through every situation. Economic, career, feelings ... For our project, he even lived in the company, the programmer is a particularly honest little introverted boy, strong execution is very suitable for programmers, in short, we three good Wear a pair of pants

Of course, there is a payback, in 2010, the group has just arisen, we began to take charge of the group buy navigation, which is the company's a key project. The three of us every day like to beat the chicken, then never considered whether the company and the treatment of equal, we are holding the ideal of doing business. Sales go to Beijing on business, we talk about products from 12 o'clock to 12 o'clock, four-hour long-distance, he will visit the customer first-hand information to me, I quickly make product requirements, and then submitted to the programmers, programmers Overtime overtime to do product iteration. Sometimes at midnight we suddenly think of ideas, and then I will call to talk about overtime to three o'clock at night is too common thing, Zhang Jiang full of street lights and empty streets, and the car to send subordinates back home, back Home sleep a few hours, then arrived the next day the company to work. Sometimes at night a page bug is found and the phone is called. He will immediately get up and correct.

This is the work of the people in Shanghai perseverance, the vast majority of people, as long as he is part of the job, you will not blame him much later, he will blame you, and is responsible. Three people desperately in return soon, a few years, I became the manager of this project, I have a small team of nearly 10 people, they are also the backbone of their respective businesses,

Shanghai's fast-paced life, you feel one day will not work hard to fall behind, which makes you have the power desperately to learn, her facilities are good, Zhangjiang convenience store downstairs there are many 24-hour service, you can work overtime Go downstairs at any time during the middle of the night at three o'clock and eat any Kanto cook or have the clerk heat up a chicken nugget in the microwave.

Positions and income come up, the living conditions have changed, the weekend can go Tianzifang and girlfriend shopping. From the World Expo to see the scenery of various countries, go to ChinaJoy to find cute sister photographed to catch small crabs Chongming Island, go to Yangcheng Lake eat crabs, go to Songjiang University City to drink coffee, sitting in a small shop to see the sunset. Free yourself with a girlfriend doing what you want, go to want to go. My salary can easily afford IPAD, IPHONE, online shopping stuff basic to the second day, but also mail.

I also met many people I admire in my life, they are experts in all fields. They are knowledgeable, courteous, intelligent and well-dressed in fashion. They speak just right and work in perfect order. Men and women are so clever that you meet them and you feel that I have to work hard to become like this.

Later, the sales buddies began to see me with customers, eat and talk, teach me to overcome their weaknesses and exchange. Too introverted is my weakness, with his help, introverted I dare to speak at the company strategy meeting, fight for the team resources, fighting for the interests. The team has a genuine Masters degree in Chinese Department of Fudan University and Master of Journalism in Guru. Yes, as their manager, I was a third-rate pheasant private university in Xi'an almost did not mix the diploma diploma.

when it is time to leave. Monthly salary 10k. I know that this salary is not high in Shanghai. But, in fact, I think she deserves my own efforts, at least three times my company and holidays, extra overtime at night, and free restaurant Bread biscuits instant noodles coffee ham sausage, free breakfast. Strict implementation of various systems.

Colleagues around me earn more than me, but they are better than me. Education, working ability, doing things for people. I lose heart convinced. Then just learn quickly enough.

Shanghai is a magical city. She does not ask your birth, education, despise your family conditions, she only see if you work hard, really.

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In May 2013, my mother investigated and treated patients suffering from lung cancer, pleural effusion could not stop, almost lost their lives, I left my home for my mother to go back to my hometown, in this not too small, I have lived in the city for 20 years, I can not adapt to the hair so far.

Conditions at home are not bad, my parents did business in the early years and suffered a fire, but my life is still not rigid. As the only child, parents at home living in a suite, bought me a suite in 2005 for marriage, last year, civil servants also bought a room for rent. Coupled with the early purchase of a few shops for rent, of course, these things, every minute, are the parents of hard-earned money in this life. I am restrained in Shanghai simply because I always have a belief, that is, do not want to spend their parents' money after graduation, in fact I did.

Hometown belongs to third-tier cities, the economy is not too far behind. But when I came back I was still not used to it. The basic public car was not on time. The service staff did not have service awareness. I stayed in a hotel room and I waited for room cards. The two attendants discussed what to eat at noon. Well run into the room, only to find the last guest to go the room did not pack up. To know this is not a small hotel. Lugang busy town, eat a dish to be reminded three times or more waiter look of reluctance, the waiter service I always want a kind of urge to complain, think of the red peppers in Shanghai, ordinary Sichuan restaurant, Attendants always observe your move, help you take off the coat, help you pour tea. Everyone in this city is living a serious life, so sometimes, they start to disappoint their hometown.

The first is that there is no suitable job:

Back to my hometown, my professional job is not easy to find, home because of logistics and the Internet behind, business is not a little behind. Later, my mother ignored my objection and the gift-giving relationship got me to the organs and public institutions. A year later you can get the business establishment. Work, endless work, maintain stability. Basically nothing to do work, there are quarters canteen, all things do not have to spend money. Just do not let you go home. A few days back home, can only stay at home for one day. Sometimes I feel like in a nursing home. You do not need good computer knowledge, will reinstall the windows to set the printer and router, here is an expert. Will Taobao, is simply a god.

Second, the ability is a fart, relationships and family forces is basically everything:

Every day, there are some dissatisfied masses in the service hall of the organ, some quarreling and some crying. I was very surprised when I first went but my colleagues were all accustomed to it. Even kindly reminded me: do not control. It is your business.

The organs of the small leadership is very powerful, give me a variety of arrangements for work, in this organ unit, you have the ability, then you work more, do not have the ability to live with you. Anyway, we get the same wages at the end of a month later, she knew I was a relative of leadership, completely changed my attitude, nothing to do with me, but also immediately gave me an advanced assessment, let me dumbfounding.

You have to admit that this is the status quo in a small city. You have no choice but to work harder because who should be reused and promoted should have the final say. The connections and the backstage are everything.

As a result, the newly arrived non-staffing contractual workers, holding the lowest wages of the whole organs, work endlessly. Most get prepared, day after day work is the game, eat, sleep, chat, surf the Net.

Once again: your career is completely indebted and flattering, and the people around you advise you: This is too normal thing.

The new leadership of the organs, the daily work is the landlord, every day at noon chat with a superior leadership, and then help the leader dishwashing, three months later, he quickly rose to the director ... ... go home After I was surprised with the mother filed, the mother said it was normal. Instead, I seriously talk to me that I am too rigid, do not know how to slippery horse. I can not justify the collapse of Three Concepts.

Finally, the standard for everyone to judge your success is the civil service:

I have a relative who cares into the police system. His 35-year-old income of 4,000 yuan, driving more than 200,000 cars, the unit has a canteen and food is very good, but always and a bunch of friends to eat outside, in his words that this is the network. Because of a fancy house, but parents do not buy to fight with their parents. Often ask my parents for money, is such a person, my mother is extremely envious, that he is very good, he is a civil servant, go out there is a palette, a gray income, life is guaranteed, all this deeply hurt my heart, I have In particular, want to leave home. But, I can not bear the weak mother after chemotherapy. On the one hand, when she was young, she worked in two jobs, started out from scratch, got me a few shops for two houses, gave me everything in my life, and tried to change my values ​​and told me To prevent others at the moment of the authorities, we must learn to slip the horse. She forbade me from doing business, forbidding me to find a job as a private company, and just wanted me to get into the bureaucracy.

This is really not a case of my family, is almost all the values ​​of this town. Anything depends on the relationship.

Moreover, here is a group, is a large group of three basically the same relatives, gossip topic is who the condition is good, who high income children who dad her mother-in-law slapped. To participate in family reunions Endless education You learn to slip leaders, to be able to do things smoothly, to understand more brains do not be so kind, you do not participate in family reunions is that you do not know you are not gregarious.

Unless you do exactly what they mean.

Actually, I know that people in both worlds could not understand my inner thoughts and they had no experience. Maybe I do not understand their good intentions. I had hardly spoken to my father in the six months since I came back because he has always been stubbornly feeling that so many people are going northward to fight hard and how many people make a success or go back home to become a civil servant.

What they want is you go home, work as a civil servant in an iron job, find a good girl who can take care of you, and get married quickly to have children and have a perfect life in their eyes. Life should be mediocre.

Today, I live in this kind of unhappy life, in seemingly affluent but some painful and uneasy state of life, I know, I will never go to promotion and shoot the leader ass to the leadership of the dish, I can not be their own original Most despise people, I never have the future in the organs and units.

I even know that I will go back to Shanghai one day, even if I become a real slave mortgage. I do not care if I have a room, because I have ideals. Stay in Shanghai, let my future generations have a better life, is already my life's greatest ideal.

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I also know that my hometown is stable, I feel well-fed, and I do not need a penny in my hometown to buy a good car to pull an ordinary life. Eat and watch movies. On the 1st of each month, wear big slippers to the tenant to collect the rent.

I also know that North Canton wide house prices may have to do a lifetime house slave, buy a cup of soy milk but also line up, take the subway packed like a hamburger, buy a car but also Yaohao, a broken plate 80,000.

At that time, the naive part of his own effort to save money and not eat breakfast was to observe the polyps on the gallbladder ready for resection every year.

Do you think I do not understand the family, in order to give up a little money to 4000 km away from home to fight fainting darkness, parents can not see the growing age, just to come back to New Year party drinking coffee with a smile to tell you my income higher than you?

You also say I vanity my selfish my value distortion?

I know that I never met the same house that stayed with me for 650 months. I cut my fingers while cooking, and I knelt under the ground all night and gave me a girl who changed my towel.

I never met again for a page of user experience several buddies won the red-hot job about eating hot pot while scolding each other sucker iron buddy.

No longer in the office was cursed by the manager bloody head and then returned home trying hard to change a user experience report to half past midnight myself.

Those who give up their rich and prosperous life in their hometown to the first-tier cities are all children of hope and hope, and they are the hope of change in all fields of the country.

Children struggling in the big cities and those pampered children in small cities, who is the value of distortion? You talk about it?

- - - - - 4 February 2014 16:17 Update: -----

1. In view of many villagers said I vilified hometown, omitted the name of his hometown. Concerns about this issue also indicate that this issue is more commonplace. I am not malicious. Thank you.

- - - - - February 3, 2014 00:03 update: -----

Acquired more than 2000 likes in the afternoon, said they really scared. More than 200 friends plus my friends, dozens of private messages, there are many friends in the Sina microblogging reproduced. Comments, private letters, everyone's thoughts have seen, really thank you. Really can not reply one by one.

Uniform reply is as follows:

1. Mother chemotherapy is completed in four phases, and now targeted treatment, the body did not cause major problems. Only very weak.

2. There are still some to be graduated, just graduated friends and private questions asked the choice of the problem, thank you for trust, but I really can not help you, or to ask yourself. In fact, not to stay good, but not suitable for. There are lovers plot, home is a good choice. Happy life like my classmates really happy burst, married in the hometown of children all day in the micro-sun photo.

Have an ideal aspire to go out, afraid of failure in fact not necessary. Young and young to have the courage. At least, I think, the experience in Shanghai now makes me not afraid to stop in any one city when I meet difficulties. This single, enough of this.

As for all kinds of children who are good at hometown, I think most of them have always emphasized that their hometown is better than college in their hometown. In fact, they all went out to understand that the outside world is very exciting. So, I did not hesitate to choose the university.

4. Concerning parents' forced examination of civil servants, career bazaars, state-owned enterprises and the problems within the system, some people said that I mentioned the special dream leave, well.

When Jobs died in 2011, his friends in Shanghai should remember that there are advertisements of Jobs all over the world in Lightbox advertisements. The phrase "living just to change the world" makes many people sought after. We have all been stunning iphone defeated, admire Apple's dedication, the iron-steel products made of steel into a failure. But if we all hold the attitude of a civil servant, these things have not changed. To our children, our children's children. There is always someone to change, right?

I do not know why, with China's development and opening up, I always think that shortly after civil servants and business editors will gradually shuffle their licenses (similar to the large state-owned enterprises laid off in 1998 and Wenzhou not trying out civil servant employment systems), so I really do not Proposed to jump into the fire pit, even if it does not change, a glimpse of life, a lifetime.

Sincerely wish everyone a happy new year.

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