1 minutes to make someone Like You (ii)

1 minutes to make someone Like You (ii)

Chapter 4th Critical First Impressions

1. A person will never have a second chance to give a first impression.

2. We all have this feeling: after the first contact with a stranger, it is possible to determine whether his or her personality is introverted or extroverted, whether it is good talk or quiet.

3. Modern psychology shows that when people are based on a series of information to understand an object, the initial information obtained is more than the information obtained in the future occupies an overwhelming advantage.

4. In real life, the first impression that people make about you is often difficult to change. And people are looking for more reasons to support the impression.

5. How to build a good first impression?

The first impression is determined by the appearance of the first meeting, clothing, movements and exchange of content. The proverb says: Buddha depends on gold, man by clothes. The most basic requirement is to dress the whole machine generous, dressed appropriately, and their occupation, identity in line with.

6. How do you change the bad impression you give to others?

In life, we often encounter this situation: cheerful personality, but some people think they are introverted, stable personality, but others think they are reckless. So how to prevent and change it?

A. Ugly words is ahead. The first time you meet, you can say: Sorry, when I first met with people, there will be some silence. This allows others to look at you with wide eyes, not just the performance of your disorder.

B. Timely explanations and eliminate misunderstandings.

C. Speak with facts and let time solve problems. For example, just into the unit, level than others high or ability than others strong, because fell behind others and left a bad first impression. This is not the time to explain, the best way is to constantly improve themselves, to do the results, change the impression of others. Old saying: Say Times, Tao million change, rather than do it yourself.

How to establish a good first impression, fundamentally speaking, it can not be separated from the level of civilization and self-cultivation, inseparable from the regular psychological exercise.

The 5th chapter does not have the enthusiasm, can impress who?

1. Most people like enthusiastic people, which makes them feel at ease and feel able to communicate with others. Most importantly, it allows them to take the initiative to communicate with others without any trouble.

2. In all expressions, the most enthusiastic person is also sure to laugh. No matter how difficult the Bill Gates encountered, even in the face of Microsoft will be "in Split", Bill Gates is that a pair of smiling faces.

3. Heterosexual men and women are often the best time to show enthusiasm and initiative.

4. Enthusiasm and initiative can resolve all the embarrassment and unhappiness.

The 6th chapter establishes the feeling of friendliness

1. Smile to the world to show that at that moment, you are happy. When you smile at people, they are attracted to you consciously or unconsciously, and a smile is an invitation to communicate.

2. Relaxed posture generally makes people feel comfortable, feel is welcome, in addition to other people should also be eye contact. With eye contact and a slight nod, you communicate positive feelings and make yourself more accessible.

3. Your "affinity" is very important, because it actually determines whether the conversation will happen and also affects the quality of the conversation.

4. "Affinity" is an important ability to succeed and expand your network, and it will give you a sense of friendliness, and who will be repulsive to friendly people?

5. The behavior of adapting to the local environment is correct-this behavior not only makes others feel comfortable, but also makes others feel comfortable with you. This tells others: I like you, I have no sense of threat to you.

6. How do you increase your affinity step-by-step?

A. Initiate a conversation and get approval from others.

B. Good-natured diversion to remove misunderstanding of others. Only treat people with sincerity, many want to confess themselves, others can believe you, thus to you more frankly his own, to achieve effective communication between the two sides.

C. Be generous and tolerant and treat others well. When others have a deficiency, especially to the detriment of their own interests, to forgive and forgive, to others to release your tolerance and understanding, so that will win the respect and goodwill of others, to leave a friendly, beautiful impression.

The 7th chapter opens to attract people.

1. If we were careless at first, a few words would distract people and even leave them bored and reject the message we sent. Conversely, if you start talking positively, or at least neutral, you will build a platform for your future work.

2. Have you noticed your first sentence? It is very important to say the first sentence in a face-to-head conversation. Give people an impression that is not bad at least.

3. Although various forms of communication are different, remember to achieve the same goal: to attract them, to close the distance, to build goodwill.

4. In one or two words to let others know you, closer to you and other people's distance.

5. Opening is important, but we must pay attention to your sincerity, and to know the purpose of our communication, skill is only a way and means, must not therefore forget the purpose of our communication.

The 8th chapter How to give others a good impression

1. The sign that you have a good relationship with someone is that he will tell you his shortcomings, not just the merits.

2. Details determine success or failure:

A. A good word left behind to say. In person, there is a "compliment" suspicion, and in the back of the good words of others, you can greatly express your "mind" and "honesty", but also make people feel more real.

B. Try to use "we" when speaking.

C. Do not interrupt when you hear someone speak ill of others. Instead of smiling, or dismissing the topic as a good idea.

D. When shaking hands with a person, you can hold a little more time to show respect. Shaking hands can reflect a person's feelings and intentions, showing whether a person is hypocritical or sincere.

E. When you find someone else is wrong, just go to the right way. Especially when the leader is wrong, don't correct it in public. If it is not the obvious error of the overall situation, others do not notice, you may as well pretend not to know, wait until afterwards to remind others to make amends. The best way to do this is to find a way to make others aware and not be aware of others to correct and mend the platform.

F. Do not interrupt others to speak casually. It is even more annoying to interrupt others and to break into the word than to speak a long-winded person.

G. Have a heart to be thankful for.

H. Boldly say "do not know". It's easier to win the respect of people who are not sure of what they are, but frankly don't know. Besides, it is true that no one knows anything.

I. On some occasions, turn off your phone.

J. Don't hang up the phone when you are on the phone with someone else.

K. Less in front of others to flaunt their own. Others don't want to listen to your pride. Self-show, the effect is counterproductive. Talk with friends, can talk about his concerns, so that you can win each other's goodwill and recognition. Being good at listening to others is a virtue of man.

3. Small mistakes are also fascinating. What if you make a mistake? Don't hide too much, just be honest. You know, the small mistake also has the very good effect.

9th Chapter Open the situation, create the opportunity, find common ground

1. There is no real winner in the argument. Because the person in the argument is not reasonable.

2. Why find common ground? People like to approve of their own people, hate against their own people.

3. Two people's interaction is the need to slowly run-in, patiently looking for and waiting, you will find the similarities between the two sides.

4. How do you find what you have in common with strangers?

A. Observe carefully and look for common ground. A person's spiritual pursuits, hobbies and so on, are more or less in their external costumes, expressions, talk, manners and other aspects of performance, as long as you are good at observing, you will find common ground.

B. Break the silence and figure out the common ground. By speaking accents, language habits, analysis of the other side of the situation, to find common topics, with action opening, side to help each other to do something badly needed to help, the side of the matter began to talk about, and even asks smoking, open the situation.

5. Through the introduction of others, found common ground.

6. Analyze the conversation and explore common ground. In order to find out what strangers have in common, they can observe, analyze, and find common ground when they talk with others in need of communication.

The 10th chapter a really useful attitude

1. Let optimism and humor become lovely. Because optimism and humor can eliminate hostility, create a close interpersonal atmosphere, and help make yourself and others easier.

2. In any case there will be ugliness and mediocrity, but at the same time there is beauty and humor. It is the so-called: life is not lack of beauty, but lack of discovery. It's up to you to decide what you're talking about, and it also determines whether you are optimistic, likable, selfish or violent.

3. In the case of the person, the content you choose to say will be communicated to other people what kind of a person you are.

4. Most people like to talk, you meet things more good words, less bad words, others think you are easy to approach. But this does not mean that you can be blindly optimistic--just say nice, stacked beautiful words, it is easy to fall into another extreme, so that others alert.

5. Embody your attitude to life in words and deeds.

A. Don't overdo the pursuit of perfection. Do not insist, do not persist to achieve perfection, accept your own ability limit. Give people a feeling of calm and sincerity. This is another kind of optimistic attitude towards life.

B. Let it be natural, not the pursuit of the limit.

C. Self-reliance and optimism. The so-called "life does not mean ten", if you and most people communicate complaints difficult, they actually have more things to complain about you. Would you like such a person? No! Optimism can not only be a pleasant mood, but also can infect others. Optimism is "a disposition that allows one to see the more favourable side of things and to expect more favourable results".

6. If you are not happy with your mentality is not enough, you can use these methods:

A. Read more about inspirational books;

B. Always think about how to express the things you meet happily.

C. Wake up every morning and tell yourself, "This is a new day, I will be happy", to give my heart hint;

D. Summarize the interesting things that happen today;

E. Exercise or find a friend to talk about when you are having unpleasant things.

The 11th chapter of body is more than the influence of language

1. Our body shows our interest. For example:

A. Head: scratching-confusing or not believing, nodding-agreeing or expressing understanding, getting to know, shaking your head-not agreeing, shocked or not believing.

B. Eyes: Squint-disagree, dislike, anger or dislike; avoid eye contact-apathy, avoidance, indifference, insecurity, negativity, fear or nervousness; eyebrows rise--not to believe or surprise; it is the other--friendly, sincere, outgoing, secure, confident, assured, and so on.

C. Mouth: yawning-boredom, laughter-consent or satisfaction; biting lips-nervousness, fear or anxiety.

D. Arms: Fingers crossed-good luck; pat shoulders-encouragement, congratulations or comfort; hands behind your back – anger, admiration, disagreement, defense against fire, arms around – no appreciation, disagreement, defense or rejection; twisted hands--tense, uneasy or frightened; shaking fists Approve or rejoice.

2. Pair your own dressing mirror and treat yourself as another person in the mirror and train your body language:

A. Smile, how to make you feel charming?

B. How to make you feel comfortable in your eyes?

C. How do you feel at ease with your gestures?

Two days did not write reading notes, because busy to the South Mountain ski skiing preparation things, so to delay. There is no special case, will insist on writing reading notes every day.

1 minutes to make someone Like You (ii)