106 tips for becoming a master Communicator

On the road to success, networking is more important than knowledge. Developing relationships should be the highest priority for you. "Don't eat Alone (never Eat Alone)" introduces the 21st century rules of communication. The book includes a number of practical tips to help you thrive through relationships.

Retain the essence, the following is a summary of the 106 tips from the book. Practise these skills in practice and become a master of communication for the successful fulfillment of life.

1. Helping others succeed

The essence of social interaction is the constant use of various forms to help others succeed. Share your knowledge and resources, your time and energy, your friends and relationships, your compassion and your love, and continue to provide value to others while increasing your value.

2, strive to make their own pay more than the return

Because you will provide value for others, others will contact you. So think about others rather than yourself.

3. Do not retain

Don't think that friendship is limited. It's an investment, and it's going to roll more and more.

4, the key to success is generosity

It is not the convenience but the generosity that passes through social intercourse.

5. Define Your life goals

The intersection of your ability and desire is your inner passion. What is the most exciting thing about you? What do you think the time flies when you do something?

6, clearly know what you want

The more you know what you want, the more you can find the way to achieve it.

7, accustomed to set goals for themselves

The simplest way to differentiate yourself is to set goals. Turn your dreams into life goals and break them down into small goals.

8. Set up a plan for developing interpersonal relationships

There is a process to build a network, and your plan should include the following three points:

1. Your goal for 3 years, and the progress every 3 months.

2. List the people who can help you achieve each goal.

3. How to contact the person listed in 2nd.

Once you set a goal, stick to where you often see it.

9. Create your own "think tank"

Find people who are willing to help you responsibly. They are your "think tank".

10, before you need to create a good interpersonal network

Keep in touch as soon as possible before you find someone else to use. It is important to treat these people as friends, not as potential clients.

11. Keep in touch with people you know

At first, focus on the people in your current network.

12, Bold

Courage is magical. Can be similar to the two people develop different, probably just because the thickness of the skin is different.

13, willing to resort to others

Being willing to ask can create opportunities. You should be willing to help others, like to ask others. Remember, be good at what others say "no" to the worst.

14, in the face of fear to consider the harvest

It is natural to fear that you can fail in the face of a person who is shameless and does not know. This is a risky thing, to have a harvest, to have success must take risks. And nothing is mediocre.

15. Respect for others

Respect each person, regardless of the high and low.

16. Transparent

Openness is a useful and highly popular attitude.

17. Make Friends

People who are good at communication are not "building networks", but "making friends". Extensive harvesting is a natural result, not a well-designed goal.

18. Prepare for the job

Who do you want to see? How to see? What did he say to you after seeing you? None of this can be overlooked.

19. Understand the people you associate with

How you have enough knowledge of your contacts can go deep into his field and talk to them professionally. You can easily get compliments. Find a rich and deep common denominator, and then you will be able to interact easily and impress.

20. Learn about other people's interests

Love me, you will soon become a part of their lives.

21. Never Eat Alone

It is easy and easy to communicate during meals. Eating with others is an effective way to communicate.

22. Manage your information.

Effective information management is important. If you are organized, focused, and persistent, no one will leave your network.

23. List

Sort your own lists by their goals (such as potential customers, potential employers, etc.). Not only to list the relevant units, but also to list the people who have a voice in the unit.

24. Know the authority of your field of expertise

In order to achieve the goal, you need to know who is the best in the field you are engaged in. Lists the authority of the current realm.

25. List the people you already know

List the people you already know: relatives, college classmates, past classmates, former teachers, former colleagues ...

26. Flexible Organization Information

You have a flexible way of managing lists. By location, by industry, by degree of closeness ...

27, the use of other people's contact list, to supplement their

The list of others is your resource.

28. Create a list of "people who want to know"

Your list of categories can include "people who want to know", they are high-level people, and you want to be able to know them in the future.

29. Contact a complete stranger (Cold call)

When you need to call a stranger, you will be a little afraid. Just bite the bullet. Just think that you will succeed. To meet a new person is a challenge and an opportunity.

30, adhere to

If you connect with someone else, there is no reply. You need to keep in touch with them. You have to take the initiative. It's even aggressive.

31. Contact someone with an indirect connection (Warm call)

Use the following four rules to

1, the expression of reliability: mention of the relevant person or unit.

2, put forward a value: What can you do for them?

3, inform the urgency and convenience: In most cases, the only reason to call off the phone is to make an appointment.

4. Prepare a compromise plan: start with a higher position and leave room for discussion.

32. Treat the doorman as allies rather than enemies

The doorman should also be respected. Don't annoy them.

33, never disappear

Remember when building a social network: first, never disappear. It's worse to disappear than to fail.

34. Strive to remain visible and active

Fill your social, conference and event schedules. You must remain visible and active in your start-up friends and relationships network.

35. Arranging many things together

You have to work hard to connect with others for success, but that doesn't mean you have to spend a lot of time. You can schedule the same event to save time. Invite all the people you want to meet.

36. Find Fun

Communication is an interesting thing, not a waste of time.

37. Share your Passion

Sharing interest is the basis of any relationship. When you are really interested in something, it is very contagious.

38. Emphasize time Quality

Friendships are built on the quality of time that both sides spend, not on quantity.

39. Follow-up or failure

Let others remember you when you meet someone you want to socialize with. Follow-up is key.

40. Follow up immediately

You should continue to follow up within 12-24 hours after you meet them. E-mail is a quick way.

41. Don't forget to follow up again

One months later, give someone another email. Keep in touch.

42, the meeting to spend time with people to communicate

The meeting was always misunderstood as a place for finding ideas. Wrong! The meeting has only one advantage: it provides a place to meet like-minded people.

43, do the meeting organizer

Don't just be a participant; be an organizer. Prepare your information in advance: Who you want to see, how to see it, and where to see it.

44. Public statements

Speaking is one of the simplest and most effective ways to get someone to remember you.

45. Follow-up as much as possible

Don't have the whole meeting with the best friends. Follow up with as many people as you can.

46. Keep in touch with the communicative expert

There are a lot more people than we know. These people are at the heart of every network. If you can make friends with these people. You connect with thousands of people, just through this one person.

47. As many people as possible have acquaintances

(acquaintance = a person who knows but is not particularly intimate)

Usually the most important person in our network is those who are acquaintances. Why? Because our closest friends are about the same as what we know. So the more people you know, the more powerful you become.

48. Meet people in all fields

Not only do we know thousands of people, but also people who are scattered in many different fields.

49. Exchanging connections with other people

The most effective way to expand your circle of friends is to connect your circle to other people's circles.

50. Establish your Organizational Committee

Politicians have "organizing committees": people who work in various fields are organized together. If you want to reach the world more broadly, try to find a core figure to be your "organizing committee".

51, improve your "language fluency"

"Language fluency": the ability to communicate confidently with anyone, under any circumstances. This is a common feature of many successful people. The ability to live in harmony with others is more important to personal progress than anything else.

52, do the real self

To be impressive, to be different is the key. To be able to be different, you must be the real self. To be attractive is to be yourself. Your uniqueness is your strength.

53, "Compliance"

The power of obedience has been neglected by many people. Obedience to others is a great function in gossip.

54, say the true words

When you understand that the best way to break the silence is to say the truth, then it's not so scary to start talking.

55, learn to use non-verbal communication

When people see you, they can subconsciously decide whether they will like you in 10 seconds. Such judgments are based on language communication.

56. Materials for discussion

Get ready to talk about things. Pay attention to current affairs and develop some hobbies.

57. Learn to listen

To be understood is to understand others first.

58. Be sure to remember the names of others

There's nothing more comfortable than your own name sounds.

59. Sincerity

No doubt, to be seen as a special person, you have to make others think he is special in your eyes.

60, try to find out the motivation of others

When you first communicate with others, you can find the motivation of each other. Their motivation is generally based on three kinds: Make money, find love, change the world.

61, to help others to achieve their deep heart desire

The initiative to help others solve their key problems, can make them very close relationship.

62, let oneself become the indispensable person of others

The importance of being indispensable. To be indispensable, you need to keep your information, social relations, goodwill communicated to as many people as possible.

63. Think about how you can make everyone around you succeed.

When someone tells you that he's having a problem, you have to think of something. The solution comes from your experience, your knowledge, your friends, your help.

64. Provide help in the initiative

Do not wait for others to ask for help, to take the initiative.

65. Dissemination of knowledge

When your finances and connections are not long, it is also possible to make a social profit. It is to be through knowledge. It's easy for you to learn to spread your knowledge across your network.

66. Interested in the success of others

Interested in the success of others, you can become more successful within 2 months. You can also spend 2 years to make others interested in your success. Dale Carnegie

67. Occasional small Contact

80% of relationships are only maintained through small connections. You need constant contact, contact, contact ... Never stop. You have to constantly feed your people on the network to ensure that they do not wither.

68. Repeat and repeat

There's a very critical way to get someone to remember you in the brain: repeat.

69. Establish scoring system

Establishing a scoring system can make it easier to maintain relationships. Like what:

1. "Level 1 ″ at least one months.

2. "Level 2 ″ make a phone call or email at least quarterly.

3. "Level 3 ″ should be contacted at least once a year.

70. Make small connections into your schedule

You need to include small links in one of your areas of work.

71, in the name of the individual

If possible try to make all information in your own name.

72. Don't forget your birthday

Birthdays should be your best chance of contact.

73, and "The main force" to eat together

We build relationships with older, smarter, more experienced people. These people are the "main force". Eat with them and charge the electricity.

74, be an interesting person

In fact, everyone you meet will ask yourself something like: "Do I need to spend 1 hours with this guy for lunch?" ”

75. Be a person with content

Content is the professionalism of knowledge. Is the place where you are different. Places where you have a unique brand. So you have to have your own unique insights.

76. Continue to learn and share your content without reservation

To be different from others, you need to learn, share, and sell your content relentlessly.

77. Get someone else's content

Sometimes you can easily turn other people's ideas into their own content. Then share and apply these ideas ahead of the world.

78. Provide your own content

Other times, you have to spend your time thinking about providing content. You need to know a variety of information and then string them up differently.

79. Attracting attention

Once it resonates, it will attract attention. You have to provide a very simple: vivid story.

80. Become an expert

The most common way to become a creative content person is to be an expert. Do what the experts do: teach your expertise to others, write to others, and speak to others.

81. Teach you what you want to learn

Teach others, this is the best way for you to learn and understand.

82. Use the story to express your content

Powerful content is expressed in the form of a story that can help accomplish a goal. When you tell a story, use your feelings to convince those who are skeptical.

83. Establish personal brand

A strong brand is very competitive, but it is always based on providing the value of the product rather than the way it is described. A good personal brand can do 3 things: Make others feel authentic, different and can be trusted.

84. Make yourself Unique

Your brand expresses what you can offer and expresses why you are special and tells others why they are keeping in touch with you.

85. Add Value continuously

In becoming a brand, you need to focus on what you do and add value constantly. This means that you need to keep going beyond.

86, the establishment of personal brand logo

What do you want people to think when they hear your name? Your brand logo should include all the words that people use when they mention you.

87. Packaging your Brand

To look valuable, you need to look bright and professional. So why not build a personal website?

88. Promote your Brand

If you don't promote yourself, no one else will. Your success depends on how others recognize your work, and it depends on the quality of your work.

89. Keep in touch with the media

You'll have to keep in touch with the media from now on, not when you really want the story to tell them.

90, strongly promote the content of information, not the author

What you promote to the public should be a sense of mission in your heart, not your pride.

91. Joint writing

If you have poor writing skills, you can write with someone else. By writing in such a way that you don't have much contact with people, you can increase your interpersonal network exponentially.

92. Write an article

Writing articles can greatly promote your career development. Let you become a concern in a short time.

93. Stick to writing to be a good writer

To be a good writer: "Write, write." When you're done writing, keep writing.

94. Contact with Celebrities

You're just keeping in touch with the nameless juniors? You need to get your attention to some important people, which can make a big difference in the lives of you and your friends around you.

95. Build Trust

Trust is the key to approaching these authorities. There is no ulterior motive to let others trust you in contact with them. Let others trust you as an ordinary person, not a star.

96. Participation in the Association

Now there are various associations. If you want to face the people who are influential, you have to be a participant first.

97. Build Your Own club

Sometimes you have to take part in some valuable clubs, for a variety of reasons. Why don't you run a club by yourself? Develop your own promotion plan and build a new organization. Invite the people you want to meet to join your organization.

98. Modesty

Arrogance is a disease, it will let you forget the true friends, forget the importance of friends. Stay humble while you progress. Help others to progress with you, even more than you.

99. Review your Past

Always review your past and keep in touch with people who are important to you since childhood.

100. Find some Mentors

Find a mentor with the material, experience and willingness to invest time to help you progress. Instead of just deciding on your career path based on salary and prestige.

101. The length of the House of majority

Three people will have my teacher, you have a lot of people around you can learn.

102, establish a good master-pupil relationship

Successful mentoring requires results and passion. The effect means that you can let the teacher see the effect he has on you. Passion means that your mentor will invest in your progress.

103. Find some Disciples

When you are constantly striving to develop upward, be sure to turn your back to help others. You will learn many things from your students.

104, adhere to the principle

Communication should be a move forward, not a backward compromise. You must not go against your own values in your dealings with others.

105. Don't try to balance your professional and private life

You should provide the same value to people of different customs. Instead of dividing life into two parts of work and life.

106, to create a close friendship

How many people can walk into your house and open the refrigerator to find something to eat? Having close friends will make you happy and successful.

106 tips for becoming a master Communicator