Baby EQ education Case Study

I. Parental health education methods and exemplary Functions

Family is the first environment in children's life, and parent-child relationship is the first interpersonal relationship established by children. A child's attitude towards his or her own mood and environment is largely in the family. Parents' parenting style and family atmosphere play a critical role in the development of children's emotional intelligence.

For example, we have discussed the sensitivity of factors that affect emotional intelligence. Different people are sensitive to pain, which is directly related to the early childhood environment and parenting attitude. Children in earlier years are more likely to endure material fatigue and physical fatigue than children in rich families. Children in rural areas tend to work harder than children in urban areas. However, parents' parenting style and educational requirements also greatly influence children. Many parents in poor families are obviously compensated, and they always try to grievance themselves and satisfy their children as much as possible, this allows children to enjoy the same material experience as their peers. These parents are self-disciplined and want to seek perfection. However, this kind of hard work often creates an illusion for their children, which is easy for them to get used to. They think this is appropriate and do not see the bitterness of their parents at all, on the contrary, they complain that their parents cannot give them better conditions. This kind of child's habit of asking, not creating, together with their vanity and comparison mentality will become a burden and obstacle for the child's future life. A person who does not want to work hard and is vanity, his life is not derailed, even if it is good. We can occasionally see that there are many parents around us who can afford to buy a pair of Famous Shoes for their children. They often complain about their children's ignorance, but cannot realize their own mistakes and the hidden dangers of children's future life.

On the contrary, not all wealthy children are delicate. Wise parents know how to relieve their child's superiority and encourage them to exercise. These children often have a promising future. On the one hand, they will be given a higher level of self-esteem to form their high self-expectations. On the other hand, they can advocate personal struggle rather than enjoying their achievements, therefore, they often become elites in society, such as the Rockefeller family, the Li Jiacheng family, And the Dong Jianhua family.

The child's painful response is directly related to the way parents comfort the child in their early years. Because a child has no right or not at first, he treats himself by comforting him. For example, a two-year-old child fell down and crashed into bed, crying. At this time, the different attitudes of the mother may have different effects on the children.

Mother A: she ran in a panic, and her inner anxiety exceeded her words. Then she asked the child, "okay, damn the bed, tripped the baby, beat him, and said, one side beat the bed by hand.

Mother B: pause for a moment, and then calmly go over and say to the child: Let me have a look. The child has a bag on his head. My heart is very distressed, but I said to my child: It's okay. After a while, it will be fine. You should be careful when walking in the future, her panic and face pain will make the child feel really bad. She wanted to comfort the child by blaming the bed, but this approach affects the establishment of the child's sense of responsibility. Because she makes the child feel that the responsibility is not on her own, but that damn bed is not a place. Mother A's practice will make the child exaggerate the pain and shirk responsibility. On the contrary, mother B's practice can not only make the child feel the care of the mother, but also let the child learn from the lessons. More importantly, she makes the child feel that it is no big deal to fall down and hit his head. When the child encounters this situation again next time, he will not think that his pain is unbearable. This reduces the child's sensitivity to pain. In addition, parents' emotional behavior is very unfavorable to the child's emotional intelligence development. When many parents are happy, they will be able to give their children a great deal of pressure. When they are upset, they will be harsh on their children. If they are cold and hot, they will be confused and eventually lead to a reverse reaction. Children who have grown up in this undisciplined mode have very low emotional intelligence. 2. teach children to understand their emotionsWithout feelings and emotions, there will be no happiness in life, and life is just a set of physiological procedures. Emotions make us feel the joy of life, and also let us experience the troubles of life. What's more, emotions often try to make choices instead of reason, and they often succeed. Emotion is also a common weakness of mankind. So what is emotion? Emotion is accompanied by a certain behavior or psychological feelings for a certain result, and emotion is the value-added. Emotion is the smile on our faces, not the trophy in our hands. It is the tears in our eyes, not the bad thing. Emotion itself has no substantive significance, but it often interferes with our senses. For example, when we are happy, we are more friendly and tolerant to people. When we are angry, we are more harsh and hostile to people, even for the same person, we often have very different emotions. In terms of ability, emotions also have a great impact on human behaviors. Positive Emotions can bring us to the fullest. More often, negative emotions make the worst possible. People with high emotional intelligence are those who are good at maintaining positive emotions and eliminating negative emotions. Experience tells us that we should first deal with our emotions and then the problems, and never let our emotions deal with the problems. This should be our principle. Do not care about what you like, but know what you need. Instead, remind yourself of what your goals are and what they mean to you; do not care about your mood, but be sure to know what you should do. Li Yang, founder of Crazy English, once said: struggling people should be numb to their own feelings. The fate of sentimental people is miserable. Although there are some extremes, there is also some truth in it, for the value and significance of the thing itself, rationally and objectively choose your own words and deeds, instead of being emotional with your own subjective feelings, personal preferences, external comments and stimuli. Especially for important things. Improving emotional intelligence is to turn those natural and spontaneous responses into conscious and rational responses. Although sometimes, emotions are not easy to perceive, it is just around the corner to improve emotional intelligence. 3. teach the children to make angry and complain A. Learn to get angry Story 1Tang Taizong Li Shimin is one of the most famous Kings in Chinese history. During his enlightened governance, Chinese society entered an unprecedented prosperous "view of the governance ". The historical textbooks also tell us that this cannot be separated from Tang Taizong's democratic nairun, and many of the valuable suggestions were put forward by Wei Zheng, Minister of Justice. Wei Zheng's speech is an important reason for the development of the Tang Dynasty. Tang Taizong's democratic nairong is also a masterpiece. However, every time Tang Taizong finishes hearing Wei Zheng's inching, he has to walk alone. After a long time, people around him asked Tang Taizong why he had to take a walk after talking to Wei Zheng. Tang Taizong said: I am afraid I will kill him! Story 2A boy has a bad temper. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he pinned a nail to the barrier in the back yard. On the first day, the boy pinned 37 nails. Slowly, the number of nails dropped every day, and he found that controlling his temper was easier than nailing those nails. So one day, the boy will never lose his patience or temper. He told his father about the incident. The father said that from now on, whenever he can control his temper, he will pull out a nail. Day after day, the boy finally told his father that he finally pulled all the nails out. His father held his hand and came to the backyard and said, "You're doing well, my good boy, but look at the holes in the barrier. These fences will never be the same as they used to be. What you say when you get angry is like these nails that leave scars. No matter how many times you say sorry, the wound will always exist. The pain of words is as unbearable as the real pain. From time to time, we encounter unpleasant things that make us unhappy. Sometimes we are still unhappy. However, the more angry you are, the more unbearable it is. Patience is a required course for the development and happiness of life. Everyone is faced with a conflict of emotional self-control. It is true that it is not easy to control emotions, but listening to emotions will hurt others. In many critical moments, once you are tempted and motivated, the consequences will be unimaginable. Therefore, outstanding people always come up with a best way to adjust their emotions and form habits. We should work with our children to explore ways to control their emotions and tell them their experiences.

　　 Here, I will provide you with some ways to ease your mood, for your reference:1. Put things on hold for the moment. people and things on the road will divert their attention. 2. Write the troubles on paper, admit their grievances, and list their own choices, praise yourself for being able to surpass your emotions. 3. Imagine the vast universe and tell yourself that humans are so small, why bother? 4. Call your friends. When the phone is connected, your troubles will be halved. More importantly, you must pay attention to the other end of the phone to easily jump out of the current environment, look at this problem with a new perspective; 5. Take a deep breath or drink water; 6. Set an example for yourself. When you are "difficult to understand", think about what the best people will do. B. Never complainEvery time a sheep call it, it will lose a bit of hay. The more complaints you complain about, the more times your negative thoughts appear, the more difficult you will be to get rid of the enemies that damage your health; the more difficult you will be to get rid of the enemies that damage your happiness. Because every time you think about them, they dive deeper into your consciousness. An idea is like a magnet. It only attracts things similar to it. Things that are different from your thoughts are unlikely to happen. Your achievements are first achieved in your thoughts. --- Graham wollas has many people who like to complain. The increasing troubles and disadvantages of complaints are more. Never complain. If we can change, we will try to change. If we can't change, we will accept it with pleasure. The more we don't want to endure, the more unbearable we will be, the more intolerable we will be, such a vicious circle can easily lead to mental or behavioral derailment. Complaints can make us lose a city because of a soldier. It is necessary to actively change the reality and improve yourself. However, there are conditions and limits for changing the reality and self-improvement. There is always something we cannot do, and there is always something we don't like. The history of mankind not only changes the history of nature, but also adapts to the history of nature. You must change your attitude towards reality. If we cannot change the reality, we must adapt to the reality. If we cannot change ourselves, we must adapt to ourselves. I am a complaining person, but I changed because of an accidental opportunity. This is because of a Taoist friend of mine. One night, we had dinner together. Somehow he suddenly talked about a very strange thing long ago. He said that one time he was on the road in the mountains, the weather was particularly bad, and the rain continued. He met an old woman on the road. The old woman seemed to be a very devout man and seemed to be seeking for hope. Every time she got to the next level, she had to break her head and never stop. During this period, the old woman lost her shoes due to slippery road. My friend picked it up. But when I saw the old lady so devout and forgetful, I couldn't bear to interrupt her, I followed her step by step with her shoes, this is the top of the hill. My friend gave the shoe to the old lady. The old lady did not even say thank you. Although my friend has not been attacked, he is very wronged. He asked himself what he was doing? I took such a long journey with my own shoes, but I don't even want to say thank you. However, this friend of mine is very Huigen. He thought about it and thought about it. Why do I have to look forward to it? If I have proposed a pair of shoes to someone else, who knows the reason? Maybe this old lady is my mother. I heard that there was a sudden feeling of crying. I once complained about my wife, my parents, and even myself for my own injustice. This kind of complaint makes me very happy. Every day I feel especially wronged and unfair. After hearing the story of this Taoist friend, I suddenly become enlightened. Who knows what the cause is for our past life? This is fate. When I no longer complain, the reality is still those, but my life has entered a new state. (From "Meng Qian's consulting note") to overcome complaints, sometimes we need to look at the problem from another angle. The situation is made up of our minds. If we change our attitude towards things, we have changed our lives. Although life cannot be said to be unsatisfactory, it is also widely used, whether it is the environment, others or yourself. Dissatisfaction with yourself is an important source of annoyance. Maybe you are not beautiful enough or smart enough. You may be a little rigid, a little petabyte, not humorous or versatile. You may not be born to be the center of the stage, you may never be able to get back to the market like some people. You may have done a lot of stupid things or even fail to look back. But we can't only see this, nor just pay attention to this. No matter who you are, you will always feel terrible, but smart people will make this gray feeling fleeting, and some people will unfortunately make this feeling a lifetime. In fact, we should understand that what matters in our life is not what we have, but what we have and what we can do. You are yourself and you must rely on yourself. Don't mention things in the past. Now let's start again. Complaining about the environment and others often ignores their responsibilities and roles. As the famous saying in the United States says, "Do not ask what the country has given you, but ask what you have contributed to the Country." instead of complaining about the environment, it is better to change the environment. Complaining about others is even more unreasonable, because how others treat you depends on how you treat others. Complaints are not only helpful, but also destructive. Complaints are a problem in one direction, positive response or futile complaints. These are two opposite directions, and both of them must be at one. Complaints cannot be stopped, so positive actions won't really start. The longer the complaint takes, the more time and energy it will waste, and the longer it takes to get away from positive actions. 4. Teach the Children to communicate and adaptThe saying goes: knowing everything will forgive everything. Indeed, the vast majority of misunderstandings come not from disputes of interests, not from discord of character, but from lack of communication. Poor communication is one of the main problems of family education. In fact, when we complain that it is too difficult to communicate with others, it is not because of actual difficulties, but because of our lack of communication skills. This is a common deficiency among Chinese people. However, we should not just complain about it. Nothing can be learned, but we must learn to communicate without communication. The communication ability is not only related to the expression ability, but also depends on the strength of the empathy ability, the degree of open thinking, and whether the mind is open. Recognizing the widespread existence of differences, more listening, and greater equality and respect will effectively improve communication between people. It is very important for a group to overcome individual's fierce likes and dislikes. Overcoming the fierce likes and dislikes does not mean losing your own sense of right and justice, but should be more tolerant. Selfish heart, greedy for profit, vanity, show off, boast, jealousy, mean, small family childishness are common feelings and should be understood most. Do not deny the whole person because it is not good at all, or affirm the whole person if it is good at all, and treat others in a comprehensive and developmental manner. Do not expect that there are good people without flaws, and there are no bad people who have no merits: water to the clear, there is no fish, people to observe, there is no apprentice. We may remind ourselves that we don't have to care too much about the other person's good or bad, or what kind of person they are, we only need to remember what we need to do with him. We stick to our own principles and morality and are clean and self-built. This reflects our accomplishments and values. However, we should not be God, nor attempt to change all people, nor be judges, investigate the darkness and faults of others. Adapting to the environment is also a required course in life. Quickly recognize the reality and accept the established reality. It is a reflection of a person's high quality that can change himself or herself in a short period of time and ignore his or her insignificant grievance. It should be noted that adapting to the environment is not just a reverse approach, and modifying the environment is often a more effective way to adapt. Moreover, people can go beyond the environment and select the environment. If an environment is not good for your own development and happiness, it will be the alienation of your own. Of course, it is also necessary to leave this environment to enter another environment. The kind of pursuit that cannot tolerate small dissatisfaction, too idealistic, and too harsh often needs to be forced to accept the lessons of various realities. Those who do not distinguish between right and wrong, but are extremely willful are actually fragile and dangerous, because compared with the environment, individuals are often fragile and small. Only people can adapt to the environment, there is no environment to adapt to people. People who do not eat fireworks can only be depressed for life.