Be happier:10 things to Stop Doing right now

Byjeff Haden @jeff_haden Sometimes the route to happiness depends don ' tDo. Sometimes, whether you go to happiness depends on what you don't do.

Happiness--in your business life and your personal life--is often a matter of subtraction, not addition.

Happiness, whether your profession or your personal life, usually depends on subtraction, not addition.

Consider, for example, what happens when you stop doing the following:

Think about how happy you will be if you stop doing the following 10 things!

1. Blaming. Accused

People make mistakes. Employees don ' t meet your expectations. Vendors don ' t deliver on time.

Blame them for your problems.

But your ' re also to blame. Maybe you didn ' t provide enough training. Maybe didn ' t build in enough of a buffer. Maybe you asked too much, too soon.

Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others ' t masochistic, it's empowering--because then you Focus on doing things better or smarter next time.

And when you get the better or smarter, you also get happier.

2. Impressing. (Show off)

No one likes you for your clothes, your car, your possessions, your title, or your accomplishments. Those is all "things." People your things--but that doesn ' t mean they as you.

Sure, superficially they might seem to, but superficial was also insubstantial, and a relationship that's not based on sub Stance is not a real relationship.

Genuine relationships make your happier, and you'll only have form Genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and STA RT trying to just is yourself.

3. Clinging. (One rib)

When you're afraid or insecure, you hold the tightly to the what's know, even if what's know isn ' t particularly good for yo U.

An absence of fear or insecurity isn ' t happiness:it's just an absence of fear or insecurity.

Holding on-to-do think you need won ' t make your happier; Letting go so I can reach for and try to earn what do youwant would.

Even if you don ' t succeed in earning, the act of trying alone would make you feel better about yourself.

4. Interrupting. (interrupting others)

Interrupting isn ' t just rude. When you are interrupt someone, what are you ' re really saying are, "I'm not listening to the I can understand what do you ' re saying ; I can decide what I am want to say. " Listening

Want people to like? Listen to what they say. Focus on what they say. Ask questions to make sure your understand whatthey say.

They ' ll love your for It--and and you'll love how this makes you feel.

5. Whining. (complaining)

Your words has power, especially over. Whining about your problems makes you feel worse, not better.

If something is wrong, don ' t waste time complaining. Put that effort into making the situation better. Unless you want to whine about it forever, and eventually you ' ll has to do. So why waste time? Fix it now.

Don ' t talk about what ' s wrong. Talk on how you'll make the things better, even if that conversation are only with yourself.

And do the same with your friends or colleagues. Don ' t just is the shoulder they cry on.

Friends don ' t let Friends whine--friends help Friends make their lives better.

6. Controlling. (Control Desire)

Yeah, you ' re the boss. Yeah, you ' re the titan of industry. Yeah, you ' re the small tail that wags a huge dog.

Still, the only thing you really control is. If you find yourself trying hard-to-control other people, you ' ve decided, your goals, your dreams, or even just Y Our opinions is more important than theirs.

Plus, control is short term at best, because it often requires force, or fear, or authority, or some form of Pressure--non E of those let you feel good about yourself.

Find people who want to go where you ' re going. They ' ll work harder, with more fun, and create better business and personal relationships.

And all of you'll be happier.

7. Criticizing. (demanding)

Yeah, you ' re more educated. Yeah, you ' re more experienced. Yeah, you ' ve been around more blocks and climbed more mountains and slayed more dragons.

That's doesn ' t make your smarter, or better, or more insightful.

That's just makes you: Unique, matchless, one of a kind, and the the end, just you.

Just like everyone else--including your employees.

Everyone is different:not better, not worse, just different. Appreciate the differences instead of the shortcomings and you'll see People--and yourself--in a better light.

8. Preaching (Preach)

Criticizing has a brother. His name is preaching. They share the same father:judging.

The higher rise and the more of you accomplish, the more likely you is to think you know everything--and to tell people Everything think you know.

When you speak the Finality than foundation, people may hear you but they don ' t listen. Few things is sadder and leave you feeling less happy.

9. Dwelling. (stay in the past)

The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others.

Then let it go.

Easier said than done? It depends on your focus. When something bad happens to you, see this as a chance to learn something you didn ' t know. When another person makes a mistake, see the as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.

The past is just training; It doesn ' t define you. Think about "What went wrong" but "only" in terms of how do you'll make sure that, next time, you and the people around you WI ll know how to make sure it goes right.

Fearing. (Fear)

We ' re all afraid:of any might or might not happen, of the "What we Can ' t" change, or "What we won ' t is able to does, or how other People might perceive us.

So it's easier to hesitate, to-wait for the right moment, to decide we need to think a little longer or do some more Resea RCH or explore a few more alternatives.

Meanwhile days, weeks, months, and even years pass us by.

And so does our dreams.

Don ' t let your fears hold your back. Whatever you ' ve been planning, Whatever you ' ve imagined, Whatever ' ve dreamed of, get started on it today.

If you want to start a business, take the first step. If you want to change careers, take the first step. If you want to expand or enter a new market or offer new products or services, take the first step.

Put your fears aside and get started. Do something. Do anything.

Otherwise, today is gone. Once tomorrow comes, today is lost forever.

Today is the most precious asset own--and are the one thing you should truly fear wasting.