Before you encounter the right thing and are in the right state, it is hard to imagine what the situation is.

Why does no one know what heaven looks like? Because no one has ever been to heaven...
-- Myself

Pan Shiyi wrote a book called "I am searching for it all my life". I like the name and the status described in this sentence. Because I have not carefully read this book, I can believe it by mistake and speculate on what it is. In my opinion, a person may spend his whole life searching for a state or a right state.

Some people say that success is a small probability event. Before success, there are many and many unknown and many uncertainties in front of you. Entrepreneurs need to make many correct decisions to get a little closer to success. a wrong decision may make the previous efforts useless. Because human rationality is limited, Success becomes very difficult. I want to extend this point of view to another topic-at a certain stage of life, a person must be in a right state, and the right thing is also a small probability event. However, it is even harder for him to do the right thing in multiple stages and different periods of his life. It can be said that chaos is unclear, balance is lost, and chaos is the most primitive face of life.

For two reasons: 1. When a person grows up from birth, his experience and experience will always be relatively thin. 2. I assume that a person needs to grow constantly.

When a person is born, there is no experience for reference (except for the inherent human conditioned reflection left by our ancestors so that we can survive ). At this time, people have the greatest plasticity and possibility, but at the same time, they are also the most prone to mistakes. However, as a person grows up, his experience and experience will gradually increase. In a specific period, these experiences and experiences can guide him to make fewer low-level mistakes than in a specific period. For example, a one-or-two-year-old child will not see anything in his mouth than a newborn baby. Compared to a two-year-old, a seven-year-old may know that it is necessary to stay away from power supplies and plug-ins. A senior who has been working for several years may tell a prepared student that the first job should not focus too much on wages or the company, the most important thing is to see what you are doing and who is carrying yourself. Finally, a person who is about to die may suddenly wake up before his death: "The biggest mistake in my life is my hard work ."

However, because I assume that this person needs to grow continuously, growth itself means constant breakthroughs. On this premise, the experience accumulated by this person through the preliminary activities is not enough to describe his future life first, it is not enough for him to fully cope with the subsequent life and various problems in his life. So at every new moment and in a new stage, this person will be placed in various unknown again, and he will start looking for a new starting point and a balance point. This feeling is like walking in the dark, he will be confused, uneasy, and anxious. Even if he does not have these emotions, he is indeed calm, it also takes time to find the new balance point.

Because we are changing from time to time, we cannot feel a correct State before a new time arrives. At this moment, we cannot immediately enter this right state. That's why, when we look back on us, we will find that we have made so many obvious mistakes. We clearly know that next year, five or ten years later, we will still regret today, but to some extent, we cannot prevent errors. That's why we are willing to talk to smart elders and wise men, and we like to read the classics-all of which in advance depicts part of our future life, although this part of the description may not be as true as we know, it can at least make us consciously avoid some mistakes and make us more calm when we encounter some problems.

However, the other sentence that I want to talk about is the focus of today's discussion-that is, it is hard for you to imagine what it looks like before you encounter a right thing.

This may be abstract. Here I can give two examples. For example, before I enter a company that satisfies me, I have never been satisfied with any of my previous companies, so it is hard to imagine what an ideal company looks like, what kind of status do I have when I work in this company. For example, before I met a person who was right, it was hard to imagine what the State was like holding a hand with a person and getting old with a child. What do two people need to experience, what kind of tacit understanding and sense of identity they will naturally transition to such a mentality.

In any specific period, because I am in a "wrong" status from excessive to a "good" status, so before I really reach a good status, it's hard for me to fully imagine what it looks like in my mind. However, when a person is in a wrong state and in a good state, the difference is quite large.

When you are in a wrong state, it is easy for your dog to jump to the wall, and it is easy to go to medicine. Because you are in a hurry, and you are eager to break this bad state, you are willing to make various attempts... It is understandable to try it, but the cost of urgent and disorderly medical treatment is not low. It is precisely because you are in a hurry that, in order to enter the comfort zone as soon as possible, you will be eager to "sell" yourself before enough sampling and judgment, in a rush to let yourself into a new vicious circle.

When you are in a wrong state, you can easily rely on others and the outside world to influence your behavior. Here we will talk about the dependency on others' judgment:

Think about it. The more you don't know what you want, the more powerful you are, the more dependent you are on others' opinions and judgments. Do you want them to tell you what to do next? In this case, to be honest, you don't really care about the logic of others' judgment, but you just want to be executable, help you avoid the tangle of results-but the problem here is that someone else may be able to help you twice, but you may also struggle when you encounter similar problems.

Let's talk about your behavior depending on the outside world:

Here I will take myself as an example. When I don't know what to do in a day, I feel that in my heart, or in my subconscious, I expect someone to interrupt me and send me some work, or call him to do anything else to help me get rid of time. In short, we need to divert my attention to saving me from self-doubt or deep confusion.

What's more terrible is that when you are in a bad state, you may be conscious or unconscious. For humans, we often need to make a more intuitive Judgment on the merits and demerits of things through comparison. For example, if you are surrounded by Chinese people, you may not be able to explain what Chinese culture is. When you arrive at a foreign country and stay in a country with a completely different cultural background from the home country, you will find that this part belongs to China's inherent culture.

Another point is that, in many cases, only when you are in a correct state will you find that, based on your various judgments on things in an incorrect state, what you think is the main contradiction analyzed. The various solutions you propose are either incorrect, insignificant, or secondary. The real solution lies only in solving a problem-but the answer to the problem is probably because you have already solved the problem. That is to say, the problem should be solved only after you find the answer to the question.

In this case, it seems a bit pessimistic. In fact, my intention is: 1. If you have the above problems, it is very likely that you are in a wrong status, but you do not know it yourself. 2. We should try to bring ourselves closer or even reach a correct state. But what is a correct status? I personally think that when you are in a right state, your behavior will be different from what you described above. I may be very proud to say the following words, but I still want to say this to encourage myself, and now I can feel this situation sometimes. At this time, I felt that I could use two sentences to describe it. One sentence is that it will be the top of the list and the mountains will be small. The other sentence is: the weak water is three thousand, and only one Shard is used. At this time, you feel like you have reached the top of a mountain, and your vision has become infinitely open. You can see things and fireworks under the mountain, but you do not need to participate. You also find that many of the things people tell you, many of the scenes depicted, are no longer so tempting to yourself, or are no more tempting at all. Because you know exactly what you want to do. You feel that you have no way to make the best of your day, year, or even whole life. You are enjoying the process of doing this, and think this is the best of yourself-since it is already the best, why should we break it?

However, how can we achieve such a correct state? This problem is very complicated, just like whether a startup can succeed or not. It depends on luck and contingency. For myself, an accidental encounter has led to a change in my status in a certain period of time. However, there are also some inevitable things here, as if some high quality, strong entrepreneurial success probability will be greater. That is to say, in my opinion, I think my status will change sooner or later, and luck only determines the time. I personally think that, for a lack of experience, the fast iteration ideas that have been promoted in application development and proved by the market can also be applied to self-state adjustment-that is, try your best and quickly, collect feedback, and adjust yourself in a timely manner. At least, I am working in this direction now.

I couldn't sleep last night. I wrote this article and shared it with you, but not necessarily!

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The poster is John