1. develop good habits
In people's life, habits have obvious influences on people. There are many kinds of habits: Good and bad; beautiful and ugly. Cultivating good habits is also an important part of the art.
The problem of fatigue was first discussed by Carnegie lag. Why do we need to talk about how to prevent fatigue? It's easy, because fatigue is easy to worry about, or at least it will make you more worried. Any student who is still studying medicine at school will tell you that fatigue will reduce the body's resistance to common colds and diseases, and any psychotherapist will tell you, fatigue also reduces your resistance to worries and fears, so preventing fatigue can also prevent anxiety.
Dr. edmon jekebussen wrote two books about how to relax tension-"eliminate tension" and "You must relax ". He spent many years conducting research on the use of methods to relax tension in medicine.
He believes that any kind of mental and emotional tension "cannot exist after being completely relaxed ". That is to say, if you can relax, you cannot continue to worry.
To prevent fatigue and anxiety, you must first take a break and rest before you feel tired.
Why is this important? The increase in fatigue is surprisingly fast. The U. S. Army once used several experiments to prove that even young people, without carrying backpacks and having a 10-minute break every hour, would be faster and longer-lasting, so the army forced them to do so. A person's heart is pressed out every day, and your body's blood is enough to fill the trains with oil. every 24 hours, it is also enough energy to use a shovel to put 20 tons of coal on a three-foot platform. Your heart can accomplish so much untrustworthy work that lasts for fifty, seventy, or even ninety years. How can your heart bear it? "The vast majority of people think that people's hearts keep beating all day long," Dr. Walter Cannon at Harvard Hospital explained.
In fact, after each contraction, it has been completely static for a period of time. When the heart beats for 70 times per minute at a normal speed, the actual working time is only nine hours in 24 hours a day. That is to say, my heart has been resting for 15 hours every day ."
During the second war, Qiu Gill was over 60 years old, but he was able to work sixteen hours a day and run the battle of the British Empire for one year. It was really amazing. Where is his secret? He worked in bed every morning until, reading reports, oral commands, making phone calls, and even holding important meetings in bed. After lunch, go to bed for another hour. At night, before dinner, he went to bed for two minutes. He does not want to eliminate fatigue, because he does not have to eliminate it at all, and he will prevent it in advance. Because he often takes a rest, he can work hard until midnight.
John Rockefeller also set two striking records: he earned the world's largest fortune at that time and lived to the age of ninety-eight. How can he achieve these two points? The main reason is, of course, that his family has a long life. Another reason is that he sleeps in the office for half an hour at noon every day. He will lie on the big sofa in the office-he will not answer the call from the US President during his nap.
Why are you tired? In a good book, Daniel he Xilin said: "rest is not absolutely nothing, rest is repair ." In a short period of rest, you can have a strong repair capability. Even if you only take a five-minute nap, it will also help to prevent fatigue. The baseball star Conway Mark said that if you don't take a nap before each play, you will feel exhausted in the fifth round. However, if he takes a nap, even if he only sleeps for five minutes, he will be able to play the game completely without feeling tired at all.
Edison thinks that his endless energy and endurance come from his habit of sleeping at any time.
Carnegie had suggested Jack chanak, a Hollywood director, to try this method, which could be a miracle later. A few years ago, he was the manager of MGM's Short Film department and often felt tired and exhausted. He tried everything, drinking mineral water, taking vitamins and other supplements, but not helping him at all.
Two years later, when Carnegie card saw him again, he said, "There is a miracle. This is what my doctor said. Every time I talked to my colleagues about short videos, I was always sitting in a chair and very nervous. Every time I had a meeting, I was lying in the Changsha office. I feel much better now. I can work more than two hours a day, but I am not tired ."
How do you use these methods? If you are a typist, you cannot take a nap in the office every day, like Edison or Sam GORVIN;
If you are an accountant, you cannot lie on the couch and discuss the account with your boss. However, if you live in a small city and go back to lunch every day, you can take a nap for ten minutes after dinner. This is what General Marshall often does. During the second war, he felt that the command of the US military forces was very busy, so he had to rest at noon. If you are fifty years old and feel that you are too busy to do this, buy life insurance as soon as possible.
If you have no way to take a nap, you have to lie down for at least an hour before dinner, which is much cheaper than drinking a cup of wine before dinner. If you can sleep for an hour around five o'clock P.M., or, you can increase the waking time by one hour every day in your life. Why? This is because the hour you slept before dinner, plus the six hours you slept at night-a total of seven hours-is better for you than eight hours in a row.
People who are engaged in physical labor can do more work every day if they have more time to rest. When I was a scientific management engineer at the bedehan Iron and Steel Company, forderick Taylor proved this thing. He has observed that each worker can attach about 12 tons of pig to a truck every day, and they are usually exhausted at noon. He made a scientific research on all the factors that produced fatigue, and believed that these workers should not be able to ship only twelve and a half tons of pig each day, but should be able to ship forty-seven tons of pig. According to his calculation, they should be able to achieve four times the current score, and will not be tired, but they must be proved.
Taylor chose a Mr. schmeide and asked him to work according to the schedule specified by the table. There was a person standing on one side holding a watch to direct Shi mide: "Rui is picking up a piece of Piron and going ...... Sit down and rest now ...... Go now ...... Rest now ."
What are the results? Other people can only ship 12 and a half tons of Piron each day, but schmeide can load 40 tons of Piron each day. In the three years that forderick Taylor worked at the bedehan Iron and Steel Company, his ability to work has never been reduced, it is because he had time to rest before he got tired: Every hour he worked for about 26 minutes, rest for minutes. He spends more time off than he does at work-but his score is about four times that of others.
Carnegie we ask people to take a rest and do what they do with their own hearts-take a rest before you feel tired, And then you can spend an additional hour waking up every day.
The following is a very surprising and important fact: using your brain won't make you tired. This sentence sounds ridiculous. But a few years ago, scientists tried to understand how long the human brain could work without reducing the "energy of work", that is, the scientific definition of fatigue. To their surprise, these scientists found no signs of fatigue through the blood of active brain cells. But if you extract blood from the blood vessels of a working person, you will find the blood filled with fatigue toxin ". But if you bleed from Einstein's brain, there would be no fatigue toxin at the end of the day.
If you only talk about the brain, then it "after eight or twelve hours, the work energy is as fast and efficient as it was at the beginning", the brain is completely not tired ...... So what makes you tired?
Mental therapy experts say that most of the Fatigue we feel is caused by mental and emotional factors. "Most of the Fatigue we feel is caused by psychological influence," defei, the most famous British Psychological analyst in his "Power psychology. In fact, there is very little physical fatigue ."
Dr. Brel, a famous American Psychological analyst, said in more detail. "If the health condition is good for a sitting worker, his fatigue is completely influenced by psychological factors, that is, emotional factors," he said ."
What psychological factors will affect the people who sit still and make them tired? Happy? Is it true? It is a feeling of boredom, hate, not appreciation, a sense of useless, too hasty, anxious, worried-these are the psychological factors that make those sitting and working exhausted.
The Metropolitan Life Insurance Company, especially in a booklet about fatigue, points out this. "Difficult Work Itself rarely causes fatigue to be eliminated after a good rest ...... Anxiety, nervousness, and anxiety are three major causes of fatigue. We usually think that the fatigue caused by hard work is actually caused by these three reasons ...... Remember! A tense muscle is a working muscle. You should relax and reserve your physical strength to cope with more important responsibilities ."
Carnegie ache, please check yourself: Did you frown when you read these lines? Do you think there is a pressure between your eyes? Are you sitting in your chair easily? Or on the shoulders? Are the muscles on your face very tight? Unless your whole body is relaxed as soft as an old rag doll, you are making nervous and muscle tension at this moment, that is, creating fatigue.
Why are these unnecessary tensions generated when we are working hard? He Xilin said: "I found the main reason ...... Almost all people believe that the more difficult the job is, the more hard it is to feel. Otherwise, the achievement will not be good enough ." As a result, we frowned upon our concentration, raised our shoulders, and asked all the muscles to "Work hard ". In fact, this is not helpful to us.
What should I do if I encounter such mental fatigue? Relax! Relax!
Relax! You must learn to make it easier at work.
It is not easy to relax, but it is worth doing so because it can make revolutionary changes in your life. William James said: "Americans are overly nervous, restless, anxious, and nervous ...... This is a bad habit ." Tension is a habit, and relaxation is also a habit. Bad habits should be eliminated, and good habits should be developed.
How can you relax? Should we start with thought or your nerves? Neither. You should relax your muscles first.
Let's start with your eyes and read this section first. After reading the paper, you lean your head back, close your eyes, and then silently say to your eyes:
"Relax, relax, don't be nervous, don't frown, relax, relax ." So slowly repeating and repeating for another minute ......
Have you noticed that after several seconds, the eye muscles begin to obey your commands? Do you think there is an invisible hand to move these tense emotions away. Although it seems hard to believe, you have tried all the key and secret to relaxing your emotions in this minute. You can relax your face muscles, your head, your shoulders, and your whole body in the same way. But the most important organ in your body is your eyes. If you can completely relax your eye muscles, you will be able to forget all your troubles, said Dr edmon jekbussen from the University of Chicago. The reason why the eyes are so important to eliminate nervous tension is that they consume 1/4 of the total body's energy. This is why many people with good eyesight feel "Eye tension" because they make their eyes nervous.
The following five suggestions help you learn how to relax:
1. read a good book about this, Dr. David Harrow fenk, to eliminate nervous tension.
2. Relax yourself at any time and make your body look as an old so. If you don't have an old so, you can have a cat. Have you ever held a cat sleeping in the sun? When you hold it up, its head collapsed like a wet newspaper. Yoga in India also teaches you how to relax. You should check out more cats. If you can relax yourself like a cat, you will probably be able to avoid these problems.
3. Take a comfortable posture during work. Remember that physical tension can cause shoulder pain and mental fatigue.
4. perform self-review five times a day and ask yourself: "Have I made my job heavier than actually? I have no muscles that are irrelevant to my work ?" These will help you develop a good habit of relaxation. As Dr. David Harrow fenke said: "People who know psychology best know that 2/3 of fatigue is habitual ."
5. Review the review every night and ask yourself: "how tired I am? If I feel tired, this is not because I am too laborious, but because I am not doing anything in a proper way ." "I calculate my score," says Daniel he Xilin. "It doesn't mean how tired I am after a day, but how tired I am ."
He said: "When the day passed and I felt particularly tired, or when I felt very tired, I would know without a problem, this day is not enough in terms of quality and quantity. If every businessman can learn this, the rate of death from illness due to nervousness will immediately decrease.
In our nursing homes, there will be no more people who suffer from mental breakdown due to fatigue and anxiety ."
In some respects, psychological analysis is based on the language-based treatment function.
Starting from the era of flink, the analyst knows that as long as a patient can speak, as long as he speaks, his worries can be relieved. Why? It may be because after we have said it, we can see our problems in depth and better solutions. No one knows the exact answer, but all of us know the "sullen in the hair chest" and it can immediately make people feel much smoother.
So when we encounter any emotional problems next time, why don't we talk to someone? Of course, this is not to say that if you catch a person there, you will tell him all the bitterness and complaints in our hearts. We are looking for someone who can trust us to make an appointment with him. Maybe we are looking for a relative, a doctor, a lawyer, a priest, or a priest, then he said to the person:
"I want your advice. I have a question. I hope you can listen to me and give me some advice. Maybe you can see the problems that I cannot see. However, even if you cannot do this, as long as you sit there and listen to me and talk about it, it will help me a lot ."
Let's talk about it. This is the most important treatment method offered by the Boston Hospital. Our practice is:
1. Prepare a clipboard for "inspiration". You can paste your favorite poems or celebrity sayings. In the future, if you feel depressed, you may find a prescription for treatment in your book. Many patients at the Boston Hospital have stored this clipboard for many years. They say this is the same as being "played for themselves for a mental moment ".
2. Do not worry too much about others' shortcomings. Maybe after seeing all his advantages, you will find that he is the one you want to meet.
3. Be interested in your neighbors. There is a kind of friendly and healthy interest for those who live together in the same street as you. There was a very lonely woman who felt she was "isolated" and she had no friends. Someone asked her to write a story about the next person she met. So she began to create a story for the people she saw on the bus. She imagined the background and circumstances of the person and tried to imagine his life. Later, she met others and talked about it. Today, she was very happy and turned into a very flattering person, which also eliminated her "pain ".
4. Arrange tomorrow's work programs before going to bed tonight. There are a lot of housewives in the Carnegie class who feel tired because they can't finish the housework. They seem to never be able to finish their work and are always in a hurry.
In order to cure this kind of hasty feelings and worries, we suggest all housewives arrange their work for the next day in the first day. What is the result? They can do a lot of work, but don't feel so tired. At the same time, I am very proud of my achievements, and even have time to rest and "Dress Up ".
5. Finally, the only way to avoid tension and fatigue is to relax. There is nothing more likely to make you old than tension and fatigue, and there will be no other things more harmful to your appearance. Carnegie's assistant heard Professor Paul Johnson in charge of the thought control course at the Boston hospital about a lot of relaxation methods. If you want to eliminate worries, You must relax.
Carnegie Endowment tells us that we must know how to relax and lie down whenever we want. Let's try it like this:
1. If you feel tired, lie on the floor and straighten your body as much as possible. If you want to turn around, turn around and do it twice a day.
2. Close your two eyes and say to yourself, as Professor Johnson suggested, "the sun shines on your head, the sky is blue, and nature is very quiet, control the whole world-and I, the child of nature, can reconcile with the whole universe."
3. If you can't lie down because you don't have time, you will get the same effect if you can sit in a chair.
4. Now, slowly bend your ten toes -- and then let them relax; tighten your leg muscles -- and then let them relax; slowly face up, exercise various muscles, last until your neck. Then let your head turn around, as if your head is a football. Keep saying to your muscles, "relax ...... Relax ......"
5. Take a slow, stable, and deep breath to calm your nerves. Regular breathing is the best way to appease nerves.
6. Think about the wrinkles on your face, try to smooth them, and loosen your frown. Don't close your mouth. If you do this twice a day, you may not have to go to the beauty salon for a massage, and the wrinkles will disappear.
Carnegie Endowment reminds us to develop four good work habits.
First, good work habits: Eliminate all the paper on your desk, and leave only what is related to the problem you are about to solve.
Luo Nan William, chairman of the Chicago and northwest railway companies, said: "If a person with many kinds of documents on his desk can clean up his desk and leave some to be processed at hand, he will find that his work is easier and more real. I call it housework, which is the first step to improve efficiency ."
The famous poet popup once wrote the following sentence:
"Order is the first rule of heaven ."
Order should also be the first rule of business. Generally, a businessman's desk is full of documents that may not be visible for weeks. The publisher of a New Orleans newspaper once told Carnegie card that his secretary had helped him clean up a table and found a typewriter that he had been unable to find for two years.
It is enough to make people feel confused, nervous, and worried when they see that the table is full of emails, reports, memos, and so on. The worse thing is that it often reminds you of "1 million things to be done, but you don't have time to do them", which will not only make you feel nervous and tired, it also worries you about high blood pressure, heart disease, and gastric.
Dr. John Stok, a professor at the School of Medicine at Pennsylvania State University, once discussed a paper "psychological complications caused by physical diseases" at the National Conference of the American Medical Society ". In that paper, Dr. Shi listed eleven cases under a study on patient's psychological condition. The following is the first case:
"A sense of necessity or failure. It seems that you have to finish things and you can never finish them ."
Such as cleaning tables, making various decisions, etc. How can these basic things help you avoid the heavy pressure, and what kind of things can never be done? Dr. William Sandel, a well-known psychotherapist, used this simple method to prevent mental breakdown. The patient was a senior supervisor at a big company in Chicago. When he first went to dr. Sandel's clinic, he was very nervous and worried.
He knows that he may have a mental breakdown, but he cannot quit his job. He needs someone to help him.
"When this person was telling me his problem," said Dr Sandel. "My phone rang and it was a call from the hospital. I didn't discuss these issues much. I decided on the spot. I always tried my best to solve the problem on the spot. I just hung up the phone and the bell rang again. This is another urgent task. I spent some time discussing it. One of my colleagues worried about me for the third time and asked me for advice from a very ill patient. After I had discussed it with him, I turned around and prepared to apologize to my patient, so I kept waiting for him. But the expressions on his face are completely different and very happy ." "You don't have to apologize, doctor," said Sandel. "in the last 10 minutes, I thought I knew where my problem was. Now I am leaving for my Office to change my work habits ...... But before I leave, can you show me your desk ?"
Dr Sandel opened several drawers on his desk, which were empty --
Only some stationery is put. "Please tell me," said the patient. "Where are your unfinished business tasks ?"
"All done," Sandel said.
"So where do you put the emails you haven't returned yet ?"
"All back," Sandel told him. "My rule is that you will never let it go when you believe it or not. I wrote back the letter immediately and asked my secretary to type it ."
Six weeks later, the senior supervisor invited Dr. Sandel to his office. He changed the whole place and his desk was different. He opened the drawer at his desk, and there was no unfinished work in the drawer. The senior supervisor said, "I used to have three desks in two offices. I buried all my people in my work and I could never finish anything. After talking to you, I went back to the office to clear a lot of reports and old files. Now I only need a desk to complete my work right away. In this way, there will no longer be a pile of unfinished business threats to me, making me nervous and worried. However, what I cannot think of most is that I have completely recovered my health, and now I have no disease at all ."
Second, good work habits: Do things according to the importance of things.
As one of the most successful American insurance salesmen, Franklin bajil won't wait until five o'clock in the morning to plan his first day's work. He planned it for the first night. He made a target for himself and set the next target for how much insurance he would sell on that day. If he does not, the difference will be added to the next day-and so on.
Of course, it is impossible for a person to determine the sequence of doing things based on the importance of things. But doing things as planned is definitely much better than doing things as you go.
If Bernard does not stick to the principle of doing first, he may not be a writer, but a bank cashier for a lifetime. He plans to write five pages a day. This plan made him continue writing for nine years on five pages every day, although he had to spend more than thirty dollars in the past nine years. Even Robinson, who is drifting on a desert island, Plans what to do at every minute every day.
Third, good work habits: if you have to make a decision when you encounter a problem, solve it on the spot.
It took a long time for Carnegie's former student, the late hohua, to become a director of the U.S. Iron and Steel Company to kick off the board of directors. Many questions were discussed at the meeting, few resolutions have been reached. As a result, every director of the board had to go home with a large package of reports.
At last, Mr. Howard persuaded the board of directors to discuss only one question at each meeting, and then concluded not to delay or delay. The resolution obtained in this way may require more information for research, but in any case, a certain resolution can be reached before the next question is discussed. The results are amazing and effective. All old accounts have been cleared up, and the calendar is clean. The directors do not have to bring a lot of reports back home, and everyone will not worry about unresolved issues.
Fourth, good work habits: Learn How to organize, take charge of, and supervise layers.
Many businessmen have dug a grave for themselves, because they do not know how to share their responsibilities with others, and insist on doing everything. The result is that many minor things make him very confused. He always felt very worried, worried, anxious, and nervous. It is not easy to learn the division of labor and responsibility. If the person in charge is incorrect, a great disaster may occur. However, it is very difficult for a person in charge of hierarchy to do so if he wants to avoid worries, tension, and fatigue.
A person, due to psychological factors, is usually more likely to feel tired than physical labor. This is already known to everyone. A few years ago, Dr. Joseph Barmark published a report in The Journal of Psychology about some of his experiments, proving that boredom may lead to fatigue. Dr. Barmark asked a large group of students to do a series of experiments, which he knew were not of any interest to them. What is the result? All the students feel tired, sleepy, have a headache, get tired of their eyes, lose their temper easily, and even a few others feel uncomfortable in their stomachs. According to the results of the test, when a person feels bored, his body's blood pressure and oxidation will actually decrease. Once this person feels that he is interested in his work, the entire metabolic function will be accelerated immediately.
Carnegie Mellon believes that it is psychologically important to cheer yourself up every morning. Because "Our life is caused by our thoughts," you can tell yourself every hour to guide yourself in thinking many brave and happy ideas, you can also gain strength and calm. You can talk to yourself about a lot of things that are worth your thanks.
As long as you have the right idea, you can make any job less annoying. Your boss wants you to be interested in your work so that he can make more money. However, no matter what the boss wants, you have to think about what benefits it will do if you are interested in your work. You are often reminded of yourself, in this way, you can get double happiness from your life, because more than half of your daily waking time will be spent on your work. If you are not happy at work, you cannot find happiness elsewhere. Keep reminding yourself that you are interested in your work, so that you don't have to worry about it. In the end, it may bring you promotions and salary increases. Even if things don't have such a good result, you can at least minimize your fatigue and enjoy your leisure time.
Speaking of sleep habits, Carnegie ARDS pointed out that no matter how powerful the willpower is, nature will force a person to fall asleep. Nature will allow us not to eat or drink water for a long time, but not to sleep for a long time.
Therefore, if you do not want to worry about insomnia, there are five rules:
1. If you can't sleep, get up to work or read books until you sleep.
2. No one has ever died due to lack of sleep, and worries about the damage to you due to insomnia are usually worse than insomnia.
3. Try to pray 4. Relax your whole body and take a look at the book "eliminate nervousness.
5. Exercise more and make the body unable to stay awake due to labor.
The lifestyle and work habits mentioned by Carnegie OLA may be different from the behavior patterns of Chinese people, but we can also experiment with these suggestions to see how they work.
Some people may think that there is no credibility in the negotiation, because once credibility is disclosed to the other party, it will lead to a breakdown of the negotiation or put the other party at a disadvantage.
It should be noted that the credibility here is the credibility that is permitted in the scope of principles, not the kind of exposure to the other party. People who come to the negotiating table are not honest yet.
Integrity is the credibility of both parties while adhering to principles and keeping secrets. After all, the two sides come to the negotiating table to reach an agreement and form a cooperative relationship. Therefore, it is a positive way to introduce the things to the other party so that the other party can better understand their own situation and consider a better way of cooperation.
Another aspect of credibility is to actively consider for the other party, provide constructive suggestions to the other party, and help the other party out of the predicament. This method will attract the favor of the other party and allow smooth cooperation in the future.
When the negotiation is not smooth, the scene is embarrassing. Everyone is silent and the air is tight. In this case, we recommend that you take a rest.
The negotiator should give full consideration to the problem that cannot be solved during the negotiation. Try another environment. Even if an agreement cannot be reached, you can listen to the other party's actual situation or contact each other to improve understanding and eliminate the tension on the negotiating table in a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere.
This method is widely used by all countries. At this time, they often choose dance halls, karaoke bars, teahouses, or a club. The rest creates a trusted and frank atmosphere.
Chinese people love to enter teahouses, hotels or restaurants, Japanese people love to enter public bathhouses, Finnish people like to go to steam bath rooms, Americans love to enter coffee shops, and choose negotiators like Environment Negotiation, often with a high success rate.
This strategy will help to continue interrupted negotiations and help the two sides establish a new cooperative relationship. If you have enough time or have new suggestions, you can avoid the rigid atmosphere of the negotiating ground and go to a new and pleasant environment, it allows each other to reach an agreement in unrestricted negotiation.
