Cherish every one who helps you when you are childish and cowardly---seven qian

As a child often listen to adults say, walk into the society, and you say the truth of the people will become less, your behavior, and even say that every word may unwittingly alienated the heart, loss of trust, so do not be too transparent, to have reservations.

At that time, the distortion of this sentence is a complex society, the human heart sinister, and now work for a few years more than a lot of concrete and sincere sentiment.

A lot of times the problem that bothers you is just a simple thing in the eyes of others, they even know where your problem is, but still won't tell you, let you struggle with depression in the difficulties, do not bother to rescue you, why do people like this, really because they are bad or sinister? In fact, most of the problems still appear in the asking person himself.


Recognize a point: not all problems can be consulted, confuse confusion without choosing a brain to throw to others is low EQ performance. Put your own rank down, a lot of people will not bother you.

No one is obligated to help you comb your life, and no one will make a decision for you, most people can only lightly ask questions to teach you a way of thinking, and your low-level and lower EQ let people feel that guidance is a waste of time.

Many readers message The problem is a brain to haunt their life love work all the problems are written once, many people's problems are not problems, to work or grind, or to change work, negative energy to suppress how to do, and boyfriend quarrel how to do, meet annoying colleague how to do ...

A lot of it is just their whining and complaining, not answering the meaning.

Look at the level of questioning that they have never tried to solve the problem, the problem comes, they are only caught in the anxiety of choice, never in-depth understanding of the things behind, they just want to through simple inquiry, to let others help them solve.

Such people themselves are poor in action, mental thinking is not, knowledge level limited, network circles narrow, so even if you know their problems, you will not tell them, because you know, even if you tell them that they do not pretend to you, is to say that they do not have the limitations, repeating and explaining to them is wasting your time.

A reader once asked me whether she would give up work abroad, at first I was very supportive of her, and she said the family refused to pay, I only know that she is 109 years old still gnawing at the old stage, the moment feel low look at this person a file, just coldly said can tap their potential to make money, do not put hope in parents, Then she constantly said that she did not know what the advantage is, what to do to make money, how to earn money to go abroad ...

I never answered the reader's question again, because no one was her full-time counselor.

Most of the problems encountered by a person can be solved by themselves, when you encounter this problem, you need to carefully analyze it, do everything you can do to prepare and try to find the answer, and then go to the person to consult, at least to explain what you do to solve this problem, there are some of your personal ability to solve, Instead of encountering difficulties, immediately anxiety and pain, escape difficulties, and then summarize the questions to others to consult.

The problem is to pull down their own Dan, others really do not bother you.


Character defect, arrogant, cowardly, stubborn, ruzi not teach also.

You, only then will have the noble, will have the predecessor to help you. Careful observation of the relative success of the people around them, they have a good understanding, very respectful humble attitude, and the good results of doing things.

Others easily according to the reaction between the gestures to judge a person, but most of the time, people are the ostrich spirit, they think they have no flaws, but in the eyes of others, and finally left a bad impression in others psychology.

Just walked into the society of the girl, mouth full of stories or school teachers and classmates, but the mouth starting salary to 20,000 yuan, said that they have the ability to have that.

This is ridiculous for people who have been working for four or five years. The seniors will not expose her, not to encourage her kindness, but to know that such an arrogant person will not believe you if you tell her the problem, but that you are stubborn and conservative, or argue with you.

The reason why more and more seemingly capable young people can't find jobs is that they don't see their problems.

Cowardice, hesitation, pessimism, stubborn will be our young people have a common problem, many people hide very well, so you can get guidance from others.

Some people reveal their childish and defects without reservation, let others see, and those who see their problems know, for the cowardly people, you tell them what way, he is still weak, for the hesitant people you tell them what way, they most things look around, for pessimistic people, you how to help him, He could not change his pessimistic personality and still not have effective action, not to mention stubborn people.

Many people's changes are from the heart, have the confidence, it is possible to obtain the help and guidance of others, when you are not self-confident, it is difficult to get help from others. Because most people will think that they are wasting their time to help you.

Therefore, cherish every one in your childish cowardly time to help your noble.


Most people who see your problem won't tell you where the problem is because they are too lazy to waste their time on you, and they can see from your personality whether you can do things, and whether you have the value of being guided by them.

Small when parents want you to form a good character, good habits, is to one day, when you walk alone in this society, you can have the ability to solve their own problems at the same time, also be appreciated by others, but also to others to ask questions, and others are willing to answer you.

Believe that when some of your own abilities and habits become correct, there will be a lot of people willing to help you, but also willing to tell you the problem without reservation.

Cherish every one who helps you when you are childish and cowardly---seven qian