Colloquial speech: reflecting people's personalities

Colleague Wang is a very popular person in the office. He is active, and everyone is willing to talk to him because his sentence is "not bad !" The mantra is a magical power in a tense workplace. On that day, my colleague Li dajie rushed into the office panic, dropped the bag, sat down, and slapped the bag while holding the attendance card in his hand, complaining: "I have never seen such a meat driver, today, I went out five minutes earlier than usual. As a result, the "noodle" driver caught up with all the red lights, causing me to get off the bus and run for a while. The cards hit at 8: 58 were suspended!" "Not bad !" Wang's Mantra came out again. "It's good. I'm not late. The driver has been very busy for you. Isn't it just two minutes to get richer !" Said Li dajie smiled and said, "Well, right should be running to lose weight ."

Mr. Wang's mantra of "not bad" should be said n times a day. It is undoubtedly a icing on the cake and a headache to have a happy experience, wang's mantra, coupled with his tolerant and objective persuasion, is undoubtedly a result of the snow. Some colleagues have said that Mr. Wang is a "Pistachio "!

A mantra indirectly reflects a person's character

In the workplace, it is not easy to be a good man like Mr. Wang, and his mantra has benefited him a lot.

"Really boring", "annoying", and "Are there any mistakes "...... In daily life, these mantra are often filled with our ears. Some of them are subjective and proud, while others are gentle and modest. So what kind of psychology does the mantra reflect? Dr. Dou Donghui of the Department of Psychology of Beijing Normal University explained his mantra in psychological terms: the mantra is a kind of view of things in the human heart, and the external information is processed internally, A fixed language response model is formed, so that when similar situations occur, it will blurts out.

As a subconscious manifestation, the mantra helps us to recognize a person. This is because the mantra reflects a kind of emotion, a kind of mentality, and indirectly reflects a person's character.

The mantra is the result of the impact and accumulation of major events on people.

According to Dr. Dou Donghui, there are two reasons for the formation of the mantra: the impact of major events on people and the result of accumulation effect. For example, a passionate young man is devoted to his love affair. love deceives him. When he falls in love, he may sneer at love for a period of time, his mantra may be "love", which is purely nonsense!" When a person encounters the same situation multiple times, the accumulation effect will be displayed in his mantra. If you have met every other person in your life, it's hard to understand why "Today's people cannot be compared with the past !" This is a mantra.

A while ago, in CCTV's eight popular Korean dramas "come on, Jin shun", "Come on! Come on !" This sentence appears in almost every set. It is the mantra of the heroine in the drama. Every time she encounters difficulties, she uses her right hand to shake her arm and shouted "Come on !", To encourage yourself to overcome difficulties and enhance self-confidence. Dr. Dou Donghui said that such a mantra is inspiring and encouraging people to be positive. This is what we should advocate.

The mantra is a channel for people to vent their minds

A positive mantra inspires people to forge ahead, while some mantra has a negative meaning. Isn't it good to listen to the negative mantra? Dr. Dou Donghui gave a negative answer. Nowadays, the word "depressing" is popular. Is it true that everything is depressing and depressing everywhere? Dr. Dou Donghui introduced that this is actually because modern people are under great pressure and their mentality is changing fast. This kind of mantra is used to pour bitter water and give their minds a soothing and catharsis channel, it is more beneficial to people's mental health.

Students always talk about "this is a dead end. In fact, this is out of a human psychological defense mechanism. The psychological defense mechanism is to make some positive adaptive changes between oneself and the real-world relationship in a certain psychological way or means, so that you can easily accept them, it is not a way to protect the psychological peace of mind because it causes too much psychological tension and pain. The students first estimated the situation worse and strengthened it through the mantra. When the actual situation may not be so bad, they will be able to get psychological comfort in a timely manner. According to Dr. Dou Donghui, this can be considered as self-psychological healing.

Psychological testing:

What kind of mantra do you often talk about? The following questions will measure your personality accordingly.

A. To be honest, be sure, don't lie to you

B. Yes, yes

C. Heard, said, heard

D. Maybe it is, maybe it is, probably it is.

E. However

F. Ah, ah, this, that, um

Analysis result:

A This person has a mentality of fearing that the other party may misunderstand himself. Therefore, his character is impatient and his heart is often unbalanced. He will be very concerned about the other party's evaluation of the event he stated, so he repeatedly stressed the authenticity of the event, more hope that he can be recognized in the group, and won the trust of many friends.

B. This person has a strong self-confidence and is very rational in doing things. He is calm and thinks that he can persuade the other party and convince the other party. On the other hand, people who have been in leadership for a long time tend to be "shaken.

C. Therefore, this person uses such colloquial language to leave room for his own psychological formation. This kind of person has wide knowledge, but his determination is not enough. Many smooth people are easy to use. In the process of handling affairs, they will always prepare steps for themselves, and sometimes they will be subject to conflicting psychological troubles.

D. The self-defense instinct of the speaker is strong and will not completely expose his thoughts. It is very calm in dealing with others, so the work and personnel relations are good, and such oral English also has a sense of retreat. Once things are clear, they will say "I have estimated this". Many people engaged in politics have this kind of colloquial language, which hides their sincerity.

E. This person is somewhat willful, so he always proposes a "but" to defend himself. "But" is used to protect himself. It also shows its gentle features, which seem euphemism and have no definite meaning. People engaged in public relations often have this kind of colloquial language, because of its euphemism, it does not make people feel cold.

F is often the habit of having few words or thinking slowly. When talking, it is often used as a method of intercept. Therefore, the response of such colloquial people is relatively slow or relatively frequent. There will also be proud civil servants who love to use this phrase. for fear of making mistakes, they need to think intermittently. This kind of person's heart is often very lonely.

Three types of mantra are not good for Mental Health

According to Dr. Dou Donghui, three types of mantra about adverse mental health are not mandatory. "I can't" "I can face" and "I can't do it". In our life, we can often hear this kind of mantra. This kind of negative information constantly strengthens our negative comments on ourselves, this will lead to a sense of inferiority, which is really detrimental to mental health.

In the second category, what people need to discard is the mantra that creates a rigid impression, for example, "ten businessmen and nine traitors !" "Is it okay if you don't have a red envelope !" From the perspective of psychology, stereotypes refer to people living in social life based on previous experiences. Once these inherent ideas are formed, they will be strengthened and become a set, this serves as the basis for judging and evaluating others. These stereotypes will bring prejudice to people, not conducive to interpersonal harmony, but also to physical and mental health.

The third category is the mantra that "making up with it", "getting bored", and "being alive is boring" can spread negative emotions to others. If you do not abandon those mantra, you will become an undesirable person in your social life.

In short, do not underestimate a few simple sayings. By caring about the children's mantra, the company's leaders listen to their subordinates, friends and colleagues can find the psychological problems hidden behind them by focusing on the mantra. They can help them solve their psychological problems with small opinions and early intervention.