Cool age: Why are Chinese men in the modern dilemma

Ancient Chinese

In recent years, we have often heard the word "Yin Sheng Yang Fu", which is the description and comment of Chinese people on the relative status of men and women's abilities and personalities in their own society. Although its scope and extent need to be discussed in detail, this word expresses people's real psychological impressions.

One of the reasons for this impression is that, due to the influence of Chinese traditional culture, Chinese men have a "feminine" psychological characteristic, and when they participate in rigid style competition, they will

I feel unwell and cannot exert my potential. The contradiction between internal traits and external rules leads to their psychological shadows.

　"Yin Sheng Yang decline" is becoming more and more common in the contemporary era, which is in contrast with the expected gender roles that people are used.

The impression that Chinese women's volleyball team won the world championship in the 1980s S was often mentioned. At that time, the women's volleyball girl set up a typical image to revitalize China. Although the Chinese Men's Volleyball Team also achieved the best performance in history, people still felt "Yin sheng yang.

Wang Jiawei, the representative of the Men's Volleyball Team, is known as a "Flying Man" and can show his talents beautifully. Lang Ping, the representative of the Women's Volleyball Team, is known as the "tietong", which can be used to determine the outcome. In comparison, Lang Ping is more masculine.

After so many years, even today, the entire Chinese sports industry has left people with the impression of "yin and yang. The expanded scope of this impression has a wide significance in Chinese society.

In recent years, many middle school and university classes and other competitive fields have found that many girls express themselves openly and actively participate in competition, while many boys face better and avoid positive competition. Many boys lose to girls in the competition, which is also a real phenomenon.

For thousands of years, male, female, and female have been the norm in human society, so we often look forward to it. But when the actual performance of men and women in Chinese society is very different from people's expectations, "Yin sheng yang" is becoming more and more prominent.

　　The formation of male's Psychological Traits in China is directly related to the spirit of "getting soft" in traditional culture.

So what broke the original contrast between men and women?

　　

In fact, the weakness of Chinese men is related to their psychological characteristics of "Yin Rou", which is influenced by Chinese traditional culture. Because Chinese men do their best to form the "Yin Rou" thought, and they can most internalize these thoughts into the deep layer of themselves.

Mr. Yan hongming once said that the brush can express the spirit of the Chinese, and its pen tip is soft, but it can write the powerful words. The personality advocated by Confucianism is gentle and gentle, and "thick" supports "soft" in the back, so it is soft but not weak, with full internal force. Taoism advocates being weak and strong, and expresses the idea of "Yin Rou" more thoroughly.

These ideas penetrate into the daily psychology of Chinese people. They are more willing to hear the author say that Lu Bu and Yan Qing, who face peach blossoms, are more martial arts than Zhang Fei and Li Yi, who have the leopard's eye-catching eyes. Zhuge Liang of the feather fan towel has won the brave and powerful Meng. The readers show gentle and elegant manners, and the average people also implicitly and politely make faces. Even when they fight each other, people do not directly exert their power, but secretly turn to strength. In contrast, the conspiracy of the Chinese people is also superb.

Conspiracy focuses on utilitarian means, while "Yin Rou" means aesthetic means. The two sometimes conflict with each other, but sometimes cooperate with each other. Their distinction and cooperation, the efficacy and value of their cooperation, should be grasped and judged in the general context behind the "soft. In contrast, Chinese men often have more opportunities and better performance than women in terms of expressing the "Yin Rou" taste.

　　When the traditional Chinese "Yin Rou" encounters the Western "Yang Gang", its own defects are highlighted.

Traditional Chinese people, especially men, have a "feminine" Psychological Trait that helps them express their common sentiments, create wisdom, establish harmonious relationships, and accumulate material wealth under the conditions at that time. Therefore, this kind of Yin Rou can give full play to people's potential, and it is a heavy "Yin Rou ".

For thousands of years, the gloomy Chinese people have clashed with the primitive "Yanggang" people in the surrounding areas, and have also failed to compete with forces. However, people do not lose confidence in "Yin Rou". On the contrary, Yin Rou eventually exert its heavy strength to include "Yang Gang" in its own arms, and the scope of Chinese culture is constantly expanding.

However, when the traditional Chinese "Yin Rou" encounters the Western "Yang Gang", "Yin Rou" is defeated. Because the Western "Yanggang" is not original, it promotes Westerners to exert their minds, establish science, create wealth, conquer nature, and establish an equal society. Moreover, it can explore the mysteries of the soul and discover original emotions, this is a heavy "Yanggang ".

It can accommodate the vast and delicate emotions, so it is "just" and not brittle. The story of the missionaries who run around the world to treat the poor. The film that the American soldiers shed tears for the death of Vietnamese children will make us feel that this "Yanggang" has a deep emotional source.

　Chinese men do not appreciate and adapt to the rigid competition rules.

In contemporary society, self-fulfillment becomes people's ideal. American Psychological analyst Maslow found that typical self-fulfillment figures are dominant and extroverted. They are very aggressive and can bring their potential out directly. Maslow described some people with Yang Gang characteristics. Their "Gang" has deep emotional support. Modern Competition rules are conducive to the rigid use of their potential.

Many Chinese men feel that they are not good at or willing to do anything in their daily work, study, and life, they are also hard to answer

Competitors beat them in this way. That is to say, they do not appreciate or adapt to the Yanggang way in their bones, so they feel more depressed than their female compatriots and spend more energy and meditation than girls, consume more effort to adjust your mood.

Even Chinese men who succeed in Western society miss their motherland more than their wives and girlfriends who are in other countries. They often feel that cultural differences make them fail to make full use of their potential. In their hearts, there is always a kind of sentiment that has not yet been developed and sunk. This is a kind of "Yin Rou". It dragged their hearts and participated in the formation of their shadows.

The conflict between the "feminine" character and rigid rules cannot be solved in the short term. Chinese men need to continue to reflect on themselves and transform their own personalities. At the same time, such transformation cannot be separated from the original foundation, and they should find the original heavy strength. This kind of power can be cultivated not within the individual, but requires mutual communication, transmission, and agitation. When this force is cultivated in the form of society, it can participate in the modification of rules to facilitate its play.

Only after such internal and external fit can Chinese men go out of the shadows of "Yin Rou.

Background

In the spirit of Roke's Philosophy

The Chinese classical culture is opposed from the philosophical height to the pure and pure strength, emphasizing the soft and soft, and then emphasizing the soft.

Lao Tzu pays the most attention to this point: "weak, strong, strong", "The world is weak, the strong cannot win "," the best of the world, the best of the world to ride the world to the strong "," so strong dead man. If it is a military force, it will be invincible, and if it is a wooden force, it will be broken. Strong, weak ". "The world has a great way to win, but it has an extraordinary way to win. Changsheng's road is said to be soft, and Changwon's road is said to be just ." The old war book "Jun Yi" residual cloud: "pure and pure, strong, its country will die ." "Sany-Swordsmanship" also said: "You can also. The thief also. ."

The above cited fragments are full of plain dialectics about flexibility. The deep meaning of this kind of "Rejoice" thinking is: from a long-term and strategic point of view, the weak new things have truly powerful vitality, while the things in the heyday seem powerful, under certain conditions, the system will eventually go into decay and decline.

Water is soft, and it is always in a low position, but the impact of water (such as floods, waves) is very powerful. According to this principle, a person can maintain a prosperous situation only by putting himself in a proper position and knowing how to treat others equally and convince others. However, if you rely on your temporary advantages and are always strong and arrogant, you will sooner or later turn to your own opposite side, causing ominous consequences.

I feel unwell and cannot exert my potential. The contradiction between internal traits and external rules leads to their psychological shadows.

　"Yin Sheng Yang decline" is becoming more and more common in the contemporary era, which is in contrast with the expected gender roles that people are used.

The impression that Chinese women's volleyball team won the world championship in the 1980s S was often mentioned. At that time, the women's volleyball girl set up a typical image to revitalize China. Although the Chinese Men's Volleyball Team also achieved the best performance in history, people still felt "Yin sheng yang.

Wang Jiawei, the representative of the Men's Volleyball Team, is known as a "Flying Man" and can show his talents beautifully. Lang Ping, the representative of the Women's Volleyball Team, is known as the "tietong", which can be used to determine the outcome. In comparison, Lang Ping is more masculine.

After so many years, even today, the entire Chinese sports industry has left people with the impression of "yin and yang. The expanded scope of this impression has a wide significance in Chinese society.

In recent years, many middle school and university classes and other competitive fields have found that many girls express themselves openly and actively participate in competition, while many boys face better and avoid positive competition. Many boys lose to girls in the competition, which is also a real phenomenon.

For thousands of years, male, female, and female have been the norm in human society, so we often look forward to it. But when the actual performance of men and women in Chinese society is very different from people's expectations, "Yin sheng yang" is becoming more and more prominent.

　　The formation of male's Psychological Traits in China is directly related to the spirit of "getting soft" in traditional culture.

So what broke the original contrast between men and women?

　　

In fact, the weakness of Chinese men is related to their psychological characteristics of "Yin Rou", which is influenced by Chinese traditional culture. Because Chinese men do their best to form the "Yin Rou" thought, and they can most internalize these thoughts into the deep layer of themselves.

Mr. Yan hongming once said that the brush can express the spirit of the Chinese, and its pen tip is soft, but it can write the powerful words. The personality advocated by Confucianism is gentle and gentle, and "thick" supports "soft" in the back, so it is soft but not weak, with full internal force. Taoism advocates being weak and strong, and expresses the idea of "Yin Rou" more thoroughly.

These ideas penetrate into the daily psychology of Chinese people. They are more willing to hear the author say that Lu Bu and Yan Qing, who face peach blossoms, are more martial arts than Zhang Fei and Li Yi, who have the leopard's eye-catching eyes. Zhuge Liang of the feather fan towel has won the brave and powerful Meng. The readers show gentle and elegant manners, and the average people also implicitly and politely make faces. Even when they fight each other, people do not directly exert their power, but secretly turn to strength. In contrast, the conspiracy of the Chinese people is also superb.

Conspiracy focuses on utilitarian means, while "Yin Rou" means aesthetic means. The two sometimes conflict with each other, but sometimes cooperate with each other. Their distinction and cooperation, the efficacy and value of their cooperation, should be grasped and judged in the general context behind the "soft. In contrast, Chinese men often have more opportunities and better performance than women in terms of expressing the "Yin Rou" taste.

　　When the traditional Chinese "Yin Rou" encounters the Western "Yang Gang", its own defects are highlighted.

Traditional Chinese people, especially men, have a "feminine" Psychological Trait that helps them express their common sentiments, create wisdom, establish harmonious relationships, and accumulate material wealth under the conditions at that time. Therefore, this kind of Yin Rou can give full play to people's potential, and it is a heavy "Yin Rou ".

For thousands of years, the gloomy Chinese people have clashed with the primitive "Yanggang" people in the surrounding areas, and have also failed to compete with forces. However, people do not lose confidence in "Yin Rou". On the contrary, Yin Rou eventually exert its heavy strength to include "Yang Gang" in its own arms, and the scope of Chinese culture is constantly expanding.

However, when the traditional Chinese "Yin Rou" encounters the Western "Yang Gang", "Yin Rou" is defeated. Because the Western "Yanggang" is not original, it promotes Westerners to exert their minds, establish science, create wealth, conquer nature, and establish an equal society. Moreover, it can explore the mysteries of the soul and discover original emotions, this is a heavy "Yanggang ".

It can accommodate the vast and delicate emotions, so it is "just" and not brittle. The story of the missionaries who run around the world to treat the poor. The film that the American soldiers shed tears for the death of Vietnamese children will make us feel that this "Yanggang" has a deep emotional source.

　Chinese men do not appreciate and adapt to the rigid competition rules.

In contemporary society, self-fulfillment becomes people's ideal. American Psychological analyst Maslow found that typical self-fulfillment figures are dominant and extroverted. They are very aggressive and can bring their potential out directly. Maslow described some people with Yang Gang characteristics. Their "Gang" has deep emotional support. Modern Competition rules are conducive to the rigid use of their potential.

Many Chinese men feel that they are not good at or willing to do anything in their daily work, study, and life, they are also hard to answer

Competitors beat them in this way. That is to say, they do not appreciate or adapt to the Yanggang way in their bones, so they feel more depressed than their female compatriots and spend more energy and meditation than girls, consume more effort to adjust your mood.

Even Chinese men who succeed in Western society miss their motherland more than their wives and girlfriends who are in other countries. They often feel that cultural differences make them fail to make full use of their potential. In their hearts, there is always a kind of sentiment that has not yet been developed and sunk. This is a kind of "Yin Rou". It dragged their hearts and participated in the formation of their shadows.

The conflict between the "feminine" character and rigid rules cannot be solved in the short term. Chinese men need to continue to reflect on themselves and transform their own personalities. At the same time, such transformation cannot be separated from the original foundation, and they should find the original heavy strength. This kind of power can be cultivated not within the individual, but requires mutual communication, transmission, and agitation. When this force is cultivated in the form of society, it can participate in the modification of rules to facilitate its play.

Only after such internal and external fit can Chinese men go out of the shadows of "Yin Rou.

Background

In the spirit of Roke's Philosophy

The Chinese classical culture is opposed from the philosophical height to the pure and pure strength, emphasizing the soft and soft, and then emphasizing the soft.

Lao Tzu pays the most attention to this point: "weak, strong, strong", "The world is weak, the strong cannot win "," the best of the world, the best of the world to ride the world to the strong "," so strong dead man. If it is a military force, it will be invincible, and if it is a wooden force, it will be broken. Strong, weak ". "The world has a great way to win, but it has an extraordinary way to win. Changsheng's road is said to be soft, and Changwon's road is said to be just ." The old war book "Jun Yi" residual cloud: "pure and pure, strong, its country will die ." "Sany-Swordsmanship" also said: "You can also. The thief also. ."

The above cited fragments are full of plain dialectics about flexibility. The deep meaning of this kind of "Rejoice" thinking is: from a long-term and strategic point of view, the weak new things have truly powerful vitality, while the things in the heyday seem powerful, under certain conditions, the system will eventually go into decay and decline.

Water is soft, and it is always in a low position, but the impact of water (such as floods, waves) is very powerful. According to this principle, a person can maintain a prosperous situation only by putting himself in a proper position and knowing how to treat others equally and convince others. However, if you rely on your temporary advantages and are always strong and arrogant, you will sooner or later turn to your own opposite side, causing ominous consequences.