Dangers of perfectionist ideas and solutions

I, The harm of perfectionist:
1. Impact on psychological status:
Perfection is often impossible, The higher the goal, the higher the pressure, and the perfect goal is often unable to reach, then there will be a sense of frustration, pressure and frustration lead to self-denial and other negative ideas, which weakens a person's self-confidence and optimism.
The perfectionist has a balanced personality and always forces himself to reach the perfect goal. This is somewhat like Jie Li. Jie Li is a type of self-forced behavior that requires perfection in hygiene. The perfectionist's self-forced scope is wider.
Keywords: Stress, frustration, and forced personality.

2. Impact on the way of thinking:
Perfectionists always like to say, "I do not do it, or I do the best ." They often have two points: perfect or not perfect, success or failure. This is an extreme way of thinking. They blindly pursue perfection, Limit your thinking to your own perfect plans and ignore others' suggestions. This leads them to be stubborn and arrogant.
Perfectionists always like to say, "I should have done better ." They have too high requirements on themselves. In many cases, they always like to emphasize "what should be" rather than "what is the truth" when they cannot meet the objective criteria of perfection ".
Keywords: "As long as the best" thinking, "should" Thinking

3. impact on Behavior:
according to the 80% rule, 20% of tasks only take of the time to complete, the remaining 20% of tasks require 80% of the time to complete. Some people always only invest 20% of their time to get 80% perfect, while the perfectionist hopes to get perfect with of the time. This is just like buying a computer. Some people are pursuing high cost performance. Some people do not care about the price of the computer, but only high-end configuration. People pursuing high-configuration computers tend to forget money , while perfectionists tend to forget time.
perfectionists like to develop a wide range of well-developed plans to ensure that they are safe, while execution plans are often abandoned halfway. This is because they only know that they are pursuing perfection and are not good at choice. As a result, the implementation of the plan cannot always meet the expected perfection standard. Therefore, a perfectionist plan is not a perfect plan. Excessive planning can paralyze behavior.
keywords: perfect and time-to-cost ratio, behavior paralysis caused by over-planning.

4.Impact on interpersonal relationships: 
When the water reaches the clear, there is no fish, and when the person arrives, there is no apprentice. A perfectionist often has insufficient trust in others' abilities and thinks that others cannot meet the perfect standards they require. Moreover, perfectionists tend to strictly demand others while strict requirements on individuals; at the same time, forced personality affects others. The harsh demands on others lead to the dislike of others and have a negative impact on personal interpersonal relationships.
Keywords:Perfect demand for others. 
 
II,Solution: 
1.There is a choice to pursue limited perfection in a local scope: 
Some things may need to be done perfectly, and some things may only need to be done to a better degree. in work and life, pay attention to distinguish this situation and grasp a balance point, put limited time resources into the most valuable part.
The pursuit of perfection for the work that requires precision work and planning, and for the work that requires decision-making and innovation is not perfect.

2.Change your habits of using time and planning: 
Pay attention to the embodiment of the Cost-performance ratio and the law between perfection and time in the perfectionist. Be aware that time and quality are equally important, and you must choose a balance between perfection and efficiency. Think about it before you want to pursue perfection: "Is it worthwhile to spend so much time waiting for perfection ?"
A moderate, flexible, and rigid perfectionist plan is required. Plans are implemented in an iterative manner; plans are executed in the forward direction.

3.Eliminate the perfectionist mentality: 
No matter how busy your work is, how high the pressure is, and how high the standards are, do not over-force yourself. Learn to relax and manage stress.
Confidence is maintained no matter how far the external expression is from its own perfect standard deviation, because self-confidence is derived not from appearance, but from the heart. You should not weaken your self-confidence because your performance is not perfect.

4.Others: 
You must consciously change your habit of pursuing perfection in your life. Apply the dialectical thinking of ancient China to the behavioral guidance of his own life. For example, in the Song of Zhen guanchangge, Li Shimin heard that all the Wang gongs recommended Zhao Deyan as jing zhaoyin, no one said anything about Zhao Deyan. At this time, he realized that there must be a problem, but it was a pity that Zhao Deyan would not have overturned the car. The same is true for perfection. (The example may not be appropriate, but it should be a "spark of thinking", haha ):
We have two buddies in our dormitory. One of them encountered a problem with the computer's anti-virus software when they were doing their jobs. The pop-up box of anti-virus software appeared in the lower right corner of the screen. They can only block them in the lower right corner of the screen, so he did not care about the anti-virus software, but finished the job first. Another guy has a dozens of TV series. He only watches two sets every day and has finished watching them slowly. What Will perfectionists do? In the first case, the perfectionist will look at the anti-virus software pop-up box in the lower right corner and cannot cancel it, but it is quite uncomfortable. It is necessary to solve this factor that affects perfection before proceeding to the next step. In the second case, perfectionists may all have a tendency to watch a good-looking TV series in one breath. This kind of inclination should be corrected.

Of course, a moderate perfectionist also has some benefits. This is beyond the scope of this article, so we will not elaborate on it.