Enjoy freedom from the age of 13

Enjoy freedom from the age of 13

Source: Author: [us] translated by Anne lanbert Liu Chang Liu Yuting

Willing to take responsibility for your own life. This is a manifestation of a person's self-esteem.

When I was a child, my mother taught me how to do everything. She is the kind of mother who never tire of endless "why.

However, Mom never gave me the answer, but asked me to think first. Gradually, I learned to analyze all the possibilities with my brain before doing things, and often asked myself: "What would happen if someone treats me like this ?" My mother's good guidance and strict requirements have laid a solid foundation for me to form a good character.

On my 13th birthday, my mother called me into her room. "Anne, I want to talk to you ." Mom patted the bed around her. "Is there a problem ?"

"I spent 12 years developing your values and ethics," she said. "Do you think you have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong ?" "Of course ." I replied. This unexpected opening remark made me smile.

"Today is your 13th birthday. From now on, you are no longer a child and your life will become much more complicated ." "I have already laid the foundation for you. It's time for you to make your own decisions ." I am puzzled-What are your ideas?

Mom smiled. "From now on, you have set your own rules. It is up to you to decide when to get up, when to go to bed, when to write homework, and who to make friends ."

"I don't understand. Are you angry with me? What have I done wrong ?" My mother put her hand on my shoulder: "sooner or later, everyone will make their decisions. Many young people who are strictly disciplined by their parents often make terrible mistakes when they leave college and no one gives them guidance, and some even ruin their life. So I want to give you freedom a little earlier ."

I stared at her in a daze, and all kinds of thoughts flashed through my mind. So I can go home any night and join various parties freely. No one urges me to write my homework ...... This is amazing!

Mom stood up and said, "Remember, this is a responsibility. My family is watching you. Only you are responsible for your own faults ."

"Why do you trust me so much ?" I'm excited. "Because I would rather you make mistakes now and you are still at home, I can give you suggestions and help ." As she said, she hugged me hard. "Don't forget, I am always by your side. I will help you whenever you need it ."

This is the end of our conversation. Like in the past, this birthday was spent with my family, including cakes, ice cream, and gifts. This conversation between mother and daughter was the most meaningful birthday gift I had ever received. I understand that my mother has not completely walked out of my life, just giving me space to stretch my wings and prepare for the future to fly.

I have done a lot of wrong things in the next few years, but it is a must-have experience for every young man or girl. I sometimes don't finish my homework, sometimes stay up late, and sometimes have a dangerous party. Mom never scolded me for this. When my score declines, she calmly points out that I want to lose the chance to enter the ideal university. The worse the score, the fewer opportunities. If I stay up late, she will make fun of me humorously. After that party, she only asked me what I thought those friends would do in 10 years and whether they wanted their future to be the same as they did. Of course I don't want that. When I understand this, I will constantly change my behavior to make up for mistakes.

My life is like a brocade, and my mother always uses the best advice to help me fix the cracks. I have never been rebellious or resentful to my parents as many teenagers do. In fact, our mother's educational methods make us more intimate.

A few years ago, on my daughter's 13th birthday, I brought her into my room for a similar conversation. During her adolescence, we were always very close. My son also talked to his father at this age. Although the children have made many mistakes, it turns out that they are only milestones of growth. At the same time, more serious mistakes are avoided because they think carefully and discuss with us. They regard their parents as good teachers and friends rather than supervisors. The relationship between the two generations is healthy and harmonious.

Life and wisdom continue in this family. Love, honor, and respect for experience and wisdom are cherished. These benefits my best friend, my mother.

 
Source: Author: [us] translated by Anne lanbert Liu Chang Liu Yuting