Escape from your Shawshank (Fri) (vi): Invisible cage

Escape from Your Shawshank (v): Invisible Cage (ON) Notes

0, the so-called psychology is about how the human brain work science, since the Society is composed of a person, and the human behavior is largely dominated by our brains, then from this fundamental to understand a lot of problems will be very deep essence. 1, "Clark's First Law": "If a respected old scientist tells you that something is possible, then he is probably right." But if he says something is impossible, then he is most likely wrong. "2. Why is it that most of the time, transposition thinking is just a trap. Because true transposition thinking means that you have to know all the factors that really affect his decision-making and behavior in the other person's brain, which contains too many things: the other person's value system, habits, ideas, morals, and even the emotional moment of the other person. A person's behavior is determined by a number of factors, most of which are often hidden in the subconscious level ("strangers to Ourselves") that we are not aware of, even if the parties themselves do not necessarily know the real cause of their behavior, let alone others can really "transposition". 3, if you can not jump out of the box, then at least to find a person with you have a different frame of the comparison, so that a contrast will be able to understand where their box. 4, our own mental model for us is like the air, in which we do not feel at all. 5. We have no direct insight into what is happening in the brain, and most of the time we feel "know" why we do it because our brains are constantly reasoning "why do I do that", and for those who know themselves, this reasoning is often correct, but if you don't know yourself well enough, Then it is possible to infer the motives of their actions wrongly. 6. Parenting Books Use this story to warn parents that the best way to ruin a child's interest in things is to give material rewards. 7. There are two types of mental models that are most difficult to change in the world:

1. Self-fulfilling prophecy: 2. A proposition that cannot be falsified:

8. Between the facts and emotions, there are numerous complex and hidden mental patterns, they are like dark matter, can not be seen and touched, but it has a great gravitational pull on your behavior.

Escape from Your Shawshank (vi): invisible Cage (bottom): Plato's Cave notes

0, in general, the prison is divided into two categories, one is unavoidable, in the face of unknown information must be made when the trade-offs. The other is due to the "transient" adaptation of the evolutionary lag effect. But behind these two types of cages are the same roots, that is, we are the first to survive the survival of the living organisms, followed by primates, although we have universal cognitive ability, but on the other hand our instinct is to protect and continue the gene ("The Selfish Gene"), Even our curiosity and pervasive cognitive ability is also because it helps us to have a greater survival and multiplication advantage, and when confronted with Mr. Gbagbo uncertainties, unknowns, and risks, evolutionary preference genes are almost always conservative. 1, the Study of Psychological therapy (psychotherapy), not that each of us have a serious psychological "problem", the need for self-"treatment", but that there are many ideas in psychotherapy, can be used in our daily life, such as the recent domestic a child-rearing book "conform to Psychology, children more cooperation There are many places where the principle of cognitive therapy is used (rest assured, not "heal" the Child, "heal" the inner entanglements of the parents).  An interesting example:

A private company secretary Xiao Liu has a bad habit: What documents, she will be dragged to the last moment to do desperately. For example, the company held a meeting in Monday, the boss let Xiao Liu at the latest Thursday hand over the minutes of the meeting. No matter how much time Monday and Tuesday, Xiao Liu will not finish the record first. She is often 10 times a day, 20 times on the computer to open a file, but each write a few words will stop, a word can not be written down. Until the afternoon of Wednesday, she will be on the computer on the keyboard a wild knock, if the afternoon is not ——— this is common to Xiao Liu, she will be dragged into the evening, to get 11 or 12 o'clock or even at night one or two o ' clock before work. Thursday, she will come to the unit early in the morning, red eyes, with a face of exhaustion to give the report personally to the boss. Xiao Liu under the numerous resolutions, vowed to change their style, but the year down, no effect.

Yuanrong said that Xiao Liu knew that it was a vice. But what she had never thought of was that the abuse brought her a lot of benefits. For example, colleagues know that she is "overtime King", this title to the boss ears, the boss never criticized her for procrastination. These benefits have been rewarded, reinforcing the habit of Xiao Liu's procrastination. There is a deeper reason for this abuse. Xiao Liu's father to the small Liu asked very high, school, every time she finished homework, her father to check again, a mistake found, dad will mercilessly give her a meal, scold her not hard not to seriously. Finally, Xiao Liu developed a coping method: Stay up late and finish the homework at the last minute. In this way, even if dad check out the mistake, but because know Xiao Liu stay overnight, not only not scold her, but will praise her hard work. In fact, the company is the same, Mister is male, the face of the boss as if the face of Dad, Xiao Liu is afraid of Mister scold himself not to work hard, so with the previous coping methods to deal with the boss.

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Escape from your Shawshank (Fri) (vi): Invisible cage