Five capabilities to support beautiful life

Five capabilities to support beautiful life

Reprinted from Chunyu

 

 

In fact, if a person wants to live a better life, he only needs to acquire several abilities. One is natural ability, the other is technical ability, the third is knowledge ability, the fourth is the ability to deal with society and people, and the fifth is the physical and psychological endurance of people.

 

Natural ability refers to the ability of a person to live and healthy. For example, eating, drinking, pulling, scattering, and sleeping are natural abilities of a person. Eating well and sleeping well means you are healthy, but it doesn't mean you can do more things than I do. Therefore, we still need a lot of other capabilities. One of the most important capabilities is technical capabilities.

 

The skills I mentioned here do not refer to low-level skills, such as cycling and cooking. I am referring to knowledge and skills. Knowledge itself is not a skill, but it can lay the foundation for the skill. What is it for a knowledgeable person? For example, Chen jingrun, who studied mathematics and the godebach conjecture, finally became one of the world's most famous mathematicians and earned a lifetime of honor. This is knowledge and skills. I often say to students that if you can reach the top 10 in China or the world in your research field, you will have knowledge and skills. The goal of skill possession is to live with self-esteem, self-love, and self-confidence. If you want to live with self-esteem, self-love, and self-confidence, you must have certain skills. You can use this ability to get the resources you need in the world, including wealth resources and living resources.

 

New Oriental Teachers exchanged their expected salary with their English proficiency and lecture skills. If you want to make yourself better, it is not important to go abroad, but whether in China or abroad, you must ask yourself what to do, how can you do one thing very well, so that people all over the world can think of you as soon as they think of it. If you have this kind of skill, you will surely be able to live very well. A person with a skill will never become a beggar. Studying anything can be a skill of your own.

 

I had a classmate who studied Chiang Kai-shek. This was nothing, but because of his long research time and deep research, he was finally taken care of by a professor at a u. S. University, invite him to read his doctor. He has been a doctor of four in the United States, wrote two monographs on modern Chinese history, and finally stayed at that university as a professor. With this ability, he can exchange resources necessary for his own life and continue his research. When I went to the United States to see him, I found that he had a car and a house. Now let's make a simple summary of the skills. The skills are to grasp the things we like most and keep researching until the world recognizes your abilities in this area, then you have reached the perfect realm.

 

If you have the skills, consider the knowledge. One of the biggest flaws in China's education system is that I learned a lot from my childhood to college, but my teachers forgot to tell you what the final purpose of going to college is.

 

I went to college to get a good job, but many Chinese college students cannot find a good job after graduation. Why? In the process of learning from the university, the teachers did not emphasize that you must master the skills while learning the knowledge. In addition, this skill is essential for your future social development. Knowledge itself is useless. Only by applying it to society can we make full use of it. Someone may ask, do you want to learn more? It is of course necessary to learn knowledge. For example, liberal arts students must learn the knowledge of science. The more they learn, the more comprehensive the knowledge. But what is the ultimate goal of learning knowledge?

 

As we all know, all countries call the highest degree a doctorate degree, and the English name of the doctorate is doctor ofphilosophy. The translation is a DOCTOR of Philosophy. philosophy means wisdom and makes life happier. Therefore, the ultimate goal of our learning is to acquire wisdom. A life without wisdom is a gloomy life, and a life without insight and judgment is a life without direction. Therefore, the ultimate goal of learning knowledge is to make intelligent judgments on the things around us and the society we live in. If you add it to your skills, you will have both skills and judgment capabilities. When you enter the society, the society will welcome you very much, because it is a smart and capable person.

 

With skills, people will enter the society, and the next problem will be encountered immediately after entering the society, that is, dealing with society. Chinese students are relatively weak in dealing with people, because they have never entered the society since they were young and college students. In addition, Chinese society itself is also in the process of moving from disorder to order, so it seems complicated and chaotic. As soon as many Chinese university graduates enter the society, they are lost and do not know how to cope with social personnel relations. But in the end, entering the society and achieving success in society is our ultimate goal.

 

In fact, it is not very difficult to get into the society and achieve success. Because society is composed of people, as long as you learn to deal with people, you will learn to deal with society. How can we deal with people and society? The method is also very simple.

 

For example, if there are six people in a dormitory, you are one of them, and the relationship with the other five is not very good, then the cause of the problem must not be the other five, it must be on you, you must have terrible shortcomings, but you are not aware of it, which means you will not deal with people. In turn, there are six people in the same dormitory. the other five people have a very harmonious relationship with you, and they are very willing to accept your opinions. This shows that you have a very good relationship with others, you will deal with people. You know how to use others' resources. You know how to understand others and unite others. It means that you will be a talented person who can do a career in the future. If a dormitory is divided into two groups, you are involved in one of them, and the two send people to talk about each other's bad things every day, it means that you are a boring man with no big mind or a big mouse.

 

In fact, it is very important to have the ability to deal with people. For example, to learn how to interact with people, you must learn to live in the middle of a wolf group. Wolf has three characteristics: first, even if the last wolf is left, it will go forward to capture food, that is, the wolf is brave. Second, a wolf is a group animal. When a wolf crawls food separately, even if the tiger sees the Wolf group, the wolf group will retreat. This is the power of the group. To make a difference in society, a person must recognize the importance of group strength and learn how to use it. Third, when a wolf in the Wolf group is old, the young wolf will pull it down from the wolf's head, in this way, the overall Wolf group will remain powerful.

 

The same is true for people. To be a major event, you must be brave first. Secondly, you must be able to unite others to do things. Finally, you must be able to eliminate your own shortcomings and become a powerful person. If a person can do this, he will certainly not be a mediocre person. In addition, to deal with people, you need to have another capability, that is, understanding. You must learn to understand the cons and cons of others, but not your own cons. You must correct your shortcomings immediately. With understanding, you will have a broad mind, and your vision will become very ambitious. When your eyes are ambitious, your troubles and pains will not affect your pursuit of your future goals.

 

One of the most important tasks in dealing with people is to be good at expressing yourself. That is to say, you must be good at expressing your opinions and thoughts and trying to persuade others. In English listening, people often hear the word presentation, which means to express their opinions and persuade others. However, there is no proper Chinese translation for this word, which shows that China's education system has never been taught by a teacher from elementary school to university and you have to stand up and speak bravely, and let the teacher and others listen to you. Most Chinese teachers speak to you during class. If you dare to stand up in class, the teacher will punish you. In this way, a large number of children gradually develop the habit of silently and passively treating others' opinions without any objection, so that they do not have their own views and ideas and lose their innovative spirit, the ability to think independently is lost.

 

A person also needs psychological endurance. What is psychological endurance? In a simple analogy, some flour is put into water and rubbed, and then a pinch, the flour is easy to scatter, but you continue to rub, rub thousands of times after, it will no longer be dispersed. If you stretch it, it will not be dispersed, but it will only become a ramen, because it has a toughness.

 

The process of people entering the society is like a group of scattered flour, which is continuously rubbed by the society and finally becomes a very tough dough process. That is to say, your mental endurance must be continuously trained to become mature. Words such as abuse, torture, and oppression all describe a certain test of human beings. Under such a test, if you exercise, you will be able to withstand failures and pain in the future; if you do not have this ability, you will not be able to withstand the pressure of your life.

 

Chinese students commit suicide abroad, mainly because of the pressure. When I went to Harvard University last year, I heard that a Chinese student from the computer department of Harvard University committed suicide. The reason for his suicide is simple: he has always been an amazing child in China. He cannot reach the first place in Harvard in any way, and he is often criticized by professors. He could not bear the pressure and finally committed suicide. Of course, there may be other reasons. However, there is only one reason for the tragedy, that is, his mental endurance is too bad.

 

In addition to psychological endurance, we must also exercise physical endurance. For example, if someone else can keep learning for five hours every day, and you can keep learning for eight hours every day, others will get bored when doing one thing for a month, and you will not get bored when doing one year. You can focus on things that others cannot concentrate on. This means you have physiological endurance. In fact, the more time you spend, the more energy and physical strength you invest, the more you will gain.

 

I know a student from Tsinghua University. His GRE score is full. I asked him why he got a full score in the GRE test. He said, "The reason is actually very simple. I don't think I am a very smart person, in order to do anything, I will spend more time than others. I have been studying in elementary school and middle school for a longer time than my classmates. I read a text article twice or three times, so that I am more proficient than others, finally, I joined Tsinghua University. When I arrived at Tsinghua, I found that many people took the final exam only one week in advance and rushed to the examination room. The score was not ideal. I always feel that I have little confidence in the final exam, so I usually review the exam one month in advance, and finally I did a good job. When I took the GRE test, I learned it for four months first. As a result, I had to score more than 2100 points with no competitive advantage. Then I thought that if I had studied for another four months, the score would certainly be higher, so I had to study for another four months and finally went to the GRE test room, so it was easy to get a full score. I have performed a total of more than 50 times on the GRE vocabulary book, and I have done a dozen times on the GRE question ." Therefore, the effort will surely return, and the gains will be rewarded. I think successful people have similar experiences. to do one thing, the more time and energy you spend, the more you devote yourself to it, the more likely you will be to achieve bigger achievements.

 

After talking so much, my conclusion is that it is not important to go abroad and there are many opportunities in China. Once I chatted with Lenovo Group Yang Yuanqing and found that we both took TOEFL and GRE, but we did not study abroad, and we also achieved remarkable success through our own efforts in China. Therefore, the most important thing for people is to improve their abilities: to train their abilities to determine their goals, to train their competitiveness, to train their technical abilities, and to train their abilities to deal with others, exercise your psychological and physiological endurance, strive hard for a goal, and finally achieve success. With these capabilities, even if one day you walk into the African jungle, it will turn into a group of monkeys or gorilla leaders. If you do not have these capabilities, even if you are placed at the top of the society, you will be kicked down by others and broken.