Book notes on "the world is so sinister and you need to be strong inside" (1)

I have read Shi Yong's book "The world is so sinister, you need to be strong", which is deeply touched by some content in the book.

Record part of the idea. There is no analysis on many abstract theories in the notes, more specifically for some words, combining their own experiences and

I would like to share my feelings with you. By the way, I feel that it is really to be trained in terms of emotional intelligence. I suggest reading more books, philosophy, and literature.

This note is entirely in the order I read this book and has not been sorted by category. Please forgive me. This series of notes is mainly

To record the summary, I will be very happy if you can help me read these articles. Let's get started.

(1) Installation 13 has always been a means for leaders to maintain their own authority, and pointing out the shortcomings or mistakes of subordinates is an opportunity to show their power.

When a boss does this, his real purpose is not to prove that his subordinates are wrong, but to prove that he is a leader. Subordinates

What we need to do is not fear, but cooperate with the performance of our superiors. For example, we intentionally leave aside some irrelevant problems for our superiors to point out.

======================"With deep feelings, the boss of my friends has this type. He is not very concerned about the specific work,

A lot of things are very imaginary (that is, some common theories in books), but in the face-to-face communication with subordinates, he

It is necessary for subordinates to actively explain their shortcomings and prepare for improvement. Of course, they never really recognize their subordinates because of their

He doesn't know how good others are. My friend initially did not know that he was of this type and thought he was always looking for something,

He never recognized his work. Now I finally know that his boss is not able to show his authority in terms of his ability to work,

This method is the only choice. No wonder other people who cooperate with the "performance supervisor" are more recognized by the boss. Hope that my friend will

He also needs to learn to cooperate with his boss for performances.

(2) Although a person has grown up, he may still be a child psychologically.


We don't want to look at a person as an adult, so we think he is "mature". He may be mature in the sense of mixed society, but psychologically,

It was still "fixed" at a certain stage of childhood. Some people even have lived for a lifetime and are a baby in the deepest psychological characteristics.


For example, some people seem to think that everyone owes him anything, and they should be angry if they don't give him anything.

Without growing up, this world is just like a world where he was taken shelter from his parents and wanted to get angry without giving anything.

===================="There are people around me who have been loved by their parents. Even though they are grown up, they also have children,

However, they still lack a sense of responsibility for their families.

(3) How can Feng Jie make great efforts and reap the fruits of a one-night burst victory in the fierce abuse of netizens? I don't need to introduce it again? Possible

I want to ask, if so many people scold Fengjie, is she still desperate to perform performances? Is her psychology so powerful? As you can imagine, the average person is early

It crashes and does not play. Didn't there ever be a predecessor who committed suicide in "awesome.

Wei wu's Feng Jie's mental magic is: Treat yourself as a role. During the performance, she not only acts as an actor, but also as an audience!

Feng Jie is not only her own audience, but also her audience. That is to say, during her performances, the audience who scold her also become

Actor, she turned herself into an audience and stayed in a hidden corner to enjoy their performances!

The success of Fengjie and Yigan's online talents lies in the fact that they have set up a bureau with their own performances to control the psychology of netizens.

To encourage everyone to scold them and show their superior intelligence, normal psychology, and lofty morality in front of their sisters.
In this way, Fengjie became an audience member who enjoyed the performances of netizens. How can the abuse of netizens cause damage to her?

Without an audience, the drama cannot be played. What is the greatest psychological blow to Fengjie? Is totally ignored! Because the more difficult a person is to have a situation

To show, the more he realizes his humble self.
Therefore, I would like to say that the masses of Internet users have a humanitarian spirit. It is necessary for Fengjie to thank them for their cooperation.

============================"It's amazing !! We only need to ignore this hype "!!

(4) Many people are busy and constantly doing this. In fact, in many cases, it is an excuse to escape from getting along with yourself. He is very

Fear and real self in the dark.

You are not looking at yourself, but others and society are looking at you with your eyes.

============================"It is easy for everyone to find the kind of idle person. Some of them have things to do, and

Sometimes, when you feel idle, you will lag behind others or escape the real self.

Most of the time, we have to wear masks to live. In the past few years, I have been familiar with

The lyrics "people wear fake Masks" are deeply touched. In the past, I insisted on being a real person and sincere to my friends and classmates,

They understand me and know that I have good capabilities. Many times they are not right, and they are very tolerant of me. Accessible to society, especially

In the workplace, everything has changed. At the beginning, they were not very familiar with this kind of social relationship. They were always thinking about it.

My own interests, my one acre of land, and I insist on the true results of myself-others do not understand and offend people ..

Now, I will wear masks and assume different roles in society. It is helpless and bitter, but it is not.

Do not select. Maybe this is the pain point of growth.

(5) I cannot help but ask how many people have had this experience: When you see your face or whole body in the mirror,

Suddenly, this idea occurs. Is this person in the mirror me? The face in the mirror, the meat, is it really mine?

Is that what I look like?

I mean, when you look in the mirror, do you suddenly become unfamiliar with the "self" that you are not familiar?

I would like to say that if you have never been unfamiliar, then you have become a stable slave in the false "self" slavery, your inner self

You didn't hear the sound, but if you realized it, but immediately killed it, you thought it was funny.

A lord who is used to selling himself out.

On the surface, looking in the mirror is just a kind of private behavior, but it is just looking at our face. However, it is wrong! Fundamentals

We are not looking at ourselves, but the eyes of others and society are looking at ourselves!

Psychologically, your face is totally a social face! The person who looks at this face is not really you, it's just someone else.

You and the social "agent" are "fake me ". You have no psychological connection with this face.

Therefore, if a person suddenly produces "is my face in the mirror really mine ?" So long

Just think about it, he will find that this face is completely a social prop, and he doesn't know it at all!

============================"I don't know if you have had such an experience of "looking in the mirror", but honestly, I don't have it .. But when I read

This section reminds me of the treasure in the mirror of westward journey, and also reminds me of some movies that explore the pursuit of life (

In that movie, the hero desperately pursues something, and finally finds that the most beautiful thing (affection or love) is his most

What you want, and what you want to do, is exactly the opposite of what you want in your heart. In the end, the hero has an epiphany ...).

I hope you can stop thinking about your life and look at yourself.