Economics in marriage and love-an encounter and impromptu answer on the train

When I was on a business trip to Shanghai last week, I took Mr. Xia yeliang's book what economics can do. A woman in the neighboring shop is about years old and has a good temperament. However, she is somewhat tired and is reading an article about the situation in the Taiwan Strait in the Global Times. On the way, exchange reading items and start talking about the situation in the Taiwan Strait. Yes? Yes and? Yes? Yes? I made some analysis from the perspective of economics, and the women felt that my analysis method had a different path and my conclusions were novel and unique. So I said, "I cannot think of economics as interesting! I wonder if I can explain my emotional problems? "The trip is cool, monotonous and sleepy. I heard a story about how to share it with others! "It should be okay, but you have to judge whether the conclusion is correct. "

As a result, an impromptu question and answer session on emotion, love, and marriage started. To facilitate reading, I numbered her questions one by one.

First, the girl introduced herself: "I am 28 years old. My boyfriend and I are classmates and graduated from Changchun Institute of Mechanical and Electrical Engineering. I came to Hangzhou with him a few years ago to find a job. I had a great job. I did not do a good job in a table factory. So I encouraged him to take a postgraduate entrance exam. After obtaining the examination, I offered him three years. I didn't think that he was about to graduate, but I proposed to break up. Later, I figured out that he talked about a girl who just graduated from college online. I am really miserable, but I did not expect my feelings and painstaking efforts to be lost for a few years)

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I. "I want to ask you why men are always so worried! Can economics explain this problem? "

"With the theory of economics, it is easy to explain this problem, that is, the decline of marginal utility. What is declining marginal utility? That is to say, the more you have, the less you will do. For example, if you are hungry, you can eat the first steamed stuffed bun, the second is fragrant, the third is good, the fourth is full, the fifth is not enough, and the sixth is annoying! That is to say, the sixth steamed stuffed bun has zero or even negative effects. Diminishing Marginal Utility is the principle of economics and one of the pillars of micro-economics. Due to the decline in marginal utility, from the perspective of current love, due to your long-term close contact, your utility is inferior to that of the girl on the Internet (I would like to say that you are the sixth steamed stuffed bun, the girl was the first steamed stuffed bun. However, she swallowed it up again ). This is why many men have beautiful wives, but they want to go to the coffee bar. "

Ii. "Since the decline in marginal utility is an ordinary principle, why are there few women? What I want to say is, why do I seldom hear about female stories? Assuming that the marginal utility decline is true, then women should constantly look for male out, but in fact there are few such stories)

The women seem a little unconvinced.

There should be as many men as flowers and women. A man with flowers and hearts must find a flowers and hearts woman. Let us assume that a man with a heart does not have a woman with a heart, so where will the man spend his heart? To be precise, there should be fewer women who are married! But this does not mean that the decline in marginal utility does not work for married women. A married woman may not have the idea of being more handsome, younger, richer, or male in her heart? However, they generally do not take flowers. here we can use the cost-benefit method of economics for analysis. "

"Cost-benefit methods? Calculate the profit margin of finished products like accounting? "Women have some doubts.

"In the assumption of economics, people are all rational, and people should consider the value in their minds when taking an action. If the benefit is higher than the cost, it is worth considering it. If the cost is higher than the benefit, it will not be done in any way! From our daily observations, we can see that the cost of married men is relatively low compared with that of married women. The maximum cost is a few small dollars, few wives are determined to divorce because of their husband's enthusiasm. The outside world may even envy him for his good fortune and ability. Even if you want to get a divorce, a man may be in a boat, maybe looking for a younger and more beautiful man! Assuming that a married woman has a plan to get out of the wall, she will definitely make a trade-off: Isn't it worth doing this? In general, once a married woman is found, the cost is very high. For most men (including those who are excited), divorce is an inevitable choice regardless of how they can't stand it. Divorce women are in the eyes of the world, reputation is definitely not good. If you want to find another target, it is difficult to find a man of the same age as yourself. Generally, you can only find a man who is much older than yourself, which is hard to accept psychologically; if it is a economically independent woman, her life after divorce lacks the economic source. She also cares about her children and adds a burden to her. It is precisely because the cost of the Married Women's apricot wall is much higher than the profit, so despite the fact that there is a reduction in marginal utility, they will still make a rational choice. There is a phenomenon that matches the rationality I have explained. You see, the two men looking for milk and lovers are mostly unmarried girls who are far away from their hometown. "

3. The woman looked angry: "But he is too unmoral! Before graduation, he used my food. Now he is about to graduate, but he broke up with me. Isn't it too cheap? If he broke up three years ago, I am not so sad. Now I am a man of wealth)

"Economics generally does not study morality, because morality requires the consideration of others, while the premise of economics emphasizes that people are selfish. If a person wants to spend money, be willing to fall into poverty, and be on the streets, this cannot be explained in economics. Maybe ethics, psychology, or philosophy can explain this problem. However, economics can explain why he didn't break up three years ago, but he insisted on breaking up after graduation)

The girl seemed to understand the location. Let me continue.

"Economics holds that under Constraints, people are pursuing the maximization of benefits. In college, you fell in love with us. At that time, life was almost carefree. Pursuing passion is the maximization of love interests. In three years of study, there was no passion between you, but at this time, his biggest interest is to get a diploma so that he can find a good job in the future. If he is disconnected from you, the economic source will be gone. How can he read the book? Now that he is about to start his internship, he is full of confidence in his future, not as eager as he was to wait for money, young and beautiful and passionate have become the maximization of his interests in love. "

4 ,"...... I just thought that if he could graduate from a graduate school, our family would be better off in the future. I didn't expect it to be empty now)

The woman sighed helplessly.

"This shows that you forgot a basic principle of economics before deciding to study for him. "

"What principles? "

"The higher the benefit, the higher the risk! You only saw the benefits for him after his graduation, but did not see the risks after his graduation. Generally, a higher benefit means a higher risk. If you find a rickshaw, there is basically no risk. He will not divorce you, or even be able to make your fortune, but his income is also very small. The family's economic source must be yours, if you bring out to socialize, you will also feel very shameless. If you find Li zekai and call him the supreme Wang laowu, the benefits will certainly be very high. For example, if you give you a money or a wedding, but the possibility of divorce may be! Because the scarce resources such as Li zekai are liked by every woman)

5. "Is there any way to control risks? "The woman eagerly asked.

"Wow, where can I get a marriage certificate! I personally think that marriage has little to do with the ideal love, 'Let's know what the love is, and teach people to live and live)

According to what everyone agrees, love means giving birth to him or her to death. That is to say, if he loves you and lives for him, it is worth it; if he does not love you, you will definitely leave him, because you live for him, is it more convenient without a marriage certificate! However, we need to design a marriage registration system. Why? In fact, a marriage certificate is the amulet of the weak in the marriage. If you have obtained a marriage certificate with him, it would be much easier for him to break up now, or the cost would be much greater. First, the Marriage Law stipulates that a spouse who is at fault in divorce must make economic compensation to the non-faulty party. Second, the husband and wife will face more criticism and psychological pressure from public opinions, his future image in society is a divorced man, which is always worse than an unmarried innocent teenager. Finally, if you have children, you will share the same interests, divorce means that he will give up his family. "

6. "I am afraid this method is too late)

... All my hopes are pinned on him. I didn't expect them to all fail. The bigger the hope, the bigger the disappointment! I feel the sky is falling)

Women are very emotional.

"The bigger the hope, the bigger the disappointment, is actually in line with the economics principle. Economics has a formula: Happiness = utility/expectation. In general, the same thing has a similar utility, but the higher the expectation, the less happiness. For example, assume that both me and my beggars have obtained 1 yuan. The role of 1 yuan is the same for both of them. For example, you can buy a bowl of white rice. However, my current expectation is to spend 0.1 million yuan for my vacation in Hawaii, USA. Divide 1 by 0.1 million. As a result, my happiness is one thousandth. The expectation of beggars is that I can eat a bowl of white rice today, 1 divided by 1, his happiness is 100%. You pin all your hopes on him, that is, the expectation is almost infinite, but now he wants to blow it to you. The effect is close to zero, the denominator is infinite, and the molecules are close to zero, of course there will be no happiness. Therefore, people with low expectations for their boyfriends do not suffer much when they break up. "

7. "What should I do now? "

"How do you feel about this? "

"Pain points)

"Then look for him again. Maybe there is something to save with emotion? "

"He is still hesitating, and his family is putting pressure on him, but I don't want to force him. If he barely marries me, he will not do well to me after marriage, isn't it more painful for me? "

"From the Perspective of economics, you should proceed. "

"Why? "

"If you have completed a design for your boss, the reward is 0.1 million yuan, but there are two payment options for you. One is to pay 0.1 million at a time, and the other is to pay 0.15 million for you, but it will take 15 years. Which one do you choose? "

The woman quickly replied, "I chose the first one. "

"Why? "I asked.

"Because there are too many uncertainties in the future, do you know if the money will be paid in a few years? Besides, at that time, the money was not worth any value)

"You're right! The current money is more valuable than the future money. In the same way, the current pain is more painful than the future. Because there are too many uncertainties in the future, and there may be no pain, which may be less painful than the present, but the current pain is real. In another step, even if you don't marry him, you can find someone who is absolutely sincere to you? After all, you two have a deep emotional foundation. It is a pity to give up. You may be married, especially if you have children, and you may be able to live a happy life! When you watch many TV movies, you have similar plots. When you get married, you may regret it and cut off the relationship. "

8. "What if I barely get married and he is not good to me after marriage? "

"Then we go back to the previous principle: the higher the benefit, the higher the risk. If you want to achieve high profits, you must face high risks. There cannot be two full solutions to this problem)

"I understand, I will not go down in Hangzhou. I will go directly to Shanghai to find him. "Women seem to be enlightened!

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