School Choice Record 1 (EXT)

[a sound] a School of choice

A mind of choosing school

The last day of September, the daughter one o'clock in the afternoon school. Almost still in the early morning, I and the children mother excited up, division of labor, let me early, never late to pick up daughter.

Between Flash, she has been staying at peace School for four weeks.

She never had a chance to go out alone, and she had no choice in school. August The last day, is her first day into the school, the first accommodation, mother of various cleaning up, countless exhort (several pounds heavy rol), all kinds of not rest assured. However, parents and students after listening to the headmaster's speech, noon parents and children separated, she disappeared. We looked everywhere in the dorm and classroom, and my mother was in a hurry. I said, the school management is so strict, she will not run out of school, what is your hurry? She's not answering the phone. Finally, we found the empty canteen, and finally, found the small auditorium. This only found that the girl has found a few friends, where the opening of the drama Club of the event! They're not wasting time at all. Most children have no experience in international courses, but they are just as comfortable as they are when they enter school.

We are at school, only to feel that the students here are very happy, their expression is very natural, very healthy. The children's expressions are much more vivid than the dull, uninteresting expressions of public schools.

By this time, we have been deeply regret: why did not want to send her here earlier?

Our daughter's own accommodation, we suddenly idle down. On the way home, we are going to hang out somewhere, but also drive to Xuhui Riverside walk. At that time, we thought, humanity, nature, is the best education. It is the best education for children to enjoy the school so simply and directly. If you give us another chance to choose, we will abandon the public schools in junior high school, directly into the school to read. Those detours are totally unworthy, and delaying the child, beating her self-confidence and undermining her personality.

Well, let's get to the point.

When you hear the IB International course, you'll probably have a lot of questions in your mind:

1. What is IB?

2. Why should I read IB?

3. What is the use of IB after?

4. Is our child suitable for reading IB?

And so on, and so forth.

In front of children's education, parents are basically completely irrational.

Originally, we do not have a high demand for children, there is no long-term planning. But we have not been optimistic and hopeful about China's examination-oriented education system. Seeing the child smart and lovable, once entered the school, a few years down will become dull, lifeless, the process of witnessing, will let every love the child's parents, are burning it inside.

A child, the result is not the first place nothing, no second is nothing, but become dull, lifeless, it is very problematic. Junior high school girls into adolescence, is in the life of the most beautiful, they should be beautiful, confident, cute, interesting, it should be happy, happy, happy. We are abroad, to see their middle school students, others do not say, is more than our high school students naturally generous. Just the big hot BBC documentary, Chinese teachers and British ordinary school students in a photo together, the expression is different. Our people, is deep behind enemy lines, the appearance of ferocious, the British middle school students are natural, relaxed, unrestrained. This is the different culture, the system in the context of different education, the difference brought to us. Education is a complete embodiment of the core value of a country.

I wrote an article years ago about the "materialization" of Chinese education from the classic metaphor of "gardener" and "flower". Then, I wrote a "materialization of Chinese language" to talk about the non-human problems of Chinese education. These problems, the pursuit of the foundation, Nature is the central embodiment of systemic problems, we can not shake-so many people put human nature and nature in the important position of parents, choose to flee. And, this is the international education and IB and other international courses in recent years, the real education background of hot.

Today's education has been completely homogenous and alienated, and our children have become slaves of numbers. If we look at education from the perspective of humanization and individuality, we will understand that the achievement of God's horse, the child almost in the middle upstream mixed on can be-according to daughter, our family, mother is genius, Father is Kaushin). I always think, although the child may not have a father and mother so strong, so sick (narcissism, hehe), but against a test, the college entrance Examination god Horse, should be completely. Do not say a piece of cake, always easy clearance wood has a problem.

I didn't think so! I didn't think so! I had no idea ... Our children in addition to English results can barely keep in the forefront of the grade, other subjects are not good. Under the precision guidance of Chinese teachers, she has no interest in writing, and has no inspiration at all, and Chinese results are floating in the middle.

Can not be ashamed to say that in the long-term effective reading accumulation of expression training, the daughter's ability to express, imagination, creativity are first-class, not to mention the general language teachers, even her father such "Daniel" is not an opponent. This summer, Sohu Education invited her and me to write a college entrance exam with the composition, we invariably, have written science fiction. She only spent one hours in the "spark", completely defeated "Daniel" father spent three hours written "an arrow to wear the heart". Her novel language is simple, quick, accurate, expressive, more than most of the domestic professional writers, and the kind of natural and romantic state, adults have long gone. She also in our persuasion to participate in Lu Xun Youth writing contest, won the National Junior High School grand prize. But, even so, her composition is not well written. Not the teacher said bad is not good, but we see also feel bad. The problem is, the middle school Chinese common kind of boring boring composition problem, who can write well?

Junior high School for more than three years, the child by a naïve lovely lively little girl, gradually become a repeatedly hit, stuffy silent, face rare smile, always sullen big girl. Should have been well-dressed, should have laughed, but wearing poor design, poor quality of school uniforms, listless head in the road to go home. Every day on the way home, tired exhausted, do not want to talk.

The only thing to be thankful for is that in other children of the same age weekend two days do not rest, continue to get up early in the morning to remedial classes, accelerated and so on to continue to cram, let the weekend road more congestion, because no missed classes (insist not to give children make up, this father and mother is Langzhong wonderful), the girl playing the piano, painting Reading a book, feeling quite free-the price of freedom is very heavy-in class grades stay in midstream, and there is a gradual decline in the trend, and was criticized by the teacher. Her classmates, classmates in the same class, classmates from the same school, the national peer classmates, where there is not every weekend to spend a large cost of running lessons? Therefore, her examination results can not enter the excellent ranks is also normal, people are money and mom and dad hard pile out of the results. Because of learning, she read reading, look at the film, English has been kept in the forefront of class and grade, and it is precisely because she has such a single door axe, "a recruit fresh, eat all day", for later we witted, think of high school after giving up the domestic college entrance examination, to read IB international courses to play a good foundation-all English- The English language requirements are relatively high, English good children more advantage. So, we suggest in advance here: English is not good enough for children, to appropriate classes, in addition, let children find English original book and the original film to see.

We are not parents who have long-term plans, and most of the more elaborate mom and dad can not compare. Originally, I think the education is the drift, not upstream, leave leeway, on the university's high school to continue to read good. In the future to test a Fudan, Jiaotong University, Tongji and so on can be, or test ecnu, Sisu, such as, so-so deal.

I always feel that a girl do not make so nervous, as long as healthy, happy, happy to grow up, beautiful, in the future to marry a good husband, on the line. Is it difficult for everyone to follow Mrs. Thatcher or Madame Curie in that position? This kind of education attitude is too tired and boring, not in line with our view of life.

In my opinion, life has its own taste of the different scenery, slowly to more natural, comfortable to enter the heart, each has a good. I wrote the article said that life is not a sprint, but a stroll, every corner of the curve, ups and downs, are worth appreciating. The fresh green buds of spring are good, and the yellow leaves of autumn are intoxicating. and children born and different, each has a special skill, should be treated differently. Some children exercise special skills, do not have to do homework brush questions every day, some children draw music expertise, do not have to rely on physics traveled the world. However, today's education model, basically put everyone in the physics pipeline, so that everyone has claustrophobic, everyone is squashed, so that everyone with a few gifted children panting behind, give you to add indescribable great pressure. Your grades are not good, you ranked back (although the school falsely said no rankings), you are lost inside, fear, your father and mother is not happy. Even our self-thought-out parents, all involuntarily fell into the "score" trap. Occasionally see a child's poor grades, will change his face. Though angry, the tone pretended to be gentle, the facial muscles were stiff. The child perspicacious, where to escape to take off her eyes? So a weekend that was supposed to be fun and enjoyable was gone again. Junior high School for more than three years, we basically did not travel abroad, even the mood of travel is not too. Elementary school, because the mood relaxed, and just had the opportunity, our family three leisurely swims the small half Europe--slowly, a little is not anxious to take the train, a city a city to walk. Sometimes the trains stop in the bushes and you get off and scare yourself: there is no station or even a decent platform, and the train seems to be parked directly in the wheat field. What a wonderful memory!

Just saw a TEDx 13-year-old boy speech, in the United States, his parents also took him out of school, because in school, people's education concept, is to let you study hard and grow up in the future to find a good job. But the 13-year-old boy said, I think, education should make us healthy and make us happy. And the Chinese education system is even more perverted. Nine years of the so-called "compulsory education", four years of junior high school let us eat all the pain, let us and children more and more unhappy-the child sullen, parents worried angry. To the second day, gradually feel wrong, the class of children, all the results are on the top, only we seem to step in place. People are social animals, a variety of different feelings, such as happiness, happiness, pain, depression, etc., are contrasted-each of us to see the children are baby, almost all are geniuses. But pull out to slip, with the same age of children a comparison, mentality is unbalanced. If a classmate in primary school piano on the exam 10, and now do not learn, but we do not take the test grade, but still practicing the piano. Physics these two, but also is dragged hind leg. A lot of class genius, do math problem seems to eat onion dip big sauce, is a mouthful of two not blink. Our daughter will not work, there is always a maths problem. We say, you take the initiative, do a few more exercises, ask the teacher more. But where does her peers come from? They are the devil training, every month each semester, almost nonstop into a variety of cram school, eat Shiquan da wan to learn. So ahead of learning, you do not participate in extracurricular classes, completely keep up.

As parents, we never think: learn so much "knowledge" what to do? Children do not need to be so hard to do boring machine, their future life will not need such a horrible training. Is it true that our parents are just trying to step down the other person? Like fleeing, countless people to the port to squeeze a ship, who do not heartless chop foot trample, he was left behind, even pushed down in the water. This fear, this backwardness will be beaten to instill, may be one of the reasons for our inner anxiety. But this is not in the war, not in the flight, this is a peaceful society, normal life, why can't we change the "wartime" mentality? What fear drives us to keep hack?

I have written an article called "Parents are sick", the body is sick, the heart is sick, and there is no medicine to save. This fear of mutual trampling is also one of the symptoms.

Children to the third day, the whole school atmosphere completely secretive, serious and horrible, from the university leadership to the class teacher, began to his innermost heart of hot lava, are sprayed to students and parents. Several times the parents will drive down, give us the feeling is: if you do not work hard, life will be finished. It was so serious that it was unexpected to us.

Our children's grades are not the first in the class, but they are always around the top 10. But because the grade has two essence class, the class student is Rulangshihu, the black wind double evil spirit examination good hand, their ordinary class's child compares, is very miserable. Her daughter ranked 60 in a test. It is said that only the top 20 will be able to enter the high middle of the university (a so-called city-key century-old school), like my daughter, can be the focus of the district thank goodness. Then another test, the small family scores have a great change: ranked in more than 70.

Although her English is good, but can not get the first place, and always because of careless lost points, the result is thousand years of the penis. However, physics compared with other ferocious rivals, the gap has been opened.

Now calmly thinking should understand that differences are natural. Some children have talent on the physics, they have good test results is normal-our children casually English can be the top, effortless Chinese is so simple beautiful, in the language she is gifted, the general child is difficult to reach her level. But this is not remedial can fill out, I this "Daniel" reading, writing training for 30 years, has been trying to reach her that state of expression, but do not--American educator, Master of Children's literature, Dr. Seuss said: "Adults are destroyed children, let them go to hell!" ”

In the language, the expression this aspect, must read more, thinks more, then presents the language, will be different. These are the extracurricular exercises do not come out. such as our full stocking, painting and playing the piano to write some of their favorite works, for the test is useless, in the strict Chinese-style test lack of competitiveness, but in life, in the cultivation of temperament, these useless things, may instead become a lifetime of the countless treasures.

This came to third day-year-old children under 15, life unexpectedly at this time into the white-hot state.

This society is all schizophrenic, we put our own anxiety and pressure, all transferred to the child. Like, the test set a lifetime, a mistake you will regret, irrevocable. It seems that you can not relax at all, lest the test lose points, a score of three or four points, life may be a distraction. This kind of appraisal mode is too cruel and ridiculous. However, the school is at this pace, the child must be so, parents have to adapt.

In the first half of the child's rise, we have been too busy to lose our senses.

The volcano will explode.

Third day first semester parents meeting, the teacher talked, parents look dignified. A child's mother, a university professor who feels good about himself, is being pushed to the point of pitiful. I feel pretty good children-before junior high school are seemingly genius-read 3.5 of the public junior high school, in the head teacher's eyes, seems to have become a fool. In the class, the whole year of those Rulangshihu genius contrast, the children's shoes is really ugly, his performance young, almost useless. That parent meeting, let the child mother completely lose self-esteem, she came home finally broke out, very angry. Our family never went to extracurricular cram school children's shoes, see finally reduced to the dust.

I don't know what to do at the moment.

Things connect with poetry, thanks to poetry and poetry gatherings.

In January of this year, I gave Zhang Wenja the Tiger Literature Prize, which was dragged for a good while, in recognition of his pure poetic spirit embodied in the book of books written to the body. The next morning gathering near Ecnu, we could not help talking about the imminent brutal examination, as well as our inner torment.

Wen-quality elder brother is a famous educator, speak that very authoritative. So, he said, let Xiao Jo go to the international course.

Jiandong, who is here, also said that Xiao Qiao is suitable for international courses.

They are looking at our daughter grew up, to her very understanding, know that we "procrastination", do not give children make up the parents, finally to eat to suffer, this just badaoxiangchu.

However, we are not familiar with international courses, where are we going?

IB courses are the two major universities, the peace and quiet. The always-Jiandong brother said.

Yes, peace is good. Brother Wen also said.

Then, we began to search on the mobile phone, this is aware of the international curriculum three systems, IB is the most extensive, while the Commonwealth countries are more recognized a-level--This course more famous schools, Guanghua Cambridge in the last two years of admission is very good. There are AP courses in the United States, Canadian CTC courses, we can't remember so much. Only know that IB is the most complete system of these courses, the world wide adaptability is also the most extensive.

Then search, a large pile of study abroad intermediary, international courses and other ads jumped out. We also know a lot of classes of schools, know that the high School of the IB courses are also very famous, this year the admission results are also good. We have no understanding of peace, but all kinds of evaluation on the Internet are good, it seems genius also a lot, let us see the jitters.

Later, in the online search for a long time, the schools to look at the chaos, confused.

Now it seems that even the slack accustomed to the people like me, can not pass the children's education. In order not to suffer, not affected, parents if the intention to let children go abroad to university (and without losing directly to foreign high school), it is best to second day before the child, it is necessary to consider the international curriculum before the problem, so that it will not be like us in the urgent cramming, anxious to get a forehead of water. You must not forget, tiger Teacher is still a "celebrity", in front of the entrance examination, in a test for a lifetime of this absurd examination system, tiger teacher so-called "celebrity" really fart use also did not. Unless the "Ping Xi King" is sent directly to the British aristocracy school, or when the tiger big ...

Words are not far away, the next time you talk about how to school, and the course of school to eat what medicine, and what kind of antidote, can save our poor parents.

First copped: We are not the beginning of the thought into peace, we searched for a few days, consulted a lot of people, not law, the scope of narrowing, a variety of courses targeted at two or three schools, ready to run a family. But because brother Wen and Jiandong brother suddenly descend to Earth, save me is equal to the fire and fire, our dumb future, suddenly steady.

If you want to know the funeral, please hurry to reward.

Wednesday, September 30, 2015 　　

Source: Tiger does not eat

School Choice Record 1 (EXT)