Why are nerd undesirable?

I feel that there are a lot of problems in school education. I thought it would be better if we had entered the information age in the 21st century, but it does not seem like this. With the development of the network, various bad thoughts are spread more quickly and the negative effects are even greater. I feel it is also necessary to publicize some good flashing ideas to resist the bad and rigid ideas.

The following is the first article from Paul Graham's Chinese version of hacker and painter, translated by Ruan Yifeng: why are nerd undesirable texts. We hope to inspire more people so that we can influence our future generations and make our society better.

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When I was in junior high school, Ricky and I drew a distribution chart of the dining table in the school cafeteria. Each table was labeled with a Popularity Index. This is not very difficult, because people who choose to sit together for dinner are often very close to each other. We divide all the tables from A to E into five. The person sitting at table A is not a member of the football team, but a member of the cheerleading team. The E table seems to have a slight Down's syndrome. At that time, we thought this symptom was "mentally retarded ".

Ricky and I sat at table D. In general, as long as your appearance is not trivial, this is the lowest grade Table you can get. We did not mean to be modest, but not to deceive ourselves. Because everyone in the school has an explicit level, we cannot lie to ourselves if we want.

I later met many people who were known as nerd when reading books. I found from them that "nerd" has a strong positive correlation with "high IQ. These students are not welcome in the middle school. The more you like reading, the more popular you are. Therefore, between "nerd" and "popular, there is a stronger negative correlation. In this case, "high IQ" seems to make you unpopular.

Why? If you are still in middle school, you will find the problem silly. The undisputed fact is that, in addition to such an accident, it seems hard to imagine what else can happen. However, there will indeed be different situations. For example, smart students are not crowded out in primary school. For example, after graduation, being smart is not a bad thing. And, as far as I know, in most countries, things are useless. It is only a headache to be a smart student in a typical American middle school. Your days will be tough. Why?

The key to solving this mystery is a different question. Why didn't smart children make themselves popular? If they are really smart, why can't they find any popular tricks? Why can't they achieve great success in standardized tests?

One idea is that other children are jealous of smart students, so smart students cannot be welcomed. I hope this explanation is correct. In retrospect, if someone in junior high school is jealous of me, they will have to spend a lot of effort to hide this jealousy. In addition, in any situation, if smart people make others jealous, it will attract girls. Because girls like boys jealous of other boys.

In my school, being smart is nothing at all. The students neither value it nor give up on it. If everything else is the same, everyone is willing to be smart because it is better than being stupid. However, in general, the weight of intelligence in everyone's mind is far less than that of appearance, charm, and athletic ability.

Therefore, if Intelligence itself has nothing to do with "popularity", why have smart children never been welcomed by their peers? In my opinion, the answer is that they really don't want to make themselves popular.

If someone tells me this answer, I will laugh at him. If you are not welcome at school, you will feel very sad in your days. Some people even commit suicide. So, if you tell me that I don't want to be popular myself, it's like you are saying that I'm thirsty in the desert, but I don't want to drink water. Don't make a mistake and make yourself more popular. This is what I want.

But in fact, I am not so eager for this. Another thing I want to pursue is smart. This not only means getting good grades at school (although it is important to some extent ). What I really want is to design amazing rockets, write beautiful articles, and understand programming principles. In a word, I want to do great things.

At that time, I never tried to classify and sort my dreams one by one. If I do, I will see that intelligence is at the top. If someone promises that I will become the most eye-catching student in the school in one fell swoop, at the cost of being mentally mediocre (please allow me to be arrogant here), I will never agree.

Although the "nerd" is suffering from unpopularity, most people do not want to give up "smart" to relieve the pain. For them, mediocre intelligence is intolerable. However, if you change to another child, the situation will be different. Most people will accept the deal. For many people, this is an opportunity to take the floor further. Even the top 20% students with intelligence (I assume that intelligence can be measured here, people at that time seem to believe this ), who wouldn't want to use 30 points for others' friendship and admiration?

The representative of the Renaissance, arberti, has a famous saying: "whether an art is important or not, if you want to excel in this field, you must devote yourself to it ." I would like to know whether there are more people in the world who are more tireless and more refined in terms of personal charm than American middle school students. In contrast, Navy SEALs members of the US Navy and hospitalized neurosurgery doctors have become lazy. They have at least holidays, and some even have hobbies. However, every minute while a teenager in the United States is awake, he is wondering how to become more popular, 365 days a year, every day.

I'm not saying these teenagers do this. Some people do. They become the right to seek home at a young age, but most people do not. What I really want to express here is that teenagers want to integrate into groups all the time.

For example, teenagers often pay close attention to costumes. They didn't mean to win the public, but they wanted to be nice. But who should I wear? It is nothing more than other children. Peer opinions have become the criteria for determining things. This is not only embodied in clothing, but also in almost everything they do. Even the walking posture is no exception. Therefore, any effort they make to "do everything right", whether intentionally or unintentionally, is actually equivalent to making themselves more popular.

The nerd did not realize this. They did not realize that "popular" requires so much effort. In general, for those highly difficult fields, only those in the field can realize that success needs to be paid without interruption (although not necessarily consciously. For example, most people seem to think that the painter is born like a tall painter. In fact, most "Drawing" people like painting and spend a lot of time, which is why they are good at painting. Similarly, it is not natural to be popular, but to be made by yourself.

The real reason that the nerd is not welcome is that they are thinking about other things. They focus on reading books or watching the world, rather than dressing and opening a party. They are like the first cup of water to play football, while playing football, while trying to keep the water from sprinkling out. Other people are playing football with a single mind. When encountering such an opponent, they can naturally beat it without any effort, and they are still wondering how the other party is so incompetent.

Even if the nerd is thinking about becoming as popular as other children, it is hard to do it. Because those popular children have been thinking about how to be popular since childhood and are pursuing this in their hearts. However, what the nerd was thinking from an early age was how to be smarter. These are all influenced by parents. Nerds are taught to pursue the correct answer, while popular children are taught to be likable.

So far, I have always treated "smart students" and "nerd" as synonyms, as if they can be used in other ways. In fact, this can only be used in the environment I mentioned above. The so-called "nerd" refers to the fact that this person's social skills are not strong enough. However, whether you need more "strong" social skills depends on your environment. In normal American schools, the standard of becoming a "strong person" is very high and scary (or at least very special), even if you are not a very "Stay" person, in contrast, it can only be regarded as a nerd.

There are only a few smart kids who can allocate enough thoughts to care about how to make themselves popular. They often happen to have handsome appearances, athletes, or high-profile siblings. Otherwise, you have no choice but to become a nerd. This is why smart children have the worst life experiences in their lives when they are young, for example, between 11 and 17 years old. This period of life is more affected by your popularity than any other period.

Before the age of 11, the life of a child is dominated by the parent, and the impact of other children is limited. The children do not care about the ideas of other students in primary school, but the latter has no decisive influence. After I graduated from elementary school, this situation began to change.

By the age of around 11, children gradually regard their family life as a common task. They opened up a new world among their companions and thought that the world was important. In fact, if they have conflicts with their parents at home, they can earn a face in that new world, and they really care more about that world.

However, the problem is that the world created by children itself is a very primitive world. If you listen to any group of 11-year-olds, the story "Lord of the Flies" will finally happen. Like many American children, I was asked to read this book at school. It may not be a coincidence that some people may want to share this with us. Our children are "barbarian" and the world we create ourselves is a cruel and stupid world. For me at the time, it was a little difficult to comprehend these meanings. Although this book is completely credible, I did not read the meaning behind the words at all. It was better for them to tell us that our children are "barbarian", and our world is foolish.

If you are not welcome, it just means you are not paying attention to it. You may feel that you can still endure it. Unfortunately, being unpopular at school is equivalent to being discriminated against and bullied.

Why are they discriminated against and bullied? All those who are still at school may once again think that someone might ask such a stupid question. How can there be other results. Generally, adults will not bully nerds. Why does a child do this?

Some of the reasons are that teenagers are not physically moved away from children, and many people treat others cruelly. They think it's just as fun to torture a nerd as pulling out a spider leg. Before a person has a conscience, torture is a kind of entertainment.

Another reason for the children to bully the nerd is to make themselves feel better. When you step on the water, you step on the water, your body will be held up. Similarly, in any social hierarchy, those who do not have confidence in themselves will highlight their identities by abusing the people in their eyes. I have realized that for this reason, white people at the bottom of American society are the most cruel groups to black people.

However, I think that the main reason why the children bully the nerd is that they are "welcome" in their spare time. How can we make him more popular? On the one hand, the personal charm knowledge is very small. You should consider more about how to form an alliance. The secret is constantly trying to make yourself more closely connected with other popular people. Nothing makes people more united than a common enemy.

This is like a politician who wants to make voters forget the bad domestic situation by finding an enemy for the country. Even if the enemy does not exist, he can create one. When a group of people get together, pick out a nerd and immediately bully him, they will connect each other. When we attack an outsider together, everyone becomes their own. This is why the worst events that depend on strong and weak are related to groups. Anyone looking for a nerd will tell you that the abuse of a group of people is much more cruel than that of a person.

If there is a bit of comfort, it is the nerd. Remember that this kind of abuse is not for the individual. A group of children are bullying you in groups, not because you have done something wrong, but because this group of people needs to find one thing to do together, this is like a group of people hunting in groups. They don't really hate you. They just need a common goal.

Because nerd is unpopular and at the bottom of the school, all the students regard it as a security target for bullying. If I remember correctly, the most popular children do not bully nerds. They do not need to step on nerds to raise themselves. Most of the bullying comes from the lower-level students who are anxious about the middle layer.

The trouble is that the number of such people is huge. The distribution of popular students is not pyramid-shaped, but is like an inverted pear, gradually narrowing the bottom. The number of the most undesirable users is quite small. (I believe that in the table distribution chart we draw, there is only one table where I am .) Therefore, there are more people who want to bully nerds than those who are bullied.

If you keep a distance from a child that is not welcome, you can add extra points. If you are closely related to the child, the score will be reduced for you. One of the women I know said that he liked nerd in high school, but was afraid to be seen talking to him because other girls would make fun of her. Not welcome is an infectious disease. Although a kind of child will not bully the nerd, it will still keep a distance from the nerd to protect himself.

No wonder Smart children tend to be unhappy when they are in school. They have other interests and have no extra energy to make themselves more popular. If you have something else, you will lose something in this place. Unpopularity makes the nerd the target of all attacks. Surprisingly, this nightmare is not from any premeditated malicious nature, but simply from this special environment.

The worst day for me is junior high school. The children's internal world has just been formed, and everything is harsh. The differences between smart children and ordinary children are gradually becoming apparent. Almost everyone I 've discussed agrees that the worst time in life is between 11 and 14.

In my school, in the eighth grade (that is, when I am 12 ~ The year when I was 13 years old, I had a sensation. When a teacher was waiting for a school bus, she was shocked to hear a group of girls talking about how a nerd was bullied. The next day, she made a sincere appeal to the class, please do not treat your classmates so cruelly.

Her appeal has not produced any practical results. At that time, what touched me most was that she was shocked by the incident. Does this mean that she has never heard of it before? Does she think it's abnormal?

That's right. Adults don't know what's happening inside the children. Recognizing this is important. In the abstract sense, adults know that children's behavior is sometimes extremely cruel, just as we know in the abstract sense that the lives of people in poor countries are extremely difficult. However, like everyone, adults do not like to hold on to this unpleasant fact. If you don't bury yourself in exploring, you won't find specific evidence, and you will always think This is abstract.

Teachers in public schools are like jailkeepers in prisons. The main concern of those who take care of the prison is that the prisoners are all in the places they should be. Then, let the prisoner have something to eat and do not fight or hurt as much as possible. In addition, they do not want to take a multi-pronged approach, and there is no need to look for trouble. So they let the prisoners form various small groups. According to the materials I read, the internal relations of prisoners are distorted, brutal, and pervasive. It is not fun to be at the bottom of this interpersonal relationship.

In general, my school is similar to the above mentioned prison. The most important thing the school attaches to is to keep students in their places. At the same time, let the students have something to eat and avoid public violence. The next step is to try to teach the students something. In addition, the school does not want to bother the students. Just like the jailer of a prison, the teachers are largely laissez-faire to their students. As a result, students develop a brutal internal culture like prisoners.

However, after leaving school, why can the real world treat nerd in a friendly way? The answer seems very simple, because it is a world of adults. They are all mature and will not pick out geeks to bully them. However, I don't think this is the main answer. Isn't the adults in the prison still arrogant? Obviously, this is also the case among the upper-layer ladies. In some parts of Manhattan, female interactions sound like the continuation of the high school age, and are also full of calculations and intrigue.

In my opinion, the key to the real world is not that it is made up of adults, but that its scale makes everything you do have a real effect. This is not possible for schools, prisons, and upper-class women's lunch meetings. Members on these occasions seem to be stuck in closed bubbles. What they do only has an impact on the inside of the bubble and has no influence on the outside. Naturally, these occasions will produce brutal practices. Because they do not have practical functions, they do not have to adopt the form.

When what you do can produce real results, it is not just fun. When you find the correct answer, it becomes important. This is the advantage of nerd. You can immediately think of Bill Gates. He is not good at communication, but he finds the correct answer, at least in terms of income.

The real world is characterized by its enormous size. If the population is large enough, even the minority with the least number of people, together, it can generate considerable strength. In the real world, nerd gathers in some places to form their own communities, where intellectual factors are the most important. Sometimes, this type of factor is even represented in the opposite form. Especially in the mathematics department of a university, the nerd may even exaggerate awkwardly to show his or her own cleverness. John Nash admired Norbert Vina and learned about it. He walked through the corridor with his hands on the wall.

When I was 13 years old, I knew everything about the world. I thought that all kinds of distorted events I experienced are the world. It seems like this is a cruel and boring world. I'm not sure which one is worse.

Because I am not doing well in this world, I think I must have done something wrong. I didn't realize that, as a nerd, I don't adapt to the surrounding environment. To some extent, it means that I am one step ahead. What the nerd is already thinking about is what the real world looks. Unlike others, they don't spend all their time playing a game that is exhausted but meaningless.

We feel a bit like an adult who has been re-inserted into middle school. He does not know what to wear, what music to listen to, or what to use. In the eyes of other children, he is like an alien. However, it is clear to adults that we do not have to care about what others think.

Many people seem to think that smart children should stay with "normal" children at this stage of their lives. Maybe. However, in at least some cases, the nerd feels that the real reason for his hardness is that others are crazy. I remember when I was in high school, I watched a sports conference in the gymnasium. When the cheerleading team threw the simulated photo of his opponent to the stands, the audience burst and tore him into fragments. I felt like an explorer who was witnessing some strange tribal ritual.

If I can go back to the past, I will provide some suggestions to me at the age of 13, mainly telling him to start watching the world. I didn't know this at that age, and the world around me was as fake as a cream sandwich cake. Not only is it a school, but the whole town is not like the real world. Why do people want to move to the suburbs? To raise the next generation! It's no wonder that suburban life is so boring and poor. The whole town is like a huge kindergarten. Everything is made consciously to educate the next generation.

As I grew up, I felt that the whole world was so big that you had nothing else to do. This is not surprising. The suburbs are designed to be isolated from the external world, so that children are not infected with harmful things from the outside world.

As for the school, it is nothing more than a barrier in a false environment. On the surface, the mission of the school is to educate children. In fact, the real purpose of the school is to keep all children in the same place so that adults can make up their hands during the day to finish the work. I have no opinion on this point. In a highly industrialized society, it is undoubtedly a disaster to allow children to run around without control.

What bothers me is not to keep my children in jail, but to (a) Not to tell them this, and (B) to teach most of the prison to prisoners for management. It takes six years for the children to get in and remember meaningless facts. They also need to be in a world managed by the four-legged little giants who only know that they are chasing an elliptical shape, the brown ball seems to be the most justified thing in the world. It's just like a surrealistic cocktail makeup party. If the child cuts down and trembling, they will be treated as geeks.

Living in this distorted world is not only a nerd, but also stressful for all children. Just like any war, the Shengli party has to pay the price.

Adults must inevitably see the children suffer. Why don't they do anything? Because they think it's adolescent. Adults say to themselves that the reason children are unhappy is that they have a lot of chemicals inside their bodies-hormones. Hormones run in the blood and make everything messy. The whole society has no problems at all. When the children get older, they will inevitably feel bad.

This view is everywhere, and even the children believe it. However, I believe this may not be helpful at all. You tell a person that his feet are inherently bad, and he cannot be prevented from doubting that he may have worn wrong shoes.

I don't quite believe this theory. Why do I say that 13-year-olds have problems. If this is a physiological problem with excessive hormones, it should be widespread. But is it true that the nomadic people in Mongolia are so empty when they are 13 years old? I have read a lot of historical materials and cannot find any historical facts earlier than the 20th century to support this theory. Many young apprentices in the Renaissance seem to have a great time and investment. Of course, they also have battles and conspiracy tricks between each other (Kiki was interrupted by other children when he was a child), but they are not crazy.

As far as I know, the theory that teenagers behave abnormally due to hormones is in sync with the process of migrating the American middle class to the suburbs. I don't think it's a coincidence that teenagers are forced to live such a life, and they are forced to go crazy. The apprenticeship in the Renaissance was a cow all day long, and today's teenagers are nervous and playful pub dogs. Their madness stems from the terrible boredom everywhere.

When I was in middle school, suicide was an eternal topic among smart students. Although no one of the people I knew really committed suicide, many people had such ideas, some of them may have tried it. For most people, suicide is just a gesture. Like other teenagers, we all like dramatic results, and suicide seems very dramatic. But there are also some reasons because our life is really miserable.

Being bullied by other children is only part of the problem. There are other problems, or even worse. That is, we don't get real work, and we don't have to make full use of our talents. Humans like to work. In most parts of the world, your job is your proof of identity. However, all the things we did at that time were meaningless at all, at least at that time it seemed like this.

In the best case, those things are just practical exercises we may do in the distant future. His goal was so far away that we didn't know what we were doing. More often, these things are just a series of random ropes, and you are asked to jump one by one. All the texts you encounter in your study are designed for the examination purpose, rather than to clarify the question. (The three main reasons for the civil war are as follows .)

In addition, there is no way to avoid those things. Adults have reached a consensus that this is the way to university. The only way to escape from this emptiness is to give in to it.

In the past, teenagers played a more active role. Before the age of industrialization, teenagers were apprentices in some form, either in a workshop or in a village or even a warship. They will not be thrown aside to create their own small society. They are low-level members of adult society.

In the past, teenagers seemed to respect adults more, because adults are visible experts who will teach them the skills they want to learn. Most teenagers today have almost no idea about what their parents are doing in a distant office. They do not see the relationship between their homework and the work they will do after they enter the community (in fact, there is still a little bit of contact ).

If teenagers and adults are respected, adults will also accept teenagers more. After several years of training, apprentices can assume more important responsibilities. Even new apprentices can send or clean the site.

Today's adults do not accept teenagers. In general, they all work in the office, so they are on their way to work and take their children to school to close them. It is a bit like they send the dog to the place of foster care when they go out for a holiday on weekends.

At the same time, what changes have taken place in society? We are forced to face a more serious problem. It shares a common cause with many other current challenges, namely specialization ). When our job becomes more professional, we have to take longer training. Before the age of industrialization, children would be about 14 years old at most, and if they were working in farms (when most people were living in rural areas), they would have been working earlier. Now, as long as a teenager is in college, he will not start to work full-time until he is 21 or 22 years old. If you have a higher degree, such as a doctor of medicine or a doctor of philosophy, you may have to wait until the age of 30 to complete your studies.

Today's teenagers are useless in their production activities. They can only act as cheap labor in places such as fast food restaurants, and fast food restaurants also see that they have made full use of this fact. For almost all other industries, teenagers will suffer net losses. However, they are too young to be left alone. They must be watched. The most effective solution is to put them in one place and use several adult detention centers for children.

If things only develop to this step, we are describing a prison. The only difference is that the prison is not full-time. The problem is that many schools actually stay at this step. The school's mission is said to be to educate children, but there is no external pressure to supervise them to do it well. Therefore, the quality of teaching in most schools is very poor. Children do not take learning seriously, even those who study hard. In many cases, all of us, including students and teachers, are just doing what they do.

When I was attending a French class in college, I read Hugo's novel "miserable world". In my opinion, it is impossible for students to have a high level of French that they can understand. So, like other people in the class, I read the cliff's notes guide. Later, my school gave a quiz specifically on "miserable world". I found that all the problems were strange. There were long words everywhere. I never used these words in class. Where did these questions come from? It was also from Cliff's notes. Teachers are also using this book, and we are both perfunctory.

Public schools must also have excellent teachers. When I was in the fourth grade, I met mihalko as an energetic and imaginative teacher. He made the school year so memorable that his students were still talking about the past thirty years later. However, a teacher like him is only an individual phenomenon and cannot change the entire system.

Almost all groups have hierarchical relationships. Generally, a group formed by adults in the real world has a common goal. The leaders of a group are usually the ones who are best at achieving the goal. Schools are different. In most cases, the groups formed by students do not share a common goal. However, the level relationship will not be absent, so the level of the child is created out of thin air.

We have a special phrase to describe this situation, that is, the situation of ranking without any serious standards. We will say that the situation "goes back to the race" (degenerates into a popularity contest ). This is exactly what happened in most American schools. A person's ranking is not based on his true ability, but mainly on his ranking ability. This is like Louis 14th's court. Without external opponents, the children treat each other as opponents.

If there is an external test of real capabilities, it will not be so painful to stay at the bottom of the level relationship. New players in the team will not hate the old players and hope they can do the same one day, so we are glad to have the opportunity to ask for advice from the old players. Old players may also generate Noblesse oblige ). Most importantly, the status of old players is achieved through their excellent capabilities, rather than by crowding out others.

The hierarchical relationship in the Court is completely another matter. This type of group degrades the personality of every member. The bottom-layer members have no respect for the upper-layer members, and the upper-layer members have no sense of honor. Everything here is the relationship between killing and being killed.

This is the society in which American middle school students interact. In addition to gathering children in a certain place every day and shutting down for a few hours, the school has no real purpose, so it is natural for students to form such a relationship. I didn't realize that it was not long ago that I suddenly realized that the two major terror aspects of campus life-cruel and boring-are also for the same reason.

The mediocrity of American public schools is not only to make students spend the unhappy six years, but also has serious consequences. This mediocrity directly leads to the rebellious mentality of students and keeps them away from things they should learn.

Many nerd may be like me and will not go to specified books in middle school until I have graduated from high school for many years. However, I miss more than just a few books. I sneer at many good words, such as "personality" and "integrity", because adults belittle these words. In their mouths, these words seem to all share the same meaning-"Obedient ". Some children are praised for their so-called "personality" and "integrity", but they do not stay as stupid as they are, or as a brainless blow. If "personality" and "integrity" are like this, I would rather not like them.

One of the most misunderstood words is tact ). When an adult uses this word, the meaning seems to be "Close your mouth and don't talk ". I think it has the same roots as tacit and taciturn, which literally means quiet. I swear to myself that I should never be a "old man". No one can close my mouth. But in fact, the root word "tactile" is the same, and he really means skillful touch. The opposite of "Old Cheng" is "clumsy" (clumsy ). After entering college, I understood the word.

In this fierce competition, nerd is not the only loser. They are not welcome because they are distracted to do other things. Some children give up on their own because they are disgusted with the process.

Teenagers do not like to be alone, even if they are rebellious. Therefore, when they choose to exit the system, a group of people usually exit together. In my school, the main focus of rebellious psychology is drug use, especially marijuana. These children wore black concert T-shirts, known as freak ).

Geeks and geeks belong to the same alliance, and there are many similarities between them. Although it is a very important value (or at least it seems) in the geeks, on the whole, geeks are still smarter than other children. I personally belong to the nerd camp, but I have many geeks.

Geeks use drugs to build social ties between them, at least in the first place. Because drugs are illegal, using them together creates a sign of mutual rebellion.

I am not saying that poor school education is the only reason why children use drugs. As long as you have touched a drug, it will push your behavior on your own after a while. There is no doubt that the root cause of drug use by some geeks is to escape other problems, such as family problems. However, at least in my school, most children use drugs mainly because of rebellion. 14-year-old children started smoking marijuana not because they heard it was helpful to forget their troubles, but because they wanted to join a different group.

Improper control leads to rebellion, which is nothing new. Even if drugs are the source of trouble, the school itself cannot shirk its primary responsibility.

The real problem of campus life is emptiness. This problem cannot be solved unless adults are aware of it. Adults who may be aware of this problem are those who are nerd at school. Do you want your child to be as unhappy as you are in the eighth grade? I don't want. Well, what can we do? Yes. Nothing in the current system is inevitable. It looks like this, mostly because no one changes it.

You may say that adults are very busy. Watching the children's performances in school is one thing, and it is another thing to start to reform the education system. Only a few people may focus on reform. I think the most difficult part is whether you can realize what you should do.

The nerd still reading at school should not hold his breath and wait for the heavily armed adults to take a helicopter one day to save you. There may be such a day, but it will certainly not come soon. Any immediate changes to life may come from the nerd's own.

Even if you can't change anything, but simply understanding your situation can reduce the pain. Nerd is not a loser. They are only playing a different game, a game closer to the real world. Adults understand this. Almost all successful adults claim to be a nerd in high school.

It is also important for a nerd to realize that school is not all about life. The school is a very strange, artificially designed system, half like a sterile room, half like a wild land. It is like life, and it is nothing in it, but it is not the truth of things. It is only a temporary process. As long as you look forward, you can surpass it, even if you are still in it.

If you think your life is terrible, it's not because of hormone secretion imbalance in your body (your parents believe this), or because your life is really bad (you personally believe this ). That's because you no longer have economic value for adults (compared with the previous period in industrial society), so they leave you in school for years, and there is no real thing to do. Any organization of this type is a terrible living environment. You don't have to look for other reasons to explain why teenagers are unhappy.

I have made some harsh comments in this article, but I am optimistic about the future. We believe that the problems that cannot be solved can actually be completely solved. Teenagers are neither animals that flood Nor are naturally unhappy. This should be encouraging news for teenagers and adults.

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