For happiness, some thoughts on happiness

Where is happiness? Where is happiness? Friend I tell you, it is not in the shade of willow is not in the greenhouse, it in hard work, it in the hard labor, ah happiness in your crystal sweat ...

About happiness, I first thought of this nursery song. Happiness seems to be a hunger for everyone, and it seems to be not.

Or from my experience, 10 years ago, I was very bad temper, often out of control, seems to the world is full of inexplicable dissatisfaction, and this world is full of hostility to me, so live in a conflict of the world, one day I suddenly think of their own experience of these things, carefully think about every thing to make oneself angry, There is no reason for me to be angry, happiness for me is a piece of white paper, but not on the road of happiness on the journey.

This is the life I want, why I become so not pleasing, why my temper so bad, the mood is not control ..., happiness has been unable to infiltrate my life?

To these reflections, I decided to change, how to change, first change themselves, because I know that people are the product of nature, the objective world can not change, want to get happiness, first change themselves, change the heart, because change oneself, must understand oneself, deep inside.

So, I accepted the purple hand ring movement. Because I saw a book called "No complaining about the world", this book changed my life, its methods accord with the psychology of cognition, 21 days can change a person's habits. The method is for each participant to wear a special purple bracelet, so long as one perceives himself complaining, the bracelet is swapped to the other hand, and so on until the bracelet lasts for 21 days on the same hand.

Well, from the rules, it seems easy to do, but I tell you it's hard, I just started to practice, not even a day, to face full of ridicule of colleagues, harsh bosses, pressure mountain work (all their own psychology in trouble), I unexpectedly found every more than 10 minutes will produce a complaint, this discovery surprised me , needless to complain so much, I actually live in such a complaining world, they also live in this complaining world, it seems that we are very sick, so there is such a recognition, and then hard, and we have to persist.

In this way, from the beginning of the insistence will not be a few 10 minutes, and then to adhere to a day, then to adhere to a week, and repeatedly, a period of time seems to be a bottleneck, do not complain difficult, until after six months, only to break the curse of a week, and then the longest time unexpectedly have six months do not complain.

In this way, after three years of persistence, I finally achieved the first starting point for happiness, first of all live a life without complaining. What does a life without complaining bring to me?

Do not complain of life, so that my life full of sunshine, so I am very optimistic, frankly accept self, face life. It makes me think that each of us is an energy field, according to the law of conservation of energy: when we send a positive energy to the world, the world is bound to respond to us with positive energy, we receive the inevitable positive optimism, happiness, our life will be full of sunshine , when we send a negative energy to the world, we will receive negative pessimism, bitter cold, and our lives will be shrouded in darkness.

The same is true of our fate, in what kind of signals we send to the world and what kind of energy we have.

With regard to fate, there is a saying: a kind of thought, harvest an action, a kind of action, harvest a habit, a habit, harvest a quality, a kind of quality, harvest a destiny! This is fate, from constant change to the beginning.

If only to this step, only from the thought and behavior of happiness has a certain understanding, for me for the pace of exploration of happiness, still far from rest.

Interest, I later experienced the "positive psychology", Harvard Psychology, so that their understanding of the happiness of a step forward.

Through constant thinking and summing-up, I understand what is the knowledge of inner and happiness, movement, meditation, breathing, sleep, and touch, is a good recipe for maintaining physical and mental health. Happiness teaches us some useful knowledge that seems common sense, but is well known to others.

For a long time, especially without contact with happiness, I had to be calm, unhappy, and not understanding the meaning of happiness.

I now believe that happiness is the only measure of life and the ultimate goal of all goals. When people measure business achievement, the standard is money. With money to assess assets and debts, profits and losses, all that is not related to it is not taken into account, and money is the highest wealth. But I think that life, like business, also has profits and losses. That is, health, body, mind, and spirit as well as my money, the more you invest, the more you will get.

Specifically, when you look at your life, you can think of negative emotions as spending and positive emotions as income. When there is more positive emotion than negative emotions, we win on happiness, the ' highest wealth '. Long-term depression can be seen as an ' emotional bankruptcy '. Society as a whole can also face this problem, if the problem of individual is growing, the problem of anxiety and pressure is more and more, the society is going to the Great Depression of happiness.

So what do I think about the happiness study? People's well-being depends on 3 factors: genetic genes, the environmental factors associated with happiness, and the actions that can help us get happiness. Positive psychology can help people live happier and fuller lives. Happiness can be obtained by learning and practicing.
 
Well, specifically, I think the following points are what I get:
 
1. Follow your heart's passion. Choose a class that makes sense to you and that will make you happy, not just to pick a class for a, or to pick a class from your friend, or the class that someone thinks you should take.
 
2. Spend more with your friends. Do not be burdened by daily work, intimate interpersonal relationships, is your sense of happiness signal, most likely to bring you happiness.
 
3. Learn to fail. There is no shortcut to success, and historically successful people have always dared to act and often fail. Don't let fear of failure trap you in the footsteps of trying new things.
 
4. Accept that you are completely human. Disappointment, upset, sadness are part of human nature. Accept these and treat them as natural things and allow yourself to be lost and sad occasionally. Then ask yourself what you can do to make yourself feel better.
 
5. Simplify your life. More does not always mean better, more good, not necessarily advantageous. Have you chosen too many classes? Have you participated in too many activities? should be refined and not more.
 
6. Exercise regularly. Sport is one of the most important things in your life. As long as 3 times a week, only 30 minutes each time, can greatly improve your physical and mental health.
 
7. Sleep. Although sometimes "overnight" is unavoidable, 7 hours a day-9 hours of sleep is a great investment. In this way, you will be more efficient, more creative and happier when you are awake.
 
8. Generosity. Now, you may not have much money in your wallet and you don't have much time, but that doesn't mean you can't help people. "Giving" and "accepting" are two aspects of one thing. When we help others, we also help ourselves, and when we help ourselves, we are indirectly helping others.
 
9. Brave. Courage is not not fear, but fear, still forward.
 
10. Express Gratitude. In life, don't take it for granted that your family, friends, health, education, and so on. It's all a memorable gift for you. Record others ' little favors and always be thankful, every day or at least once a week, and write them down.

Write here, I think of Cologne in the Sword of the three young master, expressed the view that happiness must first follow their own heart. More than once in his work, he raised the question of our lives: if we only had a few years to live, would we be willing to do what we are most interested in? This is indeed a sobering question, and if we are able to ask ourselves so often, I think many problems will be solved, and there will be a sober understanding of all kinds of disputes and wrong. However, because we are not free, perhaps in my life can not achieve the life I really want, I think of this problem, my heart is sentimental. In fact, in my short life course, I also think that experienced some so-called suffering experience, from the naïve to the so-called mature, but for a man's life of the great-looking scroll, my experience is really insignificant, and now it seems, it is only juvenile "youth do not know the taste of sorrow, for the new word Strong said sorrow "A unique season. And today, I face the choice of life, is to move forward or retreat, unexpectedly in a thought between, the reality of the haze has also made me pessimistic depression, frustration, and even produced the idea of abandonment, but the book saved me, in the days of blood flow, I read from the Book of Human Common sorrow and some great characters experienced all kinds of suffering, So in the eyes of hard times, I learned a great deal of spiritual strength. In the face of some of life's disappointments, I always strong heart, firm belief, always optimistic about the character face the bleak life, until my world appeared a touch of blue. As sung in a song: "Do not experience the wind and rain, how to meet the rainbow, no one can casually succeed ..." the truth, in fact, the predecessors have already given me frankly face the secret of life, success itself is a pioneering and innovative adventure, its process must be pregnant with pain and even suffering, said really I am too tired, And through yesterday's struggle, I still is a loser, no matter what I have paid a sweat, but the ending is cruel, it does not need you for any reason. But I do not regret, because I have acted, I know my real strength, I have a deeper understanding of myself, it is often more difficult to know oneself than to know others. So, I am calm. After the start of the thought tool, I again with a more enthusiastic and optimistic attitude on the stage of life, staged a scene of unknown or tragic or beautiful repertoire, because I firmly believe that it is because of my life will be more brilliant. That year, I was only 21 years old, wrote the above words.

Later, he came into contact with the works of Mr. Lin Yutang. He explained to us such a truth: appreciation and integration into nature, intoxicated and bathed in ancient and modern beautiful culture, affirmation of their own, only as an individual responsible for themselves, and to reflect self-worth, to find their own source of happiness, this is a natural philosophy of life home. To my understanding, is: optimistic and persistent pursuit of their dreams, and enjoy the breeding of all the numerous.

"Let me be friends with the trees and the soil, and I feel satisfied." My soul is very comfortable in the mud, and feel happy. When a person is leisurely intoxicated with the land, his mind seems so relaxed, as if in heaven. In fact, this reminds me of a popular ancient poem in Western society, "I come from the dust, I end up in the dust", also like the Crescent School poets Xu Great poet once wrote this line: "I gently go, as I gently come", it is the journey between and go, is the life of nostalgia, life's history. So, we should also be a part of nature, we should be like fish in the water, meet the cold slippery waves, rippling mood, free cruising, like a bird flying in the blue sky, with the cloud for friends, to do the banner of the sky ... With such a wealth of imagination, we can abandon the so-called nobility and self-esteem as human beings, truly become friends of nature, truly appreciate and marvel at the magic and beauty of all kinds of nature. We are sometimes a fish, sometimes a cloud, sometimes a stone, sometimes a grass, as long as we are willing, we want to be what, is what. So in ancient and modern literature classics, have "Zhuang Zhou Dream Butterfly", have "Tao Qian Forget Chrysanthemum", xianyunyehe of the immortal and fog haze and landscape integration of literati, this is really treat inner good law. Just "As long as you do not interfere with others, what I want to do" is extremely wrong, at least we do not realize the existence of nature, in your eyes only people, and no natural position, such people their pursuit of selfish desires, will make them fall into the abyss of pain, as Napoleon said: I did not really happy day. Perhaps in the pursuit of selfish desires, they may seem very free and easy, but their inner empty is obvious.

Visible, happiness and happiness everywhere, the key lies in our serious to experience, serious to the sentiment, serious to shishi. The Ming Jin Shengtan "32 not too fast", in our view, but also is nothing but a few trivial things, but it will be the happiest thing in life, and record down, consolation, and another shake people's mind is the disabled Helen's "If I can light three days", all kinds of ordinary people experience the common, In her eyes is how remote, visible happiness for different people, is different, and each person felt the depth is also different, but only adjust their own mentality, calm calmly, smile will always emerge in our face.

"To being or not to being is a question", each person's life is different, how to choose their own life, accept themselves, how to live their own happy life, that only we rely on their own.

This is what I understand the path of happiness: dissatisfaction with the status quo, positive reflection, natural acceptance, frankly happy, resolutely forward. Also is the so-called, see Mountains, see Mountains, and see Mountains, mountains unchanged, the heart has changed the process.

For happiness, some thoughts on happiness