Foreigners look at Chinese men: Why are they beautiful?

Foreigners look at Chinese men: Why are they beautiful?

Some Chinese friends often ask me, "Why do you foreigners like Chinese girlfriends who are not very beautiful ?" Of course, I also heard people say with a joke: "Chinese girls who are not beautiful don't have to worry about getting married. They can marry foreigners !"

When I hear this, I feel a little unhappy: Is it true that Western men have no vision? In fact, we don't see wrinkles and spots on Chinese women's faces, but many people can go beyond what they look like to discover a person's inner world. In my opinion, the mate selection criteria of most Chinese men are nothing more than: Pretty.

When we bring the pretty girl we catch to everyone, it's like showing off your own Mercedes-Benz.

My long-term experience in China tells me that Chinese men are "eager to seek beauty ". In history, there have been very few heroes who have achieved the beauty mark, and many men have suffered misfortune because they are fascinated by beautiful people. In modern society, there are still many Chinese men who inherit the "aspirations" of their ancestors ".

Chinese men attach importance to the appearance of their other half, which is directly related to the face of Chinese people. When he is proud to bring the beautiful woman to the crowd, his vanity will be unprecedentedly satisfied. In fact, this is also a demonstration of his ability to survive and compete, just as he shows off his Mercedes-Benz or garden house to others.

Chinese men like to list "achievements" on the wedding notice"

French men also like beautiful women. However, when talking about the beauty of women, the French will clearly distinguish the two concepts "beautiful" and "beautiful. Some girls are young, lively, and well-formed, but their brains are empty. Such women can only get the title of "beautiful" at most. On the contrary, some women do not have a good position in length and facial features, and they are not very well dressed. However, they present an irresistible charm and temperament, this way, women will be called "beauty" by French men ".

In contrast, Chinese men pay more attention to beautiful appearances. I have heard many people talk about their mate selection criteria. The first condition is that they must be beautiful. Foreign Men certainly do not want to marry ugly people to go home, but in contrast, they pay more attention to the impact of the mind and the communication of ideas. Therefore, foreign men often give a detailed description of their interests, including what books they like to read, what TV programs they enjoy at ordinary times, and what sports they love. Open a newspaper and look at Chinese men's wedding notices. the above lists their "achievements". The most important thing is his financial status, degree, and several-bedroom house.

Chinese men do not need to communicate with their thoughts, but they prefer to communicate with same-sex friends, while women often only have to listen to their jokes. Chinese men are very fond of Women's worship, especially those who are better than themselves. Once so, they are called "female ". In film and TV works, the "female" image is often not very good. In fact, this is a manifestation of inequality between men and women. Sometimes I really don't understand why "strong male" in the TV series is always successful and favored by women?

Chinese men are especially concerned about women's age

In addition to appearance, another important criterion for Chinese male mate selection is age. When you open a newspaper and turn on TV, you will find that, without exception, the person asks the woman to be younger than himself. A man aged 20-30 generally asks the other person to be 1-5 years younger than him, A 30-40-year-old man asks the other man to be 5-15 years old. A 40-year-old man can only find his wife in his daughter or granddaughter. Foreign men also pay attention to women's age. Otherwise, communication may fail. However, they do not require women to be younger than themselves. Therefore, the age group they give in the wedding notice is usually their own age plus or minus 5 years.

A few years ago, I read an article saying that a 34-year-old Chinese Mainland student met a 25-year-old American guy. When she proposed to her, she could not believe her ears, because it was almost unimaginable in China. Now, there is a new saying about this kind of male and female affair in China, such as "sister-in-law" or "old-and-Young ". This is nice to hear. If you are not nice, you can say that a man must have a "Love Affair". A woman is "old ox eats tender grass ". In contrast, old wives are often well-known in China.

Many young women use appearance as a bargaining chip for marriage

The appearance of Chinese male's mate selection concept is not accidental, but has a profound social foundation. In the big aspect, it is China's deep-rooted feudal ideology for thousands of years. In the small aspect, it is also because many Chinese women have not yet established the idea of being at the same level as men.

I have observed that quite a few young women in China treat their looks as bargaining chips for men. They pay much attention to their appearances far beyond that of European women. When I first arrived in China, this phenomenon was really unexpected. Although Shanghai's living standard is relatively high in China, it cannot be compared with France after all. Many young women in Chinese cities do not have to afford or make up for money to buy clothes, cosmetics, or entertainment. Although the prices of imported clothing and beauty products in China are two or three times higher than those in foreign countries, they are not blinking at the purchase. Of course, Chinese women do not have a reward for doing so. They clearly know that the more beautiful they are, the more likely they will be to catch a golden turtle.

It can be seen that many Chinese young women have some deviations in their mate selection standards. They often want to make their lives better through marriage rather than individual efforts. It is hard for me to accept this. Maybe I am too conservative, right? I always think that when two people form a husband and wife, love should be a top priority. But then again, does their spouse's view just cater to the psychology of many Chinese men looking for beautiful wives?