From programmers to project managers-sandwich cookies

(In the morning, KFC, again, come on, bro)


In the book, Mr. Yin said that the project manager is angry with both sides and faces the following brothers. In the face of leadership and customers, you represent many people, that is, they do not represent themselves.


This reminds me of Zheng Zhihua's song: "You have forgotten your name." No, at any time, someone mentions you, they are all XX Project Managers of XX Company. You really don't have your own name. All the purposes of the play are to achieve a play, and all the purposes of the project manager are to achieve a project. For the success of the project, the hard soft, the bright dark, the upright twists and turns, you do everything, you do not have yourself, you really forget me, because the success of the project will prove everything, the failure of the project denies everything.


But Teacher Ma Zhe said that everything has two sides. If everything has a bad side, there will be a good side. This is not an ideal. This is a material, is in line with objective rules.


No one, like your project manager, has a very clear goal at the moment of getting a project. You have no confusion, no retreat, and you have to go all the way forward, after you finish the project and make it successful, you are more fortunate than many people. You need to know that many people fly around and keep hitting the wall all day long, just like the masked flies, there is no direction at all. Once a project is established, it is like a war. As a company commander, you (the position of Project Manager is so low, there is no way to do it, and the team lead cannot do it ), all purpose is to make the best use of the soldiers in your hands, and exert the power and wisdom of war to the limit. You can do your best and work with one mind. At this time, forgetting myself is no longer a disadvantage, it is an honor. Everything is for victory.


In addition to forgetting myself, the project manager is angry with both sides and is also a two-sided toothpaste. If it is bad, it is good.


When talking about the two sides, the best example is not the project manager, but the husband and daughter-in-law conflicts with the wife and mother-in-law, the poems of Peacock Flying southeast tell us a tragedy that does not deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As a result, they both "self-built southeast branches". Men are angry at both ends. Since ancient times, they have been project managers, A man has an advantage and is familiar with it.


Dealing with relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more complicated than dealing with the relationship between leaders and subordinate employees, because when dealing with leaders, you are so amazing that you have shot a table with the leaders, and I am afraid of a bird, in terms of treating employees, you have to throw a big knife, get fired, get fired, do not face, do not prestige, and suddenly go out. But you don't dare to beat your mom or wife. You need to know that a woman is more decisive than a man. Even if you have a face fight with your mom and your wife throws the table, you are the only one who takes the initiative to identify the mistake. It must be you, because you are a man.


So we have a better balance between the two sides. We say that everything is done first, so if we say this, our project manager's complaints will be halved, after all, the project manager is still angry in a weak collection.


Is there any solution to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? After two thousand years, there are very few cases of successful solutions. Marx told us that the contradiction is permanent, the same is true for superiors and subordinates. Diamond has a long history and never changed. What the boss wants and what the employees want is fundamentally a conflict. Therefore, do not look at building a harmonious society, we acknowledge the contradiction, face it, and find a solution. This is the right path.


If the spear is so powerful or shield is so powerful, maybe some companies and bosses are very sharp and sharp. If they disagree with me, they will kill others, and some companies and employees will be yundun, the talented people are doing well, and the boss has no way at all. There is no rule to resolve the contradictions.


But there is an ultimate way of thinking, that is, balancing. You don't want a spear to hack a shield, or you want it to break it. Your purpose is to tie them together, then, what role do you play in the middle? You are a rubber plaster with full elasticity. It is very easy for the boss to crack you. It is not difficult for employees to flat you, but fortunately, when you are between the boss and the employee, the boss wants to stab you and find that the thorn is not moving, because your back is shield. If the employee wants to stick to you, the discovery will not move, because the front of you is a spear, at this time you are not both angry, but both sides are helpful.


Why do some people always feel angry?


Because some people always want to fight on their own and use themselves as the Overlord, they want to use their own strength to block the boss's spears and rebound employees, how powerful is it to hold down through your own strength? Of course, I'm tired.


If the boss assigns a super-arduous task, you should not defend yourself. You should first think of your own team, and the Team will always be your first idea, relying on the strength of the team to solve the boss's problem, this is positive and negative. The boss puts forward unreasonable requirements. You cannot see this. You also need to make team judgments on this matter, after consensus and thorough research by the team, you can directly tell the boss that after our team's research, we found that there were 12345 unreasonable cases. Ask the boss to think about it again, if you want to make the boss feel a rebound, do not blindly obey the boss. As a boss, employees should accept the rebound and must accept it. children cannot get used to it, the boss cannot get used to it either. The bounce and feedback are made by a mother. If the boss wants feedback, it has to rebound.