How should you be a mother in e-age?

Mother, not a role that a woman is born to accomplish.

Once all for the children and the majority of women, when I learned that a new life in the body was born, joy, excitement and longing filled my whole body and mind. I make up my mind that I must cultivate my child to be the best, and I take it for granted that I am the best mother, and this sense of honor and accomplishment is of overwhelming value. During pregnancy, for the sake of children's health smart, regardless of whether the food meets the taste, as long as there is "nutrition" I eat, so that the body was described as "sitting like the old pine, line such as aircraft carrier." Not only that, I seriously study the early education theory, engage in "prenatal care", meticulous, adhere to the end. However, after the birth of the child, the experience of being a mother day by day makes me feel that caring for a child wholeheartedly is not "beautiful" and "great" as sung in the poem. A tender baby is a helpless individual, and everything he needs is cared for by caregivers. Take care of the children's eating and drinking, so that I do not know at night whether I am asleep or not asleep, during the day I am awake or not awake, also feel that I am hungry or not hungry. Mother Education me: Everyone is so come, don't do mom, how to know when Mom's hard.

Do not need everything for the children during the day, my life is tense and orderly but mechanical plain: transfer children to kindergarten, to the husband to wash and cook, their work. Night, My Nightmare night after night: The test time is about to arrive, but exam road is traffic jam, I was canceled the exam qualifications, I cried days Rob Land, also powerless back to heaven, another exam, I successfully finished the problem, time, I am confident to give the teacher, in this moment, I found that the problem on the back of the test was missed, I Moge, too late ... I know, "Dreams are the fulfillment of desire." In their own heart, once the dream has never been erased: That year did not go to Beijing to read the key university, now to read the key University graduate students! The success of the husband's career, the son's physical and mental growth, his work gradually picked up, the competition for postgraduate grind every year, in the face of all this to make a choice, I really very contradictory. My husband's support makes me feel a bosom friend of life, enough "!" Words must be done, deed. To work, I seize the spare time to study, when colleagues asked curiously, I deceiving said: "No matter, just want to read the book." "After work, finish housework, let husband and son play" father-son game ", oneself and grind an examination meet. Last three months, really can not open the body, the old mother moved to luring. A whole spring, a summer, a fall, a winter, I finally succeed. My graduate student's major is family education, three years of study so that I have a deeper understanding of the true meaning of family education and the essence of motherhood. The value of family education is not that adults raise children, but that children make adults. Children urge adults to find a fulcrum in the relationship between family, career and life, urging adults to gradually mature. The easiest way to be a mother is to sacrifice everything for a child. In fact, children ultimately rely on their own to the community, but also parents have their own career and pursuit, but also to learn and work. The parents who love to study will influence their children's deeds by loving their own career and pursuing their own goals, so that their children can admire their parents. Famous educator Makalenko said: "All to children, sacrifice everything, even sacrifice their own happiness, this is the parents can give children the most terrible gift." ”

Mother's love can not nourish children's all leave the son of that three years, the husband became left behind "single father", his father's nature and wisdom revealed, let me sigh unceasingly. My son's teacher once told me that once the husband was late for getting up, he sent the child to the school gate and left, and his son went to the classroom by himself. Obey the discipline, never late son, carrying a bulky schoolbag stand in the classroom door, tears flutter poured down, waiting for the teacher to Word. The teacher later learned that it was not a child's fault. After I heard it, I was very sorry for the injustice my son had suffered. If I send the child, I will send the child to the classroom door, and explain to the teacher why, can not let the child drop a drop of wronged tears. I asked my husband about it, I blamed him for his heart, he said he didn't think so much, and asked about his son, and he said he didn't expect him to do anything. The reaction of the two of them made me find myself a natural weakness as a mother. I think about everything for my child, and I have little to let go of it. Can do father's not so, his love always want to hide half, is father "careless", "cruel" the "disadvantage" gave the child to accept the world of exercise. Today, the mother for children to create a sunny environment, tomorrow he always to meet the wind and rain of the weather, children face unexpected situation of courage and wisdom from where? My over-protection of maternal love can only let children unprepared, husband father's good nature to make up for my shortcomings, so that children in my overall care under the loss of resistance to setbacks. I'm glad my son has such a good father. In fact, the father is like a motherly love as deep as the sea, but the father love half, hide half, with the lack of maternal love features. A child is more likely to form a sound personality in a complete maternal and paternal love nourishment.

Looking back on my parenting experience, my experience is that "a woman should not go to extremes". For the cause and neglect of children's education and even children unworthy, after all, the child is the most exciting original works of life, for the children and all the sacrifice of their own unworthy, family education is a fine quiet art, mother only constantly improve their comprehensive quality, will give children a good edification. More crucial is that love the cause also love children let me see life quiet and indifferent, the Ancients said: "Tatsu and the world, poor is spared", for children, for themselves, for the cause, the mother must have unremitting upward consciousness, this is the most important.

Chengdu Jiulong Hospital

E-Age How you should be a mother