How to make a good first impression

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How to make a good first impression?

The first impression is obviusly the first thing that occurs in any social interaction. do you convey confidence? Self-assurance? When people talk to you they instantly judge you and decide whether or not they will like you. Due to this natural inclination,
You need to always leave a solid first impression because you never know what will happen-perhaps you'll make an amazing friend, or doors will open for you in the future.

Remember that approaching random people for conversation is an amazing skill to have. not only does it expand your social circle, it makes you more comfortable with social interaction in general. if you're able to strike up a legitimate conversation with someone
You don't know, imagine how amazing you 'd feel when talking to someone you're already familiar?

When times I have got ed up to someone I did not know, looked them in the eye while extending my hand, and then introduced myself. you 'd be surprised how valid tive people are of particular taneous contact. I 'd argue that every time you initiate contact with a stranger,
You 've made their day because they feel special, and wondered why they were the one you chose to engage.

They always leave thinking that they 've just met a very influential person; someone fearless.

Personally, I feel I do a very good job with first impressions. I chalk this up to publish subtle social observations that I 've tweaked over the years and still put to practice on a near-daily basis. you can learn this too, but first let's take a few things
Consideration.

When you meet someone, there are things you shoshould always take into account, such as the context of the meeting (personal or business) and what they are doing at the moment of initiation. you shoshould tweak your approaches based on these two things. when in
More casual and personal setting, you probably don't want to be as formal as you wowould with a new potential employer. also, you never want to make someone stop everything They're doing just to speak to you if you 've never met them before. it's rude, and no
One likes to be interrupted.

Now that you have that down, here are some things to always put into practice when meeting someone for the first time.

One of the most overlooked aspects of social interaction is non-verbal communication. whether you realize it or not, you instantly make judgments and create pre-conceived notions about everyone you see. you can just tell if someone is confident or not by examining
The way they carry themselves-whether it's the way they walk, stand, or by how open their body language is.

Knowing this, let's use this to our advantage.

First thing, be comfortable with touch. touch is powerful and even if you're not a touchy person, the first contact is still necessary. always, always introduce yourself by name then extend your hand for a handshake. it doesn't matter if it's a female or male,
You shake their hand confidently and not like a loose fish. There's nothing worse than a dead handshake.

Remember to portray power and confidence in your handshake. you'll sometimes see surprise in people's eyes after a good handshake because a lot of people are used to limp offerings. if they give you a dead handshake then that's okay; grab it firmly anyways
And shake. Just be careful not to squeeze too hard because you don't want to break their hand. I know a guy who does it incredibly hard; He's possibly compensating for something.

Next, you shoshould always be mindful of your body's posture. for example, try your best not to slouch because it sends off cues that you lack confidence or are rather lazy, neither of which are attractive qualities. always stand tall even though it's very difficult
At first; standing up straight does get easier over time. Walk tall, stand tall, and sit tall. Always.

Okay, so now that you're standing tall, people that see you will instantly perceive you as being more confident. when you meet someone new, they'll notice your posture and you'll score free points, and of course your friends will notice and wonder why you're
So confident these days.

In addition to keeping yourself tall, you want your body language to be open and approachable. this means not crossing your arms parse SS your chest, not speaking to someone with your body angled away from them, and make sure your facial expressions aren't angry.

I understand that some people's "default" face has a less than ideal look; mine looks sad, apparently. when I need to take my sad face off, I usually think of something humorous and a smile will naturally form itself. try it out.

I love talking to other people and I genuinely invest my attention in their stories. it's important to develop an actual interest in getting to know other people and your face will naturally brighten up as they tell you their story. there's no faking this.
Well, that's not true. the point is, it's much easier to look like you care if you actually do-people can sense your energy and often respond based on the feedback they get from you.

Read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People. "It has a very silly title that sounds like a how-to Guidebook for losers, but that is definitely not the case. it's a very valuable self-help book, one of the most popular actually. carnegie teaches
You how to actually be interested in people and even talks about a few interesting psychological effects. One of them is called the "Ben Franklin" effect.

Sounds awesome right? It really is. basically, one day Benjamin Franklin realized that when someone else does a favor for you, they both are more willing to do so again in the future and they have a tendency to like you more.

That seems crazy, but the psychology behind it is very fascinating and it's an example of cognitive dissonance. to put it simply, what's going on their head sounds a lot like this. "Wait, why am I doing this favor for him? That must mean I like him because
Why else wocould I do a favor for him? I only do favors for people I like so therefore I like him. "obviusly that dialogue isn' t literally running through their mind, but that's the general idea.

Try asking someone to hold something for you as you tie your shoe, open a door for you, or watch your expensive $1,200 Macbook while you use the restroom (results may vary .)

More insight from Dale Carnegie's book stresses the importance of active listening. A lot of people often blank out or eagerly wait for the other person to stop talking so they can jump in and talk about what they want. that's not active listening.

Everyone adores talking about themselves, some more than others. Carnegie stresses that when you are a good listener, people enjoy your company much more.

You want to give your complete attention to everything they say, nod as they speak, and look interested like I mentioned before. You want to be able to recall ILS from their story.

Occasionally repeat keywords they used because it shows that you're really listening.

"There is this amazing sushi restaurant on harbor ."

"Amazing sushi ?"

If you focus on the other person instead of yourself, you're bound to make a great first impression and you will be labeled as a good listener.

Now that you have some of my tricks for making a great first impression, get out there and make some connections! You can use these in a personal and business setting, just make sure to tweak as you find necessary based off of the context of the situation.

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First impressions occur first in any social activity. What confidence do you deliver? Confidence?

When people talk to you, they will soon be able to determine if they will like you. Because

This kind of natural tendency requires you to keep a solid first impression, because you don't know what will happen.

Happen-you may make a friend that surprised you, or you may open a door in the future.

Keeping in mind that it is close to strangers and engaging in conversations is a surprising skill. This not only extends

Your social circle can also make you feel more comfortable in the social process as a whole. If you can

People you don't know have a legitimate conversation. Imagine how surprised you are when you chat with acquaintances.

I walked to people I don't know many times, and my colleagues who looked at them opened my arm, and then

Introduce myself. You will be surprised to see that people are good at accepting natural contact. I want to talk about

When strangers get started, you make them very happy, because they feel very special and

It may wonder why they are people you choose to contact.

When they leave, they often think that they have met a very influential person who is fearless.

I personally think I have made a good first impression. I have recorded what I have done over the years.

A lot of fine social observations, and use this as a daily connection. You can also learn, but first let's consider some things.

When you see someone, you should always consider some things, such as meeting people (personal or business ),

What are they doing. You should adjust your contact methods based on these two points. When we are more casual and private,

You may not want to be as formal as a new potential employer. Similarly, you don't want others to be with you.

Stop all things during the conversation, if you have never seen them before. It was very rude, and nobody liked to be interrupted.

Now you know something. There are many things you can use to practice when you first meet someone else.

One of the most common aspects of social networking is non-verbal communication. Whether you realize it or not

Everyone who has ever seen it will immediately make judgments and establish the vision. You can observe how they present themselves.

Determine whether they are confident or not-whether they walk, stand, or how open their body language is.

Inclination: preference

Social circle

Legitimate: legitimate

Spontaneous
: Spontaneous, natural

Valid
: Good at accepting

Made
Their day)

Overlook
: Ignore