[Idea] "A Complaint Free World without complaints"-Will Bao Wen (US)

A world without complaints ?! Yes, let us imagine that if there is no complaint in the world, everyone will live happily. The world is full of love and hope. What an exciting thing will it look like.

Although this is impossible, as the author mentioned in the book, we cannot change others, so we can only choose to change ourselves. So that you no longer have the idea of complaining. Let us look at this world with another beautiful view. What you get is not only another wonderful world, but also changes your mood, we are constantly influencing people around us. You will find that your family is more harmonious.
Because you don't complain, you will have a better relationship between husband and wife;
Because you don't complain, you will have a better social relationship;
Because you don't complain, you will be filled with hope in your life;
Because you don't complain, your mood will make your body healthier;
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When I didn't see this book, I had read the Harvard course "Happiness is by your side". I found that my world has changed, and my daily mood is very high, my relationship with my friends is more beautiful. My view of things is more comprehensive, and even improves the suffering of my insomnia. When I open a book, I think tomorrow morning I will also take part in "21 days without complaints"-with a purple bracelet. I think I have a good temper and often think about it. I would like to finish this task well. I didn't expect my first day of the morning I was just blinking and complaining: Ah, 10 minutes later, I have to be late and deduct money again. Damn it! And I am not aware of the complaint, because I have not brought it yet. When I had to wash my work in a hurry and prepare for work, I found out that I was not. I face up to my shortcomings, warned myself, and changed the wristband from the left hand to the right hand (Rule of action: after every complaint, switch the wristband from one hand to another until one hand carries a 21-day wristband .). On this day, I warned myself at any time, but there were always some bad emotions. Although I restrained my actions, however, I thought that I had to change my wristband position. After one day of action, I found that it was difficult to insist on not complaining about 21 days of innocence. As the author said: You think this is simple, but when you do this, you will find that it is not what you think. However, if you can Stick to it and you will succeed. . Generally, the period of success takes 4-8 months.
Our people are always complaining. Because life is unfair. Yes, but you cannot change this scene. Therefore, you must learn to adapt and face it with a smile. As Talmud said:" If one leg is broken, you should thank God for not breaking your legs. If you have broken your legs, you should thank God for not breaking your neck ."
The Power of Gratitude can make people feel happy, while complaining can make you feel depressed. Complaints are the best effort to consume your own energy. The first principle of interpersonal communication is: Do not criticize, blame, or complain. It can be seen that complaints are a serious harm to our interpersonal relationships.
Why do we say that the period of action without complaining is 21 days? Instead of 20 days? Or 30 days? Because the author has read in a book: It takes 21 days for a hen to hatch eggs. The irony is that it takes 21 days for a person to cultivate a new behavior into a habit. When we can control our thoughts and change our consciousness. You will find that I have never found myself so happy.
The author explains in the book: Complaints are grief, pain, or dissatisfaction. In my opinion, if you complain, you want to get the sympathy or response from the listener. In this way, you will spread your dissatisfaction to others. The author makes a metaphor: Complaints are like bad breath. When it leaks out of others' mouths, We will notice it; but we will not hear it from our own mouths.
Finally, I also like what the author mentioned in an email: "However, every great event in our country originated from complaints ...... For example, Thomas Jefferson (author of the American Declaration of Independence and the founding fathers) and Martin Luther King (leader of the Black Civil Rights Movement )!" The author does not deny this lady's opinion. Then he said:

"The first step towards progress is dissatisfaction. However, if we stay at the stage of dissatisfaction, we will never be able to move forward to a brighter future ."
Indeed, the first thing leaders lead people is to arouse people's dissatisfaction with their current life, and then let them see the hope of life after such scenes are overturned. That is, the first step: lead to dissatisfaction; the second step: give satisfaction.