Intimate lover: intimacy-a bridge to the soul

 

 

 

I recently spent two mornings reading a book about intimacy-a bridge to the soul.

In the process of love and love, we have all experienced pain, fear, and ecstasy. We desire to establish an eternal and sincere intimacy, but are afraid of getting hurt again.No one can live year after year in hot, enthusiastic, and romantic intimacy, but we can learn to accept and let go in the face of our best and worst traits on the journey of intimacy, eventually finding a bridge to love and happiness.In his book, author Chris duofu Meng tells us how to penetrate self-disorder and use love to create a secret recipe for happiness. This book allows us to learn to relax and enjoy intimacy in close relationships, rather than feeling at the bottom of our lives. It is not just about the relationship between people, I think it is more like a self-recognition book, which is consistent with agile personal themes. Although I only read it once, it has not been internalized, but I think it is good, I still can't help writing this book note, as my first article about intimacy.

Growth and maturity

 

The Learning and mastery of skills are not growth. I have been thinking about self-management since 10 years. I have been paying attention to myself for four years, which has made me better understand myself and feel my own growth. However,To be mature, a person must go out and get in contact with others. Learning and practicing intimacy is particularly important.

As stated in the Mission declaration of agile individuals: inspire individuals to grow and embark on a happy life, starting from themselves, their families, and their teams. Focus on yourself to make yourself more powerful. After connecting yourself to yourself, you will be connected to your family and team. This isEnjoy the extended meaning of a lonely person in social relationshipsWhat must be done. In addition, most of us ignore or suppress their feelings, and tend to develop in intelligence and physical strength, regardless of their status or achievements in society, it seems emotionally immature. Therefore, I think it is necessary to learn intimacy and share it with agile individuals. This is also the original intention of writing this article.

Friendship and passion

 

When talking about intimacy, we must first define it.Intimacy is not limited to the relationship between men and women.Everyone is eager for intimacy. When I was a child, I grew up with my parents and had children,As long as two people reach a certain degree of intimacy, they will be open to each other to a certain extent.Family, friends, and lovers can be considered as close relationships. Of course,Intimacy between men and women is the largest energy, The strongest tension, so the conflict is also the biggest, but also the most heartbreaking, the following text mainly around the close relationship between men and women.

The person who most wants to get married is not necessarily the one who loves you most. Men and women have different focuses on mate selection, but generally no one can meet their desired partners. Therefore, men will ensure that each other has an average of more than one appearance, women make sure that men have a medium income or higher. For a long time, marriage is not based on love,People are born with a need to love others and to be loved..

The word love is hard to define, but there are essentially differences between love and love, not just the difference in degree. There are two different types of love in intimacy: friendship and passion.

• Love of friendshipIt will not make each other feel strongly, but warm and considerate support, mainly manifested in: mutual deep understanding and sincere and lasting relationship, mutual concern, to be able to achieve the goal of collaboration feel from the heart of joy.
• Passionate loveStrong passion and obsession: strong interest in companions, strong sexual desires, willingness to participate in an atmosphere of ecstasy, and excitement in reunion with companions

These two types of love are characterized by intimacy: persistent behavior interdependence, frequent interaction,EmotionAttachment requires spiritual satisfaction.

You never need to search, Chase, or win love. Because of love, you will not hide, run, or ask for any price,As long as you leave a space in your heart, love will naturally inject into your heart.

Bringing family intimacy from a problem

In my interactions with minyou, there are things about learning, growth, and life and emotion. A friend of mine asked me a question:"If you want your son or your son in the next life?"I did not hesitate to say:" Yes ". Then he had the question:"If you want your wife to be your wife in the next life?"...... If it was you, what would you say?

 

No matter how energetic two people are at social occasions, such as at parties, work, or parties,Only when two people get along with each other in private can we really see what kind of stagnation the relationship between them is.. Stagnant, gloomy, uninterested, or burning feeling is the earliest sign of a close relationship when it encounters a wall. At this time, it is necessary to start introspection to continue the growth of close relationships. You can stay and continue to suffer. At this time, you or one of your partners are tired and disappointed, and there is no way to "let the intimacy succeed. When you look at each other, as long as you see the other person, you may complain about the lack of care, enthusiasm, and communication, or do not care about the emotional status of the two. In some cases, one of them refuses to admit that a problem exists, making the other feel as if they have been given favor, not listened, ignored, or abandoned.

No matter how sincere we are, we are still experiencing chaos, poor communication, mutual resentment, and emotional alienation.But the final outcome is different. The process of intimacy starts with mutual attraction, and then develops a romantic spark step by step.Once a person falls into love network, there will inevitably be too high expectations, and eventually fall into the abyss of despair.I think most families are the same. They are always beautiful at the beginning. It is sweet to stay together without talking. However, after a long time together, all kinds of shortcomings are exposed, in addition, the daily life of rice, oil, salt, and other things will not go up. If you have children, some people tend to focus on children and ignore the concerns of adults. The education problems of children may also be a fuse of quarrel.

Is the family like this? To explore this answer, we need to first understand what real intimacy is.

What is real intimacy

 

The real intimacy refers to the soul relationship that enters through the moon halo, disappointment, introspection, and Revelation. This is the relationship of the soul.This kind of relationship allows you to face the uncomfortable feelings and imperfections that come up again in your heart. You can express yourself and let the other party know your true colors, you can also see what the other party looks like. Only in this way can you find unconditional love. This kind of love is not obtained by means of playing, but from your own heart. The two hearts must go through a long journey before they can be combined into one. According to this understanding,Most couples have no real intimacy.

Intimacy is the product of charm. It is the attraction of the other party to you. It allows all parties to safely disclose their previous hidden thoughts and feelings.To develop a close relationshipSeveral months or years of investmentInstead of days or hours, it isA kind of relationship that can be formed through deep mutual understanding..You need to be able to get along with others.Only by disclosing your own information and getting along with others openly can the intimacy be evolved. Otherwise, it is likely that the intimacy is too close or too fast, and the other party is reluctant to tell their own situation openly, or reject you. The establishment of close relationships allows us to see:In addition to exchange and control, the soul's mutual understanding, companionship, and true love exist in this world.. For everyone, learn how to be yourself and interact with others in the relationship, focusing on how to deepen and grow the relationship, rather than simply maintaining the status quo or damaging the relationship.

When we start looking for our partners, we usually don't know what we are actually looking for, not just for love, but for an experience that will keep us in love again and again, just like the brave knight looking for the Holy Grail, we hope to get something from intimacy that satisfies the desires of the body, heart, and spirit.On the surface, we seem to be alone, or eager to share our joys and sorrows. But in fact, behind every intimacy, our soul is operating and leading us to experience spiritual satisfaction.

From the perspective of this definition, it is not easy to achieve real intimacy, because in addition to effective communication, it also requires spiritual interaction, rather than asking for control, but unconditional payment. Many of us want to be in close relationships and need more than comfort and companionship. What we need is to encourage us to surpass our own partners. What we are pursuing is to inspire the meaning and direction of our lives, the interpersonal relationships that help us when we are tested, that is, the "soul relationship ".In such a combination, we don't just want to get anything, but also want to be selfish and do not want to pay in return.Intuitively, we seem to know that when we are truly immersed in love, we will be very happy, and when we are happy, we naturally want to pay.We want to pay unconditionally, because we feel that this is right in our hearts.Behind all our dreams and all our pursuit of power, purpose, or significance, the only desire is actually to understand unconditional true love.

Understanding intimacy makes us more explicit about what we ultimately want. However, we need to have a deeper understanding and thinking about how to get this intimacy.

Do you want to control and retaliate against each other?

 

The closer you get, the clearer you will see, and the more problems you will face, the more you will force your partner to change their habits, ways of speaking, dressing style, hair length, and so on with brute force or intimidation, so that both parties began to feel the pain, and the quarrel began.You want to let the other party listen to you by quarreling and "Uniform". This is the beginning of the power struggle.After you bring competition into close relationships, you will constantly compete with your partners, and you will not find your real goals. You want to prove that you are right to expect the other party to change, but when your partner hasn't changed, you begin to feel frustrated, keep yourself away from your partner, and your love for your partner disappears.

Sometimes we often find that there is no major reason for quarrel. What we say is not closely related to things. We just use words to hurt people, at the same time, it's just a logical excuse for your own behavior. But why is it so angry and quarreling that it is more likely to trigger a bomb after many quarrels? I think there are two reasons: the first benefit is that this is probably possible.Prove that you are right and make the other party look like the wrong party. In this way, you can think that you can effectively control the behavior of the other party and manipulate the partner to make the behavior change.. Another important reason is that,Anger can paralyze the pain in our hearts, crush all emotions, and even paralyze our bodies.

You can get what you want. If you want to win, you will surely compete for the winner in the case of a conflict. However, the victory will only make the winner feel guilty, and the loser will be angry and revenge. In fact,In addition to a win-win solution, each conflict cannot be truly solved.. To achieve a win-win goal, we cannot satisfy the seemingly peaceful compromise, because the compromise seems to be the best solution, but both of them feel that they are the loser, because we know in our hearts that the results accepted by both parties are far inferior to the best possible solutions.

If the power struggle cannot be solved in a harmonious manner, retaliation will be triggered.You may even be a bit complacent because of your partner's pain. You may pretend to say rationally: "I just want her to know what it feels like when she does this to me ." Revenge tends to appear at the beginning of the power struggle, and you will deliberately hurt each other to relieve your pain. In retaliation, you will get a cool pleasure, but this behavior will soon become addictive. One of the reasons is that,It takes a lot of effort to get rid of your own pain, but it is very easy to divert attention through revenge.. Knowing that the other party is as painful as you are, you will feel a little more comfortable. What's wrong with this? The problem is that hurting people close to you adds guilt to your pain.

 

Before love disappears, the power struggle is painful for both sides, because the two sides of the dispute often really care about each other, but the pain is too intense, they cannot feel the love they desire to share with each other.. It doesn't matter who opens a quarrel, because it's not the fault of anyone. The family is not a rational place, it is a place of love. It will quarrel because of the pain points in your heart and you need treatment. The clever way is to check your intimacy, are you deliberately hurting your partner. When you are deeply immersed in the power struggle, I think carefully"Are you willing to be right or happy'?" The wisdom in this sentence, as long as you take a deep breath, then think about it,"Why do I want to compete with my wife? I should love her, right? Why should I treat her as a competitor? What can we compete? How would we feel if we love each other? What if I treat my wife as my beloved?"I think you will make some space in your mind to make these loving feelings grow. Soon, the tension between you will collapse and become closer, which seems impossible,Because you are willing to imagine that you are "in love", you have been helped by the soul and solved this dispute..

Cold War is a common "solution"

 

As soon as she opens her mouth, he will start to quarrel with her. Whatever she says, he is playing a different tone. In the face of quarrel, what method will you take to treat it? Continue to keep quarreling, so that the degree of quarrel will be escalated to split, or will the quarrel be stopped?If you have a saint-like endurance, you can stop the quarrel. Otherwise, the cold war will only usher in the next terrible outbreak.

We are the relationship creators who have taken up their posts without any intimate relationship training, and do not know how to do this in case of pain. In contrast,The cold war seems much easier and can be mastered without learning.. Women in the family often seem to be more active, while men are also beaten by women like children. They don't learn from themselves, and they are very quick to grasp. They face a grievance and are cruelly treated by their partners, making them feel sorry. Or, put on a cold, angry face to tell the other party that I am angry, but she is not worthy of my waste of water. The implication is: "Get out and die ." You can also put on a cold face, as if completely ignoring her existence, with no face, to imply that the other side, she is not important to me at all, so she can no longer hurt me. In fact, the cold war is also a implicit control method.

In such a cold war, the active party can only be anxious, and the gas does not know where to come from. It is not a long term to survive. What day will the storm erupt,Not the active side, but the cold side, because his emotions were not released until the crash caused an unmanageable situation..

In a close relationship, there may be such a wrong idea, so much attention is paid to the "Heart and Soul". People who really care for each other should be able to intuitively know each other's needs and preferences, you do not need to be notified. If I have to tell my partner what I want or need, it means that his love for me is not enough. In fact, many in-depth topics and thoughts between partners need to be expressed to be accepted by the other party. The cold war will only make your thoughts angry.

Finding new Joy brings new pleasure

 

Sometimes you may feel that the love and intimacy between you and your partner cannot grow up. Maybe you have tried all the methods, but you can't even get rid of the fire. Or you have no intention to continue trying. Maybe you feel exhausted and don't think it is useful to try again. Just give up.

There are many things worth dying for, but love is the only thing worth living."Love and love" constitutes a "magnetic field of attraction" between people, but one day you may want to give up the idea of "source of love. When a strong sense of powerlessness makes you breathless, almost all people will regard giving up as a smart, even life-saving choice. You may start to think that the person next to you is not the source of your happiness. Maybe you have chosen the wrong one from the very beginning, so you may start to look for new happiness. If you do not feel calm when you leave home, it means that you have not actually left the other party. Even if you find another partnerIf you do not have a correct understanding of intimacy, as long as you have expectations, you will eventually understand that the source of our happiness is still not on others..

The vast majority of close relationships make people feel more or less failed, so they feel very discouraged. In a close relationship, the experience that you want to give up because of failure and powerlessness is a clear indicator, indicating that you must begin to face the pain,Treat intimacy as a way to learn unconditional loveAnd is determined to experience better happiness and intimacy through the "impossible difficulties. If you have not been able to walk together with your continuous efforts, let the ending feelings end. Don't be angry with the one who hurts you, wishing each other a good life is also a gratitude for his name occupying your life for many years, but you understand that you will try to laugh and live your life, and wish the other party well, may you let it go.

Face pain

 

Sometimes,The injury is also a kind of beauty. When it hurts, you will be awake and give yourself a fresh one. To be happy, we have to face the pain. If we don't handle it well, the pain will never disappear.

My partner only made me realize the existence of pain. In fact, it has been a long time in my heart, but I don't want to feel it.Requires keen insight. ToFace with a responsible attitudeIf you don't push your beloved one away, you need more extraordinary abilities and believe that you are a successful person. We all live based on our own ideas. If you believe that you are a successful person, your failure will also help you move towards success. If you believe that you are a loser, then a great success seems to you as a failure.

We all know that if we cannot accept and honestly face the pain, we will suffer. People must grow up after suffering. If they can face the pain and do not resist it, then the pain will turn into a gift, so that we are more confident, more confident, stronger, and happier, they are closer to their souls and better understand each other.

Pain and consciousness grow and self-consciousness are only one step away. If you are not ready to take that step and face the pain and learn from it, you will choose to resist it, and buried it in the subconscious. But if you do not take that step, the pain will always exist and will not disappear. As long as you focus on great things that are at a higher level than the pain level, you have the ability to take off the body and the pain of your mind, and at the same time let yourself fully feel the existence of the pain.If you choose love and decide to pursue it, you will be able to take off the pain and reach a calm and detached state.Otherwise, we will have to continue the long-lasting war of resistance against suffering until we feel paralyzed. Therefore, whenever pain arises, I will think that my only choice is to face the pain and feel the solution. Otherwise, it will be even more painful to control the behavior of my partner.

The current intimacy gives me the opportunity to perceive the past and present pains, face them and make higher-level choices, so that I can grow and understand myself. This opportunity, I believe, is "love", andLove exists in all power struggles..

Enjoy loneliness

 

It is hard for men to make friends who can talk to each other because our society requires them to be strong and indifferent to heroes. When they are with their friends, because the degree of self-disclosure is too low, it is difficult to make friends with the heart. In contrast, women are more likely to reveal their own secrets to their friends, thus narrowing their relationship with friends. Therefore, men are the most lonely animals in the world. Learning to enjoy loneliness is a required course for everyone.

Because you are too enthusiastic about people, you always feel that others are indifferent to you. Because you love someone too much, you always feel that the person you love is not enough to love you.. Without any intimacy, you can accept full openness and intimacy over a long period of time. This also means that you cannot fully understand each other's affairs. If you are alone, you will think a lot, you will understand that fear is fear of losing something, and excessive dependency on relationships will make you feel jealous. Being alone may be used to develop an understanding of our own needs, emotions, and attitudes towards life, and actively look at loneliness,The ability to stay alone at ease may strengthen our ability to love others. If we always want to interact with others to make us happy, it will put a burden on others, this burden may be unwilling or unacceptable to them..

Awareness of your emotions

If the past trauma does not heal, we will have negative thoughts on ourselves, but our beliefs will change if we manage the pain in a healthy way.The really effective solution should be that both of them put the pain in their hearts onto the surface and then use a healthy way to deal with it.. In this method, emotion is very important.

 

 

A female bank clerk is angry with me and scolded me as an asshole; and my wife is angry with me and scolded me as an asshole. Which one is hurtful? In close relationships, you often feel that your partner can irritate you faster and make you feel uncomfortable than anyone in the world. In fact, these are the phenomena that help you notice your emotions. Agile individuals are a practical system of energy management. The physical, emotional, mental, and mental sources of energy correspond to health, family, work, and spirit respectively. Emotions are more cultivated in the family. Therefore, for intimacy, we need to save our emotions first.

What you know most is always your heart. Everything you see is a projection of your inner world. How we comment on others is what we think about ourselves.If I think others hate criticism, it means I hate my criticism habits.Introspection is the process of examining all your thoughts and feelings within you. The ultimate goal is to make you feel at peace with your own things and face them with love.You will find that,The way you treat your partner is actually the way you treat yourself..

In general, both husband and wife spend most of their time trying to change or control the behavior of the other party, while almost completely ignoring many opportunities for face-to-face communication or dealing with their own uncomfortable feelings.The nature of the relationship reflects your attitude towards yourself.When you learn to calmly face this feeling, as long as the feeling awakened by the problem is properly handled, the problem will be magically converted into a gift. This is a valuable experience in life. It makes my goals clearer and can experience higher levels of happiness and creativity.

You can choose not to make an intuitive response to negative emotions, but to discover ways of dealing with calm, joy, and love., Communicate with your partner,Assure the other party that your feelings are not her fault, but your own responsibility.. This can bring two benefits: first,You can no longer regard your partner as an enemy.And let the other party stand on the same side with you. Second, sharing your emotional origins with your partner allows you to understand your emotions in detail again,Make yourself more aware of every small detail of your emotions.

 

It is difficult for a person who grows up in a family that cannot express strong emotions to understand his or her own feelings. Of course, it is even more difficult to express his or her feelings.Awareness has a great influence on our consciousness.It can make the real thing weak and make the real thing stronger. If you can use full awareness to deal with negative emotions, your emotions will soon become energy. If you view the feeling of love, joy, or peace with full awareness, then the love, peace, or joy in your heart will grow. These beautiful feelings will be enhanced to the limits you can bear. If you are aware, you can discover the feelings and emotions that force you to make sacrifices. In the end, you will find that the role of the victim does not help you with intimacy at all. As long as you have the will and determination, you can get rid of the impact of the victim, and choose to give your partner what you really want to pay.

Let go expectation

 

The real motivation behind starting and maintaining a close relationship lies in demand.If I feel disappointed and angry, it must be because you have expectations for your partner, and you cannot be happy until she does it. In this intimate relationship, the most sad thing is that you don't want to love your partner until you are satisfied. In this way, you push yourself to the hell of a close relationship.

Expectation is the predecessor of resentment. In other words, expectation will eventually turn into resentment.When you are not satisfied with your intimacy, first ask yourself:"What do I want from my partner at this moment?The answer should be clear: What you need is usually emotional, but on the surface it may seem like a real demand, for example, if you want to touch you, remember your birthday, do not be late for a date, or spend time with you. When I ask myself:"What do I really want her to give me?"You discovered,You want her to make you feel important.It is important that she should be punctual for me, or even arrive early!

There are only two possibilities for disappointment: Wrong people or unexpected expectations. This should be the case for mature gender relations, lowering expectations for each other.Understanding your expectations and the requirements behind them is a skill learned the day after tomorrow. Generally, we only realize what we want our partner to do or change, but do not perceive what we need to do in the subconscious.Do you want to ignore meeting this requirement as your partner's responsibility? Are you willing to seek your internal strength to meet all your needs? Do you want to make this inner force the source of your happiness, instead of treating your partner as an object of hope?If your answer is yes, your intuition will tell you how to let go of your expectations.

When I need you, the only thing I need to do is to dream ......

If you do not like the current state of intimacy, you only need to put down your stance and seek for harmony. In general, your partner will also change. If you think the other party has not changed, it is often because you have not put down your position. Sometimes, although your partner's behavior has not changed, you don't mind anymore. Sometimes, the partner refuses to change and chooses to leave. In this case, both of them can find a new intimacy that is more suitable for themselves. As long as you are willing to put down your position, no matter what the result is, there will always be no harm to you, because what you get from sticking to your position is only the inauthentic sense of security brought by your confidence and pride. After you put your hands on it, you will be able to get free and grow in wisdom and maturity.

Rethink "sacrifice"

 

What often happens in close relationships is that one party has done everything to make itself physically and mentally exhausted, but the other side has stood. If there are interesting things, you may ask them in private who have sacrificed a lot. Generally, no matter which party you ask, he or she will say that he or she sacrifices a lot of people. Sacrifice is not an action, but a mentality. It can be interesting or annoying to wash dishes. What kind of experience is completely determined by the mentality.

Sacrifice can harm your intimacy in three ways: First, you will feel forced to sacrifice, and then feel angry. Such resentment will turn to rejection of the partner, or even hate. You will think that what the other party expects you to do is not rewarding. The second devastating effect is that, in order to get rid of the endless sacrifice model, you will make the opposite extreme behavior and indulge yourself in unacceptable behavior. The third option is tolerance. You are exhausted by endless sacrifices. At this time, you will want to leave to avoid going crazy. This is probably because you are unwilling to face the real cause of your sacrifice with sincerity.

In a close relationship, if you feel that you have paid more and received less, you are sacrificing. You can also simply study your feelings about the terms "good" and "bad", or know if you are making sacrifices.When a lover asks you to do something, if you say "no", you will feel guilty. If you say "good" and do not feel happy, then you probably sacrifice your guilt. If you are making sacrifices, you do not feel happy or enthusiastic even if you are paying.. At the beginning, you may be grateful for your sacrifice, but it was just as early as the "moon halo" phase. At the introspection stage, you will begin to question how much your "pay" is from the heart, and how much is from the obligation. You are tired of sacrificing behavior and have to ask yourself whether you have actually done yourself during your stay with your partner. If you don't want to take responsibility for your own behavior, you will blame your partner and feel that the other party forces you and you are making sacrifices for the other party. However, sacrifice is not enough. Even if you are loyal and careful, you cannot feel grateful for your sacrifice.

If your partner indulge in your anger, you do not have to regard maintaining peace as your responsibility. You have the ability to respond to your partner's actions, rather than sacrifice.The best way to end a model of sacrifice is to take full responsibility for your own life. A sincere commitment can make you understand yourself. Only love can enter your heart and change the model (sacrifice) That only gives but does not understand how to accept it ), and only a model (indulgence) that gains but does not know how to enjoy, converts sacrifice to true giving, and changes indulgence to true acceptance. Paying with sincerity is a completely different experience. You will not feel angry or angry because you are not grateful. Of course, you do not pay for your guilt.This kind of payment is completely non-rewarding.You follow your own mind to do thingsBecause you know that it is good for everyone, including yourself. If your motivation is for love, or for understanding love, then you will only pay attention to the process, and understand that only when you really pay, you will use an open mind to "accept ".

Rarely said but important

 

Being in bed, rubbing the physical body, or having an intimate relationship, many lovers only have physical and monetary relationships. However,Sexual relationship-based emotional intimacy will continue to develop after the combination of the body.

The first few factors in intimacy that are most likely to cause stress must have a problem. The divorce rate of couples with high sex satisfaction is also very low. One data in the United States is that if a husband goes to night shift, the divorce rate will increase by six times. However, even if we live together now, there are many problems, such as the boring room, obstacles, the loss of male spirit by men, the fact that women are no longer charming, the desire to find another sex partner, and the rejection of sex partners. Losing sex often results in intense responses. Many people think that if sex is over, marriage is over. HoweverThe dead in sexual life is only part of the overall burnout of close relationships.. The biggest problem with understanding your sexual desire is that it is generally believed that sexual desire is only associated with some specific parts of our body. The reproductive organs are very sensitive to sexual energy, which is inevitable, but you may still remember that when you enter adolescence, your entire body can feel sexual energy. As a matter of fact, sex life is not always the same. It's just a different face. All things that can cure cracks are full of love. Since love will never disappear, sexual energy will naturally not. If you and your partner are unable to fully enjoy the room, physical stimulation, or even sexual fantasies, they are not enough to keep you interested in your partner, ask yourself a question:"How much do you want your partner?"This is actually a question:"Do you want to establish close emotional communication with this important person?"The emotional distance will reduce or suppress the happiness you get in your sexual life. But if you do not take sex as the starting point, you will regard it as a signal to improve the relationship, what will happen if you know yourself and love others unconditionally? What will happen if you can use all your spirits to love your partner? In this way, will you be willing to share your secret world, your fear, your sexual fantasies, your insecurities and pains with each other, from such trust, it is likely to generate a strong and real intimacy. As long as you experience this kind of intimacy, you will feel that sex is a natural thing and you do not need to feel evil. Then, the repressed sexual energy will naturally be liberated.When your sexual energy is stretched out and up, your entire body will become a tool of love, and this is what it should have been.