Kenwellburg | The shadow of Life

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Everyone is familiar with the concept of "body and mind", but ILP adds the concept of "shadow" to it and sees it as the core element of all true integrated exercises. The body, mind, spirit, and Shadow are the limits of what the practice requires, or the conversion process will be difficult to sustain, and this is not yet known. For the first time, the concept of shadowing is due to the fact that other methods are heavily ignoring shadows.

The term "shadow" refers to the "dark Side" of the mind-the part that we divide, reject, deny, hide, or part of something that we project onto others, or that is severed from the relationship. in the language of psychotherapy, the Shadow is the "repressed unconscious", and we push it out or "suppress" it beyond consciousness, making it an unconscious content.

Even if we are unaware of the shadow, we will not let it lose its influence: it will express itself in a distorted or unhealthy way, or express itself in a way commonly referred to as "Psycho".

Shadow Work and Shadow module operations are designed to eliminate repression and re-integration of shadows, thus improving our mental health and improving the clarity of thought. The benefits of shadow work can benefit other core modules (body, mind, spirit), and all areas of life, from interpersonal relationships to sex, from emotion to vitality, from work to personal finances.

Keeping the shadows is a high-intensity job! We need a lot of energy to cover up what we don't want to show. The greatest benefit of shadow work is that it frees up the energy used to wrestle with enemy and uses that energy for our growth and transformation.

Imagine if the energy available for conversion is considered a bank deposit.600 Yuan, and you want to enter the next stage of development, You need to pay 800 Yuan. Suppose your repressed subconscious is sealed with 400 Yuan, if you can release even from" Energy cash " 200 Yuan, you can go to the next stage of development. Shadow work can not only reduce the pain caused by psychological wrestling, but also decide whether to choose development or stagnation.

Psychotherapy and shadow handling are the most important contributions of modern Western psychology to translational practice. The ancient spiritual tradition had a profound understanding of spiritual development, but did not find a suitable method to solve the problem of shadow which belongs to the category of psychological dynamics. In fact, one of the biggest mistakes of the spiritual tradition is also the problem that ILP is trying to correct, that is, the practice of meditation can help the individual to transform, but in reality there are some very important aspects of the ego, especially the shadows, that are neglected. The result is a higher state of consciousness, but no corresponding, conscious and meticulous integration of the "dark Side".

Now, it is very popular to expose the mistakes of Freud's theory, he made some big mistakes, but the basic view of the nature of shadow is still correct, namely: the unwanted driving force or feeling repressed by consciousness, secretly affect the life.

Decades of shadow research by thousands of researchers and therapists around the world have repeatedly proved his fundamental view of the shadows.

However, to complicate matters, the nature of the shadow is to avoid consciousness, at least in a way that you do not want to see your shadow. So solving the shadow problem requires special work. Before being seen, shadows subtly add their obscure nature to your choices and actions, and sometimes even ruin your whole life.

Whether you want to or not, you have the following choices: become the Master of the Shadows. Try to understand the unconscious forces, feelings, needs, and potentials that produce repressed behaviors, so that you can make choices in life more freely ...

Let the shadow be the master. Let the drive and feeling you deny affect life, completely away from conscious choice.

We have many forms to choose from for shadow processing. For decades, the majority of people who have been resolved by the shadow problem have chosen to seek help from a trained therapist. Usually, they choose individual counseling and may also take the form of a long-term seminar or group therapy.

The field of psychotherapy is very broad. It contains a wide range of psychoanalysis schools, psychological dynamics, common cognitive theories, therapies that integrate various sensory and emotional approaches, and various methods based on the body. However, compared with the available methods, these are just superficial.

At various stages of development, there are many situations that can lead to internal setbacks, obstacles or injuries, and we naturally tighten and close in the face of existence itself. A variety of injuries or contractions can bring unique, distinctive shades or neuroses. The new field of integrated psychotherapy is to find the best treatment for the different pathology and to solve the problem.

There are many factors that affect treatment. Sometimes it is very effective to take a brief treatment, and sometimes it is necessary to use long-term therapy because of the severity of the problem. The role of an integrated therapist is to be able to make accurate judgments on important choices and find the most appropriate treatment.

Some people are unfortunate, mental disorders are extremely serious, such as people with schizophrenia, they can most benefit from the psychological medicine, usually for them, psychotherapy is a secondary choice. Generally speaking, holistic treatment requires both internal therapy and external therapy, even in the most severe cases, where the therapist tries to achieve a sensible balance both inside and outside.

For others (people with normal social functions, who want to improve the quality of life by "cleaning up their inner trash"), psychotherapy is a seductive luxury that helps us to gain professional and empathy help, penetrate into our own shadows, expand our consciousness, and open up new choices for our inner world.

3-2-1 Shadow handling

First select what you want to work with. Starting with a "difficult person" (such as a partner, boss, or parent) that attracts you or makes you uncomfortable, it's easier to do so, but you can also choose the images or body sensations that distract or fascinate you. Remember that this interference is likely to be positive or negative.

There are two ways to identify the shadow or the material that forms the shadow:

A: A passive way of being super sensitive, prone to triggering, reacting, being provoked, angry, wounded, sad, or it can hinder your life with a constant emotional tone or mood.

Another: To make you active in a way that is super sensitive, addictive, possessive, distracted, overly attracted, or, on the other, continuously idealized, resulting in specific emotions and motivations.

Then there are the following 3 steps:

3-Face

Take a close look at your obsession and then, using a diary or a conversation with an empty chair, use a third-person pronoun such as "he", "she", "it", "his", "her", "his", "theirs" to depict the person, the situation, the image, or the feeling in a delicate and vivid way. This is an opportunity to fully explore the troubled experience, especially to explore what bothers you. Instead of shrinking and diluting your worries, take advantage of this opportunity to describe it in as full and detailed a way as possible.

2-Conversation

Use the second person pronoun ("You" and "you") to talk to this consciousness. This is an opportunity to build relationships with your mind, and to talk directly to people, situations, images, or feelings in your consciousness. At first you may ask the question: "Who are you/what?" Where do you come from? What are you trying to get from me? What do you need to tell me? What gift have you brought me? "Allow this obsession to answer you, imagine the content of these questions, write them down or read them out." Allow and accept the content of the conversation to surprise you.

1-Become it

To write or say in the first person, to describe the person, situation, image, or feeling you already know, with the words "I" and "we", to see the world completely from the point of view of the person who troubled you, who also includes yourself, allowing you to not only find similarities, but also that you are actually one and the same. Finally, say a word of approval: "I am ____." "or" ____ is me. This sentence, in its nature, makes people feel very discordant or "wrong." (After all, this is the kind of denial you have in mind!) But try, at least in this sentence, the core of the truth.

The final step (1 of 3-2-1) usually has a second part, called re-possession of the shadow. Looking at the world in the first person's perspective, not a moment's work can be hastily concluded, only the most fundamental feeling-the feeling or motivation that has been rejected-is clearly yours to be treated and integrated.

Finally, let the previously excluded reality show up on many other levels, which will bring about changes in consciousness, emotion, subtle energies, and thus release the energies and concerns that are consumed by denial. You feel happier, freer, calmer and open, and sometimes excited or dizzy, and you know that the process is starting to work and it brings a new alternative lifestyle.

Example 1: Phil visits childhood friends

3-Face

I was afraid to visit my childhood best friend. The last time I went to his house, he and his wife and family all made me sick. He's a total coward! His wife took control of his life! His work is super safe, secure, and lifeless. He did not enjoy the life of the fountain is how carefree dripping! I have never felt the awe-blowing between the hair and the ends! If he can walk on the edge of the wild occasionally, it will be twice as fresh as now! But he betrayed himself. It makes me sick, and it makes me crazy to be with him.

2-Conversation

Phil: Why did you let your wife decide everything?

Joe: I don't, but I respect her opinion.

Phil: Why are you so happy about that not-so-lifeless job?

Joe: Hey, this job is good, it's a decent job, I like it.

Phil: Why don't you consider setting up your own company?

Joe: I like the way it is. It is more secure and not tired. What's so bad about that?

Phil repeatedly asked, found that Joe likes security and stability, do not want to live in the big ups and downs. But Phil likes to explore and fight for all the limits that can be fought and attainable.

1-Become it

Phil has become Joe. Phil said: "I want a safe, secure, smooth and predictable life." “

Re-own Shadow

Phil realized that he had denied his need for safety and security so thoroughly that he was easily touched by Joe's qualities. Everyone needs two things: excitement, vitality, adventure, passion, dazzle and high pay, and the other side is safety, security, predictability and comfort. Originally, he denied one aspect, now he became more complete, he can put two aspects of values into consideration, while the conscious clearly lunchbox.

This usually requires a change in perception and energy. Phil can continue to learn more about his safety and security needs and integrate them to make new choices in life more freely. He may have felt a new sympathy and empathy for Joe. He may realize that when his father died at the age of 12, he idealized his bluff father, a behavior that cast a shadow over his inner world. He may even find new ways to deal with life's challenges, for example, he may have a deep gratitude with Joe and Joe's family for a day and a half, the rest of the time to stay in the hotel, so as to avoid a certain aspect of demand over-consumption. All of this can happen.

Kenwellburg | The shadow of Life