Lee Kai-Fu's fifth letter to Chinese students: you have the right to choose (on)

A Chinese student has finished reading my third letter to Chinese students, feeling very deep, he wrote a letter to me and said: "Very small time, my goal is to grow up, grow up to do what, I did not think, when the primary school, parents gave me the goal is to test junior high school, admitted to junior high school to do what, I did not think When I was in junior high school, my parents gave me the goal is to test high school, admitted to high school to do what, I did not think about it; when I was in high school, my parents gave me the goal of going to college, doing what I did, and I didn't think about it. When I went to college, my parents gave me a goal to go abroad Now that I have a degree in study abroad, to find a job, what should I do next? This time, I want to think about it well. Thank you for your third letter, it awakened me to bury 25 years of enterprise, it changed my 25 years of passive way of life. From today onwards, I want to be active and live for myself! ”
When I was delighted that the Chinese student had finally understood his "right to choose", I could not help but think that more young people were still living in a confused way on the passive path. I see it every day on the "open and re-student" network: "Only you can tell me what I should do." "Of passive thinking.
In China's education system, students have to listen to their parents and teachers, the problem can be directly from parents and teachers to get help, it is easy to form a passive habit. Therefore, many Chinese young people are not good at actively planning their own growth routes, do not know how to actively search for resources, so that their studies and life on a higher ladder.
On the other hand, Chinese parents and teachers are accustomed to using someone else to help their children design their life plans, which often makes many people neglect their true character and interest, and when these children grow up, they will most likely find themselves lost in the "self-missing" oceans.
In addition, Chinese traditional culture emphasizes the collective consciousness, vigorously advocates "from the upper", "the conformity" and so on behavior way, these thought imperceptibly affects the generation after generation youth, so many young people think, "autonomy" the word is so strange and distant.
Therefore, the negative to the positive road is full of thorns. Although I have mentioned the importance of being proactive in my top four letters, I have decided to write a special letter about being proactive.
In order to become an international talent, in order to play their greatest potential in the information age, every enterprising Chinese youth should strive to force themselves from passive to active, we must become masters of their future, must actively manage their own academic and future career-no one more than you care about your work and life, No one is better than you to manage your life and career, only the active you, to find the true "ego", in order to make their way to success forever happy!
What is proactive?

people and things

 	Passive person	active People
yourself and the environment	own the environment around	own the right to choose
things lead	people can dominate or push things forward
When you encounter a problem	ask for help	Independent thinking
ring When the environment is bad	complaining	aggressive
What you always say	only You can tell me what to do. I must obey the arrangement of the environment. who can tell me which major to choose? Why doesn't anyone notice me? I always have no time to do sth. Only You can tell me what to do. Both my parents have diabetes, and I'm sure I will.	I can do it better on my own. I have the right to choose. I want to make a plan to choose the major that suits me best. I want to learn how to attract people's attention. What unimportant things should I give up to do the most important things? I am the only one who has the right and responsibility to decide what I should do. Although parents have diabetes, but as long as pay attention to exercise, pay attention to diet, can reduce the risk of illness.

Negative Passive (reactive) people always think that they are affected by the environment and others, if others do not point, the environment does not change, he only have to live negatively. When confronted with a problem, the passive person will always find someone to help the decision, when the environment is bad, they can complain. They are always waiting for the fate of the arrangement or the noble help. For one thing, they always think that things are finding them, that they cannot dominate or push things forward.
The pro-active (pro-active) people believe that in any case, they always have the right to choose. Therefore, they always have a sense of responsibility for themselves, because fate is manipulated in their own hands, and they are not the environment or the dependency of others. For one thing, they always think that they can dominate the occurrence and development of things.
Why be proactive?
30 years ago, in an industrial society, every employee was a cog in the machine of an enterprise. Although the machine needs gears, the gears are replaceable. The best gears are durable and not excellent. So these companies ' favorite people are:

A person with professional knowledge and ability to work hard.

Earthshaking, in today's rapidly changing era, people's definition of talent has undergone a great change, because in the modern enterprise, more people have the right to make decisions, more people must be in the thinking of innovation, and more people have enough space to decide what to do, how to do ... Most people's work is no longer a mechanical repetition, but a complex process that requires independent thinking and self-decision. Peter Druker, a leading management psychologist, said: "Future historians will say that the most important thing in this century is not the innovation of technology or the Internet, but a major change in the state of human existence." In this century, people will have more choices, they must actively manage themselves. "So, the expectations of most good business people today are:

A person who is active, passionate, and confident.

In order to succeed in a modern enterprise, we must strive to cultivate their own initiative consciousness: in the work to take the responsibility, the initiative to set goals for themselves, and constantly improve the way and methods; In addition, should cultivate the ability to promote themselves, in front of leaders or colleagues to be good at showing their own advantages,
As a young generation of contemporary China, you should no longer just passively wait for someone to tell you what to do, but instead take the initiative to understand what you are going to do, plan for it, and then go all out to complete it. Think of the most successful people in the world today, how many are submissive, passive, negative people? For your own studies and research projects, you need to be committed and committed to a mother's sense of responsibility as a child. As long as there is a proactive attitude, there is no goal is not attainable.
In fact, many young people do not take a proactive attitude to make their own decisions, but are not accustomed to making their own decisions on major issues. If I asked a Chinese university student, "What is the most common decision you make?" His answer is likely to be deciding what kind of computer to buy, what movies to watch, what books to read, and so on. While these things need to be decided, many of the more important decisions need to be made by yourself. For example, like to read what major, read what school, postgraduate or go abroad, and so on the decision, you may be accustomed to listen to the parents of the arrangement, or refer to the choice of most students-but, in these most important issues, only your own decision can help you to achieve true success. Make insignificant decisions, but decisions that have a significant impact on your life are heard by others. How illogical it is! Moreover, even if you make your own decisions, you may not have spent enough time in advance to investigate and research. Reckless or hasty decisions may make you regret your whole life!
When Google's founder Serge Brin (Sergey Brin) and Larry Page were interviewed on television, reporters asked what school they were successful in, and did not answer to Stanford or Michigan University, and answered "Montessori Primary School". " Free learning does not have any negative input in the way. In the Montessori education environment, they learned "their own things, their own responsibility, their own solution" is such a positive way of education gave them encouragement to try, positive self-motivated, self-driven habits, and thus brought their success.
Therefore, every young person should have a positive, active heart, you must be good at planning and management of their own business, for their own life to make the most important choice. No one cares more about your career than you do, and there is nothing like a positive attitude that embodies your own independent personality.
As the American poet Whitman wrote in the leaves of the leaves: "I can't, no one else can go that way instead of you, you have to go alone." ”
Seven steps to take a proactive approach
To achieve a positive state, I suggest you follow the figure shown in the seven steps, gradually adjust their mentality, cultivate their habits, learn to seize opportunities, create opportunities, and in the process of positive display of self-harvest success and happiness.

Step Hygienic handrub: Have a positive attitude, optimistic about the face of life
Psychologists have long discovered that a person is defeated not because of an external environment, but because of how he reacts to the environment. This is what Milan Milutinovich, the former coach of China's national men's football team, called "Attitude decides everything." Complaining doesn't change reality, but positive attitudes and actions can change everything.
According to psychologists, everyone produces about 50,000 ideas a day. If you have a positive attitude, you can turn these 50,000 ideas into positive energy and motivation with optimism and creativity, and if your attitude is negative, you will appear pessimistic, weak, insecure, and will turn these 50,000 ideas into negative obstacles and resistance.
Negative people allow or expect the environment to control themselves, like to listen to other arrangements, but in such circumstances, he could not have the ability to control their own fate, but also can not avoid the bad luck, on the contrary, the positive people always with perseverance, perseverance in the spirit of facing difficulties, his success is just around the corner. Positive people always use the most optimistic spirit and the most glorious experience to dominate and control their own life, the negative is just the opposite, their life is always in the past in the shadow of failure and confusion.
With a positive attitude, there is no guarantee that everything will succeed. A positive attitude will certainly change a person's way of life, but it does not guarantee that everything will be done, but persistence in a negative attitude will be defeated, and I have never seen anyone with a negative attitude able to achieve sustainable and true success.
Of course, not everything must be chosen by themselves, and not everything can be dominated by themselves. Therefore, in choosing a positive attitude, we must maintain a level of peace of mind, that is, I often say the words:
have the courage to change things that can be changed, to accept things that are immutable, to have wisdom to tell the difference.

Step Hygienic Handrub II: Stay away from passive habits and start with small things
Passive habits are the biggest obstacle to active initiative, if you grow up in a negative, passive environment, you should try to eliminate the negative factors that you own.
For example, passive people are always superstitious fatalism, the bad things are blamed on genetic genetics, constellations, blood types and other factors, and thus become a pity, always blame others not, accusing the environment of bad-if such ideas become a habit, he will fall into a negative passive vicious circle, difficult to extricate themselves.
How should young people stay away from passive passivity? I would like to make five suggestions to you:
First, do not blindly listen to the criticism, should be calm analysis, positive verification
Nowadays, rumors are often circulating on the Internet. If you blindly trust these rumors, you will be left with some ulterior motives. For example, a student sent a letter saying: "I want to read a private school course, because it can send a degree in Cambridge University." "A calm analysis should tell you that there is always a trap in this" pie in the Sky "thing. Then as long as the search engine positive verification, immediately can distinguish its authenticity.
In addition, many students do not know how to actively search and verify information methods or importance. A lot of students asked me to help him find a certain university information, and even some students asked me about the meaning and usage of a word-in fact, the information on the Internet as long as a simple search, you can find the answer. So, every time I find out the answer, I always warn these students that:
"If you want to know something, go to the Internet to find it, do not rush to ask others, if you hear something, do not blindly believe, you should take the initiative to online verification." ”
Second, do not let things find you, should take the initiative to exert influence on the matter
Every thing that happens to you should be developed and changed by your decision, not because you do nothing to become a reality.
A classmate told me: "I applied for two jobs, of which I prefer the competitive job, but the students are also fighting for that job." Now I have to choose to wait, if the company does not hire me, I will go to another company. ”
I was surprised to ask him: "Since you like the first job, why are you so passive, only know waiting instead of taking the initiative to fight it?" ”
Do not forget that passive is a waiver, not to make a decision is a decision.
The Chinese who work at Microsoft know Guo, a small, young and lively girl. You might be surprised to see her at first glance. She is one of the most senior Chinese managers in Microsoft. But if you talk to her for a minute, you won't be surprised. Every word she speaks reveals self-confidence and positive optimism in leadership, and rigorous logic and strategic thinking. She had told me a story about her active:
"I emigrated from China to the United States at the age of 16. I had to take the SAT for six months after I arrived in the United States. At that time my oral English was not bad, but grammar, vocabulary, composition are not good. Although my sat Math test 780 points (close to 800 points), but the English test only 280 points. If has failed also has 200 points, you can imagine how bad 280 points are! But I'm still hopeful about applying to the department of Electrical Engineering at the University of California. ”
"Because my English SAT scores are too low, my application is likely to be rejected directly without being read. But I am not a loser, and I am convinced that if I am admitted, I will be a successful engineer. So I decided to ' appeal '. ”
"I wrote a letter directly to the University of California's engineering chief. In the letter, I introduced myself, I proudly described my achievements in science and technology, explained that I had just arrived in the United States for six months English question, stressed my learning ability and hard spirit. Finally, I said: ' Madam Dean, if you accept me, I promise I will become the property of your school. ’”
Two days later, the Dean interviewed me. When I interviewed her, she saw that my English had actually progressed very quickly. I assure her in person that my English will learn as well as the American classmates. A week later, the University of California, backtrack, decided to accept me. ”

Lee Kai-Fu's fifth letter to Chinese students: you have the right to choose (on)