Message of "Looking into the Sun" life

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The sun is strong, so life grows. The sun is so hot that the eyes can't look straight. But someday, we have to face her, whether you want to or not.

The sunshine here implies death. Death is not an accidental event, it is the necessity of life. She has been silently accompanying us, she has never gone far. But why people fear death, fear of the death of loved ones, even fear of mentioning the word. What the hell is going on back there?

This thousands of-year-old puzzle, I was confused when I was a teenager. But this confusion is blinded by the illusion of youth. Think more days, death is someone else's thing. In college, I experienced the departure of my grandmother, my feelings belong to a feeling of paralysis. People near the so-called middle-aged, this thing seems to gradually become a matter, as if still akzent and oneself still have a little relationship.

Since 20 years old, about the death of books and movies to read some, then the sigh and moved, and did not stay too long. My confusion is as big as a snowball, so I have to look straight into the sun, even if it hurts.

It was a luxury for me to participate in the three-day death experience workshop in Beijing. Because my children are small, I seldom go to such long activities alone for personal reasons. Grateful for the support of the wife and the parents, help to look after the children.

This death experience was created by Guizin, the creator of the "Death unfinished" public number , which has been in production since the year . There is a mystery homework before class, if you will die tomorrow, find a person, ask what they say to you?

It is very difficult for me to ask this question. Worry about other people think I am sick, worry about no one reply to do, worry about the impact on others how to do. I made a list of my own, but I still didn't have the courage to ask one on the other. But do not finish homework and very embarrassed fear of the upper hand, and then simply in a group of friends and college students sent. Tell me about the work of the workshop, please help us. To be honest, it takes me a great deal of courage to do so, and it leaves me a lot of room to avoid the pain of one-on-one questioning being rejected or neglected.

Originally I did not hold too much hope, let me particularly warm and touched is, within a day, I received more than 10 messages. Every message gives me great strength. In particular, a few long time to meet the classmates and friends, reply to a very long thoughtful after the message. Because space is limited, I can only pick a few shares.

-I didn't expect you to play such a deep experience. But if you really go, I will wish you rest, thank the destined to meet you, you are extremely kind, the life is full of curious people, life is the process, there is death, although you return to the dust, and the younger generation in the river flow, you should be in another space to observe, you have achieved the meaning of your life. Your Wanderers are going to have a helping hand when they need us, goodbye.

-Say sorry to your wife, because you must have caused her to be angry. By the way to discuss with her next how to raise a child, since you are not responsible for the escape, funeral arrangements to be good. It's going to be bright, you have to go, look at the sleeping child's wife, and you live a long time home. Sit down, relax, let's go! Everyone will have to leave sooner or later, you are very lucky, because you prophet ...

- at the beginning I was also very worried about fear, now also slowly learned to accept the reality, a lot of things as long as we try, the result is still resigned to it! Come on, all the difficulties will pass.

-All the difficulties and problems are temporary, after a few years to recall, in fact, the suffering brought us memories is the most profound, but also let us mature the fastest. Come on

-For those who are going to die, we usually do not want to be told what, but hope to get a last words. The best last words are Wang Yangming said, "This heart is bright, but also what to say." My understanding is, "All of the world I have understood, I understand that I have already said, so I have no regrets."

In particular, the following a friend's sharing let me extremely touched:

first, what unfinished business do you have? Life, there are always some things can not be carefree, the desire will be rational restraint, really I was hidden up, then if you want to release your own real me, some things do not dare to do, to do, some people do not dare to love, go to love, I will be your strong supporter," shun the Heart "in order to make your heart settle.

The second question: How do you want your loved ones to face your death? Is it pain, or is it peace? Life, the only one can accompany you for a lifetime, only you, all other relatives, friends, enemies, are just your journey in the road of a partner, separate is inevitable. So if you can clearly tell relatives and friends, thank them in this journey of life accompany, very happy, and this life has no desire to unfinished. Well, maybe they have less pain, and their pain is something you're worried about. So, if you're going to have a happy funeral, I'll be your staunch supporter.

cherish the present, in the time to get along seriously, in the separate time to face. Let life live simple and real, like what,justdo It, do not because of external reasons and suppress themselves, this is my point of view.

The meaning of the homework before this lesson is very important to me. I understand more clearly that my previous worries are actually superfluous. Those who do not intend to respond will not change their minds because of your worries. But if you don't go for help because you are worried, you will miss the warmth and affection. Most of the time people will respond sincerely when the softest side of one's own is lit up without any reservation. The premise is that you have the wisdom to judge under what circumstances and who to share is safe and worthwhile.

Thank the Friends for their reply, this warm me at the same time, perhaps you will reap some experience. Maybe some people have never been asked this question.

I think I should leave a message, but the letter was rejected. I was very concerned at first, and an old friend talked about their uneasiness. That's what old friends say: You have the right to think about the issues you care about, and others have the right not to respond to them. Everyone's spiritual journey is only possible when TA is ready. Death is your own business, everyone dies. His spiritual path, after all, is a person's practice. No matter what books and lectures, you can not tell you a definite answer. You have to make a path, and you depend on yourself.

After listening to this passage, I put down. It also has a relaxed mindset to meet this three-day journey of death experience.

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Message of "Looking into the Sun" life