My parents, please praise me once! _ Classic Net Pick

Writing this article is entirely from the heart. 2008.05.31
I've been a 30-year-old for the year. In these 30 years, my parents did not give me shred decent encouragement, at least I feel this way (perhaps there have been one or two times, can not remember).

When I try my hardest to do something, I succeed, it's better (though my parents won't say a word of encouragement or praise, they'll tell me it's not a big deal) and I have compliments from people around me. If the failure, the people's eyes do not say, parents are absolutely not soothing, they will say that I am stupid, no skills, not as so-and-so a family of children.

Chinese parents are often afraid of their children's praise to cause the child to be proud, in fact, in children's eyes, parents praise is necessary, there is no reason to be stingy. Of course, but also not because of parents praise and pride, this praise will only increase the child's self-confidence. When a child is trying to do something, even if it fails, the process is also worthy of attention, is worthy of the parents to comfort and encourage. And Chinese parents in the face of children's failure is often used in the opposite language to achieve the so-called "stimulation, incentive" role, and through what "China", "dared" such as a kind of cover.

It is so strange that the praise from the parents rarely makes the child proud, so that the child is often proud of other people's boundless flattery, and the Chima from the parents often frustrate the child's spirit. When a child fails, what is needed is the comfort and encouragement of the loved one, and only the Chima sarcasm from the opponent and the enemy will provoke the child's morale.

My childhood, Boyhood, regardless of success and failure has not been from the parents of what praise, encouragement, my parents are more feudal tradition of the kind. This makes me with people rarely see each other's strengths and advantages, often dismissive of each other. Do things themselves often hard, a hundredfold efforts, the success of ecstatic but not loved to share with the loved ones, the failure of the original still have the morale of the parents poured a scoop of cold water.

Since childhood, the lack of this from the parents of the identity, this lack of the most basic feelings and slowly formed character finally let me painful. I will not lightly praise the virtues and strengths of others, because I also want to have the advantages and strengths to win praise, fortunately not mad to the extent of jealousy. Even people all over the world to praise me, can not make up for the missing in my heart. I have been everywhere to help others, even 24 hours online to answer all kinds of computer problems, I thought won the honor and praise can make up for the loss of my heart, but failed.

Father is a car driver, once traveled to most of China, through his hands out of The apprentice after a stubble, but I said nothing will recognize him as a teacher, because I do not want to be more uncomfortable. I'd rather not drive a car all my life.

I know, this one is missing a piece of heart, my life is not up. Luckily, I haven't reached the point where I'm crazy.