Old Korea thought: Why 3 years after graduation, the difference between students so big?

A few years ago a student trained, with their own personal sentiment wrote this paragraph, very clear explanation, why after graduation some people career more and more successful, and some people are mixed worse. Very deep, very deep, I was quite touched after reading ...

One heavy topic: How does the gap between people be pulled apart?

Overhead the same blue sky, pedal the same land, the same policy, the same conditions, why people earn million yuan or even hundreds of thousands of yuan, someone has long been wandering in the food and clothing line? This is Dora, how is the gap pulled apart?

More puzzling is that some of the congenital conditions clearly not as usual people are still mixed well, heard the story of Zhang Haidi, high paralysis is still strong life, to make immortal achievements; have seen the command genius JoJo, severe congenital fool patients, IQ than many people, but in music has achieved respectable achievements. And some people acquired conditions relatively good, but still mixed down, saw many beggars, clearly limbs sound, but live begging life; I have heard a lot of people with a high degree of education, obviously have a clever brain, but the opposite to Beijing line jump track.

What determines the people so different and the contrast, why some people will mix well, some people are not very good?

Two or three mix of the best classmate experience, let me reflect on the cause of the gap between people

This year's Spring Festival home, was fortunate to participate in junior high school reunion. The party will be seven or eight people in total. When we come to the had been, it is quite exciting to think that we have not met each other for so many years. Everyone together in a farewell for many years of missing, recalled that unforgettable old age, also very happy. The party has a link, that is, we will be a sentence to introduce their own status and the experience of the road. Just know that birth and I as poor junior high school students, although there is no shortage of people, but there are no lack of people mixed scenery Unlimited. Tell me about the experiences of the three best classmates in the mix:

A classmate is our junior high school that will study the best students. The entrance examination was admitted to a famous university in Beijing, but the junior college was forced to drop out because of too many hanging branches. If you think he is a tragedy then it is wrong, a classmate dropped out of college and one reason is because he in a well-known it foreign company found a salary of 300,000 of the job. 300,000 annual salary, 8 years ago, is a huge sum of money. How did he do it? Originally a classmate Read Computer department, in the big moment, he came into contact with the Linux technology and produced a huge interest, also determined to study Linux, at that time, not like now there are so many Linux materials and video, can only hold their own about the Linux tome himself. In the next two years, he spent all his mind on the Linux study, even sleep at night and lie in bed with a flashlight to delve into. Until the end of the junior high school, because of its university energy too much spent on the study of Linux, and will not give gifts to teachers, leading to too many hanging branch, can only reluctantly drop out, but the harvest is well-known IT company to hire him 300,000 annual salary. Now the student's annual salary, you can imagine yourself.

b classmate is and I go closer to a classmate, because to high school or classmate. b Classmate is a very special person, when we read to escape from the agricultural gate, and he is thinking of learning culture to return to the countryside. At that time high school stage, he and I blow "agriculture industry and trade integration, Supply dragon", he wants to be a modern peasant. Test University, we are as far as possible to the provincial test, and he is the Jiangxi Agricultural University of Agriculture, I know for a moment he really not bragging, and for his dream took the first step. When graduation, we work in the city, and he ran home to pig, at that time by many hometown people despise, said he was white reading. A certain time, I still see him in a blue coat, wearing a basket in the field to play ragweed, face black and carbon. After all these years, and through the ups and downs, his pig farm has become the county's largest meat supply base, and also supply a number of neighboring counties and even the provincial capital has been asked him for goods. Now its farm scale is conceivable.

C classmate is a junior high school results are not very good, test high school can only be professional. When we were high, we heard he dropped out of school and went to the army in Hefei, Anhui province. Because of the simplicity of our rural people, so in the army to do the work is never to steal tricky, hard work dirty Rob dry, so in the Army glorious Party. But because of its culture is not high, the army leadership is the intention of cultivation is also powerless, a few years down he retired to work in Dongguan. Because considering that he has no education, the future can no longer have no technology, so he firmly hold a purpose, that is, must find a job to learn technology! Because there is no education, and do not want to be a security, but also want to learn technology, so it is difficult to find a job in Dongguan. At a job fair, he saw a paper mill hiring, but it was too remote from the site, even though not many people were applying. He went to the Internet bar to understand the paper mill technical work, think it can be used as a technology to learn, the next day to apply for production workers. In the factory, he started from the pulping work, the job is not only heavy physical labor, the environment is also very bad, not one months, the new recruit only he and a high school two people do this, after six months, high school students can not bear to go, the new people left him to insist. This caused the boss's attention, learned that he was a soldier experience and want to be a technical worker's desire, let the master of the workshop to take him to do cutting work, from this technical work, he in the factory has been in the boiler, electrician instrumentation, Chemical division, mastered the factory paper machine operation, troubleshooting and other complete technology, To now he has become the company's sole responsibility for production of Vice president, become the boss of the right-arm. is also a blessing, with the development of Dongguan City, the factory formerly remote location to now also become a busy land, paper mills due to the benefits of good, and his natural treatment is quite abundant, the value has also been hundreds of thousands of annual salary, has become a senior person in the papermaking industry!

The way home has been thinking, why they can mix well? Is it a relationship? Network? Background? Thinking? Courage? Luck? Will relationship serve? into the right line with the right person? Or even a good dad with a bureaucrat or a rich father? None of the above seems to be right! For the success of the desire to let me always think, my three classmates, the region of struggle, different degrees of intelligence, the industry is different, the same is on their own, but why they can achieve far beyond the success of peers? Thinking for a long time, Lenovo to their own unsuccessful experience (after sharing), I finally found that their success, is that they have a suitable for their own goals and can also be for the purpose of longer to persist, success is not like the theory of success, is to rely on the wits between peers to achieve, The best way to succeed is always to set a goal that is right for you and earnestly to persevere.

1, the success of the road, there is no doubt persist

To make things happen, what we lack is not planning, not ideas, but insisting on doing a very deep in the matter. Recalling that many years ago in a training school to learn PHP, listen to the teacher said this sentence "The difference between people is not IQ, is to insist." Now popular a law, called "10,000 hours Law", said that no matter what you do, as long as the 10,000 hours of learning and accumulation, anyone can from ordinary to extraordinary. Many well-known successful people, whether it is Bill Gates, golf Ted Woods, or the stock master Buffett, or even one of our Chinese cattle, only the junior high school culture of the Qingdao port hoisting master Xuzhenchao, they can become a master in the Masters, all lies in their long-time investment.

Perseverance, perseverance, it belongs to the potential of each of us, as long as we have a desire for success, we can certainly inspire this potential. My three mixed good classmates, although the academic qualifications are different, the industry is also very different, but they have no difference has a persistent big heart. Whether it is the study of the students of Linux (more than two years of time, go all out, is to sleep before also drilling in the quilt also study, even if other disciplines hung branch also at the expense), or pig of the classmate (high school began to work hard, no matter how cynical countryman, all insist), Or in the Dongguan paper mill work students (insist on their own technical job to find the goal, and then tired also insisted), they are young have reached the envy of other students on the road, which is not more than 10,000 hours of perseverance!

Of course, perseverance is not only in the length of time, but also in a long time serious. Think that there are many people around us who work long hours in their posts, far more than 10,000 hour, why they are still down? That is because there are two ways to do things, one is to do things seriously, the other is to deal with things, if the attitude to deal with things, is to adhere to the time is longer, that is only adhere to deal with! So if you fail now, do not complain that you do not have the opportunity, not every noble, underappreciated, but first ask oneself Kung fu under enough, have not paid 10,000 hours of effort. You should not complain if you don't work hard enough for a long time.

2, more important than adhere to, to find a suitable for their own goals

More important than persistence is to find a goal that suits you! In fact, there are two layers of meaning. First, the goal should suit oneself, second, the goal does not too much perfection, one can.

1) Goals to suit themselves, to suit their own character and play their own advantages, which is the root of self-confidence

To succeed no doubt will persist, but in the words of old fathers, but also will mention give up, such as "where the end of the grass, why the love of a Flower", in the modern Soul chicken soup-like articles, but also the "Front is a dead end, hope in the corner", "stubborn insistence is the obstinacy of" and such words. In the face of setbacks and difficulties, we should insist or give up?

Also from the countryside, is also the desire for success, the same is the blood flowing with tenacity and diligence, also have not silly head, but I am far less than the students so successful. Think of my college just graduated, because of professional forced, went to the sales ranks, I thought I was fit to go sales this road, because the study is the management of professional, but also interested in marketing. But when I got to the sales position, I found it was totally not the case. I have done a shopping guide, telephone sales, business, because the character is more introverted, not good at words and communication, although because my diligent and studious attitude to get Mister approval, but I myself is very painful. I will be at the end of the task of the return of the pain, will be the wine table how to talk pain, and even for smoking and drinking pain, no matter how hard, sales are always no rise, resulting in this line of work more and more lack of self-confidence. But because "the general is not dead soldiers" this sentence, in the sales position, I insisted on 3 years, do not like things, insist is simply suffering. Finally, one day, I saw a report that said that the famous American human resource consultant, Roger Anderson, had a startling discovery: "98% of successful people succeed because they are engaged in a career that fits their character." Losers, on the other hand, always want to succeed in areas where they are inappropriate. I immediately felt as if I was the loser in the eyes of an American expert who wanted to succeed in an inappropriate field. After spending a few days thinking about their character, I finally gave up the 3-year sales goal to turn in a good training institutions to learn PHP, has now embarked on the technical road, life is steady. Technical posts suitable for their introverted character, only to find to do their own study of the character of the matter, do not feel bitter. In view of the three mixed good classmates, they are engaged in the work, are consistent with his character. Therefore, we insist on the goal to do as far as possible to meet their own character of the matter!

China also has an old saying, called "Steed can adventure, rc than cattle, car can load, the river is not as good as a boat, long to short, to seek the whole", this tells us, must pay attention to weaknesses. Everyone has their own good, even if the IQ is very low people also have their own talent (do not believe, think of the above mentioned boat boat), the goal of the establishment must pay attention to play their own good, otherwise, will let themselves more and more no confidence! Look back at my 3 mixed good classmates, their goal-setting are fully in line with their expertise, that is good research, good breeding, can endure hardship. Their goals and good match, do their own good things, will not feel tired, but the more do the more confident. At the end of the day, when peers still struggle to survive, they have been successful in advance. Therefore, people's goal is also the best to pay attention to play their own good.

Back to the question at the beginning of this verse: when we meet setbacks and suffering is to give up or stick to it? In fact, the main goal is to see whether the target itself is in line with their own character, if you can play their own advantages, in other words, you can make the more confident! If we are on the way to the goal of less confidence, then this shows that the goal is not in line with their own character, also can not play their own good, then the insistence is simply suffering, suggest you and I choose to give up, rethink their own future. If our goal, in line with their own character, and can play their own advantages, then, if we encounter hardship, that difficulty for us is only temporary, must be like my three mixed good classmates, adhere to, will achieve greater success than ordinary people.

So it's important to stick with it, but it's more important to choose what's right for you! In order to inspire their own potential to adhere to, more need to choose the right to their own goals. This goal needs to fit our character and play me good, can let us on the road to this goal more and more confident.

2) The goal should not too much perfection, but to try to be accurate, learning a mode, the best one goal

By focusing on the power, the laser cuts hard diamonds and steel plates easily, and the sun's energy is hundreds of thousands of times times the size of the laser, but because of the dispersion, it can only become warm sunlight, which reveals that our goals should be focused. Think of a few years ago when learning PHP experience, asked the teacher, after learning PHP is not still going to learn Java, in Java and PHP are well-known lecturer Hanshunping teacher warned me, PHP not proficient to learn Java, too much perfection, then very likely you will not. So listen to teacher's advice, this has been in the past few years in the field of PHP focus on the forward, but also got a good income!

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At the moment, but also think of doing sales read a book, said the American enterprises and Japanese-style enterprises in the operation of the difference. The main business philosophy of American Enterprises is called a (America) model, the most notable feature of a mode is focus, narrow and deep, while the main business philosophy of Japanese Enterprises is called J (Japan) mode, J mode is broad and superficial. China's household electrical appliance Enterprises generally adopted the J-mode development, finally plunged into the industry downturn, Haier is the most representative. Haier started with refrigerators, in the "Meet customer demand" concept of guidance, gradually into the black power, IT, mobile communications and other dozens of areas. According to Haier's published business data estimates, Haier's profit margin is roughly around 1%, no wonder Haier's chairman, Zhang's sigh, "Haier's profits as thin as the blade." Corresponding to this, the typical a-mode enterprise in home appliance Enterprises-Gree, through the focus, in more than 10 years by a small enterprise developed into China's largest air-conditioning enterprises, China's home appliance enterprises to become the most profitable enterprises. Visible enterprises and brands to obtain competitiveness, only focus, people are not it?

Back to my three mixed good classmates, they can succeed, in addition to insist, in addition to the goal to suit their own character and good, there is a reason that is the goal of focus. A classmate goal is Linux, does not extend to the database, the language and so on a lot of it technology, B classmate goal is cattle raising pig, also did not extend to now very popular farm music and so on characteristic tour, C classmate goal is oneself can engage in the technical work of paper mill, past, There is no plan to study other types of plant equipment now and in the future. If there is another lesson to be summed up in goal-setting, it is that they have no exception, that is, to set their own goals are very exclusive, adhere to the formation of a great pressure.

Therefore, the goal should not too much perfection, and to try to be as precise as possible, the best is a goal.

Iv. What are the shortcuts to success?

Success in fact there is no shortcut, because any success, all need to work hard, hard, long time to insist. But compared to a lot of people after decades of life is only a muddle, success has a shortcut, that is to adhere to a suitable for their goals, adhere to the efforts of more than 10,000 hours. Believe me, if we really do, even if we can not become masters, Giants, at least we will become an industry with a rich experience of experts, a useful person for the community, a person with no worry about food and clothing.

If we are not very good, please reflect on ourselves, is not because we have not found the right target? is not because the goal is not suitable for their own character, can not play their own good and let adhere to our eyes become a torment? If that is the case, please slow down the pace of the present, attentively to dig their own character and good, re-find the target, and then stare at this goal, continue to work hard, insist at least 10,000 hours, and then look up the road, you will find that you have walked in front of many people unconsciously!

Persistence is important, the goal is more important, not related to the poor children, please remember our "mixed good" strategy: a suitable goal + 10,000 hours of persistent efforts!

Old Korea thought: Why 3 years after graduation, the difference between students so big?