now the New Year's Day is still three months, the original plan of the year before most of the unfinished, suddenly panic. Is
always a variety of excuses to procrastinate, now summed up to find that the main reason is that the expectations are too high, leading to their own inadequacy, and then start self-criticism, emotional once a negative feeling, will delay.
in order to get rid of this dilemma, I decided to start from the following points.
first, reduce expectations
I always want to take a bite to eat a fat, weight loss, reading, learning English, improve professional ability, always want to all kinds of plans to do together, try to take all the time of day can use up, do not give yourself a little entertainment time to relax, and once the plan is not such development mood will be problems, began to slack off, began self-criticism Everyone wants to be quick and self-made .long, but their own such destructive enthusiasm will only play a reverse effect.
so learn to focus. A plan only completes one thing. For example, January time for the habit of fitness exercise, and so on, after the completion of the habit, then to learn English plans to join.
second, self-reward
when a thing is done you can give yourself something to relax or reward. For example, the sports plan January in a smooth progress, you can at the end of the month to reward yourself to eat some dessert until vomiting.
third, delay the satisfaction/positive reward mechanism
when you start to plan, be sure to realize that the interruption of the plan will certainly happen, but never blame it, let the negative thoughts filled the head, you need to do is actually very simple, set up a self-reward mechanism
we often have this situation when we were young: to parents said if I test 100 points, you take me to play electric hit until the time
This approach is naïve, but very effective.
phased targets depending on size, can create different reward mechanisms
Iv. Positive reward mechanism at the same time also pay attention to, avoid "Don't xx" slogan, but should say "XX" slogan
do a test, please do not imagine an elephant wearing a gentleman's hat, smiling face, smile wretched flying in the sky
you failed because you couldn't stop thinking about it.
Similarly, when you shout slogans when: "Do not give up" is actually constantly give their psychological hint, let "give up" these two words in the head deep-rooted
you should say to yourself: "To persist in the end, to persist in the end!" "Don't even want to give up these two words in your head.
Another example, "no snacks" slogan changed to "to maintain an empty stomach feeling, to maintain an empty stomach, eat only two meals a day, only eat meals a day" better
so from today onwards, it is necessary to put any negative slogans, emotions are all changed to positive!
--------------------------------------------------I'm a lovely dividing line----------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------- The above is to read the palm of the second taste of the notes are admired, and from the purchase of the VIP to now have one months expired, but even a set of completed video has not been completed, always in continuous planning, but never put into action. Deep reflection of themselves. 3 months from New Year's Day, and his birthday is just past, for the growth of the age and self-growth to feel very frustrated. With this reflection of self-analysis of the words to write again beautiful, it is better to put into action, learning to develop a habit is the right path. The most important thing is to grow as a front-end and not be complacent. Follow the learning map, manic up, SAO Year!!! Fight for the end to a different self!
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