One thousand yuan of wisdom-avoiding traps on the road of life

At a cocktail party, Mr. Zhang took out a large dollar bill from his pocket and announced to all the guests that he would like to auction the large dollar bill to the top bidder, in the unit of 50 yuan, until no one increases the price. The person with the highest bid must pay Mr. Zhang the price he prescribed to obtain the large dollar bill. However, although the second-highest bid cannot receive a large dollar bill, he still needs to pay Mr. Zhang the price for his offer.
　　　　
This special auction of 'buy money with money' immediately attracted everyone's interest. At the beginning, the price of '100 billion yuan ', '100 billion yuan', and '100 billion yuan 'came one after another. When the price code was raised to '100 billion yuan', the pace slowed down, only three or four of them are bidding. In the end, Mr. Wang and Mr. Lin were unable to meet each other.
　　　　
When Mr. Wang shouted "950 yuan", Mr. Zhang played the large dollar bill in his hand and looked at Mr. Lin awkwardly. Mr. Lin seemed to blurrier out without thinking: "1050 Yuan! 'There was a small stir in the venue. Mr. Zhang turned to look at Mr. Wang proudly and waited for him to raise the price or exit. Mr. Wang Bit his teeth and said, '100 RMB! 'The crowd had a bigger turmoil. Mr. Lin waved his hand and drank a cocktail, saying he had to quit the 'Crazy auction. 'Then everyone breathed a sigh of relief.
　　　　
As a result, Mr. Wang paid 2050 yuan and bought the 1000 yuan bill, while Mr. Lin paid 1050 yuan in plain white '. The two were 'evenly divided into autumnal colors', And the '100 RMB 'of each loss was included in Mr. Zhang's purse.
　　　　
Three features of traps
　　　　
This game was invented by M. shubik, an economist at Yale University. People who want to pay for it have almost tried and tried to 'make money' from this auction '. It is a kind of "trap of Life". Mr. Lin and Mr. Wang, who participate in the bidding, are getting deeper and deeper in this "trap", unable to extricate themselves, and finally paid a painful price.
　　　　
Since ancient times, humans have set up the 'traps 'for animal hunting. They generally have the following three features:
　　　　
1. There is an obvious bait.
　　　　
2. The road to bait is one-way, but it cannot be obtained.
　　　　
3. The more you want to break away from it, the deeper you get into it.
　　　　
The size and traps of life paths are similar.
　　　　
A. teger) once analyzed the people who participated in the 'dollar Bill auction game' and found that people who fell into the 'traps 'often had two motivations, first, it is economic and first, it is interpersonal.
　　　　
Economic motives include the desire to win the large dollar bill, the desire to win back his losses, and the desire to avoid more losses; interpersonal Motivations include the desire to save your face, prove that you are the best player, and punish your opponent. A dollar bill is an obvious bait. In the beginning, everyone wanted to win it in a cheap and easy way, hoping that their price code would be the final price code, and everyone would keep bidding for each other.
　　　　
After a period of time, that is, when the bid is quite high, the two people who are unable to compete find themselves falling into a trap, but they can no longer leave, they have invested a lot, only by increasing investment to break away from the predicament.
　　　　
When the bid is equal to the 'bonus ', the competitor starts to feel anxious and uneasy and find his or her own? Why did the hacker send his treasure?
　　　　
When the bid is higher than the prize, no matter how hard he tries, he is the "loser". However, in order to save his face or punish the other party, he will not hesitate to raise the price at the expense of the price, in order to make 'opponents suffer even worse '. Traps everywhere
　　　　
In daily life, from competition in malls to waiting for buses, There are traps waiting for you.
　　　　
For example, a bus usually runs for 15 minutes. When you wait for more than 10 minutes, you will get bored, but you will usually wait, when the bus does not arrive for more than 15 minutes, you may feel "regret" in addition to cursing. You should walk or take a taxi 15 minutes ago.
　　　　
But usually you will keep waiting, because you have invested so much time and are unwilling to take a taxi now, the result will get deeper and deeper, and you will not be able to extricate yourself until the bus is late, your psychological predicament is relieved.
　　　　
However, there are many 'targets' in life, and they don't necessarily come like a bus, and they don't invest in 'personal time. How to avoid the ingress trap
　　　　
In the life path, it is not small to learn how to avoid this kind of 'traps. The advice of the psychologist J. E. Rubin is:
　　　　
1. Establish the limits of your investment and the pre-agreement: for example, how much or how long is the investment? 2. Once the limit is established, it is necessary to stick to it. For example, if an invitation is made to the opposite sex, self-Agreement 'give up upon a rejection '. You cannot change it to 'give up after three rejections in five. '
　　　　
3. You don't have to look at others by yourself: facts prove that when two strangers are waiting for a bus together, the chances of getting out of the bus are greatly reduced, because 'others are waiting! '
　　　　
4. Remind yourself of the cost of your continued investment.
　　　　
5. Be alert.
　　　　
We may all know these methods, but it is not easy to get out of the trap of life.