One book mentions three types of people in the world: one is difficult to establish relationships with people, the other is difficult to maintain relationships, and the third is the hardest to end relationships. Love is a difficult challenge in relationships, because the establishment and maintenance of close relationships are the touchstone for the development of social and psychological development of teenagers towards independence, while teenagers are gradually separated from their dependence on their parents and seeking for self-recognition at the same time, it is easy to be overly-attached: "You have me in the mud, I have you in the mud", "You are so strong, you have a lot of emotions ", I forgot that this is a "partial portrayal" of my love affair. In most of my life, I still have to go back: "You have yours, I have my direction", or "the ocean is in love with moonlight, moonlight fall in love with the ocean, while the sky is shining, but it is far away from each other ". I like Dr. Huang weiren, who has been providing marriage counseling in the United States for a long time, for example. He said there are two indispensable parts of love, like fire and air ". Fire represents "Confidence", and air represents "freedom ". These two parts collapsed most of the time when they fell in love. The loss of love aroused the fear and helplessness of everyone. In my mind, I would like to draw an equal sign with "I am not worthy of my love", and I will never think about it or want to eat it all day long, what kind of freedom does the mind feel like walking dead? The lost-in-love CPR self-help manual hopes to provide some direction of thinking, so that the lost-in-person can regain "Confidence" and "freedom ". There are six main points to relieve the stress of the out-of-love CPR self-rescue technique. These six methods can be used to relieve the stress properly. We may wish to simulate that we should also prepare a few items in the drop-in first aid kit. I would like to give you the following two types for your reference: (1) Six Vitamins, which are swallowed regularly every day. Vitamin A-action (ACT) is the most afraid of paralysis. Any action of self-care is a good medicine: Play ball, dance, yell at the mountains, sea, walk the dog, and bask in the sun in the park, go to the movies. Many people complete their psychological mourning through ceremonies, such as burning old letters, and such farewell actions have a healing effect. Life B-Empathy (believe) is the biggest fear of being a hero, especially when it comes to old accounts. Think about the good words of those who love them: "I am lucky, I cannot live", "I have loved, why have I?", "If love is in my hand, this lovebird is killed. "The only thing you can do is "...... Add good memories to your favorites and draw a period of time for this paragraph with blessings. Vitamin C-communicate is the most afraid of Self-shrinking and closed when she is in a sad and lonely Castle. Find someone to say, write it by yourself, and complain to the Internet and netizens, the mood should be exclusive, or else it will throw. However, for fear of being sad or "ugly", and for fear of other people's jokes, it is a kind of treatment. It can be said that it is psychologically ready to face. Vitamin D-transfer (distract) is the most afraid of getting stuck in the mud and cannot extricate themselves. There are many ways to get out of your mood. When you leave the sad place, you can travel, listen to music, read books, and pray, or transfer love to help stray dogs who need love and care for the elderly and children around them ...... Young people use Internet surfing, TV, and chat most often. Vitamin E-extract meaning (extract) is most afraid of rigid thinking, and completely lacks the ability to reflect or find meaning in pain. Reflection is not the mistake of counting who is missing, it can objectively assess the growth and learning of both parties after the loss, and can serve as a reference for the next sentiment. Vitamin F-Physical fitness is the most afraid of "abusing your body" when you fall out of love, eating crazy drinks, or even using alcohol and medicine to eliminate your worries. Every day, you need to exercise yourself in ways such as Aerobic Dance, swimming, and jogging to strengthen the cardiopulmonary function. Yoga and peatti improve your softness. weightlifting, sit-up, and sit-down to maintain muscle endurance, exercise releases your body and accelerates your physical and mental recovery. (2) Four over pain ointment, used for pain. The lovelorn pain is everywhere, and the night is full of history. It is really miserable. Sometimes it becomes a physical and mental illness, chest tightness, heartache, insomnia, anorexia, and inattention, we need to work out some ways to reduce the pain for ourselves. In short, we need to accept the termination of the relationship between our lovers, and admit that it is a thing of the past, over. However, life can continue its free and rich journey. O replace obsessed with open (open) to indulge in self-suffering and cannot extricate themselves. It is often because only looking at the past is always in regret, and it is only possible to lose it. Imagine how dangerous a driver is to use a rearview mirror without looking forward! The beautiful scenery behind the scenes is already in the dark, and the front window is open to the new possibilities of the future. Open your mind to relieve pain. Open three posts: 1. Find the power of loving yourself: list three places to appreciate yourself every day, such as "maintaining the regular track of Life", "rational communication ability", "smiling", and "willingness to introspect. 2. Maintain connections with the outside world: Share experiences with others, listen to speeches, read books, learn about others' recovery processes, and participate in community and other leisure activities. Different solutions can be found. 3. Open to beautiful things and wash the mind: Nature, music, and poetry are good medicine for healing. Take the first person as the teacher, "wave a sleeve, do not take away a piece of cloud color", on the road of love, go home and go. V replaced victim with victory. Often, the victim likes his own house, sometimes penalizes himself with suffering, and sometimes punishes the other party with painstaking efforts, or tries to recover. In fact, losing love is not a real problem, how can we face and respond to the lovelorn situation is a test. Some people become addicted to suffering, self-pity and self-pity. When we open our mouths, others will bear him, and grief will not help, but will only weaken our own strength. This kind of mentality is more harmful to you and has to be vigilant. For a cross-outbound victim role, it is necessary to reconstruct the cognition of three posts: 1. It is not a failure to lose love. Love lies in mutual affection. Looking back at the moments in love, they are both adults and each has their own responsibilities. The change is the result of interaction between the two parties. Both parties have the responsibility to learn peaceful and even happy breaking up. Although the process is painful, it is still a win-win situation. 2. The idea of "positive separation" should be established in the out-of-love adjustment. That is to say, in addition to being anxious, painful, afraid, regretful, or persevering, breaking up can also be calm, prepared, grateful, and blessed. Barely happy. 3. You can see yourself more independent. Although it is painful to break up, it is a process of self-determination and re-learning. It lists the recovery plans and schedules and looks forward to winning the fight against the loss of love through and beyond this fence, you will be more refined in your emotional and independent life. E. Replace explode with express to maintain calm and rational communication and self-expression. Otherwise, if you fall into irrational thinking and impulse, or lose self-control, you will be provocative, it is easy to make a big mistake and regret to take revenge against attacks and violence. There are various forms of expression. Dr. Schnyder of Switzerland provides a recipe for writing negative emotions 20 minutes a day, as well as the internationally renowned trauma psychology treatment expert-Chairman of the International Psychological Therapy alliance, for example, if you are angry, sad, self-blaming, and lonely, you can write it down without reservation and find a box to put it. This is psychologically significant, because it is easy to feel emotional when you get lost in love, therefore, this method is used to set limits on the same time (20 minutes) and Space (box). After completing this method, he will be treated as having completed his homework today, and he will try to put it down. To prevent improper mood bursts, you can use the help to express three posts: 1. Apologize. Sorry yesterday, you must not shy away from your mistakes. 2. Thank you for your kindness, devotion, sweet memories, and memories of your feelings. Gratitude is a note of your youth. 3. To say goodbye, some part of the team will not be able to meet each other, or the team will not be able to do so. If they are not able to do so, they will leave a lot of doubts. R replace repress, regress, and resent with respect, reevaluate, and recover (Respect for reflection and Recovery). This is not the case, the out-of-love warning gives you the opportunity to re-evaluate your core values, respect each other's past, respect your original choices, reflect on unfinished lessons in close relationships, and be taught modestly. It's just around the corner. On the contrary, some immature young people are overly dependent on and lose themselves in their close relationships. After a lover leaves, it seems that they have lost their integrity and degraded to a state of function loss, or you cannot resolve your inner resentment, suppress the accumulation, and cause a crisis in your life. Out of the crisis, there are three posts to restore: 1 humorous to the right. Research shows that people with a sense of humor often show toughness in adversity. Whether self-ridicule or self-ridicule, It is a relaxed attitude that represents breaking the dull energy. Seek other fun in life, such as reunion, sports, community, and travel. 2 normal work and rest can increase the pressure resistance. Finding out the order of life, falling out of love often disconnects our power of life, tests our ability to respond, relists the priorities of life, tries to expand the circle of life, and develops goals and plans for our own recovery. 3. Imperfect respect for life. Be brave in self-correction, and move toward a more balanced and mature relationship and a healthier life philosophy with positive thinking, gratitude, and beyond the past. If you take the above comprehensive vitamins every day, it means that you value yourself and have the ability to take care of yourself and restore your services within a short time, the pain plaster puts forward a prescription for the pain of "over", and you should take it with you. In the end, lovelorn will be an episode that makes you more mature and independent. You will eventually return to the tone of your life and continue to complete your own music.
