Post-modern mother-in-law's letter to future daughter-in-law

Dear daughter-in-law!

On the eve of your upcoming new family with my son, I hope we can exchange some ideas on relevant issues for the sake of family stability and unity in the next few years.

I. Economic problems: the so-called economic foundation determines the upper-layer architecture. Let's talk about this issue first.

1. My son graduated from a prestigious school. Now, even if I change my job, I don't have to worry about the economy. He has an annual income of more than RMB. I think, according to the current living standard in Beijing, it is enough for both of you to live without paying for loans and rent. This plan is based on your lack of work. If you have your favorite job, I will be happy for you. If you have a good job, I will be more proud of you. Your quality of life will also be improved accordingly. If you do not have a job, I don't have any opinions. It's wise to support a family of men. Just have a good time. As a mother-in-law, I am very supportive.

2 As our old man, we will not reach out to you in the days to come. We have worked hard for more than half of our lives and earned enough expenses for us. At this point, I hope that you will use all your income to build your small family, and the construction will be better and better.

3. I have been raising him for more than 20 years with his father and I don't need to pay for your living expenses or anything, but we will not provide financial support for your life. I hope you can be self-reliant, happy life.

4. You should be grateful if your family has nurtured you. Your family didn't raise my son, so please don't want him to give back to your family. If he is willing to take responsibility for your love and respect for your family, I also understand and support it. However, I will not have any financial help with him or his father. Sorry for this. Of course, if your family is more powerful than ours, we will not ask your family for any financial help. Let's talk about it.

5. Our assets and securities will be accompanied by a lawyer under the notarization of the notary office to formulate the will. We will place our inheritance in the names of our sons and grandchildren. When our sons are not living, and their grandchildren are younger than 20 years old, these funds will be managed by dedicated personnel and supervised by lawyers. You will not have the opportunity to access our assets. Of course, you have the right to live in our house. I hope you will support our decision. After all, my son will earn all of you in the future, and we will never remember.

Ii. House problems:

1. The house you live in will be provided to guarantee the maturity of the Community, with a four-ring, 130 square meters or more. If possible, your opinions should prevail in the price range. However, the real estate license will not have your name, so please try not to receive your guests from afar. Decoration and home appliances will give you a budget of RMB. We hope you will feel bad about us, save as much as possible, and sell them in real time at the invoice price. When decorating, I will try my best to control myself and leave no comments, because I understand my daughter-in-law's dislike for her own opinion on decorating, and I agree.

2. We will keep a set of keys for the house in which you live, mainly to prepare you for unexpected events (such as water leakage and electricity running) without a key. I swear to you by my personality that, without your consent, you will never enter your house without authorization. And we will not visit you without saying hello.

3. You have a set of keys in the house where we live. You are welcome at any time. It is free of charge at midnight or early morning. The nanny is always at home, and no one is afraid to work.

4. If you have purchased your own house in the future, we will offer you a certain amount of congratulations as needed. In addition, we will not give you any comments.

3. Daily relationship issues:

1. My son is my own, and is a continuation of my blood. I cannot love you more than I love him. Keep this in mind. But you are also the closest person in the world except my wife and son, therefore, when you have any conflicts with outsiders (whether your loved ones, friends, classmates, colleagues, or friends from my family), I will firmly stand on your side.

2. You need to understand, how can this problem be solved? In my eyes, he is always the cute baby lying in the cradle. He is the naughty little boy with a muddy face, in my eyes, you are a mature and sensible girl. Therefore, I always feel that my son is easily forgiven. Sorry, but I think you will understand it when you become a mother. Therefore, I will try my best to favor you when you have a dispute (if your son is a child, he will not avenge it). But please try to tell me as little as possible about that kid, isn't it?

3. My son was born by me. Before you get married, I will try to talk to you objectively about him in my eyes, especially the shortcomings. On the other hand, you picked your husband. After you get married, his ideological education work has nothing to do with me. Please perform post-transformation on your own. I will not help or obstruct it.

4. If you are not my own daughter, I will first respect you and hope to enjoy it further. If you have something that I don't get used to or don't like, I will shut up if it doesn't matter to you. If it is not for me, I will try my best to exchange comments with you and hope we can reach a consensus.

5. I hope you will respect me and love me better. If you are not familiar with or dislike anything, please shut up. If it is not your concern, please do not express it in front of the third party. When we are alone, please confess to me directly and we will find a reasonable solution.

4. Daily Life Problems: after all, we are not a family and have no experiences of common life. Therefore, we will always have bumps and hope that we can abide by the following principles together:

1. My family has a nanny, so you don't have to work when you come to my house, but I will be very happy if you are willing to place chopsticks during the meal. 2. I don't care whether you have a nanny in your house, but I won't help you when we go to your house. If you're in trouble, it's okay if I invite you out for dinner.

3. In my home, please observe my living habits and health standards.

4. In your home, I will respect your living habits (if young people like to mess up, I will be invisible ). Let's just say nothing.

5. On other occasions, I hope that you will give me the best possible advice in a reasonable scope. If I do something annoying or out of date, you can simply say it.

6. For the Spring Festival, mid-autumn festival, May Day, and May Day, please make the following arrangements: If you are at my house on the eve of the festival, please visit your home on the day before the holiday, round-Robin and fair arrangement.

5. Children's questions:

1. If you have a child later, I don't want to worry about it. The main reason is that the mother's mood is unstable and it's easy to talk about it. I will hire you a monthly sister-in-law and a nanny. Please select someone and I will pay for it. I will help you purchase items once every other day. If you disagree with the items and brands I bought, please list them and I will buy them as needed. If your mother is willing to take care of you, I will take care of the nanny and pay for it.

2. I support breastfeeding. I support children taking a bath every day ...... But everything depends on your will. However, we recommend that you focus on the doctor's opinion.

3. I think the problem of children's education is the most likely to cause conflict. On the premise that I acknowledge that the final decision is in your hands, I hope we can fully discuss and consult experts, respect science, and ensure security, so as to cultivate an upright human purpose and grow healthily. 6. Getting along with the two companies:

This is really a heavy topic. I really don't want to talk about it much, but according to my previous painful experiences, I 'd like to talk about it first: the general idea is: play more, work less, and do not communicate with each other economically, links are not borrowed from each other. It would be a good companion for the two companies to have a great deal of fun. If the difference is too far, it is better for them to have less friends (I am not so poor, if your family is very prominent, in fact, we have no common topic ).

To sum up, dear daughter-in-law, if we can abide by them together, I believe we can get along happily.

Finally, I wish you a wonderful life.

-Your future: mother-in-law