Real growth is a reversal of your previous worldview.

Wen/Lin Hei

Last year, "Charlotte Troubles" a release, on the red across the north and south, at the same time that was fired many times the problem, once again was raised out. "If one day, you woke up, found lying in their high school desks, the sun spilled into the classroom, you suddenly found that the reality of all, it is a dream, you tell the table you do a long long dream, your deskmate smiled and said you are an idiot ..."

And a lot of friends have discussed, if you get back to high school, how you will live, I thought I would hear all kinds of answers, but almost everyone gave me the answer is: study hard, learn English, if possible, seriously talk about love.

But if we give our younger brothers and sisters some advice, almost most people will only say the first half, study hard, because fear of falling in love affects learning, even if we know not to fall in love, most people still fail to go to key universities.

When I was in high school, my brother graduated from college, at home my father and mother told my brother, your sister secretly in love, quickly advised your sister to study hard, my brother looked at the look of me, he said: if he went back to high school words only want to do two things, first, seriously really talk about love, the second good work hard to learn. He said he likes to chase it, want to do something to do it, like the text to contribute it, he counted my life the first to turn my world view of people.

After the words do not say we also guess, in that love is "did" era, my father would like to take a stick chase him half a street. I was in his encouragement under the first consignment out of his own people, serious love, and then participate in the student union, writing articles, self-made drama in the school, his own when the host, do what they want to do, of course, also in earnest to learn.

Many years later, when a lot of people in the movie theater to see the film, only to see the high school students in Hubei province are no youth, no love, no abortion, no bar or even no KTV, some just do not finish the test paper, can not finish the nutrient solution and inexplicable secret love, they think the youth is from the university, not the high school, And I'm glad to have a complete youth.

Later I found that love and study is not inversely proportional. A good competition mechanism will promote the learning of both sides. The premise is that you need to be in control of yourself.

The second time let me realize the twist of the world view, is my brother to write to me when I told him that my grades are good, is too careless and sloppy. His reply to me is: carelessness is not an excuse, sloppy is not a reason, you say sloppy, is a knowledge of the shortcomings, a confusion of thinking, not an excuse.

A lot of truth is always very difficult to accept at the beginning of the hearing, but we all need a process to accept.

For example, when I really start to work, I give the Department of the settlement of wages, every money, each number must be accurate to the decimal place, as long as I calculate the wrong number, my performance will be deducted 100 yuan, but I have never made this mistake. So that moment I believe, a lot of time careless, really just a sense of responsibility is not enough, really is not an excuse.

The third conversation is a cousin married, we sit on a wooden shelf chatting, I asked him what you want to find a girlfriend, he said: The first to be healthy, I do not want to do the money to the hospital all the way, the second to have independent work, economic independence thought can be independent, I am looking for a wife and not a daughter; If the money is better, so I can struggle for years less.

I said, you said this is not a white face?

He says that being a white boy is also a skill.

The first time I heard so ruined three views, I can hardly look directly, I first know that many of the original men also have a dream of the prince. We ended the conversation with a scornful look on my face, but this conversation gave my world view a hard slap.

In my young world view I have always felt that it is love to find a mutual feeling of love, originally put the truth on the table is really not how good-looking, like a naked dancer in the noisy square dance, even if he told people over and over again, this is art, but not all the audience is an artist, All know how to appreciate this beauty.

Perhaps because his worldview and I will never be a channel, plus he has always been a dare to tell the truth, so our relationship is not very close, even in my life for many years I have always felt that I was definitely not his own sister, for I never said, Did not almost enjoy the people think of the kind of having a brother a lot more happiness. Every time someone said that there is a brother more happy Ah, I was very helpless to glance, said that it is the brother of others family.

But it all began to change slowly, as I graduated from college and began to work, as I started to start my own business, and as my friends around me became more and more excellent, everything began to change as I began to re-learn theoretical knowledge and practical exercises.

I began to study, began to read, began to listen to the "rom thinking", began to see "Xiao Sonchi Talk", began to report their own yoga class, began to exercise every day, began to receive new knowledge every day, began to drink the heart chicken soup every day, began to die on their own time, adhere to do every little thing, everything started different.

I began to step into another broader mode of thinking, began to have their own ideas, began to no longer use the perceptual thinking to judge right and wrong, suddenly all the enlightened, stand higher, your pattern is even greater.

Slowly, I began to believe that: people are born unequal, because the starting point is different, because the circle is different, because the platform is different, you may struggle for a lifetime can not escape your class. For most people, life is an insurmountable script. So since ancient times have: "Dragonjet Phoenix born chicken, Mouse's son will make hole." ”

Environment for the importance of long life, when I went to college only switch computer, my Beijing classmate computer two has already gone. When I was afraid to speak Mandarin, my classmates had already given foreigners an English translation.

So when I saw the article "I fought for 18 years to drink coffee with you", more is helpless, but when you accept these facts from the bottom of my heart, you will be fair and balanced to look at these issues, there is a gap but I can shorten the gap, many people have happiness is unknown, because they are born, But you can through the efforts, change and found that such happiness is not understood by others.

So your starting point of origin is that you have no way to decide, but the width of your life change, the experience of life is not everyone can perceive, so this is the meaning of my struggle. I just want to know what it is like to be better than me, what I will become when I try to be good, and experience a different way of life and fate.

I have explored the difference between Lo Zhenyu and Gao Xiaosong, many people say their difference is that Lo Zhenyu is rational thinking more logical, Gao Xiaosong is the perceptual thinking to join a lot of randomness, they belong to the elite. Lo Zhenyu through the learning of other people's cognitive world, Gao Xiaosong through their own observation to perceive their own world.

Because fundamentally different from the beginning, so the way is different, we can not discuss who is more powerful and more successful. But what I want to say is that many times the spiritual cognitive divide is more frightening than the material gap, so that's why I understand that the gap will change to make myself better.

I also began to believe that compared to other systems, the college entrance examination is a more fair system.

I have also begun to believe that the rich contribute far more than the poor, and that donations alone simply cannot escape poverty.

I also began to believe that good match is really conducive to the happiness of marriage.

I also began to believe that choice is more important than effort.

I also began to believe that rational thinking is a good quality, because perceptual thinking is often easy to get into the thought of self-misunderstanding, and sometimes use the moral to kidnap others, and rational thinking, it is easier for you to see the nature of things and the other side.

So when you start to subvert your worldview, when you find out what you thought was wrong, then you're growing up. Perhaps you will continue to subvert their own views and even return to the starting point, but at this moment you are no longer the original you, Buddhism said that the triple state of life is to see the mountain is a mountain, see the water is water, see the mountain is not a mountain, see the water is not water, the last to see the mountains or mountains, water or water

Heard this morning "get" said: Many people, like to listen to the soul of chicken soup, because the foundation of chicken soup, is from the mother world of comfort, in fact, there is no use, and rational Father thinking, more representative of the authenticity is how we solve the problem. Rational judgment, the actual action, let footsteps closer to the ground.

Look at the problem in a different way, and you will find that there are not so many imbalances. You always feel empty lonely and sad, have been looking forward to skyrocketing rise, but every day holding a cell phone sigh time flies, is because you have no actual action.

Rough once wrote an article called "The future does not greet, the past does not love", he said:

Do not daydream about the future, do not indulge in the regrets of the past, sitting in the present, do their favorite things, do an effective self-investment, death knock themselves, when the qualitative change, when the subversion of the world view, and began to constantly confirm some basic point of views, you grow.

Real growth is a reversal of your previous worldview.