Regain yourself, be a strong self-conscious person.

Magicnotes, thoughts with the wind flying, occasionally stay here.

In most cases, the actual action takes place in a state where the subjective meaning is vague, or is actually unconscious, and the action is more likely to "know" it in a vague sense, but does not understand what he is doing or has a clear sense of consciousness about it.

Most of his actions are driven by instinct or by habit. Only in the occasional, and involving a large number of the same actions, often only a few people have a clear sense of the subjective meaning of action, whether rational or irrational.

The ideal type of fully conscious and definite meaningful action can only be a marginal situation, and any historical and sociological research must take this into account when analysing empirical facts.

-Weber Economic and social

A person with a strong sense of self is always a minority, and even such a person is in most cases unconscious or half-conscious.

What is self-awareness? is to realize the existence of "ego".

What determines the high and low emotional quotient? Perhaps some people will say a lot of phenomena and characteristics, such as concentration, self-control, sociable, but these can not give you the slightest help. because you only see appearances-the things that derive from the roots, and then you get confused when you turn to other realms.

A good person, what you see his excellence is only his outside, what you can not see is his inner high self-discipline and the complete order of thought. Just like a towering tree, you sigh its Kiwi upright, you do not know the roots of this tree how deep and wide. When you try to communicate with him, you find that his knowledge is far beyond your imagination, his insight into your worship unceasingly. You will feel how the brain, after what kind of training, can have such profound insight and wisdom.

A person with a high sense of consciousness has more self-awareness, that is, he can suddenly realize his psychological changes, processes, and thus realize the existence of problems. People with low senses are often unaware of the problem, and I mean: at all! Not conscious! The problem lies.

For example: Hold on.

A person with high EQ knows how to stick to it, and then what? You've only seen his incredible appearance-but how did he keep it? When you really can't find the reason, you can only blame "he eq high".

The crux of the problem is that a person with a high EQ can pay attention to his own negative emotions in the process and deal with them in a timely manner, but the low EQ will not notice that this is also a problem-I'm hating it, it's a bad signal, so it needs to be addressed. have you ever realized your emotions and have not noticed some of your thoughts.

One more example: love.

Love promotes a person's emotional quotient. Because the person in love will always be careful of their behavior, he will be self-monitoring, he will pay attention to self-deeds to prevent the other party to lose interest in himself: he will be to control their own emotions, show peace when the different, in front of her to the various details to do ...

Recently very prosperous "Ode to Joy" there is such a plot: A company, Andy put into the nervous work, the meeting to listen to the report, and so she was busy back to her office, but found already waiting for the old tan. Originally, old Tan worried about the old Yan brought back to the news will stimulate Andy, then deliberately brought the food to the company with Andy Eat, he said the work on the matter do not report to himself, I absolutely believe Andy, in knowing Andy for his brother's things full of guilt, old Tan said no matter how much manpower and material costs will help her find younger brother. Andy looked at her as a loved one's old tan, very touched. There was a part of Andy's psychological close-up: Andy's first discovery, Lao Tan Xinxirufa, he remembers when Andy is nervous to rely on water to suppress, worried Andy do not eat things, so personally accompanied, lest they have no friends, no relatives, to bear all alone. "Don't worry, I know why you're here, I'm fine." ”

This is a typical example of a strong self-awareness, she realized why the other side, the other side of the mind, the other side of the consideration, how to give back to each other, so that the other peace of mind, do not worry about themselves, while enjoying each other to bring their own warm feeling. A short episode, fully embodies the strong self-awareness of the ability to quickly analyze the current situation, and make the right decision of the high EQ business behavior. So you know, why five heroine, Andy is the best mix, the golden collar of the elite class representative.

Of course, there is no absolute-not everyone will be aware of this, some people talk about a lot of love, or the same childish. What is this again? He felt very confused, he felt so suddenly, he was not aware of any problems, he just followed the feeling, unconscious, without introspection.

For example: You can often see--the more people you think are successful, the better they work in all aspects of life, and that's the real winner in life. I have a particular point of view, I think, because they have more self-awareness, are aware of the problem, and all aspects of life need to be noticed-for example, if health threatens my mood, I should notice, then, solve it!

The last example: self-centered.

How to be bold in writing is a learning: because you think you can understand things, people may not be patient--aware of the "self-centered" is also a problem. A person will suddenly realize that what I see, feel, and others is different! How to be bold, how to layout, how to maximize the reading experience, is a problem that needs to be noticed.

What the world is all about, not what your mind thinks. Those who are powerful must have found a way to understand the world.

Man is the product of thought, what he thinks is what he will become. --Gandhi

The importance and necessity of self-awareness were mentioned. So, how do you make self-awareness work for me?

We need to look at several key concepts:

1. Self-monitoring

The difference between self-monitoring (self-monitor) and Reflection (reflection) is that self-monitoring is more about observing things-in doing things, realizing that they are timely feedback. reflection is the overall perception after a period of time, such as writing a diary often cares about the most memorable things today, and cannot notice the slightest feeling at the time .

many of the top players are conscious or unconscious users of self-monitoring . such as playing chess, playing cards, really to the international level of the tournament, psychological game becomes particularly important, then pay attention to their own inner subtle ideas , even inadvertently appear, are very important. Ascension to a certain stage, you will encounter bottlenecks, this bottleneck is largely due to not know where they can also be promoted -the more adept at self-monitoring players, he can see his clumsy , because he knows that he has so many problems to solve, This state is very enjoyable for them.

Self-monitoring is often easily forgotten afterwards, and it is necessary to establish a system of timely information recording . When I recall a former middle school genius, she had a habit that was worth thinking about: She used to walk around on the road to keep track of her ideas, or to write down some ideas when she finished her exams-because she knew that when she fight back the monthly exams, a lot of the feeling was gone. These feelings are not limited to only the knowledge points, but also the mentality of mediation, various aspects.

Sometimes you will feel the same frustration many times, each time in this situation is always unable to solve the problem, the lack of self-monitoring will be a similar feeling is only tied, and the self-monitoring learned to find themselves in this situation, then he passed one or two times the successful experiment, Can learn to solve in the future slowly.

There is no timely self-monitoring, often only after the regret and frustration.

This may have a similar feeling for everyone. For example, male and female friends quarrel, noisy very strong, we do not compromise, are not aware of their own mistakes, and then lead to break up. Afterwards the male woman all thought, this matter I really have the wrong place, but the consequence has already caused, the compound already is not easy matter.

For example, the leader has repeatedly hinted at you in words, do not interrupt my speech. But you do not realize, still kept to say a stop, the conversation is not shut down, to the leadership left a very bad impression. When others have finished speaking, there is a chance to express themselves again, this is the basic courtesy. If you don't find the leader's meaning in time, you will be annoyed when you discover it afterwards.

As a mature person, you need to be responsible for your own actions and words, and in order not to make mistakes, you need to maintain self-monitoring, observe their own thinking, feelings and emotions and so on changes, but also to observe the environment, the other side of the words and expressions and other changes, and then modify the processing, to better hold the audience.

2. Visualization of

It is a very abstract quest to focus on your heart, and sometimes it is just a flash of light that disappears . Only a very small part of the people who know the most about themselves can visualize these experiences in their minds, which is the visualization of experience.

Visualization and materialization, in addition to deepening understanding, is a key step in the replication of experience. Many geniuses are adept at grasping some of the tricks that can only be explained, but they cannot say that they can only use a metaphor (metaphor), or simply use it for a lifetime. these vague and clear feelings, they were used over and over in life, but they could not say.

The manifestation of this experience is sometimes very abstract and abstract to ordinary people, and this is the secret of countless success, the fundamental source of this experience is self-concern .

The successful behavior of the unconscious is fleeting, and the visual success can be understood and duplicated by the individual, and the successful experience of being linguistically and manifested can be replicated by all.

3. Yue Na and accept

People are born with the ability to see only what they want to see, and selective filtering may be the biggest enemy of self-monitoring-we are constantly distracted by something that is not important but troubling us, but we don't want to look at them. but accepting everything and re-examining what's bothering you may make you more likely to find the problem.

I had a period of self-monitoring in the early days, but always found uncomfortable, sitting on the stool for a moment is not comfortable, I thought it was excessive surveillance caused by nervous tension, and then stopped for a period of time on the self observation. But then I found that this kind of stop itself is a dare not to face the problem of performance, so I re-opened the self-monitoring, but at this time I have learned to better control their own awareness of the focus and carry out reasonable.

For example, some people will find themselves in the study of the time to tolerate noise, so they will do everything possible to find a quiet place. But for those who are more sensitive to self-awareness and more receptive, they tend to challenge the issue more violently: training their ability to focus on noise, not only at large volume, but also in a variety of very attractive situations, such as when the roommate plays a game of difficult learning.

In the course of learning, the author has even trained a kind of ability to assist oneself to think according to the rhythm of the outside stimulation. For example, we not only do not avoid music, but also according to the rhythm of music to learn, and even the knowledge of these music coding, become part of our knowledge extraction.

Yue Na, in the literal sense, is pleasant to accept, this is a very good word. For my own example, I like to test some technical qualification certificates. Many people are puzzled, think you why so tired, some exams are difficult, pass rate so low, also not very necessary to test, waste this kung fu why? However, I enjoy the process of learning through the test, to pass a qualifying examination, it is bound to need to improve the knowledge system of this aspect. The joy of incorporating knowledge into one's own knowledge system is beyond words. For example, I test Information System Project Manager, read a lot of books, practical to understand these knowledge, slowly the whole project management knowledge system into my existing knowledge structure, let me in the daily work to better implement technical management. When I realize the value of this knowledge, I will be very greedy to absorb this knowledge, the process is very pleasing, this is called Yue Na.

Recognizing the importance of knowledge and information, and being satisfied, this is the beginning of our move towards Homo sapiens.

4. deliberate practice, experiment

When we discover the inner conflict, psychological problems may be solved by taking the accepted approach, but many higher-order, more complex problems require deliberate training. in fact, the deliberate practice of theory is fundamentally rooted in self-concern , no self-attention and feedback will never be promoted.

The deliberate practice of theory requires the best coaches and the strongest willpower, many times we just don't know what kind of level we are in and what kind of training we need, which is the hardest part of practicing.

If the study area is emphasized by deliberate practice, then what kind of feeling is controllable and effective? We just don't know whether we should raise or reduce the intensity.

Follow your heart, it does not seem to be such a simple sentence, there is too much detail in the bread.

5. Contact-everything is in contact

All the time I have done only 30% or 50%, every time I do the most difficult when I will not consciously give up, the bottleneck period is too common, so every time I will lose the array, such as photography, calligraphy, programming, PS ... University I really played a lot of things, but I think there is no one I can persist for a long time. This obsession has been with me, so I am very worried about their ability to adhere to.

But one night I was still in bed, thinking about the problem, because I just looked at a little bit of a book. I suddenly noticed that this might have something to do with my " last-stage haste " . I realized that I was very not good at " Hospice ". When I read a book, for example, for a while, I decided to take a break and I couldn't wait to throw it aside, no bookmarks, no notes. More deadly, I tend to see textbooks pieces, sometimes do not want to listen to the class, do other things. The thing is: it was really cool at the time, but then it was too late and too much to hold back.

the fundamental problem of procrastination and perseverance is not in the present, but in the fact that you did not make one thing perfect for now. Finally, the next time you want to do it, the amplification effect of memory will make you very much do not want to do, feel like a big mountain pressure in front of.

I really think of this, unexpectedly is my attention to their own meal: I noticed that I had to eat at the end of the meal, because I think the bottom of the meal is cold or not good to eat, I eat vegetables only eat the above layer and the best things. This shows my extreme impatience with the end, and it is this last quickie that leads to a delay in the next start.

When you have a long-term focus on yourself, you will find that the form of knowledge is endless, the learning routines and the problem-solving ideas are quite clear. Anything can be your inspiration for solving problems.

Why can we find common ground in different problems?

Because the problem is never the same, when solving the problem, the feelings of the heart are often the same, and you feel the same feeling vaguely, you can guide you to find a way elsewhere.

Impression painting can give people the same comfort, most of the time because they are from the heart, not formality.

In short, self-awareness is the most obvious and essential sign of a mature rational person. Growth is a process of self-awareness that is full of epiphany, anti-inertia, pain, boredom, but no lack of fun. only one who realizes that the problem exists can progress, this is the door to maturity and self-improvement, and self-consciousness is the key to this door. question, always the problem of your own thinking-you need more self-awareness and need to be aware of more problems.

Don't think this is an easy goal, it's a very long-term, courageous Act.

Self-consciousness too strong, too sensitive to do? I think a person who really realizes that he is too sensitive will solve the problem, but here's a more important question: Why do you know you're sensitive but can't solve the problem?

That's what I really say about self-awareness: There's a problem? So, why can't I solve it? Are you aware of the problems in the problem?

I think there are a lot of reasons, and I guess one of the reasons is this: more often than not, you don't take this as a real problem to solve. Because human behavior, most of the time is carried out in accordance with inertia (which helps us to make rapid decisions), but a person who acts only according to Inertia, is not learning (the real definition of learning is change, "change" has occurred in the process of learning).

Back to the question, if you really have a strong sense of self, you will observe yourself, collect data, and then understand: Under what circumstances are you sensitive? For example, I tend to be sensitive to the process of interacting with the opposite sex, and this familiar embarrassment often goes on and on, so continue to observe. Continued observation will find why I am sensitive, for many reasons, this is really not a single problem: speaking, dress, economic status, occasions ... These may be factors that cause me to be sensitive, so pay attention to these things and familiarize yourself with these things and provide the basis for a comprehensive analysis.

a person with a strong sense of self is sharp, but not sensitive. the former will notice the problem in the early days and then go to the inquiry and then stick to the change. I have experienced this process, and later I understand: the original sensitive, but also can exercise.

Flow theory argues that when people enter a state of concentration and flow, self-awareness is temporarily omitted, and people experience great devotion to happiness, and time will go by quickly. So does this mean that self-awareness should be used sparingly?

The fact is that self-awareness leads to certain anxiety and pain, and in positive psychology, self-consciousness always appears in negative emotions, which is justified. Look at the crazy geniuses and writers in history, and look at Rousseau's confession, the countless "me". Where the most drastic changes occur, there is no such thing as self-conscious dominance of the battlefield.

I want all of us to go farther on the "ego" path, but also to keep the necessary vigilance. In a word, I would say, "ego" is the path to success, but not all people want to be successful, because it is too bitter.

Thank Xu Jiaxin for making such an interesting and profound point of view.

The "Self-consciousness" here, and the psychology of this I and ego, super I have similar places, can be read.

This is me and the ego, the super I together form the personality. Freud believes that this is the first and most primitive part of my personality, and it is a repository of biological impulses and desires. Ben I was according to the "Music principle" activities, it is desperate to seek satisfaction and pleasure, this kind of happiness especially refers to sexual, physical and emotional happiness. I was made up of all kinds of biological instincts, completely unconscious. It is a person at birth when there are all the psychological accumulation of solid in the body, is suppressed, exclude in a moment outside the irrational, unconscious vitality, internal drive, instinct, impulse, desire and other psychological ability.

Super I in Freud's personality structure theory refers to the moral conscience and self-ideal part of the personality structure.

This knowledge can be read: consciousness and self, ego, super Me theory.

PS: This is a very interesting process when you start to deliberately develop your own strong self-awareness. Most people rely on reflexes to cope with most of the things in life, that is to say, controlling their behavior and thinking most of the time is just instinct. But when you try to use self-awareness and regain control of your "You" from instinct, it's very challenging. You need to mobilize your senses, such as visual observation, hearing, listening, and sometimes the sense of smell, touch, and so on to get the maximum information of your current environment, then use your brain to analyze, harness your thinking, and then deal with it. I have several different ways of dealing with the consequences of each approach. Which one should I choose, and why? At the same time you will be aware of your psychological and emotional changes, why this change? How to suppress negative emotions, how to enjoy positive emotions and so on. This is a very interesting way to regain control of your thoughts and to harness yourself.

Sometimes, when you use this monitoring and self-control process, you feel that people are actually a mobile intelligent system that collects data from the surrounding environment (information), thinks through the brain (using existing information and experience to deal with problems more efficiently and accurately), and then draws decisions. The interaction with other mobile intelligent systems is more interesting, you can observe each other, think of each other's thoughts, judge the meaning of the other's words, read each other, listen to each other's experiences and stories ... Wait a minute. In this process, it is also a very interesting thing to monitor your own thinking and psychological changes and enjoy the process of mastering yourself.

You will find that many successful people seem to be reading minds, in fact, they are experts in information acquisition and thinking decisions. They observe and try to read you in a blink of an instant and then verify their judgments in a few words. This is also an important reason for their success, always self-monitoring, control their own mistakes, and learn to grow.

When I was laughing, I realized I was smiling, I knew I was happy, I enjoyed the moment I laughed, and I thought that was one of the great pleasures of human being.

Regain yourself, be a strong self-conscious person.