Send to programmers: 10 misunderstandings about introvert (conversion)

　Original English:10 myths about introverts

I am very lucky to find this book "introverted advantage-how to succeed in an external world" (English name: the introvert advantage (how to thrive in an extrovert world, I feel like someone has written an encyclopedia for this rare small group. It not only explains many of my quirks, it also helped me redefine my entire life from a new and positive perspective.

There is no doubt that almost all people who know me will say, "Aha, you won't realize that you are an introvert until now ?", In fact, this is not that simple. The problem is that it is very simple and full of common misunderstandings to label some people as introverts, the truth is much more complicated than that (it is even more so after Carl King talked about it)

Laney's book analyzes human brains and explains how neurons follow different control pathways in the internal and external nervous systems. If this book is based on a scientific theory, it proves that the inner is a group of over-sensitive groups of dopamine, and too many external stimuli consume them. On the contrary, outsiders do not have enough dopamine and they need to rely on the adrenal gland of the brain to create them. extrotors usually have shorter neural pathways and their brain blood flow is relatively less, most of the information in the extrovert's nervous system is transmitted through the Broca's area on the forehead, where most of our thinking is happening.

Unfortunately, according to this book, only about 25% of the students are introverted, and the extreme ones like me are even fewer and fewer, which leads to many misunderstandings, this is because society lacks adequate understanding of people like us (I'm glad to say so)

As a result, I have listed some common misunderstandings about the introvert (this is my own list, and I believe in it ):

Misunderstanding 1: the inner does not like to speak.

This is not the case. The inner does not speak because they think there is nothing to say. They hate chatting. If you want an inner to talk about things he is interested in, he may not be able to finish talking for three days or three nights.

Misunderstanding 2: introverted people are very shy.

There is nothing to be shy about, and they are not afraid of strangers. They just need a reason to communicate. They will not communicate for communication. If you want to communicate with an introvert, let's just talk about it. Don't worry about courtesy.

Misunderstanding 3: the inner is rude.

Generally, an introvert thinks that following social etiquette is not necessary. They want everyone to be authentic and sincere, but unfortunately, this is not the case in most cases, this puts a lot of pressure on the inner, and it is difficult for them to integrate and feel frustrated.

Misunderstanding 4: inner group

On the contrary, the inner will take very seriously a few of their friends. Their closest friends may be able to count with one hand, but if you are lucky to be considered a friend by an introverted person, you will have a lifelong ally. Once you have won their respect as a human existence, you will be selected.

Misunderstanding 5: the inner does not like to go to public places.

Spof: the introvert only tries to avoid going to public places. They also try to avoid getting involved in complex public activities because they can obtain the required data and experience in a very short time, so they like to stay in a place for a long time to "get something". They are always ready to go home, adjust (recharging), and then process everything. In fact, adjustment is definitely the key to introvert.

Misunderstanding 6: the inner always wants to be alone.

Introverts only like to think about themselves. They think a lot and dream about it. They like to solve problems and solve problems. But if they can't find anyone to share their findings, they can also endure unimaginable loneliness. They want to maintain close relationships with only one person at a time.

Misunderstanding 7: introvert is weird

Generally, the introvert is an individual. They do not like to follow the big stream. They like to express their own value through a maverick life style. They always start from themselves, because of this, they also often challenge the convention, and most of their decisions will not take the current fashion trend as a reference.

Misunderstanding 8: the inner is an indifferent nerd.

Introverts usually focus more on their own thoughts and feelings, but this does not mean they are indifferent to the things around them, but they prefer to achieve self-satisfaction through the inner world.

Misunderstanding 9: the introvert does not know how to relax and enjoy.

Introverts usually like to relax at home or in nature. They do not go to noisy public places, or they do not seek the stimulation of adrenaline. If there is too much talk or noise, they will stay away. Their brains are too sensitive to a neurotransmitter called dopamine. The inner and the Extrovert have completely different neural control pathways. You can take a deeper look at this.

Misunderstanding 10: introvert can become extrovert through "self-repair"

Imagine a world without an introvert, and there is no scientist, musician, artist, poet, producer, Doctor, mathematician, writer, or philosopher in that world, the reason is that the Extrovert can still learn many ways to communicate with the introvert (Yes, I intentionally reversed these two words and read them awkwardly? I just want to show you how abnormal our society is.) the introvert does not need to "self-repair" at all ", they should be given due respect for their natural nature and contributions to humanity, and in fact, a survey (Silverman, 1986) shows a direct ratio to IQ.

"You can't avoid us. If you try to change, we will only make you feel that you have failed.

If an introvert denies himself to adapt to the world dominated by the extrovert, the result will be disastrous and the introvert will hate himself and everyone else. If you think you are an introvert, I suggest you study this topic and try to exchange comments with other insignees, the problem is not entirely because the introvert should try and "become normal". The extrovert also needs to know and respect us, and we also need to learn to respect ourselves.

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Send to programmers: 10 misunderstandings about introvert (conversion)