Standing on the waste of loneliness, failure, and humiliation [reprinted]

Standing on the waste of loneliness, failure, and humiliation
 
Author: Yu Minhong
 

-- Speech to new students

Hello, everyone. First of all, welcome to New Oriental. New Oriental will open its arms and fully welcome everyone. But New Oriental is not as good as you think. When you walk into the classroom, we can see that almost 100% of New Oriental classrooms are rented from other units and all of them are made from abandoned factories and workshops or abandoned auditoriums. As you can see, the external environment of many classrooms is very difficult. This hardship proves how difficult New Oriental has come out. In, New Oriental had only 10 square meters of office. Now New Oriental has an office building, which is the best place for New Oriental, because the building is equipped with all the modern equipment of New Oriental, in addition, almost all other teaching places in New Oriental are not very good places in the surrounding environment. In the streets and alleys, sometimes it is even very difficult to find. However, we are desperately trying to improve the mathematics environment of New Oriental and the learning environment of New Oriental, so that students can get more things in New Oriental.

It is difficult to go abroad, because there are more losers than the winners in the process of going abroad. According to New Oriental statistics, about 60 thousands or 70 thousands students are enrolled in New Oriental each year. However, about 20 thousand students are allowed to receive a full U.S. scholarship or half-prize each year, it is estimated that the maximum number of students is about 22,000, that is, the average number of students is between three and four. Most of the students must go abroad through hard work, the longest time I have ever traveled abroad is five to six years. The shorter time is one year. Of course this is lucky.

The difficulty of going abroad is closely related to your exam score. The higher your exam score, the easier it will be to go abroad. At the same time, it is also related to your undergraduate score. The higher the average of the undergraduate course, if you get more than 90 points, the easier it is to go abroad. Those with work experience are also related to your work experience. The road to going abroad is full of thorns and dangers. It is definitely not a flat Avenue. This is why New Oriental's school motto is "looking for hope from despair ."

Most of the students are desperate throughout the course of their last course. In our daily life, unless you do not think about the words "hope" and "Despair", when you think of the words "hope" and "Despair, you think more about the desperate side of your life. It can be said that 80% to 90% of our life is composed of despair, and you find a glimmer of hope from this despair. For example, to learn GRE vocabulary, you must increase your vocabulary from several thousand words to two or 30 thousand words. Generally, You need to recite 10 thousand words in three months, you need to memorize three hundred to five hundred words every day to remember all words. If you do not want to find hope from the despair of memorizing words, you cannot.

The whole process of the founding of New Oriental is to start from a little hope and expand hope. At first, New Oriental had only 10 square meters of illegal construction offices, but now New Oriental has tens of thousands of square meters of classrooms and office buildings. Its development process is full of difficulties. Let me give you a simple example. When New Oriental was founded in the winter of, I carried my own paste bucket to post advertisements for less than ten degrees. I flushed the paste on the pillar, and the advertisement had not been pasted yet, the paste becomes ice. Even worse, when New Oriental developed a little bit in, it had a competition with other organizations. Once there was competition, it had a problem, for example, when New Oriental advertiser posts advertisements, other trainings will be waiting for you with a knife. If you say you dare to post advertisements, you will be stabbed. New Oriental advertiser has been stabbed, I got several stitches in the hospital. I spent a lot of time negotiating with the Chinese public security department and finally became friends with them. The process of negotiation and negotiation is the process of learning, going deep into Chinese society, understanding the process of Chinese society, and knowing how to face Chinese society in the future. I like teaching most, but if I say that I am not doing anything about teaching, New Oriental will not develop. So everything is the result of your constant efforts. When you encounter difficulties, you should not think of them as insurmountable difficulties. In this world, no difficulties are insurmountable, as long as you have the courage to overcome them.

The sentence "looking for hope from despair" in New Oriental is exactly the same as what Martin Luther King, a famous American civil rights activist, said in his speech at Ihave a dream, "We will hew out of the mountain of despair a atone of hope," (we cut a stone of hope from the mountains of despair ). Remember that despair is a mountain, hope is a stone, but as long as you can cut out a stone of hope, you have hope. In his time, until he was killed, black people in the United States do not have any social status. In this case, they do not want to take a taxi, eat at a restaurant, or enter a cinema, he exchanged blood and hope for equality in American society.

Even the least hopeful thing, as long as there is a hacker to stick to it, it will become hope in the end. Anyone who wants to go abroad by my side, as long as they stick to the next step, I find that no one can walk at the end of the day. People who really cannot walk are contacted for one year or two years and give up. What is one or two years worth your life! For a great purpose, it is not long for us to take three or five years.

If it is purely for going abroad, it is not difficult at all. In addition to the United States and Canada, there are other Western countries, such as Britain, Switzerland, Denmark, and so on. South Africa can also go if it is not good, but it is impossible to go to the Republic of Serbia. The reason why we want to go abroad is not to go abroad, but to pursue more knowledge, seek social status and wealth for ourselves, and to make ourselves a more useful person, make your life more brilliant. In this sense, educational countries like the West, the United States, and Canada are our preferred targets.

In the process of going abroad, we must find motivation for ourselves. We cannot do without motivation. There are two words in English: expel and impel. Expel have two interpretations: "external push" and "expel ". If someone in this society pushes you, for example, if your teacher forces you to study, your parents let you learn, and you fail to take the exam, in the end, you are expelled from the school and society. The other word is impel, which means to push it out, just like an airplane's engine enables itself to start and take off, so that it won't be pulled by a car. The external driving force comes from the classmates around you. If you do not go out, you feel that your social status is inferior to him. Then you will feel inferior and you will not be able to go out. I tried to contact myself for three years to go abroad. I saw more than 40 of my classmates go to the United States. If I went to Harvard and went to Yale, I couldn't feel it. The extra thrust also comes from your parents. Your parents look forward to Jackie Chan. You see the aging bodies of your parents. If you see that they do not receive social insurance, you must raise them and raise them to make money, to make money, you must do better than others.

All those who are married know that the extra thrust also comes from your wife and from your husband. When I first contacted the country abroad, I had such a test. Without a penny, I have no hope to go abroad. My wife sometimes says by my side that XX is gone again, and so is gone again. You are so worried that you have not yet gone out. In this case, although you are not scolded, but as a man, men should be at your best. When you hear such a thing and discover that you are incompetent, your heart must be bleeding, so you have to fight. This is because of the driving force that led to the emergence of New Oriental today, because I found myself unable to leave the country and always had to do something. The only thing I could do was teaching, one night teaches you how to get 50 yuan for two and a half hours, at least to support your wife and children. People are most expected to be respected in the family. What can they do if their wives do not respect you.

The external driving force is sometimes huge. I would like to give two examples. In the Second World War, the United States would send one hundred commandid to the rear of Germany, asking the one hundred to all be in German. After these one hundred candidates come out, they will be trained for 40 days. They will be required to learn German, learn German, and do not learn it. You can imagine that if you do not learn it, it was killed once it was launched. The Germans certainly won't be able to see how an American devil came along. 40 days later, one hundred american soldiers barely spoke German and spoke well, because the external pressure was so great that it would take you to survive these 40 days. If someone is holding a gun at you and asks you to back up the GRE word, if not, you will be shot. in 40 days, you will surely be back up.

Another example is a student from Shanghai. The student is now abroad. When he came to the summer class last year, he scored only one thousand six hundred points in GRE and finally had no confidence. One day he saw a girl in the classroom wearing a green T-shirt and learning with great concentration. He began to feel good about the girl, but there is no way to sit on the girl's side, because the seats of New Oriental are fixed. To see this girl, he insisted on coming to class every day, but he never dared to say a word to the girl. In this way, he had learned and ended in obscurity. At the end, he gave the girl a long look and wanted her to leave a phone number, but he did not dare to go forward. The girl's image has been in his heart. He said that in order to see a girl he liked one day, he could have the courage to tell her I love you, and he had to study hard. If a person feels that he has nothing, his guts will become very small. He tried his best to study. As a result, he scored November points during the exam in 2200 and finally went to a top 20 schools in the United States. Before arriving in the United States, he wrote a letter to me asking me if I could help him find the girl. I said that you didn't even leave the girl's name, so how can I find it. Finally, he went to the United States with regret.

Over the past few years, I have walked out of the New Oriental class in pairs and talked about hundreds of pairs and thousands of pairs. Of course, we don't want to fall in love, and I think this is wonderful, but what's important is what you can give her when you take the girl you like out of the New Oriental class. You have to think about this question, when you finally cannot give anything, it's a short time.

Let me talk about the internal promotion. Internal push is more difficult to get than external push, but once obtained, it will enter a persistent state. We want to pursue a superior state in society. You must pursue a better state than others, not only for social status, but also for yourself to live better in this society. If you want to spend your vacation in Hawaii, do you have this skill? You didn't. Now, even if you want to spend your vacation in Dalian, you may not have enough money. What should we rely on? Relying on your self-confidence to pursue a better spirit than others, and relying on your "will be the best, see the mountains and small" spirit. In fact, it is not difficult to pursue better than others. You only need to do a little better than others. Some students say that other students are too powerful to beat me. I tell you how to memorize words. My current vocabulary is relatively large, but I only recite dozens of words every day, because I always back, it is much more than others. There are 10 more backs per day than others, one hundred backs per day, and one hundred backs per day. No one will surpass my vocabulary in a year. You take one more step than others every day, ten more steps than others in ten days, and one hundred more steps in one hundred days, so that others cannot compare with you. I felt this way when I was driving a car in the United States. If your car was driven to one hundred, others would drive to one hundred and one. It would be very difficult for you to catch up with others in the past few minutes. Why? Because he has gone out and does not know how many kilometers, it is very difficult for you to speed up. Therefore, the first step must be faster and better than others.

We have different levels of IQ, but in essence there is no absolute gap. I always think that I am a stupid person. When I was in college, my score was 60 or 70. I felt very low in English. My English skills were forced out later .; Because I keep teaching, I have to study one. My vocabulary is also forced by students. Every day, students come up with books to ask me what this word means. I said, sorry, I have read this word, but I cannot remember it now. I will tell you tomorrow when I tell you what it means tomorrow, and he will immediately ask you what the other word means. I said, oh, sorry, I forgot this word. I will tell you again tomorrow. Two times later, I found myself a waste of money and I was unable to face students. Therefore, I had to start memorizing words for teaching. When a student asked me a book, I couldn't tell the meaning of words. This is the driving force. You have to have the courage to do what you are most afraid.

In addition, you should develop an excellent habit during your learning process. There is a saying in China that is "natural ". At the same time, western ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle once said: "excellence is a habit ". That is to say, if you stick to reading in the morning, you will become a good habit of reading. When I read Chen's loyal "White luwon", I remember that Mr. Zhu got up every morning, no matter how hard he was, Winter, summer, or walking, he must read a book for half an hour in the morning. He has been a knowledgeable person for decades.

Excellence can cultivate a habit, so evil and laziness can also develop a habit. I don't know if you feel that when you go to bed more and more, you want to go to bed every day. There is a Chinese saying: "The more you sleep, the more you sit, the more you get paralyzed." It is a proof of bad habits.

Next I want to talk about the problem of learning English ,. It is not widely used to do anything in English learning, especially when the English level is not very high. We need to "be more profound than broad" to do things ". What is "profound? "Profound" means learning is complete and thorough. It's very easy to learn English. Let's say that you are making up your mind to find dozens of articles.ArticleYou may become an English expert. Let me give you an example. One student is now at Duke University. The reason why I know this student is that he carries the Third and Fourth Books of New Concept English. He started to recite the third book from the first year of high school, and then completed his back to the third year of high school. The college entrance examination was admitted to Peking University. After Entering Peking University, he didn't want to back it any more, but when he gave it back to his classmates, other students have an envious eye, so for this vanity, he insisted on carrying the fourth book, the third book, the fourth book back to the rotten, he knows to what extent? I can say any of them. He can connect one sentence to the next sentence, and the speech is very standard, because he imitates the tape. Later, I went to Duke University in the United States. He wrote to me. I did not dare to return the English letter he wrote. I felt afraid of his English because he learned too well, so I wrote a Chinese letter to him and told him not that I could not write English, but that I wanted him to study Chinese and not forget the language of his motherland. He told me to write an article in the first week of the United States. The professor told me that your article was plagiarized. Tian wrote your article too well. The professor said that I didn't teach such a beautiful article for 20 years. The student said, "I didn't plagiarize," said the professor, how do you prove that you have not plagiarized yourself? The student said, "I cannot prove that I can write such an excellent article, but I tell you that I can recite 108 articles and be very skillful in writing them, do you want to hear it. Professor said, you have to look back. The student started to give it back to him. As a result, he didn't finish the two articles, and the professor cried. Why? This professor thinks that he has been teaching for 20 years, but he has never backed up an article. He is so sad that he has been backed up by Chinese students.

The above example shows that the task is not in the pan, but in the essence. If you keep things in depth, the general things will naturally come. I have never heard of any elementary school students who want to learn encyclopedia knowledge first, then language and mathematics knowledge. I have never heard of any course class. I have taught encyclopedia knowledge first, and then I want to teach you professional knowledge. You must first learn useful knowledge. If you have learned too many things, you will lose your mind. In the end, you will lose your goal. I always feel that you are lost every day. It seems that you have learned many things, but you have not learned anything at last.

In addition to learning English, other spirits are more important than learning, making it easier for you to succeed.

I have summarized three kinds of spirit necessary for success:

The first is the ability to endure loneliness. Before your success, you will always be alone. No one can help you. God helps those who help themselves (God only helps those who help you ). Therefore, people are always alone. No matter how many people are by your side, you must be truly successful by yourself.

The second is the ability to endure failures. In our life, there were too many failures. Many TOEFL students scored 550 points for the first time, 570 points for the second time, and 580 points for the second time. They had to pass the test several times. However, if you want to be able to withstand failures and forge ahead from failure, I would like to give a simple example. Xu Xiaoping, vice president of New Oriental, originally made music and has a low level of English, so he took the TOEFL test three times. The first time he scored 500 points, the second time he scored more than 500 points, but the third time he scored more than 600 points, he went to the United States. Therefore, if you cannot bear the pressure of this failure after a failure, you will be finished. Because many failures occur in people's lives, but few successes occur. You may fail to perform nine operations, about six to seven times. There are not many people who have succeeded in each operation. *** they have also failed to fight. Those who have read the Romance of the Three Kingdoms know that when Zhuge Liang fought, he did not win, but he did his best to survive. This is because he has a spiritual pillar. He wants to do a good job in shuguo and live up to Liu Bei's hopes. Many failed students often look for external reasons. This is not the case. It is because the teachers are too bad or they have no time to learn. The so-called external reasons are all excuses for yourself to find ways to escape responsibility. Let me tell you, in this society, if you fail, there is no external reason; if you say that China's society is not good, why can people next to you succeed, but you cannot succeed? In a sense, this society is fair to all people. Although everyone is equal in front of opportunities, the ability to take advantage of opportunities is different. If you fail, the root cause is that you are not external. So anyone looking for external reasons is stupid. You must find the cause of any failure from yourself.

The third is the ability to endure humiliation. We are often insulted in our lives. When you go to the store to buy things, the salesclerk glances at and you will feel insulted. If you want to go abroad, you have to build 20 chapters. In a sense, each chapter is an insult. Why? Because they pose a lot of obstacles to you, you have to go through it. Han believes that he has the ability to endure humiliation. At that time, he had to drill his pants. If he didn't drill, he had only two results. One was that he was killed by the man and there was no Han Xin; the second is that he killed the man and won the victory for the moment, but there was no Han Xin since he killed the man and paid the death of the murderer. This is the principle of China. Therefore, there will not be Han Xin in history. The reason why he was able to bear the burden of humiliation and become a huge business image has been circulated in Chinese history, it is because he drilled the crotch, of course, I do not advocate everyone to drill the crotch, if you just want to drill your crotch, then you will become an asshole. When you drill your crotch, your eyes look at the future. You have a lofty goal in your mind. With such a goal, it is irrelevant to endure the temporary suffering and humiliation.

Therefore, the ability to endure loneliness is a must for successful people. The ability to endure failures is a source of strength to reenergize. The ability to endure humiliation is an inevitable prerequisite for achieving great success. Endurance, in a sense, constitutes the great motivation behind you and is also an inevitable element of your success. If you forget this, you just need to learn it in your own mind and learn nothing at the end. Because you do not have a mental state, it is impossible for a person without a mental state to live to achieve and create.

The last thing I want to talk about is that there are many comments in the society that New Oriental is encouraging everyone to go out and study abroad. This is of course quite backward. Everyone knows that our Chinese society is indeed too backward. Our Chinese society needs a large number of advanced scientific and technical knowledge and talents, but it is possible that our Chinese scientists can create such knowledge in China, but as a whole, we can see that it is too far away from the West. America's missiles can hit a specific target very accurately, but China does not yet have this skill. Therefore, Chinese people need such talents. Therefore, studying abroad has played an important role in the history of China. A large number of great people are studying abroad. National leaders Zhou Enlai, Deng Xiaoping, And now Chairman Jiang Yu have all returned from studying abroad. There are Qian Xuesen and Qian Sanqiang among other scientists. With these talents, we have modern Chinese science and technology and modern weapons and equipment. As a Chinese student, studying abroad is not our ultimate goal. Maybe we have a green card in the United States. This is not equal to being unpatriotic. People do things for themselves, create personal wealth, and create personal status first. But more importantly, we must do something for the country at the same time. The principals of New Oriental come back from abroad, and everyone is not leaving now. It is not because we only want to make more money, because money is always limited, people also need a spirit and the power to do things. Therefore, although we have personal goals, National Rejuvenation should also be our eternal goal. Therefore, our goals can be divided into two types: personal goals and national goals, which are permanent in a sense. By combining these two eternal goals, you become a truly great person.

I will talk so much today. If I have the opportunity, I will walk into the classroom to give lectures to everyone. My speech ends here. Thank you!