Studies show that people with higher emotional intelligence are much more terrible than those with higher IQ.

I have read a book before, and I forgot the title of the book. It was written by an American. I followed and studied many naturally-developed persons with high IQ. These people generally have an IQ of more than 140, commonly known as genius. The results showed that these talents did not achieve the great achievements expected by researchers when they grew up. Most of them were just living in a regular way, working in a common company, and living on a normal track, some even work in grocery stores or physical labor. The tracker found that, compared with the genius, those with lower IQ and between 110 and 130 had a higher success rate.

There is another saying that 20% IQ + 80% EQ determines your success. The specific proportion is not so important, but I have always agreed that EQ is definitely more important than IQ. I am not very interested in the success of the study, but I usually like to observe people. I have seen many people with high IQ and low EQ, but not many people with high EQ. Once such a person appears, it is definitely worth noting.

　　What is EQ?When I was in elementary school, the teacher was always talking about it. Using Baidu's term, EQ stands for "Emotional Intelligence" or "Emotional Intelligence". It includes self-control, enthusiasm, persistence, and self-driving and self-pushing capabilities, emotional Intelligence is expanded into five main fields: understanding your emotions, Managing emotions, self-motivation, recognizing others' emotions, and dealing with interpersonal relationships.

In fact, the definition of EQ has been relatively weak, and it is impossible to organize a set of authoritative and fair testing solutions like quiz IQ, to give a person's EQ level using numbers and scores. I think it is not difficult to find people with high emotional intelligence, because they are a group of people who seem very smart but very flattering. It is not easy to improve your emotional intelligence, because you must always have a clear and correct "self-cognition" and "self-awakening" in the changing process of material and spirit, in interpersonal relationships, you can quickly "recognize emotions" and learn how to "sort out emotions" in the face of sorrow and difficulties. Cultivating Emotional Intelligence is like practicing internal skills. It is a process of sustained accumulation and slow outbreaks without any traces.

The kind of person with special eyes is not highly emotional, and the experts won't let you see his mind.

When I went to school, I had a German girl in the class, and I had a high emotional intelligence. She often smiles and looks pale about everything. She doesn't want to compete, and she doesn't like the limelight. Half a year later, I suddenly found that although she seems to be quiet and quiet, she has a good relationship with every student in the class. Some people who are often ignored in class, or someone who is particularly highly-profile, especially hard-to-do, has a good private relationship with her. Of course, if you are just a straw bag, it will be useless to engage in interpersonal relationships. Another feature of high emotional intelligence is self-control and persistence. Since I met this German girl, no matter whether the wind or the rain blows or not, she arranged her homework. She arrived at the reading Hall at every morning, went home at, and lived a normal young man's life at night, go to the bar and go to the nightclub. At the end of the semester, she scored first in the class and the professors liked her. The whole master is over. When everyone is still worried about the graduation thesis, she has already passed the job interview and found a very good job. Her emotional intelligence is not only reflected in her smart management of her own life, but also, no matter how much she scores and leads others, the people around her will sincerely bless her, sincerely happy for her. In the past, I heard people say, "If you are just a little good, others will envy you. If you are very good, others will envy you ". This sentence is worthless in the face of an emotional intelligence expert, because there is such a type of person, she is a natural talent to handle emotions, whether it is her emotions or your emotions.

Living in this world, unless you live in a tree hole or in nature, your behavior is related to people in an ordinary society. In this world, there is no hate for no reason or love for no reason. The success or failure of a person and the result of your handling are often directly related to others' feedback on your emotions. A person with a high emotional intelligence is the best man of both words and faces. The positive and negative reactions of emotions are both sides, making you anxious, it's hard to make him feel ashamed of you and willing to cooperate with you.

Last week I went to listen to a seminar of Will King. Will King is the founder and big boss of King's shave, and King's shave is one of the UK's largest shaving product manufacturers, global Product Marketing. What I did not expect was that one person was still managing his Twitter account, and he knew everything about social network tools. He said that the world has changed. With the Internet, the product's reputation is based on Word of mouth. Anyone can give praise, point out criticism, and quickly influence the brand image. He said that criticism is actually more important than praise. He often sees negative comments on Twitter. What should he do at this time? Those comments cannot be deleted! Put them there, reply to them privately, exchange opinions with them, accept them modestly, and communicate with them about solutions. This is the only most effective way to convert negative comments into positive ones. Will said that although from a business perspective, people who know branding know that the image of each brand is like a person, and everyone symbolizes their own brand image. I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to do it. I only know people and how to exchange roles to think about it. In this way, I can conquer others and gain trust.

In fact, in our life, there is no time to carry out an invisible competition. What we do is nothing more than a human path. A person with high IQ may be able to use a math, but in the real world, not only do you have to do a few math questions, but how many points have you scored in the college entrance examination. A person with a high IQ can easily perform well in school, but eventually leads to a mediocre life. A person with a very high emotional intelligence, you 'd better be careful with him, because he may be a malicious role.

Studies show that people with higher emotional intelligence are much more terrible than those with higher IQ.