The Art of Forbearance

Patience is an art that needs constant learning and comprehension. the so-called forbearance, both endure, but also hidden and not hair. is more difficult than tolerance. Those who have experienced setbacks, experienced great pressure and withstood the test, the endurance of his skill must be above the ordinary people, but also understand the importance of constant cultivation of patience. Where is the skill of endurance cultivated from? Answer Yue: Do not fear the challenge, repeatedly defeated, repeatedly defeated the war.

First, to adjust their mentality, put their own position, good at different roles to change. For example: in front of the leadership, is the subordinate, can grasp the intention of the leadership, good things, in front of The Apprentice, Paragon, can reflect their own sharp sense, not because others on their own harsh, this harsh combined with the students, so-called do unto others come back haunting; in parents, brothers, friends, Students and so on different roles before, there are different ways of life. The so-called adjustment of their own mentality, is after the great sorrow, still able to actively think, constantly hone their own heart, so-called position is their own, is what I said, people because the angle of the station, play a different role, to be tolerant, to tolerate, to self-confidence, to the heart clear.

Second, we need to strengthen communication and hone communication skills. Forbearance is not blindly silence, blindly accept, but to calm to deal with things, coordination of various interests, not to be resigned, not to communicate with people. For example: The leader let me do one thing, I did, may do the standard, then the leadership may have their own some opinions and views, this time to listen to, to uphold the authority of leadership, even if the heart does not agree, on the surface to praise and agree. Resistance, arguing are not good, to see their position, as a manufacturer of resident engineers, I am with the manufacturers stand together, not to be cowardly, forbearance is a means and strategies .

There is a saying is very good: do things well, the other do not too mind, party a pay our contract fees, sent me to stationed in the field, there is only a relationship of interest, on the basis of money, only one thing is the core: that is "take money, * * *", to do things well, everything is good. And to party a polite, kind, in addition to basic interpersonal etiquette, but also reflect their own mind, their own endurance of the art, the so-called "small can not bear the chaos of great conspiracy", this is the truth. It is a pleasure to have a moment's breath, but after that? Hurt or oneself, because in this bureau inside, oneself is in absolute inferior position, in party A is a small engineer of party B, in fact is "the person of money, convincing tube" logic, oneself want to understand on the line. Or to rely on their own continuous training and efforts, need to find opportunities, as soon as possible to make their own rules of the set of people.

Third, do not always in their own perspective to think of others, but more in the perspective of others to think of others and themselves. There are many such people around me: You say a different point of view, he immediately give you back 10 sentences, desperately to prove that he is right. Is it really important to be right and wrong? What can you do to distinguish between right and wrong? What if the argument wins? What have you got? In addition to the psychological satisfaction, nothing to get, in fact, you in the eyes of others do not have your own thinking so important, win yourself, lose others.

Someone's place there is a river, a man to care, many stand in the reverse angle of thinking, others can be a leader, others earn more, others must have its extraordinary, relationship, seniority is very important on the one hand, but not all. I do not see this, just think of course, this is exactly what it embodies their ignorance and low level. The words are not rough. Rome cold day, do not need to blindly change their own, but to constantly polishing themselves, so that they are more smooth, like water.

The theory should be combined with practice. Can not be said not to practice, also can not light practice not to see, only experience. In addition to gaining experience in work and life, honing the mind, in the absence of good teacher guidance, we have a way to get the truth, that is, reading. See the industry books, read professional books, look at history, reading Humanities. Reading can make oneself become self-restrained, have depth, but practice can let oneself inner strong, unflappable.

The purpose of forbearance is not to blindly retreat, but for the thick accumulation of thin hair. There is no change, no life accumulation and experience of the people, even if the good opportunity to come, also not be able to grasp.

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The Art of Forbearance